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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you have been going through a difficult time. Having your parents think that you are just going through a phase can be hard. If you need to talk about this with someone who understands The LGBT National Hotline can be useful: 1888-843-4564.
    Cutting yourself can be dangerous so we hope that you have a safety plan. If you would like mental health resources you can contact NAMI (national alliance on mental illnesses). They can be reached at 1800-950-NAMI,
    It may be possible to become emancipated, but it usually takes a few months or more and can be costly. To find out more about emancipation you can call your local court house or call us for some legal aid resources.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

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    my parents make me feel unwanted. they dont believe in bisexual they think it was a faze. They dont like that i have a bf. They think i cut just because, but i do because life sucks living with them. I was talking to my aunt about getting emancipated and living with her, but could that work?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there,
    Thanks for reaching out to us, it seems like you are facing a lot at home that you shouldn’t have to go through. Parents should be supportive, not controlling or abusive. It seems like with abuse going on it may be worth considering filing an abuse report. If you want to know more you can go to childhelp.org for more information or call our hotline.
    We aren’t legal experts so it may be possible for your stepsister’s mom to adopt you, but it may require government intervention beforehand. It may also be worth talking to someone at school, or another family member you trust that could help you sort out these feelings or support you. You should be supported by those around you and hopefully this information helps that happen. If you have more questions or just need to talk we are also available 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY or through online chat.

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    Hi I'm 15 and I want to live with my step sister's family.

    my mom is emotional,controlling, and isolates me.My dad's is unreliable and emotion dependent. My Stepdad is Abusive ***hole.I can't take.
    I live in NY so I can just have my stepsister mom adopt me
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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have been going through a lot with your mom for an extended period of time and it’s great you are reaching out for support. You deserve to live in a home where you feel safe, and we are here to help.

    We aren't legal experts at NRS, but since you are a minor (under 1, a legal guardian would need to authorize an alternative living situation for you. Therefore, if you decided to run away and your mom files a report with the police, you would most likely be brought back home again. Running away isn't illegal, but something that can't be done as a minor (like smoking or gambling etc.). If you are ever feeling threatened, you can always call 9-1-1 in an emergency situation. Also, there are LGBT resources and supports available to you at the LGBT National Hotline which can be reached by calling 1-888-843-4564, or glbthotline.org

    It may be most helpful for you to consider calling us at 1-800-786-2929 and speak with us so we can obtain more information from you about what’s going on. We are available 24 hours a day/7 days a week. We can help find supportive resources for you as well as brainstorm a plan that will keep you safe.

    Best of luck,
    National Runaway Safeline

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    Hello, I'm 15 and part of the LGBT+ community (But the Transgender part is more important to this). I also have a four year old half-sister (from my moms abusive relationship, which she's no longer in, he still gets visitations). I live in NC.
    My dad passed away eight years ago, and this year I finally realized my mom has mental illness. She has harmed me physically, pushed me around a lot as well as laying her hands on me (but not as often as just shoving me). Recently she gave me a concussion after throwing me to the ground. She is also mentally abusive, calling me all names, using my father against me, embarrassing me in front of my friends or adults by telling them how she doesn't support LGBT+ (talking about how she thinks its disgusting and against nature), she consistently tells I'm selfish, that people only like me because they don't live with me, and won't take blame for anything going wrong. I'm the scapegoat, and she'll blame anything she did on me. I have recordings of her yelling at me, and I took pictures of how shes destroyed things out of anger. She knew I was transgender two years ago but now she knows I'm not going to stop. She's taking me out of my safe school and putting me into a school that she knows I'll be in danger in, (telling me she doesn't care if I "get beat up everyday by the flag pole" - a direct quote). I won't need to rely on her as much by going to the dangerous school but I am in serious danger if I don't fake it like I'm straight and cisgender. We have only one family friend (She sticks around for my sister and I) and even she knows my mom is mentally and physically abusing me, and neglected my sister when she was younger (I had to take care of her). I want to live with my friend and she says its a possibility, I haven't sat down with her parents yet, but she says they could set it up. What would you suggest I do? If I were to run away she would track me down, I cannot reason with her, I don't want to leave my sister. I don't have a phone number or mobile data to call. My school, and the hospital I went to, called CPS but they still haven't check on our house.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello Emma,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    It seems there is a lot that your friend is faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way to help them.
    It’s great that your friend has your support and concern, especially since this time is probably quite difficult for them.
    We are not legal experts and only can provide some general legal information when it comes to someone running away or someone assisting/aiding a person running away.
    Someone under 18 that leaves home, the parent/guardian may file them as a runaway and if found they may be returned home. Also, those that a reported runaway stays with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. Anyone found to be assisting or aiding someone to run away may also find themselves at risk legally.

    Being abused is not the fault of your friend. They don’t deserve to have this happen to them.
    There are laws to protect minors against abuse. If Sara would like to file an abuse report she may do so by contacting Child Help USA at: 1-800-422-4453.
    This is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone trustworthy for consideration of transference of custody.

    You did a great service to Sara by reaching out. She is welcome to contact NRS if she would like to talk about her situation. We are here to listen and here to help.
    Contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org

    Take care,
    NRS

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    I'm 11 and my name is Emma. I don't want to run away, this is for my friend Sara. Yesterday she was on the bridge or crying and was taking about how things are bad at home, I understand because her parents have given her threat's in the past and she's like a slave. They used to say " I can't wait till you're 18, so I can slap that pathetic smile of your face " and " I'm gonna rip your head off your shoulders". I worry for her because she talks about how great my parents are and how she wants to run away, die her hair, dress like a goth chick (like me) and move in with me. I live in New York and I want to know the price of harboring my bff from her parents. Please help my friend
    Emma

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us. We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now.You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your legal guardians permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your aunt. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Please get back to me . I am 14 years old ( almost 15 ) and my father passed away 3 years ago . He signed the will to my aunt . I hate living with her and I feel like killing myself all the time and I hate feeling like that . I don’t want it to get to that point but I can’t take it anymore . I’m always getting in trouble and screamed at and before my dad passed he had this girlfriend for 4 years , I never had a mother figure in my life so I consider her my mom . Her and her husband said I could live with them so I could finish out school at a school I actually wanted to go too because I hate where I live . I have always been closer to the one I consider my mom than my aunt . I really wanna live with her but I don’t know if it’s aloud since she technically isn’t blood . My life would be so much easier . I was just at her house this weekend and just came back today . I had a great weekend and then when I got home my aunt was screaming at me and it got me so worked up to where I was gonna run away . Please help .

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    We are sorry that things are not going well with your mom and dad. It must be pretty hard for you. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed emotionally by things at home right now.
    You don’t deserve to be mistreated or put in the position to be care giver to your younger brother. It sounds like talking with them is something you are afraid to do. That’s too bad.
    Sometimes when communication breaks down with those you are close with it makes it difficult to know just where to turn. You did well reaching out today. We would like you to know NRS is here to listen and here to help. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You spoke of a counselor at school. Perhaps you might consider asking if they would help mediate a conversation between you and your parent’s. Talking at the school may be a place to provide you with a safe space to talk about your feelings. NRS also offers mediation through conference calling.

    Just something to consider.
    Reaching out to NRS was a very brave thing to do. Good for you.
    We are here to listen and here to help. If you would like to speak more about your situation, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runway.org

    Take care,
    NRS

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    I am 12 years old, and my life has been stressful on me. My parents constantly yell at me, and say hurtful things about me. School itself is very stressful, because my grades been failing, cause of home. I do chores on a regular basis, when I come home from school, I don't wanna do anything. Like last night my mom said calmly "You might not seem anybody is there for you, but one thing that’s there for you is laundry" and my dad says "If you don't finish laundry in time you’re gonna get paddled". I talked to a guidance counselor today at school about it, but she didn't tell me anything, that would help. I am the only one in the house that does chores, and sometimes I have to cook food for me and my 5-year-old brother. I understand that my parents might be stressful at work, too. But, I can't have them put it on me cause my life is already stressful, itself. I want to stay down my friend’s house, for at least a week, to think things through. We go to the same school, and I feel it will help me with everything happening. I'm always scared to talk to my parents cause they yell at me telling me I'm wrong. Half of the time, I feel like a servant, just doing everything. I don't wanna be their "little servant" anymore. At this point, if they're not showing me respect then I'm not showing them respect. I need suggestions on how to talk to them about staying with my friend. I'm just so scared to.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 02-12-2020, 12:44 AM.

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    Originally posted by ccsmod9 View Post
    Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS! We understand you feel alone and not heard. Know that we want to help. We are sorry that you are being treated that way and are told to do things you do not want to do. If you wish to talk about things we would love to talk and figure out options for you to get away from as home seems like it is putting you in danger.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS
    hi im 15 and i currently live with my grandmother because neither of my parents are in the picture i want to leave my grandmothers house and move with a close friend of mine . i have alot of issues with my grandmother what should i do ?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds as if you have been dealing with something very difficult, and it is good that you are reaching out.

    We are not legal experts at NRS, but we can try to answer some of your questions. You mentioned moving out of your aunt’s house without your mother’s permission. The legal age of majority in Alabama is 19. This means that if you are under that age and leave without a legal guardian’s consent, a runaway report could be filed. Similar to staying out past curfew, this would be a status offence. If you runaway, the police could pick you up and take you back to your original residence. If you were to get your legal guardian’s consent, you could stay at a different location. Similar to how you are currently staying with your aunt.

    It is great that you have a self-care system in place that involves meditation and walking. It is always good to prioritize your mental well-being. You also mentioned that you have been talking with a friend about what has been going on and how you are feeling. It is great that you have someone in your life that you can share things like that with. If you feel as if the burden might be too much on you, you can always reach out to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (1-800-950-NAMI).

    If you have any other questions, or if you would just like to talk, you can reach out to our 24/7 hotline (1-800-786-2929). Thank you again for reaching out.

    -NRS

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    Hi,
    I'm 15 and I live in Riverdale, Georgia.
    I'm currently in Phenix City , Alabama my mom sent me her to get a break from her and my brother because i dont feel like i get treated equal to him to her everythin i do is wrong and i get punished and i get blamed for everythin and credit for little they never see the good things i do they only see the stupid things they claim is bad and im not happy there so i ccame to my aunt house and she stresses me out as well she gets mad about the stupidest stuff saying that what i watch is annoying to turn it off and that i cant take my walks and meditate because my family treats my wrong to keep me sane i take walks my brother is glad im gone my mom is too she dropped all my stuff off here but i have a friend that invited me to stay with them and im homeschooled . What can i do? i feeel like i have reached my limits with my family. So since im not living with my mom can i go live with my friend without her permission?

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