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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us. Reaching out for help is a great first step to getting any support you may need. It is okay to feel that way about your birth mother and her partner and your feelings are 100% valid. It is not okay for them to harm you in any way or for them to justify their actions. You mentioned your mother forces you to work for her at her business and isn't always paying you. This is awful and your mother is very unfair in pressuring you to work especially without fair compensation. You deserve to be treated with respect and to feel cared for.

    If you want to leave, a helpful start could be to reach out to friends or family members that you might be able to stay with. Talking to parents about wanting to live away from home can be very difficult and having an adult on your side to advocate for your needs could help. Perhaps there is an adult in your life you can reach out to for some help with this.

    You shared a few things that make us concerned for your safety and well-being. You do have the option to make a report to child protective services. Their goal is to ensure that you are safe and getting the care that you need. You can speak to an advocate at an organization called Child Help, childhelp.org, to learn more about the reporting process and what it might look like for you.

    We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

    Stay strong,
    NRS

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    I have been having some of the same issues with many people on this website and I don't feel safe or at peace with my terrible birth mother and her fiancé who both are not fit to even be called parents. They use not having good lives in the past as their excuse when confronted and say they only do to us what they have had done to them by their parents, but I don't believe that's true, mainly because of the fact that I have been hit by both of them with both their hands and objects. When we were younger and more powerless they used to yell at us for things that we probably shouldn't have done but they also yelled at us for some unnecessary things as well and decided their only way of getting a point across was to use a wooden paddle that was originally used for a boat/kayak that had been cut so that they could swing it faster and has had to be fixed using tape because of the force they hit us with it.
    sorry for any grammatical errors or other mistakes, I have almost failed English classes since I can remember. I know that if I try to get someone involved with this that they think can do something to take me away from them, they'll just use excuses or try to say that im lying. I feel that they only keep me here for labor that they do not wish to do, (my mother runs a bar she forces us to work for) and the situation used to be a lot worse because we moved last year to take over a restaurant that has been run by family for a while and my mother felt like it wasn't important to pay us for working there. She now pays me and my 14 year old brother 5 dollars and some change an hour and my 10 year old sister about 3 dollars an hour. Sometimes miscalculating and saying that we didn't actually work that day, even though we have schedules.
    I have wanted to live with someone, anyone else for as long as I can remember and actually got permissions from one of my friends parents a long time ago... but then that friend and 3 other of my friends got into a crash... and nothing has been the same since. Only one of them survived and it was one that I didn't know very well. I just know if I try to do anything my parents will find SOME way to make it not work, and then probably beat me for it. They won't sign any papers allowing me to go with anyone or anything. My mother has threatened to call the police on me for something as little as going with some friends to a baseball game, which she claims to have been wanting to protect me, but then promptly beat me sometime in the next week for it. Is there any way I can get help please me any my sibling, even though we fight a lot and have some... other issues... we need to get away from here.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I need to know if I’m legally allowed to live with a friend without parents consent at 16. My friend is turning 19 in a month and they are planning on moving into an apartment, I’ve told them all about my situation and they’ve agreed if it’s allowed I can go live with them for a bit. Currently it’s not only my family but the whole area I live in. I live in a bad city/area. Not only that my parents are toxic and manipulative. They always try to argue with me over any little thing they can find and it’s hurting my mental state. I need to be around people who are supportive and loving, but this isn’t helping out. Am I legally allowed to leave?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. From what you mentioned, your mom is not providing a safe or supportive environment for you and it has been taking a toll on your mental health. This is not okay for her to do and home is supposed to be somewhere you feel cared for. You deserve to be treated with respect and to feel happy and supported. Leaving home to live with family members can certainly be a big decision to make and we want you to know that you are not alone in this.

    The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 15 and I don’t have a bad life. I used to be extremely over weight which has now caused me to have bulimia. I also have anxiety and experience panic attacks. I moved away from my bow town when I was 8 but I live 2 hrs away with my mum ,her gf and my little brother. My grandad wants me to move in with him which I want to but it will break my mum. I have tried to OD and I attempted to jump off a bridge of which I rang my grandma in tears and she told my mum I’m moving out for abit. I came back after a month and nothing had changed. My step mum is exactly the same as she was with me before and my mental state is in shambles. I never feel happy living here and I would rather move in with my family. I’m in the uk and I’m 15 idk how it works.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    With everything that you have been going through at home with your parent’s it took a lot of courage for you to reach out. We appreciate you sharing your feelings about the situation. Well done. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. It’s not your fault that this is happening. You the right to want to feel safe.

    You also have the right to file an abuse report to Child Protective Services.
    Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or maybe even your friend and their mother.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please call 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in.

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 9-1-1 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Ok so I'm 15 and I really don’t like living in this house I ran away and the second time I did I got beat and my made me stay with my friend which was where I ran off to and I didn’t mind it at all, I loved it there I was treated so much better there his mom said I could stay as long as I wanted but my mom made me come back these rules at our house is observed I have to do everything and when I ask why I get punished even more she has been abusive to all my sibling when she is mad 9/10 she is mad at someone or something and takes her anger out on my siblings I can’t stand it here at all I never want to come back if I can leave this place I just want to stay with friend not because of video games it's just I like it a lot better there his mom is really nice and treats me like I'm her son and I like it. I know it's legal stuff that has to happen to not come back home but I know if I try to get my mom to agree to anything I will get everything taken and just treated even more poorly and even beat again we also constantly move because of our step dad and her who argue almost every day even physical and destroys the whole house I can’t take it anymore I just want to leave without her going to jail or getting beat even more for wanted to leave what should I do?
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 07-07-2020, 01:00 AM.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. It takes great courage to reach out for help. We are sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time.
    You deserve to live in a good and safe environment. Have you considered bringing this up with anyone else like another adult relative ? Talking to a school counselor can also be helpful.

    You also have an option to call the Child Help USA hotline to file a neglect report if you choose saying your living situation is not safe. You can call them at 1-800-422-4453.
    Leaving home can hard and unsafe in many situation. It is important to think about where you might stay and how you might pay for living expenses. While we are not legal experts speaking generally if you are to leave home without your parents permission the police can bring you back home and whoever you stay with can be charged with harboring a runaway and get in trouble.

    This can be a lot to think about and you are not alone. We are here to support you during this hard time. If you would like, you can call us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-786-2929 and we would be happy to listen to you, explore your options and provide any resources.

    We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.

    Best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I would like to Iive somewhere else where I can still be able to do what I want but live in a better lifestyle where I’m at rn very dirty mold everywhere flies ants are always in my bed the house is treated horribly but if you ask my grandma she would say it’s my fault or my moms I need somewhere to go where it’s clean but I can do what I want like a friends house would I be able to do that?

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It is awful that your father is treating you in such a hurtful and inappropriate manner. It is absolutely not okay for him to be physically violent with you in any situation. It is great that you are still able to succeed in school and that you seem really capable despite the circumstances.

    It might be wise to consider reporting what is going on. If you want to know more about what that might look like and what might come of it, don’t hesitate to reach out to the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453. They can help you understand the abuse reporting process.

    We are not legal experts, but we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. Unfortunately, as a minor, your parents still have the right to determine where you live. If you left home without their permission, they could file a runaway report with the police.While it is NOT illegal to run away from home, a runaway report would mean that if the police encountered you or knew where you were, they could notify your guardian and then return you back home. In terms of consent from your parents, they have the right to take back their permission at any point as your guardian.

    It might be a little easier for us to provide guidance if we knew a little bit more about what was going on. If you want to continue this conversation and figure out what other options there might be, please give us a call on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am a fifteen year old living in a house with a father that says he loves me and all that bs, but he hits me and beats me over things that are as simple as having the open to check the mail. I want to move in with my friend and his parents so that I don't have to be around him anymore. I am already going to college and I am still in high school. I am currently in the process of trying to get a job so that I can support myself while I'm at his house. Would I be able to move out if he has given parental consent by telling me to pack my sh*t and get the f*ck out of his house?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    i am 15 years old and want to move into my friends house: my parents are divorced and i am currently living with my dad due to the fact that my mom lives 4 hours away. My dad wants to move to England by next year and i am not prepared to do that because i will only see my mom once a year. I really want to finish high school in my home town

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  • ccsmod3
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS
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