I want to move in with my sister

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My sister is 19 living with her boyfriend, boyfriend's sister and brother, and his nephew. Ever since she moved out (because of my mom I might add) I have had problems with my mom. I mean I already had problems with her before but now they have escalated. Every day there is at least 4 arguments in the 4 hours I am actually home and awake, due to sports and my job. Every week there is a big argument in which I get grounded for literally no reason. I just recently got grounded for saying the bank was stupid. Supposedly I said this in a rude manner while talking to my mom and she started yelling at me to shut up. After every one of these arguments, and I really don't want to say this because she is my mom but it has come to this, I feel a deeper hatred of her. After this last argument I was totally engulfed in rage (by the way I have anger problems from her side as well) and tried to talk to her in a calm manner when she replies,"Why do you change the volume of your voice?! To prove a * point! Your * crazy! Your crazy!" (Word for word I might add). She left my room and I was so filled with anger I punched my TV several times and ten minutes later I started beating my bed with a bat. I can't handle this anymore. Truly I try to be nice to her and then she spits out something stupid that just makes me angry. This past incident happened about 2 days ago and I am still powerfully angry to the point where I'm not getting rides from her to school or work anymore and I'm not eating anything she makes for me. I just want to live with my sister because if I don't get out of here I might hurt myself or maybe someone else. I'm afraid of blowing up and doing something I might regret.

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re: I want to move in with my sister

Hi, thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. From what you shared with us, it seems that things at home have been difficult with your mom since your sister left home. You deserve to feel safe and supported at home. You mentioned that you have tried talking to your mom about how you feel. Would you be open to explore this options again? Here at NRS, we offer a conference calling service where you would be able to initiate a conversation between you and your mom to try and talk about what is going on at home and see if there is a way that a compromise could be met, such as allowing you to live with your sister. We could help mediate that conversation and explore options, such as allowing you to live with your sister and how that may look like. Sometimes just being able to talk can be a way to open up the lines of communication and see the best way that everyone can compromise. If this is something that you might want to look into, please feel free to reach out to us at our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

You mentioned that you would want to live with your sister, which is an option that you could explore with your mom’s permission. We are not legal experts, but can speak generally. Generally, if you are under the age of majority, any type of alternative living arrangement which would allow you to live outside of you home would need a parent’s permission.

It seems that you are doing your best to cope with everything that you are experiencing, but that problems with mom have escalated and building anger within you. Emotional distress can sometimes be overwhelming and you don’t have to experience this alone. If you would like additional support, one helpful resource is the National Suicide Hotline, 1800-273-8255. They have skilled and trained counselors available with a lot of experience talking with people who are feeling and experiencing emotional distress and can help you process and talk about your anger.

If you would like to talk further about your situation and explore more safe options, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us. You can reach us at our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Our live chat service is available from 4:30 PM to 11:30 PM CST and could be accessed through our website, http://www.1800runaway.org/. We wish you the best of luck and hope to hear from you soon.

Stay strong,
NRS