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I'm 11 and want to runaway I'm just tired of my life EVERYTHING my mother aways be yelling at me So much that I think about suicide I even looked up ways to do it I'm just tired if this world
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Hey I am 12 years old and I want to run away.
I can't take all this stress anymore I feel like no one wants me here and that everytime someone does something rude to me and I don't tell on them and when I am mad they blame it on me that I was being mean to the person but it just feels so unfair. Also I be disrespectful so everyone will be happy if I am gone. And I don't want talk to anyone no one ever listens, there just like "oh, why are you always look so sad", or "oh, why you so mad..." But...I am mad at myself! I am sad that I have to be this way and disrespect others! I am never want to talk anyone because they all think it's just who I am BUT I DONT WANNA BE THIS WHY! PEOPLE SAY "OH WHERE DID THE HAPPY GIRL WE ALWAYS KNEW BEFORE" I say, "I don't know, she's never coming back again" but I do want her back the happy girl that poses in pictures, that smiles at everyone, that is kind to people who are not kind, that she always helps. But I am just tired, smiles a fake smile, don't pose at pictures, is afraid of everyone, that keeps quiet to herself, that is rude and disrespectful... I miss the old me sooo... much that me today should leave...and that's why I want to run away from this LIFE. People try to help but their not helping, I just want to leave life completely if you know what I mean, thank you for reading if you did.Comment
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Hey, there,
Thanks so much for reaching out. It really does take a lot of courage to reach out for support, so good for you for advocating for yourself. You sound like a really strong, resilient young person and we want to help as much as we can. You mention in your post that you “want to leave life completely if you know what I mean.” We’re uncertain if you mean that you’re considering hurting yourself or attempting to kill yourself. If this is what you mean, we want you to know that you are not alone! Your life has worth and your well being is so important. You deserve to feel safe, happy, supported, and loved. We encourage you to confide in adults you trust, like a teacher or guidance counselor at school. If you ever feel like you’re in danger of hurting yourself, you can always call 9-1-1. Another resource that is always available to you is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.
From what you’ve described in your post, it sounds like you’re facing a lot right now. It sounds like you’ve been feeling much different lately than you used to feel and that you wish you could be the “old” you. While we’re not medical experts, it could be a great option to talk to a doctor or therapist about how you’ve been feeling—it’s possible that what you’re feeling is out of your control right now but can be managed with therapy or medicine. You are not in this alone! There is help out there. If you ever want to talk about how you’ve been feeling, please feel free to give us a call. While it may seem like the “happy girl” is gone, we really do believe that happy girl that smiles and is kind is still a part of you.
In the meantime, we encourage you to take care of yourself in whatever way you are able, whether that’s reading, writing, talking with friends, or giving us a call. We would so love to hear from you.
Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:
Stay safe!
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Hi, I am 14 year old girl I am from Pakistan my parents lives in another country and i live with my sister and brother but my siblings hate me and my auty also hate me so can you please me what to doComment
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Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. You so deserve to be treated with respect and basic human dignity. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.
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Reply: I'm about to run and I have to do this
Hi, I'm 15 and I'm planning on running away too. I get abused at home and bullied at school. The last time I tried to runaway, it didn't end well. Maybe we can help each otherComment
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Thanks for replying to a thread on the National Runaway Safeline forum.
We want you to know that abuse is NEVER ok and is NOT your fault. If you want more information on reporting what is happening to you please visit www.childhelp.org. You have the right to report anything that is happening to you that you believe to be abuse. If you’re not comfortable making that report, someone here would be happy to help you. All you’d have to do is call us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we can help you take the steps you’d need to report.
It sounds like things didn’t go well when you ran away last. Another thing we can help with here is talking about the last time you ran away and thinking of ways to better keep you safe. We won’t tell you what to do, since it sounds like you’ve made up your mind, but sometimes safety planning can be an overlooked step when you’ve made up your mind to get out of a situation that’s already dangerous for you.
We want you to know we think you’re really brave for taking steps to make your life better. We want to help you in keeping safe and staying off the streets. Please consider giving us a call.
All the best,
NRS
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I’m 12 years old and I also want to run away
i think I’m going crazy,I get bullied a lot..I feel like everyone secretly hates me..also I’m poor..I feel like the odd one out..the flat I live is horrible..it’s bad condition..I never get to go on holidays..I feel like everyone else is so rich and I’m here like why do rich people complain they have good houses they get way more money than me...they get Gucci good and Gucci shoes...I didn’t even get that much for any of my birthdays...also last year that’s when my bullying started...these groups of girls who I didn’t like hit me and recorded it...I’m at my worst and I feel like killing people who I hate...not normal...but they drive me crazy and one day I’ll end up killing someone if they don’t keep there stupid mouth shutComment
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Hi there,
Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation at school with getting bullied. It can be hard to know what to do about your situation with the girls at school. We can’t tell you what you should or should not do, but we can give you the options that we are aware of for someone in your situation.
It can be difficult to know how to talk to your parents and express your feelings about how you are feeling. We would encourage you to reach out to a trusted adult, teacher, relative, and friend that you can talk to and potentially help you mediate a conversation with your parents about your current situation. At NRS, we do offer a service call conference calling, where you can call into our hotline and then we would reach out to your guardian and help advocate for you, help you express the needs you have to your parents.
Your mental health is important. You can also look at SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at samhsa.gov or call them directly at 1-877-726-4727 to help you find the support that you need. If you do ever feel in direct danger, to yourself, or some else makes you feel that way, please call out to 911 or reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255)
We aren’t legal experts, but we have general knowledge about running away. In most states, running away isn’t illegal, but what is called a status offense. You can’t get arrested for it but it will mostly likely go on your record until you are 18. The police will only know if you have runaway if your parents/guardians file a police report. We can’t say for sure how the police will respond, but we hear a lot that police will take potential places you might be and will actively search for you. If they come across you, the most likely will return you home to your parents. Sometimes we hear that if you are staying with someone who knows you are a runaway and are not actively trying to return you or finding shelter for you, your guardians/or police can press charges against the people who are housing you, with something that is called harboring. One of our main goals is to make sure you are safe, so if you ever seriously decide to run away and need shelter, resources, or a safe place to go you can find safe locations at nationalsafeplace.org or reach out to us directly and we can find local resources in your area.
A couple bullying resources you could look into are www.stopbullying.gov, www.Netsmartz.org, and www.pacer.org/bullying. We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY we are open 24/7.
-NRS
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I'm almost 12 and I have a torturing life. My parents call me bad words, abuse me and throw things at me. On the other hand they don't allow me to have a big social life, just a some friends and they tell me not be so close to them at all, just talk to them if I have to. I want to get adopted. Is there a way for me to run away without them ever Finding me and the family that adopts me like me for who I am? I just don't want them for my parents anymore and they say they didn't want to have me born. They will be busy with my other 4 sibling. I don't want to file a report and I don't want anyone to know anything about what happened . Is that possible?? Please respond soon!Comment
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Hello there, thanks a bunch for reaching out. Sounds like you are being harmed verbally and emotionally at home and would like to get adopted without reporting the abuse. First off, here at NRS, we want you to know that no one deserves to be abused and it is not okay that you are being treated that way. You deserve to be safe in your own home.
We are not legal experts, but we can answer your question generally. The way that parental rights generally work is that the 2 ways they can be removed are: 1) your parents would voluntarily remove their parental rights or 2) child protective services can remove their rights if you do decide to report the abuse and they investigate and find that you are in imminent danger at home. It's understandable that you do not want others to be involved and you are feeling like you do not want to report the abuse to CPS. You know your situation best and should do whatever you feel like you need to do. Unfortunately, the only way to go into foster care or be adopted by someone without going through CPS is having your parents voluntarily remove their rights by getting into contact with your state's Department of Children and Family Services.
Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk through your situation and help with brainstorming your options. We are here 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time.
Best,
NRS
We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think.
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i feel like i have depression. I try to be happy around other people, but sometimes, it just doesnt come through. I have countes thoughts of hurting myself or feeling relieved at the thought that I woud be better off dead. I have a loving mom, but sometimes, I feel like she really doesnt. I cant trust anyone around meComment
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Hey, there,
Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’re going through a lot right now and are having a hard time being happy. We get a lot of calls and messages from youth who feel similarly, so we want you to know that you are not alone and there is help out there for you. You absolutely deserve to feel supported and loved. We encourage you to confide in an adult that you trust, like your mom, a teacher, coach, or guidance counselor. If you ever feel like you’re in danger of hurting yourself you can always call 9-1-1 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. It can be difficult sharing what you’ve been feeling, but reaching out to us was a great start. Your life has worth and your well-being is important. You are not in this alone. If you ever need someone to listen and help you think through some of your options, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929. We would really love to hear from you.
Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:
Stay safe!
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Hey, I'm 11 and I need out. My parents told me to get out twice now and yeah. My sister and I are the same age (11) and want to get out. (well, she's considered my sister because she lives next door and comes over a lot). We made a plan and got SOOOOO close to leaving, but I chickened out. I kinda feel stupid for wanting to run away because everybody else has worse problems. Anyway, I feel like my dad is emotionally abusive in a way. He calls me sooooo many names you have no idea. I'm also pretty scared of him because he has anger issues because he was abused as a kid and when he's mad, it's CRAZY. One time he threw a knife at me in the kitchen because i "ruined" it. I still remember when i was little and mom and dad got in a fight, he would say,"it's ok. mommy's going to die." or something like that. Anyway, we pretty much babysit my sister when her parents tell us she has to be babysitted. So she said that she would run away with me, but for like, 2 days. I have anxiety and anger issues and sometimes i feel like i cant control myself. My dad is getting better with his anger and isn't calling me names as much anymore, but i still feel threatened. Sometimes I want to tell him certain things, like how im bi, but i cant cause then he'll hate me forever. I cant get help for some of my emotional problems because then to my dad i'll be "posessed" or i'd have demons`. He's very religous. I really don't know what to do...Last edited by ccsmod10; 05-16-2018, 05:46 PM.Comment
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Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline (NRS)! We’re glad you reached out. We’re sorry to hear that things have been so rough at home for you and your sister. You mentioned some emotional abuse and threats of physical abuse. We want you to know nobody deserves abuse, ever. If you are ever in a dangerous situation you can call 911 to get help from the police.
We understand that when things are bad, it can feel like running away is the only solution and that this can be a very confusing time. The best way to work through your options is to give us a call or chat with us online. You can talk about your situation with us and we can come up with a plan together. If you do decide to runway, your safety is our priority, we can help you find ways to stay safe. We can also help you figure out some alternatives to running away or even help you talk to your parents about the situation.
Regarding coming out to your dad as bi, that can be a very scary topic. But you are not alone. You may find it helpful to call the LGBT National Youth Talkline at 1-800-256-7743. They have a network of peer mentors who also identify as LGBT. They can help you deal with issues like coming out and anything else related to growing up bi.
If you do decide you want to talk about your situation with us you can call us at 1-800-RUNWAY or chat with us online at 1800runaway.org. We look forward to hearing from you!
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Hi I am 12 and I want to run away from my home I am so tired of my mom and sister always teaming up on my and I’m to scared to to cry because I might get in trouble for that and I can’t tell them how I feel and if it keeps up I might need up in a psych wardComment
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Hello there, thanks for reaching out today. That seems really hurtful that your mom and sister team up on you and you are too scared to cry. Crying is totally okay, and a healthy emotion to have, and it should not be seen as a weakness. You feel the way you feel, and if you are feeling like crying, your feelings are valid. You deserve to have you feelings heard.
It sounds like you are feeling like if you are not able to tell them how you are feeling you are going to need to be in a pysch ward. Those feelings are significant and it's clear that this has taken a really big toll on you, and you need to be able to communicate how you are feeling at home. Here at NRS, we do have a conference call service if you would like to have a mediated phone call with your mom. It can be a safe place to let her know how you are feeling and we set the rules of no interrupting, no being disrespectful, and no yelling so she would have to hear you out. If you haven't already, you might let a trusted adult know how you are feeling. Maybe they can either provide support or help you have that difficult conversation with your mom.
If you haven't already, you might think about talking to a counselor. You mentioned feeling like you might end up in the pysch ward, and we want to let you know that there are preventative resources out their for you so you can receive help without it escalating to that level. If you would like us to look up low to no cost individual or family counseling/therapy resources for you in your area please do not hesitate to call or chat us. If you are feeling real down and would like to talk to a crisis worker about your mental health please do not hesitate to call or chat us or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-656-4673 or www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org. You are not alone and their are resources and people out there who truly want to listen to you and help.
Please do not hesitate to call or chat us so we can best help.
Best,
NRS
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Hi and I want to run away for many reasons. First reason is why I want to run away it’s because 2 or 3 years ago my mom married a man and that’s my new step dad and he always teas me and my mom is rude to me ever since she married him and always put the blame on me. When I turn 13 my dad says I can choose whoever I get to live with and I want to live with my mommom. The reason why I do not want to live at my dads house because I hate my step mother and my brotherComment
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Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help and we are glad that you decided to reach out for help.
It sound like things are so stressful at home that is making you think of running away. Running away from home can be hard in many cases. You may want to think about where you might stay, and how you might pay for food or other living expenses. While we are not legal experts, just speaking generally if you are to leave home without your parents’ permission the police can bring you back home and whoever you are staying with could get trouble in the law. With your parents’ permission you might be able to stay with your mom once you turn 13 in most cases.
You are doing great by reaching out for help and we are glad that you decided to reach out to us. We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.
We hope this response was helpful! We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey.
Tell us what you think about your experience!
Best,
NRS
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i ran away im 12 , i havent been home in 5 days but i come to school . before i left my mom hit me really hard and called me all types of name .. i wanna go live with my dad .Last edited by ccsmod10; 05-21-2018, 09:00 PM.Comment
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Hey there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation.
Your mom should never treat you the way she’s been treating you. You never deserve to be hit or yelled at in any situation. How you're being treated is wrong and is considered abuse. You’re always able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for transferring custody to your dad so you can live with him. NRS is able to conference call with you if you need help making the abuse report, or we can make one for you. After an abuse report is made, CPS will investigate it. We also have legal aid resources in our database. While we’re not law experts, we can try to find one in your area, there may be legal ways for you to be able to move in with your dad. We’re here to try to brainstorm options with you
You mentioned that you already left home. If you need somewhere to stay, we can always try to find a runaway shelter in your area for you to stay. We’re not legal experts, but from our general knowledge, running away is not illegal. If you runaway, your parents can make a runaway report. The police don't always actively look for you, if they come across you, then they usually bring you home. If you explain to them that home isn't a safe place to be, they don't always return you right away. They're supposed to investigate it first. We offer to call out to youth’s local police, with youth, to find out their protocols and what happens if runaways refuse to go home
We hope our response is helpful. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center, or use our chatting services via our website. However, the chatting service is not open 24/7. So the best way to tell us everything would be to just call into our hotline and talk to one of our trained liners.
Be safe, NRS
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I’m a 12 year old girl, about to be 13 and I have extremely bad anxiety and panic attacks. My mom abuses me and calls be a bi*** and a sl** and today, she dug her nails into my arm so hard that i have five bruises and bleeding. I’m really scared and I even puked bc of how tramtized I am. I have a plan to run away. My bedroom is on the first floor so I could easily climb out. I have about $30 cash and i know that won’t last long! There are plenty of hiding spots in my neighborhood And I only plan to run away for a day to just gather myself and to get the power to stick up for myself. But I came across this website so I was wondering what I could do!
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Hi I’m 12 and I want to run away ok it may not be as bad as yalls but I suffer from depression and anger issues so I get mad and I get all these mix of emotions all the time when my parents got divorced I knew that’s when my depression started cause I wanted to constantly hurt myself and I fight with my mom and grandma all the time cause I live with them and my dads in the army so he’s always gone and he’s getting married to my best friends mom so he takes up for her kids all the time and I’m sick and tired of no one believing me and I try to tell my mom how I feel but we’ll i do through text but she tells me to get over it or to just stop so idk what to do anymore I need help plzComment
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Reply: I’m a 12 year old girl, about to be 13
Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.
We are so sorry to hear that you were hurt by your mother. You don’t deserve to be physically or emotionally abused. It is not your fault this happened but we do understand how it has you feeling scared. Running away is a big step and may be one way of trying to change the situation but it also could put you in another stressful situation. If you feel in danger or at risk you might consider talking with someone from child protective services or a teacher or counselor at school for help.
We understand that this might be hard for you to do. Sometimes there may be another family member one can turn to like an aunt, grandparent or friend.
These are just a few options to consider. The most important thing is your safety.
If you would like to file a child abuse report contact Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453
This is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. NRS can help you file an abuse report by taking a report or conferencing a call for you to do so.
If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore options for help NRS is here to listen and here to help. Contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org
You were very brave to reach out today. Good job.
Take care and stay safe,
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Reply: Hi I’m 12 and I want to run away ok.....
Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.
Sometimes things can feel so bad that you don’t know where to turn or what to do.
Divorce causes a major shift in everyone’s life that it touches.
It’s okay to express how you are feeling because your feelings are important.
Although things are the way they are you might consider other options to cope with them. Hurting yourself does not have to be one of them. Communication with your family may seem hard.
It sounds like you have tried talking through texts with your mom but she has not offered much to comfort you.
Sometimes counseling is something that individuals and families look to as a way to be heard and try to understand each other’s feelings.
NRS is here to listen and here to help. If you would like to talk and explore some options, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org
You did a fine job reaching out today. Good for you.
We do hope things get better for you.
Take care,
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