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    Hi my name is Logan , and i am 14 years old in high school.
    My mom and i have been getting into a lot of arguments. She takes care of my 3 brothers and myself by herself , because my dad is at another state working. My dad works for a construction company that makes him move from state to state which is why he doesn't live with us. My mom has anger issues, she tends to over react to things. A month ago she thew my phone out the car window while she was driving, because she got mad because she was talking about me about school and somewhere in the argument I said I didn't learn anything, so then she said "who do i take you to school for then" and kept going on and on. She asked for my phone and threw it out. I couldn't show her that i cared because that just shows her that she won. So i just didn't say anything. She threw it out near my house so i went to look for it. I found it , but if my mom were to ask i would lie and say i didn't have it. I did this because even though she threw it out,she would still ask for it. Another recent issue we had was that my mom took me to my Sunday class in order for me to do my confirmation (my religion is Catholicism) . I didnt want to go and neither did my brother. so we just waited in the building until class was over. My mom later found out and she got furious. Skipping one class wont do anything since its the beginning but she just let her rage take over. My brother is one year younger than me ,and she thought that i made him skip with me but it was just an idea of ours. She did not do anything to my brother but ground him. She asked for my phone and she threw it at the concrete, she kept yelling and yelling at me. she said why i didn't tell her i didn't want to go but i have before and she said i had to go anyway so i didn't bother too this time.

    Today she was talking to my grandma about allowing my aunt to stay over at our house to stay for a bit. We live in a small house and just me and my 2 other brothers plus my mom living there is enough. I told her if we really had to let her stay at our house. I know its not in my place to say anything so i knew she was going to scold me about it. I stayed quiet but i disagreed about stuff she said. The argument was over and then we got in the car and she drove me to school. On the car ride over she brought up the argument again and i asked her why she had to bring it up again but she ignored and kept saying repetitive things. When we had the argument about skipping Sunday class she said if i wanted to go live with my dad and i said yeah. In the car she said We have to stop arguing because my brothers look at me as a role model and she doesnt want them to be a mess up like "you are". Being called a mess up hit me really hard especially being called one by my mom. She then said to look for a way for me to move out of the house or something. Im currently at school typing this. I dont feel like doing any work. When she called me a mess up its been repeating in my head. I live in Indiana and i dont know any laws about moving or anything.My mom lashes at me more than my brothers, probably because im the oldest but its too aggressive. I am doing well at school and i dont get into trouble.

    Thank you for reading.

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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We know it takes a lot of strength. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and not getting along with your mom. You mentioned your mom has anger issues and tends to lash out at you quite a bit. This can be really frusturating at scary, but we are here to help.
    If you think the way your mom speaks to you is abusive, do not hesitate to call the police, or us here at the National Runaway Safeline. Our number is 1-800-621-0394. We are always here to help. No one deserves abuse of any kind and you have the right to report it.
    While we aren’t legal experts, there are a few things we can tell you about the legalities of moving. Because you are a minor, in the state of Indiana you must live with you parents or legal guardian. If you were to leave home and your mom were to file a runaway report, the police would bring you home if they found you. If your father also has custody and you end up with him, then you may be able to stay with him. Whatever you chose to do, it is our top priority that you are safe. Devise a plan that includes the things you need to survive, like food, water, and a safe place to stay.
    If you have an questions or would just like to talk, consider giving us a call at anytime. We are a 24/7 hotline and always happy to help.

    Best of luck,
    The National Runaway Safeline
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