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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like there may be a lot of other issues going on at home and your wanting to live somewhere else seems like a good solution to you. There are a couple of things to consider especially since you are only 15. You do need your parent’s permission to live somewhere else and technically they would still be responsible for you unless they make a legal arrangement to have another adult be your guardian. If you just left, your parents may file a runaway report and if you wind up interacting with the police, they would be required to bring you home to your parents unless that is an unsafe situation. It is unlikely that your friends would be held criminally responsible for giving you a place to stay as a runaway. There may be other options we can discuss with you that might better fit your needs and situation. We are a non-directive agency and totally confidential. That means that we help you come up with a plan that works for you with the resources available in your area. You can contact us 24/7 on our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat through our website.

    Good luck,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am only 15 and I want to live with my friends can I just walk out without my parents knowing and can I get in trouble for living with my friend without parents permission

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    We are glad you have reached out to the National Runaway Safeline, and are sorry to hear that things at home with your Mom have been so difficult. We hope we can be of some help to you today.
    It sounds like things at home between you and your Mom are really hard. You have definitely experienced emotional abuse, and it’s important you know that this is not okay. You deserve to be respected for who you are. Sometimes reaching out to a trusted other family member or friend or their parents can help you get some support in the face of this abuse.

    If you are ever seriously considering suicide, there is help out there. You can always reach out to us at 1800-RUN-AWAY to talk through things, or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline can be an excellent resource for people in the hardest of moments. They can be reached at 1-800-273-8255. For an LGBT-specific suicide intervention resource, you can call The Trevor Project at any time by dialing 1-866-488-7386. You may also find it helpful to reach out to chat resources like the LGBT National Youth Talkline at 1-800-246-7743 or the LGBT National Hotline at 1-888-843-4564. These people know intimately about the LGBT experience and can help you through some of the troubles that come from living in a homophobic home.

    It sounds like mostly you want to run away. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. Actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

    We hope some of this information helps you improve your situation. If you ever want to call us, we would love to talk through your options, including running away. We are always here to listen, here to help.

    Sincerely,
    NRS

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    I’m 16 and I want to move out.
    My parents are to much to handle I’ve tried to off my self a couple times because of my mom. I can’t have my own opinions and someone is always controlling my life. I just got caught with something I wasn’t aloud to have and I’m Probably going yo lose everything I own. My family hates her and thinks she’s on crack for some reason and I got in trouble for being in the same room as her but her and her mom said I can move in with them as soon as I can. I just want to get out of here it’s toxic and I honestly scared of not only losing everything but getting hit. It’s not a normal thing but I’m honestly terrified. I’ve been threatened with a metal rib Patel before and when I was little locked in dark rooms. I’m also made fun of for everything I like I’m not aloud to watch anime there homophobic And I’m bisexual and they kinda force me to wear “preppy” clothes that I’m not comfortable in. I’ve been fat shamed and told I’m ok when I’m really not it’s just 16 of bull******** that’s been building up and I snapped at a good friend for acting like my mom and treating me like ******** and I really regret it. But I need to know how I can get out of here and to my friends house without my parents consent

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us and sharing a bit about the difficult time you are having at home right now. You definitely are in a rough spot, but you do have options. We'd like to help in whatever way we can.

    First, we are glad to hear you aren't self-harming anymore. But just so you have it, here is a great website that talks about self-harm and how you can stay safe and deal with feelings without hurting yourself: www.twloha.com. We encourage you to take a look! Another great site that deals with mental health issues is www.nami.org (1-800-950-6264 or text NAMI to 741741).

    Generally speaking, there are three ways to leave home without being considered a runaway: 1) get your parent's permission to live elsewhere, 2) file a child abuse report that leads to your being placed elsewhere by the state, 3) go through the court system to look into a change of guardianship to your mother or file for emancipation. Note that in most states you have to be 16 to file for emancipation.

    If you chat or call us we can look into legal aid resources that might be able to help. Or we can see if there are other options. You can chat with us via our website (www.1800runaway.org) or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are confidential, don't judge, and are here 24/7. We hope to hear from you soon!

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Hello, I am 14 years old and I wanna live with my best friend or live with my mom. I have lived with my dad and his side of the family for almost 3 years now and last year the summer of 2019 i ran away from home but i got returned back to my dad and I tried to tell the police I don't wanna go back but they didn't listen whatsoever. When I came back from running away I started to self harm and started to go mentally insane, but I don't self harm anymore. Every day I am at my dads I always get grounded for the stupidest ******** ever for instance forget to get some waters out one night and I got grounded for a week. I am going a little insane being here and I don't know what to do, all I wanna do is get away from my dad and his family. I cant stay here anymore or I will go insane to the point I lose my mind. Can you help me please?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. It sounds like your girlfriend is planning on running away and you want to know more about what the consequences could be. While we are not legal experts we can speak generally on this. If your girlfriend leaves home without permission, her parents can report her as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This basically means her parents can ask police to return her home if she is found. In the event the police do attempt to return her home, she does have the option to tell police she does not feel safe at home and why. Unfortunately this does not necessarily mean police would let her stay with a friend. Police are supposed to report to child protective services and allow them to do an investigation before returning a young person back to a dangerous situation.

    If you have any more questions or would like to talk more about your girlfriend's possible options, please do not hesitate to reach out again. We are available 24/7 by phone 1-800-786-2929 and through live chat 1800runaway.org.

    -NRS

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    Guest replied
    Writing this for my girlfriend. Gonna keep it short and sweet. She’s 15. Her step dad is abusive and regularly hits her but she refuses to report it. She wants to runaway and plans to do so very soon, to her friend who has agreed that he’d harbor her. As her parents would never allow this, she doesn’t want to ask them for their permission. Does them being abusive change the situation? She also does not want to move across the country to her other living relatives. I should also add her father constantly degrades her calling her a useless disappointment and is a known drunk. I don’t think I’m signed up for this website or something so if you could reply to***.
    Last edited by ccsmod13; 10-14-2020, 05:38 PM. Reason: Deleted personal information.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello –

    Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes great courage to reach out. We are sorry to hear about your situation. It is never easy to move, especially in high school, away from friends and teachers you care about.

    It sounds like you are very self-aware of your situation and how it is affecting you. As a result, the best decision may be to have an honest sit-down talk with your parents about how you feel and what your options are going forward. They may be unaware the stress and anxiety this move is causing you. If you would like, we can be there as a support system for you. We offer a conference call service that is a moderated conversation between you, a member of the NRS, and your parents. In this conversation you set the guidelines and goals in order to have a productive conversation that can improve your situation.

    To learn more about your options, or if you just need someone to talk to, give us a call 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We hope the information provided helps. Remember we are available 24/7 and can be toll-free reached at the number listed above. We are confidential, anonymous, and non-direct. We can also be reached via live chat anytime.

    Best Wishes

    ~NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm 15 turning 16 in around 6 months, not to long ago I received the news that I'm will be moving schools an house, this really hurts me cause I hate moving, I have been isolating my self from my family ever since I heard the news, not being happy, had tantrum (throwing things across my room) and my mental health as gone really bad, the school I will be moving doesn't have the subject I need the most and my parents are forcing me to choose subjects I hate, I don't know what to do, I really don't want to leave considering I'm going to be in grade 11 and I find no point for me to leave the school I love, teachers and friends have help me so much and I don't want to lose it, my friend has offer me her place but I'm not sure what to do.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. This is something to consider if you want to stay with your boyfriend's parents. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your mom's permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your mom. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Im 14 and i dont want to live with my mom she fights with boyfriend all the time and doesn't have a job so every comes from child support i want to live with my boyfriend's parents they are supported and help me out and they show they care for me but my mom wont give me permission to live with then she doesn't want me to leave till im 18 and i just cant with the stuff over here i cant go to my other parts of my family because my moms brother girlfriend was abuse when i was younger so i dont trust her and i cant live with my dad because hes not in the picture and hes way to far and my grampa is living with us

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on with your friend, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard for her to live in a home with so much tension. It's great to see that you are such a support for your friend and that you're advocating for it, you must care a lot about her. We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if she does opt to leave your home her mom can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and she is located by the authorities she will most likely be returned home.

    You mentioned some things about her mom hitting her in the head and it raises concern for her safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If she is currently at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you or her to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, she has the right to report it. If she feels like this is an option she wants to explore, she may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help her file a report if that’s the route she is considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    If you or your friend like to go over what’s going on in depth, or explore other options that she may have available to her, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. She can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support her in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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    Guest replied
    Hello, this is mostly for my friend. She wants to move to my house and away from her mother but she’s only 15. She has a little brother and a mom, but her dad died a few years ago just like mine. Her mom hasn’t been helping her with her stress and has only made it worse. She never lets my friend hang out hardly, she is always really mean and yells at her 24/7, she’s even pinned her in a corner and repeatedly hit her head as my friend was screaming for her to leave her alone. And yes, I have permission to say all this. Her brother is also really young and constantly annoys her and seems to always enjoy getting her yelled at or grounded. He also has her mother force her to do things for him as well. She is basically the one raising him at this point, she has to bathe him every night even though he is 10, she has to make him food, clean his room, build his legos for him, and all she does is get yelled at for it. Is there actually a way she can move in with me? My moms really kind and she takes good care of us. We also have a ton of room for her so she would be in good hands.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are really sorry that you are going through what sounds like a difficult time at home with your step dad. You nor anyone else deserves to be abused in any way. It is not your fault that these things are happening. Even though CPS did not open a case the last time they came out, should there be any times that you don’t feel safe or abuse takes place another report can be filed. It might be helpful to have proof. For example: pictures of any marks, whelps or bruises. Audio recordings of verbal threats or abusive language could be presented as evidence.

    You are not alone.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 9-1-1 and seek emergency assistance immediately.


    Take care,
    NRS
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