I am 15 and i want to go live with my friends family

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Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are here 24/7 to listen and to support.

We're sorry to hear about how hard things have been since the move. You deserve to feel safe and happy in your home and we want you to know that that is not being selfish. Do you have anybody in your life, like a trusted adult or other family member like your grandma, that can advocate for you during this difficult time? It can be difficult to have a conversation with your parents if they seem unwilling to engage with you. Sometimes it can be helpful to have another adult around when you’re trying to talk to them so that they can stand up for you and try to keep the conversation calm and fair. That person could be a guidance counselor, other family member, or any other adult you trust. Here at NRS, we also offer a conference call service and can help you have that conversation with your parents. Our number is 1-800-786-2929.

We are also always here if you just need someone to listen and walk through other options you think you might have. Don't hesitate to give us a call.

NRS

[Guest]

I am a 16 year old (17 in a couple months) girl. For as long as I can remember my family and I have fought and argued over the slightest of things. I have severe depression and bi-polar and a few other things as well, so that doesn't help the situation. I admit, when I was younger I did do some stupid things. Though I did those things because it was the only way I knew how to get my parents attention. I have worked really hard on becoming the person I want to be. But at home, it is difficult to feel good about my accomplishments and myself, because my gardians and brothers are constently putting me down. They say things like, "You never think." "You aren't going to have anyone to help you when youre older because no one is going to want to be around you." And those are the better things. Recently though, my mother has be completely ignoring me, and my father only talks to me when absolutely necessary. And I am only aloud to be in my bedroom unless Im eating, doing chores, or doing homework. I told one of my friends about what has been going on, and she asked her parents if I could stay there for a while, while also trying to work things out at home. They said it was okay, but how do I talk to my gardians about it without causing an arguement. I want them to see my point of view, but I dont want to cause even more tensen by making it known to them that I feel like I need out of their house.

[ccsmod16]

Hi there, thanks for reaching out. It sounds like home is incredibly stressful and that you are being really limited in what you are allowed to do. You do not deserve to be spoken to in the way your brother and guardians speak to you. We are here to help!

From what you mentioned, you may be experiencing types of neglect and abuse. If you feel that you are in an abusive environment, we can help. We can conference call and make an abuse report with you if you would like support, We understand that can be really scary. Also, Child Help is another agency that may be able to help get custody transferred to a safer adult or give you some answers regarding abuse reporting: 1-800-422-4453, childhelp.org.

Depression and mental health issues can be really tough to deal with. You may consider seeing a doctor or therapist if you don't already. SAMHSA (1-877-726-4727, samhsa.gov) is an organization that can help with that too. Their website provides local resources based on location and we also have a database of counseling resources if you want to call in here: 1-800-786-2929.

We also provide conference calling with parents so if you would like to pursue that and have a third party on the line to ease tension and be an advocate and neutral party can sometimes be really helpful. Call us anytime to conference call, for more resources and to brainstorm more options. 1-800-786-2929

We are here 24/7. you are so strong for reaching out! We are here to support you!

[Guest]

I’m 14. Is there a legal way to move to another family member. I have a very negative, miserable family. I am yelled at morning and night and quite frankly it is affecting my personality and grades. I can’t stand my family emotionally anymore and believe I could thrive in a better, calmer environment. However my mom keeps calling me dumba** and b**ch and won’t let me leave. So I want to know if there is any legal terms in which I can get the hell out.

[ccsmod5]

Hi,
Thanks for reaching out. It’s not okay that your mom has said those terrible things to you and it’s understandable that you would want to be in a calmer and less stressful environment. Though we are not legal experts, we can say that you generally need to be 18 to leave home without parental consent. If you would like to speak more specifically about your situation, please feel free to reach out to us by phone or chat. Our number is 1-800-786-2929. Stay safe!

[Guest]

I'm 15 and I want to move in with my friend. I am having some trouble with my parents. My dad is verbally abusive and is never home because I think he has a girlfriend and on top of that he does drugs. Also my mom has depression and thinks that if something in the house is wrong it is my fault. I literally can't stand it anymore but i don't know if my mom would give me consent.

[ccsmod2]

Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand that it takes courage to seek help. We are very sorry to hear that you are having trouble with your parents. You mentioned that your dad is verbally abusive. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made. You could also trying looking into emancipation laws for your state. Please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.



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[Guest]

I'm 16 and I live with my dad he just got fired from his job and were currently staying at his girlfriends but things aren't going very well and were going to have to move out I can go stay with my mom in Florida but she is a constant drug user and I can't count on her or I go with my dad to Sidney but I am sick and tired of moving from place to place leaving my friends so I have this one friend and he lives with his mom and brother and he said I can stay with him if I have too they don't have a lot of money but enough to get by and the can feed me and get me a place to stay I just want to know what I should do

[ccsmod2]

Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It is very brave of you to seek help. We are sorry to hear that your dad lost his job. It sounds like you are going through a lot right now and feel overwhelmed. It is understandable that you do not want to keep moving to different places and having to start over. You mentioned that your friend said that you could live with him. You could try asking your dad if he would allow you to stay with your friend or another family member. Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a great resource to explore your options and get information on how to transfer custody. If you have any other questions or just want to talk, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.


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[Guest]

I am 13 and have been wanted to leave this house since i was 11. Recently I got grounded for 30 days for being in a bad mood. So if anyone replies saying call this number, i dont have a phone. Anyway, my moms new husband is making me feel very uncomfortable. Ever since he came into my life he has made sexual jokes, stared at me when im not wearing something 5x my size, and ive always had a vibe he was a bad man, however my mom thinks hes mr good guys and im constantly being neglected and yelled at for stupid things. I looked at several articles for emancipation, but i know my mom would NEVER give me permission to leave. So how can i legally leave without my mothers permission?. My friend and her grandmother offered me a place in their apartment, my biological father said he never wants to see me, and my grandma might let me stay with her( I havent asked yet). So i have two options, possibly even one. Ive tried running away before but the cops put me right back into hell. I am no longer suicidal, so i dont need a phone number mention for that either, i just need to get out of here. My mental health will be messed up for good. im not even going to get into the details of my situation i just want help.

[ccsmod3]

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to National runaway safeline and be open about what is going on at home. I am sorry that you are going through so much at home and are feeling uncomfortable around your mom’s husband. Thanks for being upfront about what form of communication you have and will be conscious about what resources to give to you that you can access without a telephone. In this case, running away is defined as leaving without permission from a guardian/parent. So without permission it’s not legal to leave, but as you know, you can become emancipated, or you could file the neglect to childhelp.org (national child abuse hotline) and see if this can help you with getting support in potentially living in another place where you feel safer and more comfortable. If you have access to internet, you could open up a chat with us to talk further about your situation.

It can be difficult to know how to talk to your parents and express your feelings about how you are feeling. We would encourage you to reach out to a trusted adult, teacher, relative, and friend that you can talk to and potentially help you mediate a conversation with your parents about your current situation. At NRS, we do offer a service call conference calling, where you can call into our hotline and then we would reach out to your guardian and help advocate for you, help you express the needs of to your parents. Also, one way that you can find support is talking to your counselor at school directly as they are mandated reporters and may have more local resources.

We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to chat into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this!
-NRS

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[Guest]

I’m a 15 year old girl who has been diagnosed with ADHD, clinical depression, and an anxiety disorder. My mother has depression, anxiety, and a serious heart condition which makes it difficult for her to take care of me properly. She is technically my grandma, so there is a big age gap between us so that is also a big struggle. She’s been married to this man since I was 8 and he’s been emotionally abusive and has even gone so far as to throw pills at my mom and tell her to kill herself. About three month ago my mom told me they were getting a divorce and we have been looking at apartments ever since. Recently, they have been going to breakfast together and I just found them sleeping in the same bed again. I have found it very difficult to cope with as I have been preparing for the move and finally getting close to accepting it when they start getting close. Again, he’s been a very bad man to me and my mother and I do not want him around either of us. I get into fights with my mom a lot about the divorce situation as well as my school attendance. With my mental health issues, I find it extremely difficult to even get up in the morning even without school waiting for me. Although she has good intentions, my mom is also verbally abusive at times by saying things about my mental health that are degrading. Yes, she has some of the same mental illnesses I have, but in my opinion, she is convinced that she’s the only one allowed to feel the emotions that come with them. I have my bestfriend, who I have known for 4 years now, and her family has means to care for me, and is fully willing to take on the responsibility. I feel like if I went to live with her, I would go to school more and my over all mental state would improve tremendously. It would also give my mom time to work out the divorce and her own issues without having to take care of me at the same time. When I try to bring it up to her, she says they are strangers and I shouldn’t be wanting to live with other people that arnt family. I’ve been dealing with the emotional abuse from both my mom and her husband for many years and it has driven me into a deep spiral of sadness and although I know things will get better eventually, I want to try to make them better now. Even if I did go to live with my friend, I would still miss my mom, even though she has hurt me. I do love her, but right now I feel the best thing for the both of us is for me to not live with her. I don’t want to hurt my mom by leaving, even though she has hurt me. I feel there really is no place for me to go that my mom would let me. I don’t even know if there is a way for me to leave without her permission. Thank you for reading about my story and I hope it lets others know they are not alone.

[ccsmod1]

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are here 24/7 to listen and to support.

We're sorry to hear about all that has been going on and want you to know that you deserve to feel safe and happy in your home. You sound very compassionate and care a lot about your mom, but also want to do what is best for you. We are not legal experts, but because you are a minor you would not be able to live somewhere else without your mom's permission. If you left home and your mom filed a runaway report you could be returned home. There could also be legal consequences for your friend's parents or whomever you stay with for what is called harboring a runaway. Other options you'd have would be looking into emancipation or trying to have that conversation with your mom about possibly moving out or getting you more mental health resources.

It can be difficult to have a conversation with your mom if you feel that she can be emotionally abusive at times. Sometimes it can be helpful to have another adult around when you’re trying to talk to your mom so that they can stand up for you and try to keep the conversation calm and fair. That person could be a guidance counselor, other family member, or any other adult you trust. Here at NRS, we also offer a conference call service and can help you have that conversation with your mom. Our number is 1-800-786-2929. You can call us 24/7. We could also look up general information about emancipation in your state. Don't hesitate to give us a call if you want that information or would like legal aid numbers.

Stay safe, and let us know how we can best help,

NRS

[Guest]

My friend's parents are emotionally and verbally abusive. They told her that "if you're going to commit suicide do it right" and that if she were to run away, to be "woman enough to accept the consequences". I want her to stay with me and get help, but she's worried about the legal repercussions, we are both 16.

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Hello there, thanks for reaching out today. It sounds like your friend is enduring so much at home, and it is so not okay that her parents told her such hurtful things. She she be raised up when she is feeling suicidal, not put down like that. It seems like you are an awesome support for her and we are glad she has you.

To answer your question, if she leaves home without permission her guardians can file a runaway report for her with local police. If she is found she typically would be returned home. Running away is usually considered a status offense due to her age rather than being illegal. However, if your parent or guardian knew that she was a runaway and let her stay in your house they could be at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway by her parent.

She also has the right to report that emotional abuse to Child Protective Services (CPS) to see if they would investigate and take the case. Emotional abuse is usually hard to prove that it is dangerous enough to remove her from the home, but it is not okay that they are telling her to "f you're going to commit suicide do it right." To learn more about her reporting options you or her might reach out to the expert child advocates at Child Help (1-800-422-4453). She can also call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY if she would like assistance with calling out to her local abuse hotline. She is not alone, and she deserves better.

Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you have more questions, or give our information to your friend. We are here to listen, here to help.

Best,

NRS

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[Guest]

So I’m not quite sure what to do, I lost my stepdad in august 2017 and ever since I have been butting heads with my siblings and mother. Arguments with my mother get so nasty that they either become physical or I just have to leave. My mum isn’t the type to back down and neither am I, my mum also isn’t the one to apologise whereas I acknowledge when I’m wrong and I do apologise for it. My sisters and younger brother usually take mums side and I understand that I probably shouldn’t argue with her but lately I’ve felt so alone and so attacked. I live in the hills and I’m constantly having to ride down there just to get away from everyone. I have a friend and his family who have been there for me since my stepdad passed away and since primary school (I’m now in year 9), I really have been considering moving in with them that way I can go to school (I really enjoy school and being surrounded with lots of people) and focus on myself and possibly get councilling (which I have been trying to avoid) to help with the previous loss. My mum says really insensitive stuff and I’m always hurting from those nasty things being said afterwards which usually affects me at school. I don’t want to live with this other family forever, really just until I get myself on the right track and things start to cool down with my mum. I can’t even have a general conversation with my mum due to personal secrets/reasons and I’d rather just escape for a bit and have a break. I’m not quite sure how to ask my mum if she can sign paperwork to allow me to move in with them let alone ask her if I can move in with them. I am the type of person who strives off of a congratulations or good job every once in a while and lately I’ve just had my mum make me out to be the worst 15 year old. I’m beginning to lack in certain areas academically and that’s usually from being in town a lot trying to get away from my mum. Please help because this beef between my mum and I just isn’t working out for me right now.

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Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We're sorry to hear about your loss and all that you have been facing at home. It sounds like you’re in a frustrating situation and are unsure of where to turn. It can be difficult to have a conversation with your mom if she’s unwilling to engage with you and only yells or gets angry. Sometimes it can be helpful to have another adult around when you’re trying to talk to your mom so that they can stand up for you and try to keep the conversation calm and fair. That person could be a guidance counselor, other family member, or any other adult you trust. Here at NRS, we also offer a conference call service and can help you have that conversation with your mom. Our number is 1-800-786-2929. You can call us 24/7. A liner could help you walk through how to ask your mom's permission to stay somewhere else or to help you ask for counseling resources or for ideas on how to make your home life better. Don't hesitatae to reach out to us if you are interested in that.

You also mentioned experiencing emotional and possibly physical abuse which may be reportable against your mom. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at (1-800-422-4453) or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.

NRS

[Guest]

Hi I m 15 and I live in Kentucky

my parent they want to move to Indiana
but I don’t want to,so can I live with my cousin or friends?

[ccsmod2]

Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand that it takes courage to seek help. We are sorry to hear that your parents want to move to Indiana. You would need parental consent if you would like to live with your cousin or a friend. You could try asking your parents if they would allow you to stay. If you were to stay with your cousin or one of your friends without permission, they could get charged with harboring a runaway. If you have any questions or just want to talk, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

[Guest]

hi im 15 and unlike the other people on this site i am not depressed, but my mother is a **********. she constantly says negative things to me. For example, one night i confided in her and told her that i have feelings for my sister. instead of helping me through them she told me i should slit my own throat so i would die. HOW RUDE. i want to move out and live with my grandparents who love me the way that i am. the only problem is that my mom is a crazy ********** and she would probably kill me if i tried to leave. I have two sisters who love me and a father who i love sometimes. but my mothers negative comments hurt my heart and make me want to cry. SOS i dont know what to do should i move out and take my cat with me or should i stay and just put up with my mom, who btw cheats on my dad with my neighbors.

[ccsmod1]

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We're sorry to hear about the things that your mother has said to you and want you to know that you deserve to feel safe and listened to. We are not legal experts, but we can tell you that because you are a minor, if you leave home and your mom files a runaway report, you could be returned home. There could also be legal consequences for whomever you stay with for what is called harboring a runaway. If you want a liner to help you walk through other options like us mediating a conference call between you and your mom, thinking through possible adults that you could turn to or could advocate for you, or things like emancipation and legal aid numbers, don't hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Do you feel like your grandparents could help advocate for things to be better at home or for you to live with them? If not, you could also reach out to Child Help for help. They are a child abuse hotline and they also can help answer questions about your rights as a minor or help you report the emotional abuse. They can be reached at 1-800-422-4453.

Stay safe,

NRS

[Guest]

I'm 17 and I want to move out of my mother's house. We used to be very close but all of a sudden she began to slowly despise me. Like she grounds me for everything, calls me stupid, favors my brother, and isn't supportive. I'm not even comfortable with being home anymore. She called me a disappointment a few weeks ago and it's been harder to even want to stay alive with her around. I don't want to sound dramatic but I can't stay with all of that negativity. I just want to focus on school and passing but her names and insults aren't helping. It's making me want to drop out of school. I want to have a talk with her and tell her that I can't stay there anymore but I'm scared she's going to be really mad at me.

[ccsmod10]

Hello,

Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you are having a really hard time at home. You stated your mother has been calling you names and you do not deserve to be treated that way. It is not ok. You have shown a lot of courage to reach out to explore options. Let’s look at what some of them are.

If you would like to report your mother for emotional/verbal abuse or get more understanding of the process, Child Help National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org is helpful in providing this information. If you decide you want to report your mother, you can call there or always call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

It sometimes happens that families need some time away from each other and there is another trusted family member like grandma or an aunt that you might feel safe staying with for a while. We can support you in talking to your mother and suggesting this as an option. If you decide to leave home, we can help find shelters in your area. Call or chat us 24/7.

It also sounds like you are struggling emotionally with obtaining your goals. If you would like to find low or no fee counseling services in your area to help negate the negative messages being sent by your mother, call or chat us and we can find ones in your area.

Again, we’re really glad that you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and you are trying to figure out your options which is really good to see. Contact us anytime. We’re here to listen, here to help.