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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It is awful that your father is treating you in such a hurtful and inappropriate manner. It is absolutely not okay for him to be physically violent with you in any situation. It is great that you are still able to succeed in school and that you seem really capable despite the circumstances.

    It might be wise to consider reporting what is going on. If you want to know more about what that might look like and what might come of it, don’t hesitate to reach out to the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453. They can help you understand the abuse reporting process.

    We are not legal experts, but we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. Unfortunately, as a minor, your parents still have the right to determine where you live. If you left home without their permission, they could file a runaway report with the police.While it is NOT illegal to run away from home, a runaway report would mean that if the police encountered you or knew where you were, they could notify your guardian and then return you back home. In terms of consent from your parents, they have the right to take back their permission at any point as your guardian.

    It might be a little easier for us to provide guidance if we knew a little bit more about what was going on. If you want to continue this conversation and figure out what other options there might be, please give us a call on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    I am a fifteen year old living in a house with a father that says he loves me and all that bs, but he hits me and beats me over things that are as simple as having the open to check the mail. I want to move in with my friend and his parents so that I don't have to be around him anymore. I am already going to college and I am still in high school. I am currently in the process of trying to get a job so that I can support myself while I'm at his house. Would I be able to move out if he has given parental consent by telling me to pack my sh*t and get the f*ck out of his house?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    i am 15 years old and want to move into my friends house: my parents are divorced and i am currently living with my dad due to the fact that my mom lives 4 hours away. My dad wants to move to England by next year and i am not prepared to do that because i will only see my mom once a year. I really want to finish high school in my home town

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  • ccsmod3
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    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I’m a 14 year old girl tuning 15 in a few months. I was adopted at 5 and they have so many issues. I am like a slave to them. I have to do so much work. If I don’t do the stuff I get in trouble. My parents don’t let me really go anywhere. My mom hates my and my sibling constantly pick on my. My dads a drinker and is always in a bad mood when he drinks. I hate it here. I didn’t even want to get adopted by them I just didn’t have a choice. I want to leave but I don’t know if I should I don’t think they would let me. They don’t even want me at my friends house. Every time I make a tiny mistake they act like I just committed a crime. I want it to change.

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hello there –

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are here for you through these tough times we are facing, and are happy to answer any questions you may have regarding runaway or homeless youth.

    I understand that you are 15 years old, and in most states the age of majority is 18 years old. This means that someone under 18 is the responsibility of their parent. If you were to move out of your parents’ house without their permission they could possibly file a runaway report. This is a report filed with your local police office that would allow the police to return you to your parents’ custody if you were to come in contact with them. We are not legal experts here at NRS but we would like to make you aware of possible outcomes.

    You may want to consider talking with your parents to arrange an alternate housing agreement. This means that your parents give their permission for you to live with a family member or a friend for the time being. This is something your parents would have to agree considering you are 15 right now. Maybe coming up with a solid plan about what you’re planning on doing, how everything is going to work, and any miscellaneous things could be helpful in them seeing how much work you have put into this plan.

    If you would like more information regarding your situation we urge you to reach out to us on our 24/7 toll-free number at 1(800)-RUNAWAY. We can give you case specific information as well as resources to help you navigate this decision.

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    I’m 15 and want to move out I’m almost 16 (in a couple weeks). Anyways, my parents call me “useless” and “worthless” and that its my fault their arguing. They tell the whole family all my dumb secret mistakes and overall its been really hard on me.its been going on for 2 years. They treat me way different than my brothers...they isolate me from everyone. Is it possible to move out and go to my friends??? They’ve already offered it to me..in fact they gave me the idea.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time and we are so glad that you reached out.
    It is super frustrating that your parents are racist towards your friends and your boyfriend. Often this may be because of their own insecurities and might not even have anything to do with your friends or boyfriend. It still does not make it acceptable and we are sorry you are having to deal with all this. One option to consider may be talking with a counselor about what you are going through. We know many schools are closed but some school counselors are still meeting with students virtually. Talking to a professional or a trusted adult can help you explore options and provide you with resources.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

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    im a 15 year old girl, and honestly im just not happy in my house. My parents are super strict, racist, and have anger issues. occasionally my mom gets mad to the point she hits both my brother and i. im sick and tired of everytime i have a different race friend thats either male or female they are racist about it. Its 2020 things need to change, and my parents are constantly negative towards us, they rely on us to constantly serve for them, they rarely let us go out. and my boyfriend who is 16 is hispanic, they are really racist towards him and the fact they cant respect my boyfriend or my friends or OTHER people is not cool. I want to live with a friends family, maybe my boyfriends family. But one thing is there is NO WAY in hell im going to be able to talk about it with my parents, theyll just send me back into foster care or in a detention center, btw theyre my adopted parents. ive wanted to run away recently but im afraid theyll find me and put me in a detention center and if i call 241 kids ill just get placed in a foster care and that is a terrible experience and im not wanting that. My family is just a negative spot and it has been for a long time and im not happy at all. i care about my future in school and life but with this family always tearing me down ill never get there and i want to move out .

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello I am 15 years old and all my life my parents have treated me like ******** constantly blaming me on their mistakes and when I try to tell them that it is not they yell and throw things at me and my mom kicks me in the stomach and tells me to go kill myself and my dad well he just drinks and when he gets drunk he starts throwing glass cups at me but never my siblings they are the perfect children the are like why are you being so weird be like your sister she never talks back be like your brother at least he is smart. You're not smart you know At least some people have their looks but you don't have that either.
    The only place that I feel safe is far away from them but when I call for help for DHR they put on their nice perfect parents facade and act nice but when they leave all hell breaks lose

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. No one deserves to be treated that way at all. You are very strong to go through something like that and still keep pushing and fighting for a better life for yourself.

    We do want to say that it must be very hard for you to have to go through all of this. It sounds like a very stressful situation for you at home and you find it hard to cope with certain things. You shouldn't be afraid to tell other people what you are thinking about doing especially if you are thinking about hurting yourself. You are certainly not alone in this and there are many many people that are here to help you. Since you stated that sometimes your thoughts drift towards suicide, a good resource might be to call the ‘National Suicide Hotline’ for someone to talk about what thoughts you might be thinking at the time. Their number is 800.273.TALK. They also have an online chat service that might be of help to you especially if you don’t feel like calling in (https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/). There is also “NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness)” that you can reach out to as well (https://www.nami.org/help).

    It’s really hard to control other people’s actions and how they treat you, but one thing that you can control is how those certain actions are going to make you feel and what you take to heart. Especially when your mother starts to make you feel bad (ie. yelling at you, calling you names, or telling you that you’re wrong). It might be helpful to talk to someone that we really trust so that you have some support during this hard time in your life. It can be quite isolating to have to deal with this treatment every day and not have anyone to talk to it about. You might also do some self-care activities that you can practice on your own whenever you’re feeling a little down.

    Some things that you can think about doing is, setting small goals and celebrating them when they are achieved, maybe make a list of positive traits that you like about yourself (personal or public traits), trying your very best to refrain from comparing yourself to others or negative thoughts on your life, maybe establishing a hobby that makes you feel good about yourself, even try challenging your negative thoughts by asking their validity or by rethinking them in a positive manner (i.e. turn "I am a slow worker" into "I am a worker who takes time to do well at a task"). Starting a journal could also help you with these task. Does this sound like something that you can do? Having it all written down in front of you can put things in prospective on how many great things you do from day to day and not have your mother’s voice on your head telling you otherwise.

    Since moving out under the age of 18 years old is such a common question that we get and can be easily found on this thread, we aren’t going to get into what would happen if you left without permission from your legal guardian. If you have some specific questions that you want to ask us or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now you can reach out to us via our 24-hour hotline and online chat.

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    hi, I am 16 years old. my name is melody. I live in a really mentally abusive home. I only live with my mother. I am constantly manipulated and abused mentally and emotionally in my home. I have been physically abused once before a year ago. it left bruises all over my arms and legs. recently a fight broke out. my mom lied and manipulated my father who lives 3 hrs away convincing him that I am the problem and that she wants me to be shipped to his house. the constant strain of stress and anxiety I have because of her mentally puts me down. I am constantly degraded as a human and as a daughter. I get called names and askd constantly if im stupid or dumb. I see the mental abuse and other people see it too. my boyfriends grandparents and parents want to call child services and they want me to move in with either the parents or grandparents. I want to be emancipated but my mom responded with " you're not going to get what you want" and then proceeded to laugh about it. im so exhausted mentally and emotionally. she had caused me to have suicidal thoughts and has made me believe that im the problem. when deep down I know I'm not. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to find a way out. I am not a bad kid. I focus on my grades I strive for straight A's I try and try but nothing is ever good enough. I get no love and I return no love. what could I do to get out of this situation? I have no family around where I live. I would honestly like to stay here and finsihs highschool. please help

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi,
    Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things have been very difficult and stressful for you due to your mom’s anger and that she takes it out on you. You don’t deserve to be treated that way. You have been very strong and are brave to reach out to us.

    It is understandable that you want to live in a place that you can feel safe, and we are glad that you called cps on her. If they allow you to live in an alternative location, then you’d be OK, but someone would have to give you permission, like a state authority or your custodial parent.

    We hope that you will reach out to us either by phone or chat so that we can talk this over. The best way for us to help you is by listening to you and helping you to figure some options to help in your situation. We are here for you 24/7 either by calling 1-800-786-2929 or via live chat through www.1800runaway.org
    We are confidential and are here 24/7 to listen and help.
    Sincerely,
    NRS
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