I'm 12 and I want to run Away.

[Guest]

Hi, I'm another 12 year old. Which i realize most of the people on here are 12. I would like advice from anyone who would be willing to give it. My parents just told me i'm adopted, they treat me like garbage too 95% of the time. Somehow when i'm not even being rude they make me feel bad about myself and make me feel like i've done something wrong. Escpecially my mom, both of my "parents" discriminate me and make me feel like i look horrible and ugly. They've called me things in the past and they still do. The thing that they don't understand is that it stays with a child and scars them for life that theire role models hurt them. Plus my mom tried to stab me with a knife one day when i was eating breakfast all because i said i didn't want any honey on my pancakes. My friends say i have a f**ked up family, I agree because nothing is equal. They just try and buy me off on things when they've done something bad and use it against me. They say "We bought you ____ and this is how you treat us!". I've been hit by them and i'm abused emotionally almost everyday and i don't know what to do. If you are 12 or 13 and are looking at this message i would really like advice from you on what i should do. Should i run away or stay in this home?

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Hey, thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you have been through a lot with the news you have received and you’re really strong for reaching out and having the confidence to talk to us about your situation with your parents. You do not deserve to be treated unfairly like this by them.
It might be good to consider what would happen if you do decide to run away, like who you would be staying with and for long. It might also be a something to think about what you think it would be like if things were different and how would that look.
You mentioned that your parents do not treat you well, even when you have done nothing wrong, and that they not only have emotionally abused you but have also physically abused you. That is unacceptable of them to do, especially since you see them as role models. Child Help is a hotline that can help if you want to talk to someone specifically about your abuse, you can contact them at 1-800-422-4453. They can assist in filing a report or what the process of filing a report might look like if you are interested.
We are really glad you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and it’s really good that you are looking into what some option might look like. If you would like to talk more about what is going on, do not hesitate to call or chat with us at 1-800-786-2929 or 1800runaway.org, we are 24/7 and toll free. We are here to listen and here to help.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Im 12 and i want to run away


To start off yhr explanation i have to say my dad died may 6 2019 and my mom and i lost our home, we had ti live with my aunt and her boyfriend who stole many of my fldads things, i went to live with my grandparents for my 12th birthday and they verbally abused me and almost kept me and my mother from getting a home because she was keeping the check for me instead if actually helping us get a home so i had problems going back when i saw my mom ( i firgot to mention my severe attachment anxiety) so eventually she let me go with her and we went to her friends house and eventually she told me they were dating and its only been 4 months since my dad passed and recently i was really sad and she told me to go sleep in the road. What do i do, i need ti get away from these people. I live 25 minutes from charlotte NC

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Hi there,

First, we are very sorry to hear about your father's death. That's got to be difficult and we hope you allow whatever time you need to grieve that loss. If you can reach out to someone you trust to talk about your feelings, that would be very helpful. Of course, we are always here for you too.

It sounds like home is not a very good situation right now. It's got to hurt to see your mom date someone so soon after your father's passing away. We understand that you want to get away from all of that. The best way we can help is if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24/7 and can help you figure out for yourself what your best options are. Or you can chat with us online by visiting our website, www.1800runaway.org. We never judge and are totally confidential. Your thoughts and feelings have value and you have a right to be heard.

Stay safe and take care!

NRS

[Guest]

I'm 12 I want to run away

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. Living on your own can also bring about many safety risks. You will need to consider ways that you can protect yourself from physical harm as well as the possibility of sexual and labor exploitation. This can all influence your decision to leave.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 12 and I want to go away from home.

Me and my parents, we seem to quarrel alot, and that doesn't help as i have severe anxiety and depression, but clearly i try to hide it and my parents never realize this. but every word they say to me, it will make me have a panic attack, it makes me feel down and upset at myself until i started to hurt myself. and, to top all that, my parents have shown their very clear hate on my online friends, which are the only people who i have cherished the most. no, i love my parents, but sometimes they just don't get me. what should i do?

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 11 and i want to runaway

[Guest]

I’m on the run What do I do

[ccsmod15]

Hi,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out. It sounds like there is a lot that you are faced with right now back at home, and so you have run away.
Your safety is most important. Finding a place where you feel safe, like a National Safe Place (library, fire station, police station, some convenience stores) might be helpful if you are on the streets. If you have a friend or another family member you would feel comfortable contacting, you might consider it. It is important to ask yourself where you will stay if you plan on being gone for a while. We can always help you find a place in your area if you call or chat us (1-800-786-2929 or 1800runaway.org). It is also important to note that your legal guardians can report you as a runaway youth and the police will have a right to find you and bring you back home.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon using the contact information above. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

Be safe and strong out there,
NRS

[Guest]

I am 12 and I am running away very soon my name is ********* and my life is not for me and I no longer feel any real connection with my family since they have fallen to "bad things". I have a brother who is a ***, a little sister who has invaded my life, and the only one I love is my big sis who is in a hospital, and my parents are divorced and cold to everyone except thier phones. please do NOT put out sympathy to me I just want to start over one way or another.

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Hi, thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. Because this is a public forum, we removed your name from your post. It sounds like things are really stressful at home and that you are trying to find something better for yourself. We are glad that you have your big sister and that she can recover and get well in the hospital.
We can’t tell you to run away, nor can we tell you to stay. What we can do is to listen to you and to work to help you to be safe and off the streets. Running away is a big decision, and at 12 you would be in danger without a plan for a safe place to go. If you want to stay, we would help you find a way for things to be better at home. We are here to listen and to help. You are deserving of empathy (which is different from sympathy) which recognizes your dignity, and that’s how we regard all of our callers, whether we are allowed to express it is up to you.
You can reach us 24/7 either by phone at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY), or through live chat via our website www.1800runaway.org

[Guest]

Hey there im 12 and I want to leave home in 12 but In 4 months I'll be 13 I want to leave here because my momma always takes my brother side in any thing and no matter what she always calls me the wrong one and she lets him do whatever he wants and I also live I Mississippi and I have a family member that stays in Georgia and i really wants too leave here my momma beats me for anything she finds any excuse to beat me and i just want too leave here because if I have to keep going threw this im going to hurt myself and my grandma is even worst she always calling me b and hoes and I really just want to leave please help me because of you don't i am running away

[ccsmod15]

Hi,

Thank you so much for reaching out to NRS. We are always here to help support and empower youth to the best of our ability. It was very brave or you to be so vulnerable by reaching out to us, we can only imagine how difficult of a situation this must be for you.

It sounds like you are really contemplating running away, which can be a scary and overwhelming thing. Some things to consider might be what running away would look like for you, as in where would you want to go, how would you get there, and what might be some outcomes that could happen because you run away. It is important to note that if you runaway, you can't get in any real legal trouble, but your parent or gaurdian could file a runaway report to the police, if you choose to runaway. This would mean that if any local law enforcement were to find you, even though you wouldn't get in any trouble with the police, they would have to return you to the home of your legal gaurdian. Also if you choose to runaway depending on which state you are in, there might be laws about harboring runaway in your state. That woud mean that if you stay with people, they might get in trouble for letting you stay with them. Some helpful resources might be the National Safe Place which could provide shelter and housing, you can reach them by texting 44357 (SAFE and your location). You can also call 211 to find local shelters in your area. You also mentioned that your mom beats you. That can be a very stressful and painful thing to deal with alone. You can always reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929 or the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-2253. We can help you file an abuse report, conference call with you parent, or just listen. What ever you need we will do out best to provide. You also mentioned self harm, which is another painful and really taxing thing to grapple with. You again can always reach out to us, or you can reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Line at 1-800-273-8255 if you are ever contemplating self harm.

Feel free to always reach out to us any time, we are always here to talk whether its over the phone, email, or using our messaging service. Again, thank you so much for reaching out. We are 24/7, non-judgemental, non-directive, and confidential.

[Guest]

I am having a hard time at home. My so called parents are constantly arguing yelling screeming at me. They also call me a f***ing brat. They lock me in my room. They get drunk. They take me places just so I don't get my homework done. They are very inappropriate. I just want to escape and run away. But they said if I run away I will never be able to come back. I feel stuck and I think I will never be able to escape. PLease help. I don't want to die but I don't want to live either.

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Hello there,

We really appreciate you reaching out to us. It is very brave of you to seek help and we would like to provide any support that we can. We are sorry to hear about your situation at home and about how your parents behave towards you. It must be very hard to live in a household like that, and your thoughts and feelings are understandable. You do not deserve to be treated in such a way.

We would like to address the concerns that you mentioned, and we want to let you know that you are not alone. Your life is precious and you deserve to have support in your life. In terms of possible thoughts on suicide, if you ever find yourself in immediate danger then the first resource would be to call 9-1-1. There is also another resource available which is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline and their number is 1-800-273-8255. It is understandable that you have thoughts on running away, if you every find yourself in the position to run away from home then you may want to consider calling us here at NRS. Our number is 1-800-786-2929. We offer our support through confidentiality, guidance and resources because your safety is our first concern. We also offer our callers the option to file abuse reports.

Again, we’re really glad that you decided to reach out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and you are trying to figure out you options which is really good to see. It is an unfair situation that you are currently in, and we are sorry to hear about it. If you would like to talk more, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us. We are here to listen, here to help.

Sincerely,
NRS

[Guest]

Hey, I'm 13 and I'm about to run away.
For me, my plan is to run away and commit suicide before found. I do have severe depression and a full list of mental issues. To me what I feel isn't some sort of "phase". Honestly, I'm here writing I guess as a good-bye note.
I know I should value life and stuff but I'm just tired. For about the past 7 years of my life I can't even remember a single time where I actually had a proper smile. Having to fake one every day as a mask gets tiring.
Funny thing is the people around me who say they care about me, is all bull********. I don't think you talk ******** about someone you "care" about.
I'm the type who openly expresses a bit that I'm not fine. I honestly do want help. I'm tired of feeling this way.
I think the people who let me down were my close "friends" & my dad.
When I in a serious tone say 'i want to die', that doesn't matter to others. so that tells me, me being dead won't be noticed. My friends encourage me to kill myself. Telling me what I am waiting for. I wait to see does my life really even matter. Truth is my friends are great ppl. when others say they want to die they say don't do it. How am I any different.
My dad is a different story. My dad means everything to me. I care about my ma too but she was born a bit slow from a normal person so she doesn't understand the feelings of another person but her own. I get it but it hurts when ur mother is always yelling and throwing n hitting you, while she's being all sweet n innocent in front n towards family n friends. The love she gave to them is something I've wanted from her since my 1st memory. My parents r together and all my dad says shes ur mother or you know she's not right in the head.
Now, actually my dad. He has always been there. He's been there when I was in my feelings bc of my aunt. My aunt was 2 faces. shed talk ******** about a person but be friendly w/ them. she did it to me. I told me how bad I looked, how she loves my brother more and being ugly. She judged me as though she was God. I never really cared what she says. Until all the weight of it broke me. My dad pulled her move on me. Hed befriend me then be on the phone talking about all my flaws. It hurts. Especially when it comes from him.
The PTSD I have that they don't know about brings more pain. My PTSD is bc of the dark. a trauma I had when I was about 4 going into 5.
Everything hurts.
But as I think about it, there was one person who was there for me. shes my bsf. she was the only one who actually ever heard my voice. when we were at the same school we weren't so close but we were close. But awhile after I moved we got in touch. Before I knew it I fell for her pretty hard.
Eventually, I told her n made it a bit awkward between us. Also being the fact we're both girls. Even though I'm heartbroken and her still talking bout her crushes to me I'm still very glad we stayed good friends. It actually makes me happy. A feeling I lost a long time ago.

For those whos read this, thank you for reading my story. It makes me feel noticed.
Sayonara.

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Hello There,
Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline and sharing your story with us it takes great courage.
It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
We want you to stay strong and know that there is always someone willing to listen and provide support. If you need someone to talk to or need additional resources please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 12 and I want to run away,
I have depression and had a sucidal thoughts ,also I'm gay so my parents are disappointed in me, plus school is hard I have problems with my family and it's somehow always my fault, my friend live a little bit far away and the only way I can get there is with my roller blade. I plan on finding away to contact my the only problem is I live in Japan Oki.

Thank you for your help

[ccsmod3]

Thank you for reaching out to us. Wow! It sounds like you are struggling with a lot of things right now. It must feel incredibly lonely to not have the support of your parents and have your friends far away. Maybe you can try talking to your school counselor or family member you trust about what you are experiencing. If you don’t have much support at home you can always contact LGBT National Hotline by going to glbthotline.org. You also mentioned having suicidal thoughts, if you ever feel like harming yourself or just want to talk about the suicidal thoughts you are having contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at www.suicidepreventionlifelife.org. You can definitely go to the websites and see if they have international services. We are a service that is based in the United States so you may need to find a crisis hotline in your area that could service you. Best of Luck.

[Guest]

I want to leave but I don’t want to leave my sibilants behind

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out and sharing a little bit about how you've been feeling. It seems like you are in a dilemma about whether to leave home. It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. Living on your own can also bring about many safety risks. You will need to consider ways that you can protect yourself from physical harm as well as the possibility of sexual and labor exploitation. This can all influence your decision to leave.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 12 and wanna run away because my dad and sister don’t care at all I don’t live with my mom and I can’t anymore so I don’t know what to do because my sister hits me sometimes and yesterday I feel like my dad abused me because I tried to run away but he took it to far in my opinion

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension between you, your sister, and your dad. Your sister shouldn't be hitting you and it's not OK for her to do so. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

You mentioned that you think your dad took things too far and that it resulted in abuse. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

It sounds like your mom isn't in the picture right now and you aren't getting the support and care you need from your dad. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your dad so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS