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    I live with my mom and have already called cps before on her because she’s abusive. She’s a good financial parent but when it comes to her anger she takes it out on me. My father lives in Georgia and she wants to make me live with him but I want to stay up here so I can finish Highschool. My dad is nice in his own way but is also Misogynistic sometimes. I already asked my friend’s mom and she’s offered me to live there if I don’t feel safe at my home. I want to legally move in with her so I can finish my life on a positive note and avoid the negativity from my parents.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things in your life right now.
    It sounds like you’re fearing that the stress from the situation is getting harder and harder to handle.
    We are sorry you are going through a tough emotional time.
    Having your family react the way they do must be upsetting and frustrating.
    You do not deserve to be abused by your mother. It’s not your fault that she has done this to you. There are laws to protect children against abuse. We can assist you to make a report or you can choose to do it on your own. One way to report this is by talking with a teacher or counselor at school. With schools being closed counselors should still be available to speak with.

    Sometimes when things are too stressful it might help to talk with someone about it.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this.
    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). You are welcome to discuss your situation and talk about possible options for help. What you did today by reaching out was great. Good job.
    To report child abuse contact Child Help 1-800-422-4453 www.childlhelp.org
    If you are feeling depressed or having suicidal thoughts contact the National Suicide Hotline 1-800-273-8255

    Take care,
    NRS

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    (Please respond ASAP and if you can please delete this later so nobody can find it) I am 13 years old and I’m from California. I live with only my mom because my dad is a gang member/drug addict/ etc. and I’m not allowed to live with him. Anyhow, whenever I am at home I am mentally and sometimes physically abused. I don't want to give out too much info but she has done horrible things to me. One time last year, she hurt me so bad I had to get stitches, but of course she refuses to take responsibility for her actions. Second, she busted up my lip so bad two yrs. ago that when I went to school, they called the police on her. She got in my face and told me "you better tell the truth." think about that, but daily. Obviously she doesn't get the police involved daily, but she does often hurt me or my brother physically for no reason. She once hit my brother with wood and has given him an eye problem. as far as the mental abuse, she is constantly making comments about me, I can't pin my finger on all of them, but every day she says something like, "I hate kids" "why did I have kids" and constantly complains about how imperfect we are. She will compare me to my other siblings all. The. Time I have once pranked my little sister that I was adopted and she went to ask my mom and my mom goes, "she's not but if she wants to be I can figure something out." it's pretty clear that she hates when I am happy. Whenever I’m happy she makes a face and then says something to make me feel bad about myself. She screams at me all the time and psychotically runs at me. When my baby sister starts screaming like my mom, she blames it on me, sometimes my siblings too, but still. She never. Ever can own up to her actions, she's always right. Another thing, she will sit here and call me all kinds of names destroying my mental health and threatens to send me to juvi or military school. One time, I asked her something from upstairs and she screamed at the top of her lungs to come downstairs and ask. Once I did, she called me psycho. She treats me like I’m crazy when I make a mistake. It’s obvious she has some problem. I frequently visit my grandparents, and it's not half as bad as my moms, but it's still pretty bad. They have never, ever physically abused me, but they mentally have a lot. My grandpa will make comments about me "oh she's actually doing work" "oh my goodness you actually care about your grades" or for example, I was playing with my siblings and cousins and we were making like a body tower I guess. I was on my little sister and he goes "I know you like to hurt people but get off of her" LIKE SIS NOBODY WAS TRYNNA HURT NOBODYYYYYY. Then he goes to the kitchen and I hear him talking to my grandma. She goes "you're right, she says she's playing but all I see is her trying to hurt people and enjoying it" LIKE HUHHHHH???? It’s literally slap boxing, and I have never hurt them. ******** you think slap boxing is? PLAY FIGHTING. Nobody gets hurt. They just find every reason in the world to attack me. I feel like ********. Whenever my sister talks disrespectfully to them they just ignore her comments and say nothing. She never gets in trouble but they claim she does. When she gets mad when asked to wash the dishes or something, they ignore her. But for me? Oh sis it's a whole musical. If I sigh or something they get all up on me and they get pissed. Like ok I’m sorry for being disrespectful but really? And whenever I try to help out and clean without asking it's NEVER appreciated. They’ll ask who did it and I’ll be like "me" and they'll go "there's something here" or "part of the job is sweeping" or "you missed that area" LIKE SAY THANK YOU OMG. Nothing is ever good enough for them. I’m also ALWAYS judged there. Everybody is so ********ing judgmental they think they’re perfect. My sister sneaks in and tiktok and stuff right. I gave her the screen time code because my mom took all of that off because of our grades so we're being sneaky about knowing the code. Well one time my friend came over and I was on snapchat in the car. My sister, not knowing how, said how I have it. And she kept asking. My grandpa repeats her. When he does that that means if I had it he was gonna tell my mom. I had to lie and say it was another app. but now my sister knows it and my grandpa sees her on it all the damn time. she even snitched on me and showed a video that I took and posted on Instagram (before I couldn’t have ig so my mom saw it already) and apparently I was acting "ghetto." she goes on all these other apps all the time and my grandpa knows damn well, he can’t pretend he doesn’t. And what does he do? He doesn’t care. If that was me I would’ve been grounded for a whole month, my mom changed my code for screen time already so idk it anymore but really? Favoritism at its highest. They claim it's not favoritism though. pretty much at my mom's all I feel is hatred and I feel like I’m a ********ing mistake and I know for a fact she hates me. At my grandparents I feel judged and I feel like the least liked. I mean I feel SOME love when I’m there, at my mom’s I feel zero. I have taken (overdosed) pills countless times and the worst that's happened is I’ve gotten sick. I hate when I get to that point but I can’t take this anymore. I literally hate myself because of my family. School has nothing to do w it. Sure people at school suck and they make me feel like ******** too but it doesn’t even get to me as much as this toxic ass family. I wanna move with my best friend but her parents are divorced and she switches. I don’t know what to do. Bro I’m not even allowed to contact anybody who’s related to my dad I ********ing hate that. My other grandma is literally dying and I can’t even call her. If I ask my mom starts screaming at me asking me "do you wanna end up showing your boobs on the internet??" I can’t run to them, they're ghetto gang.
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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are not legal experts, but we can speak generally on this. The easiest way to leave home as a minor and live somewhere else is with your parent or legal guardian's permission. From what you mentioned it sounds like your parents are willing to give you their permission and support with living with your friend for a year. It is not necessary, but it may be helpful for your parents to sign a document giving your friend's parents temporary guardianship rights. This would allow your friend's parents to enroll you in school, consent to emergency medical care, and act as your guardians while you are staying with them.

    Now, if your parents do not approve of you staying with your friend and you leave without their permission, they can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal so you would not be arrested. But it is a status offense meaning your parents can involve police to help return you home.

    We hope this information helps. If you have more questions or want to talk more about your situation, please do not hesitate to reach out to our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org.

    We wish you the best,
    NRS

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    Im 14 years old and I live in California. I want to go visit and live with my friend for a year in Georgia. Both of my parents allow it and my friends parents are ok with that too. I just want to live with him for a year and come back. What do I have to do? DO I have to sign papars or something like that?

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. From reading your post it sounds like have been facing a lot of abuse in your household by your grandmother. No one deserves to be treated that way at all. You are very strong to go through something like that and still keep pushing and fighting for a better life for yourself. If it gets to the point where you feel like you are going to be physically harmed, to the point where it might land you in the hospital you have the right to report any abuse to child protective service in your state. You have rights too.

    We do want to say that it must be very hard for you to have to go through all of this. It sounds like a very stressful situation for you at home and you find it hard to cope with certain things. You shouldn't be afraid to tell other people what you are thinking about doing especially if you are thinking about hurting yourself. You are certainly not alone in this and there are many many people that are here to help you. A good resource might be to call the ‘National Suicide Hotline’ for someone to talk about what thoughts you might be thinking at the time. Their number is 800.273.TALK. They also have an online chat service that might be of help to you especially if you don’t feel like calling in (https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/). There is also “NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness)” that you can reach out to as well (https://www.nami.org/help).

    Since moving out under the age of 18 years old is such a common question that we get and can be easily found, we aren’t going to get into what would happen if you left without permission from your legal guardian. If you have some specific questions that you want to ask us or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now you can reach out to us via our 24-hour hotline and online chat.

    It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Please rest assured that we are completing confidential. So anything that you share with us will stay between us.

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    I'm 15 and I live in TX in a toxic household

    I live with my grandparents and my grandmother keeps talking about me behind my back to my sister, 17, about how much they want me to leave and how much better their lives would be if I wasn't around. Last week I texted my friend to come pick me up so I can stay with her for a few days because my grandma said she wants me to leave. And as soon as they said they're on their way I told my grandmother. Her response was "No! You are NOT leaving! I haven't even met them!" and I told her that they will talk to her as soon as they come over. When they came over they were yelled at be my grandma and she yelled at them to "get the fu** off my property." My friends dad said that he wasn't trying to fight with her. But my grandma called the police and they left.

    If they yell at me to leave and I try to leave, why wont they let me go?

    My grandmother blames everything on my mental illness like I'm a psycho. All I have is depression and anxiety and a little bit of anger issues.

    Also, when my sister talks back in a bit**y way then she isn't punished. But when I say something in a nice and calm way I get my phone taken away and get yelled at like I purposely stomped on someone's foot. Why am I treated so differently? I wanna be normal... I wanna be okay... But I can't when I'm here...

    They degrade me and make me feel so worthless and useless... My brother tells me to kill myself sometimes... I don't want to though... I'm taking my pills again... but I dont think they're enough. My grandma took all my electronics away so I can't use my useful coping mechanisms. And I told her that I need my phone to feel better but she thinks all I do is stay on it and text my friends and do stupid teenager things and she thinks I'll "be so much happier without it" I'm better with it. Hell I stay in my room so they dont have to deal with me. I only come out of my room to eat and use the restroom but once I come out I get yelled at... I'm tired of it. I just wanna be happy... and the police said they can't do anything about it... they said "you have to deal with it until you're 18" And I've told them that yelling and screaming messes with my anxiety and it's a trigger but they don't care... they do it anyways.

    I want to move out and live with my friend. I turn 16 in August.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. No one deserves to be mentally abused for any reason. Leaving home is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

    Coming out can be a scary process since it requires a certain degree of vulnerability and holds a lot of uncertainty. Your bravery and resilience throughout this process is so admirable. It's disappointing that your parents are not supportive like they should be. You are not alone in this and the LGBT National Youth Talkline is a great resource that offers support for young people in similar situations to your own. The hotline is run by those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can reach them by calling 1-800-246-7743 or you can check out their website at gltbhotline.org. You can also check out the Trevor Project, an organization dedicated to helping LGBT teens, by calling 866-488-7386 or by going to thetrevorproject.org.

    It seems like your parents aren’t fully understanding you when you are trying to relay your thoughts and feelings about how hurtful they have been. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your parents so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Im 15 and i live with my mom and her parents. They r homophobic and im gay. In ways im menatly abused im allways geting yelled at or called names like being worthless. Its to much for me to handle and it affects my school work. I spend all my time trying to avoid going home and its exsausting.i have a freind and her family has told me if my situation gets bad enough they would let me love with them. Ik i have to get my mom to sign some paperwork but ik she wont. But i do need to get away from my family i cant live on like this for 4 more years.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there,
    Thanks for reaching out to NRS. It seems like you have been going through a lot at home and feel as if there’s nothing you can do right. It’s understandable to feel sick of that kind of place when its causing you to feel depressed at home.
    Its good that you have an outlet in going on walks, but it seems like having someone to talk to about these feelings may help as well. You could talk to a school counselor, or therapist about what is happening and they may have some ideas for how to cope. If you want help reaching out to on we can try and help with that if you call our hotline.
    Another options to look into is more ways to cope with what is happening around you. This may be a new hobby, a book, or volunteering. Pretty much things that give you an excuse to be outside the house.
    Hopefully this information is helpful, if you want more help or just need to talk you can always reach out to our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us online.

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    Hi

    Im 15 and curently liiving with my parents. evrytime when i do good things like wash th dishes and take out the washing my mom always yells at me and im sick of it. Also on the other hand my dad. everytime my dad gets drunk he blames everything on me and i am sick of it. i am dealing with depression and the only way is to relive myself from depression is going for walks. but i havent been doing that cause my mom wants me to do everything

    please help

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    It took a lot of bravery to write a post on our bulletin to ask for help. It sounds like your dad is not making home a safe place. Abuse of any kind is not okay and it should not be happening. You deserve to live somewhere you feel safe and supported.

    Two options to live away from your legal guardian are either getting your dad's permission to live with your friend's family or getting child protective services involved. Sometimes having an adult to advocate on your behalf can make communicating your needs more effective and easier. Perhaps your friend's parents can help you have a conversation with your dad about you living with them at least temporarily.

    If you would like to learn more about making a report to child protective services, you can reach out to an advocate at an organization called Child Help. They have more expert knowledge on the reporting process and you can contact them at 1-800-422-4453 or go to childhelp.org. If you are removed from your dad's care it does not necessarily guarantee you would be placed with your friend's family, but a social worker can help to ensure you have a safe place to live.

    We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

    We wish you the best,
    NRS

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    I am 15 and I want to move out. My father is a very bad alcoholic and he verbally, and physically abuses me. None of my family members are willing to take me in, but my best friend's family would. What do I have to do to move in with them legally?

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It is great that you reached out on behalf of your friend, it shows that you are a supportive friend.
    We are sorry to hear that your friend is going through such a difficult time right now, and they are not alone. They do have the right to make an abuse report, that wouldn’t necessarily mean that their mom would go to jail. Usually a case manager would be assigned to the case and they would help decide what services need to be provided. They can make an abuse report by calling Child Help at: 1800-422-4453. They can also call us and we can help them with making an abuse report. If your friend is ever in immediate danger please call 911.
    Also dealing with suicidal thoughts and depression alone can be super difficult, and your friend does not have to deal with that alone. If they are ever feeling suicidal or just need someone to talk to they can call The National Suicide Prevention Hotline at: 1800-273-8255. There is always someone willing to provide support and listen. Another good resource may be NAMI (national alliance for mental illnesses). They can be reached at 1800-950-NAMI.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    I have a close friend who is 13. She lives with her mom, who abuses her daily, emotionally and physically. They struggle financially and she has no money to pay for college. Her dad lives on the other side of the world. (Her parents divorced). She has tried to commit suicide before, and I think she has depression. She has trouble sleeping too. I’m really worried about her. I don’t know what to do. I’ve told her to get help and tell adults about her mom but she won’t because she doesn’t want to get her mom in trouble. She also thinks the authorities won’t help. What would happen to her if her mom gets sent to jail? Could she come live with my family? I know she would be much happier away from her mom. Any advice is deeply appreciated

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