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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    It also sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,

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    Guest replied
    i cant live with my auntie anymore i can’t even eat breakfast without being ridiculed

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to write a post on our Bulletin and for sharing a bit about what's going on. It was very brave of you to share these difficult feelings. It can certainly be stressful at home when the adults in the household are not supportive.

    It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org) is always available if you need someone to talk to about how you have been feeling. If you feel like you might self-harm again, you can text "connect" to 741741 to text with a crisis counselor for a safe space to talk about how you are feelings and even brainstorm some coping strategies. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of.

    You deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel supported and safe. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you with figuring out your next steps in this difficult situation. You can contact NRS 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org. We are here to listen and help you explore your options. We look forward to hearing from you soon so that we can help.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    So I am a 14 year old female and I cant stand living with my family anymore. They treat me like absolute ********. I have cut a couple times in the past but they dont know about it. They threaten me and today my mom told me to pack my stuff because I'm out of here and I have done absolutely nothing wrong. I always separate myself from my family as much as possibl . I feel like they have never gave a ******** about me. And I have become completely numb towards everythin . I just cant do it anymore....

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit of what is going on in your life.
    It sounds like you are going through an overwhelming time in your life. Having a sibling get away with being mean to you can be really upsetting. One option to consider is sitting down with your parents and trying to talk to them about how you feel. Another option to consider is to talk to a trusted adult or school counselor about everything that is going on.
    Also as far as deciding on a high school, writing down the pros and cons of each option may be helpful for you. Also talking to your current school about your options may be beneficial as well. Also doing things to cope with the arguments with your parents may help you as well.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to explore more options. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

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    My family is driving me insane. I can't stand that my brother gets away with being so mean to me after I'm so nice to him. And my parents make rules that are unfair and I feel like no other family does this. I always get in fights with my parents and I don't want to be in the same house with them anymore. On top of all this, I have to choose what I want to do next year for high school. Two of my options are boarding, unfortunately, I really like the one that isn't (but I want to board).
    PS I don't mean to say that my parents are bad at parenting. We just don't get along. I want to but I just don't see it happening.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there,
    Thanks for reaching out it seems like a frustrating situation that you are dealing with so it’s understandable to feel frustrated and want to get some help thinking of solutions. Parents should be supportive of you and respect your privacy when they can.
    Your concerns that were mentioned about running away are all valid concerns. With Corona Virus out some resources are shut down and there is probably less help out there if you get stranded. If you did leave and stay with your boyfriend there is a distinct chance that they could be charged with harboring a runaway, or even more serious charges such as statutory rape if people think you’ve had sex when you went to his house. If you had crossed state lines as well then federal laws can also make more legal consequences. And yes if your mom wanted to shut off your credit card if you ran away she could do that. She would also probably file a runaway report on you letting police know to look for you.
    It seems like your mom is very concerned with you talking to your boyfriend online behind her back. Have you thought about things from her perspective a bit? You know him for how he treats you but she doesn’t have that context. To her this is a person who is at least 2 years older than you and is involving themselves in your life. Even if she doesn’t think they are a bad person she is probably at least curious about them. It may be that by sharing your feelings about him with your mom that she would be more understanding of your relationship. Most moms probably leap to their worst case scenario if they are faced with an unknown so your mom may be leaping to the assumption that your boyfriend is catfishing you and trying to isolate you from your family to traffic you as a sex worker. Open communication with her can clear this up and maybe create some trust between you in the long run and allow for trips to New York for both of you!
    Hopefully this information is useful for you, if you have more questions or just need someone to vent with you can always reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

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    hello, im a 15 y/o who wants to get out of my family house. i want to wait until my 16th birthday but i dont know if i can wait any longer, im debating if i should stay with a friend or stay with my boyfriend. i dont know if i should stay with my boyfriend because.....

    1. he 18 y/o and he lives with other people
    2. my parents might arrest him for "taking me"
    3. he lives in new york which is 3 hours away for me

    and if i stayed with my friend it will be complicated because my friend's dad has my mom's phone number so. i want to bring some of my electronics with me when i run away but i saw an article online that said i have to pack lightly. what should i do?

    i also want to use my credit card to maybe get a hotel, get some food when i travel or get a uber to drive me. but my mom also owns my credit card so i think she can freeze my card when i try to buy something when i run away. i don't have much cash on me, i haven't gotten any allowance since february. should i buy me a temporary credit card to use or should i start working at a part-time job? if i have to work at a part-time job, should i quit school or continue to go to school??

    im also scared to run away and have no place to go because of the virus.

    the reason why i want to run away is because of my mom. she has been causing me some pain for the last couple of years. before i start my reason, my mom does not know that i have a boyfriend. she only knows that i've been talking to a "male friend" online. on wednesday the 18th, me and my boyfriend started dating. we had been secretly talking over the phone but it was kinda hard because my mom would come in my room and will constantly ask me what i am doing and she would ask to see what i was doing. yes, i know that's what mothers do but she was being very suspicious, ever since i told her i was talking to a "male friend" she has been on my ass. last night i was watching a movie with my boyfriend and she went into my room to see what i was doing. i told her i was watching a movie and she asked if i was talking to anyone, and obviously, i lied because if i told her that i was watching a movie with my boyfriend she would tell me to turn off my laptop. i told her no and she went out of my room. an hour later she comes back in my room and closes the door and starts to lay in my bed. i asked her why is she in my room in the middle of the night. she says that she wants to "hang out" with me. but i know it was bull******** because she knows i was talking to someone aka my boyfriend. when she had layed down i just sat on my bed with my laptop halfed closed. 20 minutes later i sneaked downstairs in the living room to finish watching to movie but she followed me, so i proceed to sit on the couch. i was getting anxious because i hate when im around my mom at night. like i felt my privacy invaded which i dont like. so about 15 mins or so i told her i was going to bed, i started to get up but she stopped me by saying that i leave my laptop with her. thats when ******** started to go down hill. i went upstairs and went to bed, but little did she know that i could easily voice call with my boyfriend on my phone. so i called him and i just muted myself because i knew my mom would come back into my room to see if i was actually sleeping.

    i love my mom sometimes but these past months shes been on my nerves. its to the point where i cant even hang out with or talk to one of my friends irl, have a laugh, watching shows, stuff like that.

    today i have to turn off my laptop and phone at 11:00 pm which sucks because i have done nothing wrong. i have done everything she wants me to do. i have done my homework, i had done some chores around the house. like i cant even do anything fun in this house. all she wants me to do is be a "good christian girl" so she can brag to her chruch friends.

    can someone please help me, ASAP. i really want to get out of this house before i do something really stupid.

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  • ccsmod0
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    We are so sorry to hear that you have experienced sexual violence. You do not deserve to have this happen to you, and you deserve to be believed and supported. One really great resource for all survivors of sexual assault or abuse is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). You can call them any time 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673, or go to www.rainn.org to use their online hotline. RAINN is the National Sexual Assault Hotline and has a lot of services, support and resources that you may find helpful. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.

    Because you are 18, in most states you can legally leave home with no repercussions. If you are feeling unsafe, it is important to stay somewhere you feel comfortable and secure. You are not alone. We are here for you.

    Best of luck,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    If anyone brings food or drinks in this house we need to share but if Jamie brings stuff in this house only he can have it. gram will let Jamie in my room who sexually assaults me but yet not let my boyfriend who is good let him in my room that's just plain messed up
    My family treats me like ******** but yet it's always my fault. I'm upset and I'm 18 but I can't stand it here.

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    You mentioned you have attempted suicide before and that you are feeling very depressed. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.

    It sounds like you have been considering leaving to friends. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    I cant stand living here or anywhere else. Im so alone in everything that i do, isolated. Im homeschooled right now due to my social anxiety and severe depression. I thought id get better being away from all the people at school, but im so lonely. The only people i talk to and see everyday are my family members. Im not allowed to leave my house to do anything unless it's an errand. Im not allowed to facetime my friends or anything either. Im 16 so theyre pressuring me to get a job, even though i literally had to leave school because of my anxiety. How am i even supposed to get a job like this? Theyre so abusive and manipulate man. I currently share a room w ny little sister, i literally sleep on a small decorative carpet on her floor. My parents have money man, they just dont wanna get me another bed lmaooo. They beat the ******** out of me, i had to stay home for a whole week this year due to a black eye and swollen nose. They yell at me for everything, critique everything i do. It seems like i can't do anything right. I offer to fet a job where one of my few friends work, but they wont let me work there. Only where they want. My mom babysits kids and shes just as emotionally and verbally abusive to them as she was to me. Its terrible and terrifying seeing her mood swing like that. On top of that, both of my parents fail to acknowledge my mental illnesses or trauma man. I was sexually abused for 3 years but 3 different relatives, but they dismiss it because they seem like "good people." Ive been diagnosed with bipolar 2 and even then they still dont believe it. Ive attempted suicide far too many times and ended up in a ward for then to just dismiss it as stupid teenage behavior. I get meds from my psychiatrist but they tell me not to take them. I have intense mood swings causing me to lash out in anger which i cant control and i feel like im to blame for how disappointed and dismissive they are w me. They have always beaten the ******** out of me, yet theyve never even dared to hit my little sister. Im the only one who ever helps around the house because i get manic and just need to be moving around to cope with the rqndom burst of energy, yet they claim im lazy and selfish and everything in between. I want to leave, and most of the time they tell ke to just move out already. But i cant, i dont have a job and im 16 man. They know where my few friends live so i know they'll find me if i decide to go with them. They tell me to leave, but anytime o attempt to leave they yell at me and threaten all this stupid ******** to keep ne locked up here. Please help.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Thank you for reaching out to us. It must be hard dealing with all those challenges and being in a household that you aren’t comfortable in. If you ever want to talk to someone about what you are experiencing at home contact NAMI at 1800-950-NAMI. Also if you feel you are in an unsafe environment call 911 or Child Help at 1800-422-4453. At child help you can report any emotional or physical abuse happening at home or just talk to someone about your options like you ae doing right now. You also mentioned attempting suicide and not wanting to be here anymore. If you ever find yourself having feelings of harming yourself please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1800-273-8255. You are valued and brought to this world for a purpose. We want you safe and want you to continue living and trying to be the best person you can. Sometimes you are put in circumstances that are beyond your control. It’s terrible that the family you are placed with makes you feel so sad. Maybe if you try contacting your social worker or talking with a school counselor you can find some options. Sometimes talking to someone you trust or just talking about it can relieve some of your stress. Also you may want to consider therapy to help with your depression and suicidal thoughts. If you contact SAMHSA at 1800-662-HELP they can help you locate a therapist in your area. You are dealing with a lot of pain at home and it’s amazing that you decided to open up and be so honest about everything you are feeling. You are very brave and I hope that some of this information can help you today. If you want to talk further about your options you can always call us at 1800-RUNAWAY. Remember we are 24/7, confidential and here to help! Best of Luck with everything!

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    I hate my adopted family and I don´t want to be here anymore! Also I am 15.
    I suffer from really bad depression already and my adopted family is making my life so much worse. I have attempted suicide and I have a lot of scars from cutting. I honestly think sometimes life would be so much better without me. If I could get any help that would be amazing! I currently don´t believe in help! I don´t believe that anyone can help me. I have thought about running away before I packed up all of my bags and tried to leave! But then my adopted parents put motion detectors on my windows. My closest brother my biological brother attempted suicide and broke me! I need some advice on what to do please!

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: I honestly can't stand my household at all


    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything.
    We understand how difficult it must have been to speak about what’s been happening.
    You are very brave for doing so. It sounds like things have been and continue to be somewhat chaotic for you and you are trying to figure out a plan of action.
    NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.

    Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).


    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you and your friend through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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