I'm 12 and I want to run Away.

[Guest]

Im only 12 and im considring running away my grandma is extremely toxic and is homopohobic,transphobic and fatshames i am a transgender pansexual she hates me and will hit me and push me off my bed she hurts me everytime i say something she doesnt like my mom tries to comfort me and she is the only thing keeping me from leaving please help i dont know what to do

[ccsmod15]

Hi, thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. We are very sorry for the way that your grandmother is treating you. You do not deserve it and it is wrong of her to hurt you and push you. It sounds like you and your mom live with your grandmother. We are glad that your mom comforts you, but it sounds like your mom has to depend on grandma for shelter. That is a difficult situation.
Whether your grandmother understands your sexual and gender identity does not give her the right to physical and emotionally abuse you – but the situation sounds complicated if your mom has no other place to go. We are here for you, to listen and to help and one thing we can offer now is the Trans Lifeline at 1-877-565-8860. Also the LGBT National Youth Talkline is 1-800-246-7743
We would really like to discuss this further so that we can talk about everything that you are going through and help you figure out your options. You can contact us either by phone at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or via live chat through the website www.1800runaway.org We are here for you 24/7 to listen and to help.
We hope this helps and that we might hear from you soon.
Sincerely, NRS

[Guest]

I am 12 I want to run away because my parents are always yelling and calling me names

[ccsmod15]

Hi, thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things are hard for you at home because your parents yell at you and call you names. We are sorry that you are going through this and we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help.
Running away is a serious thing to do, and dangerous especially since you are only 12, so we encourage you to either talk it over with us, or try to think of another adult that you trust, maybe a grandparent or aunt or uncle.
We would be happy to discuss this further so that we can talk about everything that you are going through and help you figure out your options. You can contact us either by phone at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or via live chat through the website www.1800runaway.org We are here for you 24/7 to listen and to help.
We hope this helps and that we might hear from you soon.
Sincerely, NRS

[Guest]

Hello, I am 12 years old, my name and gender, I would like to keep classified. I have been suffering through depression, emotional abuse, and suicidal thoughts. I would like to run away from home, because even if I have good friends at school. And I love my teachers, I have the best grades. I find life to be very hard for me at home I have a lot of items, but I don't really want them. All I want is my parents to at least act like they want me around. They are always yelling at me for my mistakes, and sometimes physically hurt me, specifically my mother. And idk I guess it really hurts my self esteem, how I think about myself. Most of my family isn't talking to us because of a stupid family quarrel. So I don't really have anyone to talk to at home. I talk to some of my friends about it rarely. But it doesn't really help.

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. You should be able to feel safe, secure, and happy at home. It sounds really frustrating to not have contact with other family members because of a fight. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

You mentioned some things about your mom physically hurting you that raises concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

You brought up some stuff about suffering from depression and feeling suicidal. It can be really hard to live with mental health issues and we want you to know that you aren’t alone in addressing them. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-800-662-4357 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 13 and I want to die.
my mom and my dad “love” me but I dont think yelling at someone until they cry is loving someone. I have nice things. It’s not like I’m neglected or anything. It’s just there so much pressure and I feel like I’m gonna lose it.

[ccsmod3]

Thank you for reaching out to us. It’s really hard to openly admit how you are feeling and it’s really brave that you decided to express yourself today. It sounds like you are experiencing a lot of emotions and may need someone to talk to. If you ever feel like you may want to hurt yourself or are having feelings of not wanting to be around anymore contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1800-273-8255. It’s a 24/7 crisis line that can talk with you if you are feeling suicidal or going through any type of stressful situation.
It’s a good thing that you decided to reach out and talk to someone about the pressure you are feeling. Also being yelled at to the point that you are crying must be sad. It must be hard living in a house were you feel like you aren't being heard and can't talk to anyone about it. If you want some more support from professionals who can listen and offer some suggestions text NAMI at 741741. You also have the option to contact us at NRS. We are 24/7, confidential and here to help. We can talk in more detail about your situation and discuss some options together. Be safe and feel free to reach out if you need any more support or just want to vent.

[Guest]

I’m 12 and want to run away the reason I want to run away is because my parents find anything to get down on me and then ask me why I’m so down I really wanted to kill my self but I thought running away would be better

[ccsmod9]

Thank you for reaching out! It sounds like a lot is going on at home and you really are feeling unsupported. You deserve to feel safe and content in your own household.
You mention that your parents find anything to get down on you. Have they ever done anything that could be considered abusive? Your safety is our number one concern. Furthermore, you mention wanted to kill yourself and we find this concerning. If you ever feel unsafe or like you may act on these thoughts please give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or the national suicide prevention lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. You also mention possibly running away. Just to inform you running away is a status offense so what that means is if you run away and your parents file a runaway report and police stumble upon you, they will return you to your parents. It sounds as if your parents are not aware regarding how much pain you are currently experiencing. How would you feel about writing them a letter detailing your feelings? Furthermore, if you attend a school with a counselor, perhaps it would be worth attempting to speak with them. You deserve to be heard and we are wondering if there is an adult that you trust with whom you can speak with.
Again, thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate and you are doing your very best to explore all options. We would love to speak with you further so please do not hesitate to give us a call or chat at the number we listed above. We are here to listen and here to help.

[Guest]

I’m 12 and I want to run away because my mom calls me a h*e she beats on me and be talking my phone that she didn’t even buy

[ccsmod10]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 14 and I wanna runaway also..

[ccsmod4]

I'm 14 and I wanna runaway also..

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,

[Guest]

hi, i'm 11 and i want to run away, i am sassy, and mouthy to my parents, but i believe that the way they try to make me stop me is wrong. they call me a f**** b***** and i have been choked when i was 8 before, and was locked in a pitch black garage when i was 3, but only for like 10 minutes. and i get called really mean names a lot, and it happens almost everyday. i have tried to stop, not being sassy, but yet it comes back i don't know how, i just get lied too, or my older brother triggers me, and i say one mean sentence and back at it again, i'm being called rude names. i get told to kill myself, i'm not wanted in this family, and if i disappeared nobody would care, and a couple of weeks ago i had a ear infection and i was on the floor crying in pain, begging to go to the er and my parents simply looked at me and didn't care. and told me, if you died we wouldn't care etc, and once, i got dropped off from school in the car by one of my parents saying, "GO TO HELL YOU F**** B*****" and i always fake being happy at school, i never tell anyone, and i get threatened to not tell anyone.yet they say, "were not scared of your counselors." I've been attempting to kill myself many times now, and on the other hand, my brother never gets yelled at, even though he is mean sometimes too, and he starts most of the fights. i have also been treated like i'm a animal, like there is no way to control me. they say they will send me away, i have been crying for so many weeks, and i'm tired of life. i don't want to kill myself because i'm so young, and i know there is more to live for, but at this point i cant even, and i'm going to run away. i just cant. please help me.

[ccsmod11]

Hi,

Thank you for contacting us, that sounds like an incredibly difficult situation to be in and it was brave of you to reach out. If you’re ever feeling suicidal, you can always reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. They’re available 24/7 and have trained counselors who can talk to you about what you’ve been feeling. If you’re ever in immediate danger, you can also always call 911. If you ever wanted to find any mental health services, you could reach out to SAMHSA (the Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration) at 1-800-662-HELP, or NAMI (the National Alliance on Mental Illness) at 1-800-950-NAMI.

It’s understandable that you would be having a hard time at home with what you described, that sounds like a lot to be going through. No one deserves to be treated that way, and everyone deserves to feel safe in their home. One option you could consider is abuse reporting. We’re not legal experts, but the way this typically works is that if you chose to report, then an investigation would be opened, and the police or a social worker would come ask you and your family some questions about what’s going on, and it may lead to you leaving home. If you wanted to report, you could do this by calling Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. You could also reach out to us first, and we could call out with you and offer support through the process of reporting. If you discuss the situation with a teacher or a counselor at school, they would have a legal requirement to report the abuse, so that is another option for reporting.

If you do decide to leave home there is a lot to consider, like where you will go, how you will make sure you have food, and possible dangers such as trafficking and violence. If you ever want to talk through what that could look like and what to consider, you can reach out to us 24/7 at 1-800-Runaway.

-NRS

[Guest]

My parents hit me throw me into walls call me names and worst of all they killed my dog o have a.d.d and depression I have called the cops and they gave a warning then he just kept on hitting me again when they left I have held a gun to my head but that wasn’t what I needed to do I just want to be away from them so it’s going to get better I’m am going to run away.

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

We are really glad you decided to reach out to NRS. Asking for help was the right thing to do. It is not okay for your parents to be physically violent with you and your dog We are sorry to hear you had to experience this loss as a result of your parent's behaviors. Calling the police was a smart thing to since you were not feeling safe. We are here 24/7 to listen and help, so do no hesitate to call or chat with us anytime (800-786-2929 ; 1800runaway.org).

Because you mentioned that you are planning on leaving home, the National Safe Place can help provide you with a safe place to go. You can go to www.nationalsafeplace.org or text "safe" and your current location to 44357. If you do decide to leave your parents can file a runaway report. This means that if the police know where you are, they will likely return you home.

You do have the right to report what is going on. Making a child abuse report would mean getting a social worker involved to help you. If you are comfortable and able to do so safely, it can help to have pictures or evidence of any mark or bruises resulting from your parents physically hurting you. This can be a scary decision to make and you do not need to make it alone. If you want to know more about the reporting process or you would like to start the report, you can call the national child abuse hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or go to https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/.

Do not hesitate to reach out by phone or chat (click on the CHAT button on our homepage) if you want to talk more in detail about your situation and further explore your options.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I know it's been awhile since someone been on here but I'm a 12 y/o girl and I want to run away from home but I don't know how. I mean I love my family more than anything but I just don't want to be them right now so I was thinking why not run away from home but I don't know where to go or home much money I should bring. And if I go to my grandma's house that's first place they'll look and I don't know if you see this please let me know what to do.

[ccsmod4]

I know it's been awhile....

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are feeling as though you might want to run away but may want to talk with someone about it first. It’s good that you are reaching out to explore some options. NRS is here to listen and here to help.

We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi I am a girl and im 12 yrs old and I want to run away. My parents mostly my mom is very abusive, my dad is a regular parent that gets mad and hits me rarely. My mom is perfectionist in which she wants everything to be perfect. She calls me unwanted, b****, a******, stupid and much more. She wants only her to be right, in my opinion she is bipolar. My dad sometimes agrees with us but my mom tries her best and convinced my dad that we are the problem. I had gone through alot depression, madness, and sadness, I even want to end my life because on what is happening. I really want to run away but just don't know how to. Please help me!

[ccsmod13]

Hey there, thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We do want to say it takes a lot of bravery to reach out and share what has been going on at home. We know it can sometimes be hard to reach out but the fact that you did is huge, that is something worth being proud of. If you feel like you are in danger at home or may end your life, you always have the right to call 911 for police and other emergency services. We want you to know we care about your wellbeing, and your safety.

It sounds like you've been coping with a very frustrating and scary situation at home with your mom and dad. From what you shared, it sounds like your mom has been expecting what you stated is “perfection” and has hurt you when she does receive what she wants. That’s must be extremely scar and hard to live with as no one is perfect and being abused for such is not okay. You don't deserve to be beaten or harmed in any way.
We also want to say that you do not deserve to be hit or called names by your mom or dad. It is not okay. If you do feel abused or your parent’s actions are abusive, you do have the right to report what is going on. Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a great resource that can help answer any questions you have about what reporting abuse looks like, what abuse is, and they can also assist in reporting if you choose to do so. We are also here 24/7 to help as well to discuss reporting as an option or to report as well if you choose to do so. There are many outcomes to reporting and Child Protective Services try to keep the youth’s best interest in mind and safety as the top priority.

Also, you mentioned wanting to end your life because of what has been going on at home. We do want to say we truly care about you and we are here to listen and help as best as we can because you are valued. If you do feel like you may harm or kill yourself. You can always call 911 for emergency services. Also, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) is also an option to reach out to. They are 24/7, free and confidential and offer support for people and you do not have to be actively suicidal to call. We are also always here for you to support you in any way we can.

As a reminder, we are here to help sort through things with you and identify a plan that is safest and best for you. We do truly care about you and understand it must be an incredibly frustrating situation you are in with your family.. We are always here to listen and help brainstorm options that you feel may best fit your situation. We can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY 24/7 and we also have an online chat system at 1800runaway.org if you want to chat with us. We hope to hear from you soon!

[Guest]

I’m 12 and I want to run away from my family they keep yelling and fighting it scares me to wake up everyday to know I’m going to get beaten or not I live in Athens GA (I have no other family here I want to leave them soooo mad and forget about them I want to go away my mom tells people she wants to kill her self (but when I have a actual problem with suicide it’s different for me she calles me crazy and how im going to a hospital for crazy people I want to leave her I don’t want to leave athen either she almost made me live with just her and my brother i can’t live with her she made my live so sad that I want to get
emancipated when I’m 17.

[ccsmod15]

Hello, thank you for reaching out! We understand you are going through a tough time right now, and we are here to help.

To begin with, you mentioned that you are having some problems with suicide. We want you know that we take suicide very seriously, and care about your safety. You’re really brave for opening up about it. If you are currently having any suicidal thoughts or feelings, a good source to reach out to would be the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1800) 273-8255. We want you to get the best possible help that it out there, and the National Alliance on Mental Illness hotline can provide you with help on how to process everything that you are feeling. The organization can be reached at 1800) 950-6264. You’re not alone in this.

Also, you explained that you want to run away from your family, because they keep yelling and fighting, and eventually be emancipated at 17. Although we aren’t legal experts, if you decide to run away, your legal guardian may file a runaway report with the authorities. Whoever you end up staying with may face some consequences for harboring a runaway. In the case that you feel unsafe, perhaps an option to explore is texting the word safe and your location to 44357. The National Safe Place would text you a safe location, with further guidance on what appropriate steps to take next. We want you to know that no one should have to endure any abuse, whether that be: physical, emotional, or mental. An option to explore would be to reach out to the National Child Abuse hotline at 1800) 422-4453. They may be able to connect you with liable sources to help you report the type of abuse going on in your home.

We appreciate you reaching out to us and your bravery. If you feel like you need to talk further, you can always reach out to us at 1800) 786-2929. Best of luck!