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  • #16
    Im 17 and my mom has gone crazy, she decided to take away my phone and the schools chromebook, and threatened to take away my clothes, have me sleep outside and it gets below 40f at my house, and cut off my hair, in the past she has threatened to hit me with a flip flop over something my sister did, and because of her yelling at me I have a anxiety attack every time I hear my name or her even say it, I can't even trust her with telling her ive been suicidal or depressed, I told my dad this because I trust him and I dont trust my mom with anything anymore, some nights she stuck thoughts into my head that made me cry myself to sleep, all she does is care for all of the other little kids, she treats my brother like a god because his dad isnt alive, and that if he does something he doesn't get in trouble, I know that im not the best of children but I try my best, and if I try to tell her the truth she won't listen, she only wants to hear what she wants to hear, im afraid of living in my own home because she could do the same thing to me that she did to my sister and I dont want to go to the hospital, she won't even let me have my own political views, she wants me to think how she thinks and have me live my life how she expects me to, she thinks my dad isnt going to support me and its wrong, she doesn't listen to anyone, ive worked for her to get something and when I do what she wants it still isnt enough, I earned something and then I dont get it, Just can't handle being here anymore, I turn 18 in April but I dont wanna wait any longer

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    • ccsmod5
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      It sounds incredibly difficult to live at home each day. No one should have to feel unsafe and abused in their own home. Anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts are very tough and we’re glad you messaged us. Talking to your dad about staying with him might be a good idea. Also there are many affordable and free resources for help with mental health issues. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) or the National Alliance on Mental Illness (1-800-950-NAMI) may be able to help.

      Running away is an option that should be thought about carefully. Who would you stay with? How would you stay safe and support yourself? If you choose to run away and your mother decides to file a runaway report, the police can be called to bring you home. Whoever you are staying with can be charged with harboring a runaway if this report is filed.

      We have a conference calling service and could mediate a call between you and your mother. Alternatively, a school counselor could mediate a conversation between you and your mother in person. What you do about your problems, whether it be reach out to these resources or wait until you are 18 is ultimately your decision and can only be made by you. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help and we appreciate you reaching out. If you want to talk more about these issues you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or use our online chat.

  • #17
    I can't live with my family anymore. I'm almost 21 but I can't get a jod. They say I'm lazy and I can't do anything. I feel like I'm all alone in my house and no one loves me. I dad died 1 year ago but I feel alone. I'm so alone that sometimes I think maybe i should run away but I have no where to go. Only my younger brother is nice to me. I feel like they love me but sometimes I feel like they don't want me anymore. I wanna change who I am but it's so hard and I don't know what to do. I just don't wanna live in my house knowing I'm useless.

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    • ccsmod5
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      Hi,
      Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like there’s a lot going on. We want you to know first and foremost that you are not useless! It can be difficult to get the motivation to do things when you feel alone or like no one loves you, and we cannot imagine how difficult it must be to lose your father. We have a couple options that you might consider. The first is talking with your family; you mention that you feel like they love you. It’s possible that they don’t realize how they make you feel when they call you lazy or say that you can’t do anything. Those are really hurtful things to say. You also mention that you want to change but don’t know how; this is so normal and it’s awesome that you’re thinking about ways to improve yourself. That’s a great first step! It might be a good idea to get in touch with a counselor or a therapist who can help you process what you’re feeling and talk about coping strategies. You can also talk about the things you want to change about yourself and think through ways to achieve your goals.
      As far as moving out, you are legally within your rights to do that. You might consider staying with a friend, family member, or in a transitional living program (TLP). TLPs are designed to help young people learn the ropes of adulthood and gain independence. They can provide housing for up to 18 months. If you need help finding a TLP near you, feel free to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929.
      You mention you’re also struggling to find a job. You might consider looking into Job Corps, which can help you find a job or train you for certain fields. Here is the website: www.jobcorps.gov
      Thank you again for reaching out. If you need anything else or want to talk more specifically about your situation, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us. We are here 24/7.
      --NRS

  • #18
    I can’t stand my family. I can’t. I’m only 15 and they cause me so many stress over all the stress highschool causes me. My mom is the worst out of everyone. This week she’s been really unfair to me and has been yelling at me non-stop and causes me to have breakdowns. Today she has caused me and breakdown and I’m currently crying typing this down. Yesterday, she completely stood up for my brother has she always does because he’s her fricking favorite and left me all alone trying to defend myself. I cried when my sister defended me during the agrument because no one has ever defended me EVER. That, of course, does NOT make her innocent as I shall never forget what each and every one of my family members have done to me. My mental-emotional health is not good at all it’s so harmed and I am aware. My parents abuse me. They do every time they just feel like I’ve done something wrong and to them everything I seem to do is wrong. I feel so damn alone. I feel like no one is there for me. My head is pounding and tears are streaming from my eyes. I am not suicidal because I’m aware of the consequences. I am however considering running away from this toxic household and family I just have no idea who I will to turn to. My friends are not very good friends either, they all cause me emotional stress as well. I will not go into detail of what they’ve done but all I’m gonna say is that I feel so lonely at home, school and everywhere. Both my family and friends have caused me so much breakdowns, stress, anxiety and depression I’m up until the point where I have no idea what I’m going to do because I do not want to stay in this house and I do not want to face my friends. This is all too much for my young self to handle, its really all too much and I have completely no one to turn to.

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hello There,

      Thank you for sharing a little bit of your story with The National Runaway Safeline, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and we are so glad you took the first steps into reaching out to us. You mentioned being abused, that is unacceptable and you do not deserve to be treated that way. If you would like to report the abuse you can call The Child Helpline at: 1800-422-4453. We know that making abuse reports can be scary, if you would like our help you can call us and we would be more than happy to help. You mentioned feeling lonely everywhere, you may want to consider talking to your school’s guidance counselor about how you are feeling. Sometimes talking to someone about your feelings may help you feel better. You can also contact NAMI which is the National Alliance for Mental Health. Their phone number is 1800-905-NAMI. They may be able to provide some more resources and may be able to talk with you about what is going on. You also mentioned wanting to run away, you may want to consider where you would go and if running away is the safest and best option for you. Also we know that you feel alone and this situation feels awful, but just know it won’t last forever and you are never alone there are always people willing to listen to you. If you have any other questions or would just like to talk about your situation more feel free to give us a call, we are available 24/7.

      NRS

  • #19
    all these people on here look like they have tough life’s with their parents but idk maybe mines not even bad enough to put on here. i’m 16 and am not allowed to live my own life, i’m not allowed to hang out with friends or see anyone besides my 1 friend that lives right down the road. i never leave my room anymore, i can barley get out of this bed at this point. i have a boyfriend, yes everyone thinks it’s prolly nothing but i’ve gone through a lot with guys to know that this one actually has meaning to me, and have wanted to intoduce him to my parents bc i’m wanting to just simply see him now and then or have him over for an hour. anything just small , but i can’t my parents won’t even let me drive

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    • ccsmod5
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      Hi, it looks like you've reached out to us through one of our other platforms, so we'll connect with you through that. Feel free to give us a call if you need anything else!
      --NRS

  • #20
    My family punishes me for everything I do with taking away my phone. I don't think they realize the only way I make it through my life at home is through contacting my friends. They also don't like my friends and want me to become distant from them when my friends are the only thing that ever makes my day better or make me smile. I cannot stand to be near my dad because he thinks very irrationally when he's mad and my mom can't stand up to him. As I remember, he hasn't hurt anyone because of it but he just gets too mad to the point where he can't think. I just can't be separated from my friends like they want me to be because they're the only reason I'm still here. I tell my parents this but they always say I have to deal with the consequences of my actions but I can't do it anymore

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    • ccsmod9
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      Hi there,

      You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parent’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parent’s. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

      Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • #21
    I'm 15,adopted and hate my family I live with. They keep saying they'll pull me from school. Going through my stuff and taking it. And just being horrid. They claim mydays are numbered there and that I'm mentally ill. And they keep trying to send me to Riverside. If I don't get out ofthe house soon I'm going to call someone or move in with my friend, but I don't want to get the police involved. What do I do?

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    • ccsmod9
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. It also sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #22
    I can't live with my family
    I'm not even 13 and all ready I'm suicidal . I get yelled
    And sweared at every day by my brother. And my nan gets very angry if I don't do something small she would call's me selfish . My mom's not that bad but when she gets angry she's gets angry . I'm sick of it . I just want a family that's nice. But I'm to scared of what will happen if I ask her to put me up for adoption . But I can't live here. I'm also scared if she found out about this. What do I do

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hi. Thank you for reaching out to us. We’re completely confidential so you don’t have to worry about anyone finding out that you sent us a message. We’re sorry you’re going through such a difficult situation and sorry you’ve considered hurting yourself.
      It’s important to remember that you do have options and you’re not alone. If you feel like you could hurt yourself, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255.
      If you have questions about any type of abuse (including emotional or physical) you can contact the National Child Abuse Hotline at 800-422-4453 (childhelp.org). You can also give us a call at 800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at 1800runaway.org and we can talk to you about other options and what you can do to help feel more safe and respected in your own home.
      We also urge you to call us anytime 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at 1800runaway.org. We can talk more specifically about options available for you in your situation.
      We wish you the best.
      -NRS

  • #23
    I honestly can't stand my household at all. It consists of my younger brother, my mom, one of my older brothers and his wife... I've been living with my brother and sister-n-law since November and going to school while living with them... they're VERY strict, and when I say that I’m not exaggerating at all. I'm miserable 24/7, I didn't get to hang out with any friends while living with them, and was constantly getting my phone taken away, getting screamed at, getting in trouble for the smallest things... they are nosey, and my sister-n-law thinks she knows everything. I hate them so much, and my mom lets them treat me like I’m their children. They're my siblings, my own mother should be the one doing all this... Anyways I just recently ran away and stayed at a friend’s, and it honestly was the best night of my life. I was hanging out with my girl, like a normal teen... and then the next day a cop shows up to her house to get me and my brothers in the passenger seat. From their I had to go home I guess (or do I) I'm 16... and they pulled me out of school...Oh and none of them are working either... and won't let me get a job... So they decided to pull me out of school even though I was doing sooooo good. And decided we were all gonna go live with my mom... ALL OF US!!!!!!! So now I’m not in any type of school... I practically dropped out like that is not fair to me at all. I want an education. And my mom doesn't even care... I want to get emancipated so bad... I'm thinking of running away today once again. Do I have to come home?????? Because I seriously do not want to. Just the other day, my brother asked my younger brother to check his phone and my younger brother said no... So that led to him getting smacked multiple times in the face to the point he was crying hysterically. I do not want to live here anymore... If I runway this time it would be my 4th time. Ohhhh and whenever my mom thinks "she can't handle us" she just calls my older brother. I think she needs to step-up as a parent. They think I'm a horrible person it seems like that is never trustworthy or anything but they can't see what’s actually going on. My family is crazy. Believe me this whole paragraph or whatever doesn't give the situation any justice of what's going on. I hate them, and I hate living here. I just want to go to school, and be on my own now honestly. I need help.... Oh and they don't let me leave the house, I'm not allowed any contact with ANYONE... It’s just crazy.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 06-05-2019, 04:00 AM.

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    • #24
      Reply: I honestly can't stand my household at all


      Hi,
      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

      It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything.
      We understand how difficult it must have been to speak about what’s been happening.
      You are very brave for doing so. It sounds like things have been and continue to be somewhat chaotic for you and you are trying to figure out a plan of action.
      NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.

      Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).


      NRS is here to listen and here to help.
      Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you and your friend through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

      Take care,
      NRS
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

      National Runaway Safeline
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      • #25
        I hate my adopted family and I don´t want to be here anymore! Also I am 15.
        I suffer from really bad depression already and my adopted family is making my life so much worse. I have attempted suicide and I have a lot of scars from cutting. I honestly think sometimes life would be so much better without me. If I could get any help that would be amazing! I currently don´t believe in help! I don´t believe that anyone can help me. I have thought about running away before I packed up all of my bags and tried to leave! But then my adopted parents put motion detectors on my windows. My closest brother my biological brother attempted suicide and broke me! I need some advice on what to do please!

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          Thank you for reaching out to us. It must be hard dealing with all those challenges and being in a household that you aren’t comfortable in. If you ever want to talk to someone about what you are experiencing at home contact NAMI at 1800-950-NAMI. Also if you feel you are in an unsafe environment call 911 or Child Help at 1800-422-4453. At child help you can report any emotional or physical abuse happening at home or just talk to someone about your options like you ae doing right now. You also mentioned attempting suicide and not wanting to be here anymore. If you ever find yourself having feelings of harming yourself please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1800-273-8255. You are valued and brought to this world for a purpose. We want you safe and want you to continue living and trying to be the best person you can. Sometimes you are put in circumstances that are beyond your control. It’s terrible that the family you are placed with makes you feel so sad. Maybe if you try contacting your social worker or talking with a school counselor you can find some options. Sometimes talking to someone you trust or just talking about it can relieve some of your stress. Also you may want to consider therapy to help with your depression and suicidal thoughts. If you contact SAMHSA at 1800-662-HELP they can help you locate a therapist in your area. You are dealing with a lot of pain at home and it’s amazing that you decided to open up and be so honest about everything you are feeling. You are very brave and I hope that some of this information can help you today. If you want to talk further about your options you can always call us at 1800-RUNAWAY. Remember we are 24/7, confidential and here to help! Best of Luck with everything!

      • #26
        I cant stand living here or anywhere else. Im so alone in everything that i do, isolated. Im homeschooled right now due to my social anxiety and severe depression. I thought id get better being away from all the people at school, but im so lonely. The only people i talk to and see everyday are my family members. Im not allowed to leave my house to do anything unless it's an errand. Im not allowed to facetime my friends or anything either. Im 16 so theyre pressuring me to get a job, even though i literally had to leave school because of my anxiety. How am i even supposed to get a job like this? Theyre so abusive and manipulate man. I currently share a room w ny little sister, i literally sleep on a small decorative carpet on her floor. My parents have money man, they just dont wanna get me another bed lmaooo. They beat the ******** out of me, i had to stay home for a whole week this year due to a black eye and swollen nose. They yell at me for everything, critique everything i do. It seems like i can't do anything right. I offer to fet a job where one of my few friends work, but they wont let me work there. Only where they want. My mom babysits kids and shes just as emotionally and verbally abusive to them as she was to me. Its terrible and terrifying seeing her mood swing like that. On top of that, both of my parents fail to acknowledge my mental illnesses or trauma man. I was sexually abused for 3 years but 3 different relatives, but they dismiss it because they seem like "good people." Ive been diagnosed with bipolar 2 and even then they still dont believe it. Ive attempted suicide far too many times and ended up in a ward for then to just dismiss it as stupid teenage behavior. I get meds from my psychiatrist but they tell me not to take them. I have intense mood swings causing me to lash out in anger which i cant control and i feel like im to blame for how disappointed and dismissive they are w me. They have always beaten the ******** out of me, yet theyve never even dared to hit my little sister. Im the only one who ever helps around the house because i get manic and just need to be moving around to cope with the rqndom burst of energy, yet they claim im lazy and selfish and everything in between. I want to leave, and most of the time they tell ke to just move out already. But i cant, i dont have a job and im 16 man. They know where my few friends live so i know they'll find me if i decide to go with them. They tell me to leave, but anytime o attempt to leave they yell at me and threaten all this stupid ******** to keep ne locked up here. Please help.

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          Hi there,
          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

          You mentioned you have attempted suicide before and that you are feeling very depressed. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.

          It sounds like you have been considering leaving to friends. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

          Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

          If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
          We hope to hear from you soon.

          Be safe,

          NRS
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