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  • #61
    I will be 15 verry soon but I live with a acholic mother who is constantly drinking and just can't be sober, I do not rember the last time she was sober honestly but one of my friends is 18 and has a job and has a apartment and he said that I coukd live with him where I could be at school every day and not have to worrie about my mother making my life miserable, she constantly fights with her boyfriend and keeps my sister and brothers up all night till 3in the morning so we are all tired when we go to school and have trouble staying awake during school and get in trouble for it, we constantly get in trouble for the stupidest things, there more but I will stop here but is it possible if I get permission from my dad that I don't live with to move in with my friend if we know I will be happy and taken care of?

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      Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes courage to seek help. We are sorry to hear about the issues with your mother. It sounds like you are overwhelmed with things at home and thinking about living with a friend. You could contact the police or Child Protective Services and report your mother for being neglectful. You may also want to consider asking your mom if she would allow you to stay with another family member. We are not legal experts so we cannot say for sure if you would be able to leave home with only your dad's permission. Your state may require you to have both parents permission in order to leave home. You can try googling local legal aid resources, they would be able to give you more direct answers. If you have any other questions, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

      We hope this response was helpful! We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey.

      Tell us what you think about your experience!
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      NRS

  • #62
    Ok so I am currently not happy living at home and my friends family supports me moving in with them is there any legal way to do it like what are my options I’m only 14

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      Hi there,

      Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. From your email to us here, we can see that you have very similar questions to a lot of our callers and you’re looking for some answers.

      It seems like there must be a lot going on in your life especially at home if you’re thinking about ways to move out of your home. It’s great that you were able to find out some information about our hotline. Hopefully we can help! While we’re not law experts, we can try to find one in your area, there may be legal ways for you to be able to move out of your house. We’re glad to hear that you have people in your life like friends and other family members who are a good support for you. It may be a good thing to think about having one of your family members talk to your parents about having you take a break from home and go live with them. If you did want information on emancipation or legal aid resources, don’t hesitate to call into our Safeline and we’ll connect you with those resources. We’re here to try to brainstorm options with you.

      We hope our response is helpful. If you wanted to talk more about what’s going on at home, we are always available to chat with you. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center, or use our chatting services via our website.

      Be safe, NRS

  • #63
    I am 14 going to be 15 in July and things have been pretty crazy with me and my family and my mom has slapped me and pushed me around a couple times,and everyday that I go home I don't feel safe and feel like she is going to do it again.I would go live with my dad but I don't feel comfortable living there because he always used to touch my mom in places she didn't like and would take all sorts of gross pictures of her and always had porn/nudity stuff on his phone whenever I was on there.I was wondering if it would be possible for me to live with my friend he is 18 and lives with his mom which is super nice I would have a roof over my head, food, water, clothing, transportation to school and everything else I would need.

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      Hi,
      Thanks for writing in. It sounds like you’ve been through a lot and are looking at your options. We want you to know that it’s never okay for your mom to slap and push you. You deserve to feel safe and supported at home. If your mom is hurting you at home, you have the right to let someone know, like a teacher or a guidance counselor. They are considered mandated reporters and are required to let child protective services know of any abuse. Another option is to call the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453.
      It sounds like you do have a plan as far as where you would like to stay, which is great and shows a lot of forethought. We are not legal experts, but generally speaking you would need to be 18 to leave home without permission. If you leave before then, your family would have the right to file a runaway report and if the police find you they may return you home. That being said, you always have the right to let police know what’s going on. Another option you might consider is asking your mom for permission to stay with a friend or a family member.
      Another option you could consider is family counseling. It could be helpful to have another adult, like a therapist, to help you have a conversation with your mom about how you’ve been feeling. Your guidance counselor at school might also be able to help you have that conversation. Here at NRS, we are also able to help you talk to your mom if you need.
      Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:
      https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
      Stay safe!
      Last edited by ccsmod5; 04-10-2018, 07:03 PM.

  • #64
    ok im 15 and last night my mom pissed me off and she got all up in my face and started screaming at me for no reasson and she almost got arrested at the dmv ands been taken her anger out on me and i just cant stay im in sooo much pain and hurt and she dosnt understand any of it so last night i walked a 2 miles and walked back home plez tell me i can leave i cant deal with it any more ive went through 7 years of abuse from my ex step dad for about 1 1/2 years ive been a cutter and i have alredy 365 scars on my body and she always calls me a lier and a stealer and says all i do is lie and steal.she dosnt help with my depprestion at all.so can leave for the night?

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    • ccsmod10
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for getting in touch with us. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on. It’s brave of you to reach out during your time of need.

      It sounds like your mom has put you through a lot. You should never feel unsafe at home and we’re so sorry that you’ve been going through that. Abuse is never okay and you do not deserve it to be treated that way. We want you to know that you do have the right to make a report with Child Protective Services. Child Help USA is an information and referral line that can connect you with your local CPS abuse hotline. That number is 1-800-422-4453. If you ever felt like making a report or needed help, we are here to assist with that. We understand that making an abuse report can be intimidating so if you like we can call together to provide support.

      If you feel like getting out of the house is the best option and you decide to run away again, we can explain what usually happens. We’re not legal experts, but from our general knowledge, running away is not illegal. If you runaway, your parents can make a runaway report. The police don't always actively look for you, if they come across you, then they usually bring you home. If you explain to them that home isn't a safe place to be, they don't always return you right away. They're supposed to investigate it first. We offer to call out to youth’s local police, with youth, to find out their protocols and what happens if runaways refuse to go home. We can also help find runaway/youth shelters in your area, so you can stay safe. We also have legal aid resources in our database. While we’re not law experts, we can try to find one in your area, there may be legal ways for you to be able to move out of your house. We’re here to try to brainstorm options with you.

      Right now with everything that is going on, it sounds like it’s getting hard for you to manage the depression. Going through what you’ve been through and living in an un-safe environment can absolutely effect your mental health. If you ever wanted to talk to someone about self-harm you can try reaching out to https://twloha.com/ . Other resources that might be helpful to you could be seeing a therapist, talking to a counselor, or talking to a trusted teacher. They are there to help you, and being able to talk about these things with someone could take a lot of pressure off of your shoulders. It seems like you’ve got some really great friends that care about you too, which is awesome.

      We are always here to help you in any way we can. Please know that you’re never alone. If you want more details about available resources, or if you’d like to talk more about what you’ve been going through, please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

      Remember, you are not alone. Best of luck!

  • #65
    Hi. I live in Ladera Ranch, California and i just turned 15 years old. I am a boy. My issue maybe isn't a big one, but I want to go live with someone else. My parents are married and are not abusive, but do say mean stuff. I feel like I am treated like a child. My parents are so freakin overprotective its crazy. My mom says she loves my but whenever I ask for something, she makes it seem like its the biggest privilege ever.
    ie: I ask for cocacola with my meal and she says oh i don't know, why not a lemonade are u sure u won't drink it before diner? And ill say no but she'll say no maybe next time. Also allll my friends have a phone and instagram and snapchat. I want it but my parents think its a waste of time and they also think that about my phone. I also have adhd and it is hard for me to make friends. So I ask them for a social media to make friends, but everything has to be a no. Also, if i do get to look on instagram for 5 minutes, they always have to ask who's that or look over my shoulder on everything. They can't let me hang out with friends either has to be a parent right there with us the entire time. And we always have to have family time. i never get time on my own to chill they have to barge in and I can't watch the movies or shows that i want to watch, but the ones that are g and my siblings get to watch. And the friends i do have, they make fun of how overprotective and ridiculous my parents are. My dad also doesn't abuse me but always call me an asshole and just other names. Also, I Am the oldest out of two other children my sister is 12 and my brother is 8. I always am arguing with her but get blamed for everything that we argue. I feel suicidal from this and I want to run away and live with someone else because they are driving me crazy. My parents don't understand me. Why can't I just live my life like a normal kid?? And this might not be a big issue but if u were in my shoes u would understand. Please help.

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      Hi, there,
      Thank you for reaching out. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and share what’s going on. You mention that you’re feeling suicidal. Please know that you are not alone in this. If you ever feel like you are in danger of hurting yourself, you can always call 9-1-1 for help. You can also call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. Other people who could help are teachers, guidance counselors, or any other adult at school. We want you to know that there is help and support for you. You might consider seeing a therapist or signing up for group therapy. It can sometimes be helpful to talk to others about what’s been going on, people who have maybe gone through similar experiences or who are able to offer a non-judgmental shoulder to lean on. You are not alone in this. If you need help finding a support group or another mental health resource in your area, you can call the Mental Health and Substance Abuse Services Administration at 1-877-726-4727. Another thing to consider is talking to a doctor or a psychiatrist about how you’ve been feeling; they may be able to talk with you about possible options like medication or therapy.
      It sounds like being around your family is a source of stress for you and it makes sense that you would want to remove yourself from that situation. Again, we’re here to support you, whatever decision you make. Before leaving, it might be helpful to know some general runaway laws (though we are by no means legal experts). Generally speaking, you need to be 18 to leave home without permission. If you choose to leave before that, your family may file a runaway report and if the police find you, they may return you home. Running away is not a “crime,” necessarily, and usually there are no repercussions beyond being returned home. Another option you might consider is asking your parents for permission to stay with a friend or a family member.
      It sounds like things are tense with your parents right now. It could help to have a conversation with them about how you’ve been feeling. They may be unaware that you feel this way or how seriously you’re feeling. A conversation could be a good way to let out your concerns and try to come up with a way for your parents to support you better. It could be helpful to have another adult there, like a guidance counselor or therapist. Here at NRS, we can also help you talk to your parents as well.
      Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:
      https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
      Stay safe!

  • #66
    Hi I’m a 14 year old transgender girl. And I’ve decided that I want to find someone to take me in.
    My parents don’t accept me and it’s getting really tiring​​​​​​, of them taking my makeup away** correction stealing my make up.
    And also just everything that I pay for. I want to leave and I honestly think they just might.. let me live with someone else.
    They would literally shun me for the rest of my life but I don’t care. I used to have emotional thoughts about self harm, and suicide.
    I have tricked myself out of it, because my father got abusive one time when he saw me do it.
    He no longer is abusive, just a ********ing prick. But my real question is how can I get someone to take me in..
    I have lots of friends but only a few BEST friends... I’m really stressed about this whole situation.
    Also to make things worse, I’m moving soon. An hour away from all my friends + school. That adds 10 more pounds of depression to me.
    Just please help me out...

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      Hello, Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. First off we want to say that abuse whether its physical, sexual, emotional or verbal, it is never okay and you do not deserve it. We know that you said that your father does not hit you anymore but if he does again, we want you to know that you do have the right to report it with child protective services.
      Secondly, it sounds like you are having a hard time at home trying to get your parents to accept you for who you are. We want you to know that there is tons of support out there for you and if you ever need to talk to someone more specifically about Trans issues feel free to give Trans Lifeline a call 1-877-565-8860. Their hotline is staffed by the true experts on transgender experience, transgender people themselves.
      We are not legal experts but generally speaking a person is not considered an adult until they are 18. This means that their guardians are legally responsible for them. So the parent is required by law to provide for the youth (food, shelter, school, etc.) If they fail to do so then they can face legal consequences. This also means that the youth cannot live anywhere else without parents’ consent. There are exceptions to this rule but those include getting the court involved such as emancipation or Child Protective Services removing the parent’s rights.
      You are such a strong person for reaching out for help. Please feel free to get a hold of us anytime 1-800-786-2929.
      We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: We care what you think

  • #67
    Im 15 and I want to find help behind my familys back. My parents and siblings abuse me and treat me like dirt. My parents neglect me, well mainly my mom because she would call me overweight and constantly insult me leading towards an eating disorder that she never noticed that I had. I tried being patient and really nice towards my family, trying to understand how our current situation has been affecting them, but they should understand that I am a part of their family and I'm going through the same thing too. I am a sophomore and I almost have a 4.0 GPA as an honors student and I do sports and I take extra classes so my mom would love me more and be proud of me but all she does is take me for granted and sees the negativity. I love my dad and all but ever since he has gotten sick he isnt around much anymore to defend me and I have no more reason or willpower to take the crap anymore.Even growing up my mom had the most power in the family and she would beat me as a child and was extremely overprotective, I had no social skills in elementary and middle school and was bullied constantly leading to my deppression. Even now as a mature teenager im not allowed to have any social media and I dont really know how to contact anyone for help, and over the summer I am on lockdown with no phone or any means of calling anyone for help. I just dont want to do this anymore and I want to kill myself, Ive always wanted to ask for help but I thought I was over reacting and things would be fine, but I dont even believe that anymore.

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for contacting NRS via our online forum service. It sounds like you are in a really tough place with the way your parents are treating you and this is a great first step in improving your situation. You are worthy of being heard and respected for the person you are. You deserve to live in a stable environment where you feel safe and comfortable.
      It sounds like you have a lot of issues and we would like to help you through. We are available 24/7 and can be reached by dialing 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Our hotline is confidential, anonymous, and toll-free. In addition to our hotline, you can receive live assistance via our chat service on 1800runaway.org
      In the meantime, until you are able to get a hold of us please know that you can always reach out to the National Suicide prevention Hotline 1-800-786-2929 to talk about the negative feelings you are having. We care about you and your life has value.
      We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: We care what you think

      Best wishes,
      NRS

  • #68
    Hi I'm 14 and want to move out and live with my cousins, mom, or friends. My dad and stepmom won't let me leave. My parents argue and yell at me over and over when I know what needs to get done. Not a day goes by where I'm not cussed at, and put down by my dad and stepmom. They tell me that they aren't proud to call me there son and that I'm a pathetic excuse for a son. I feel like they are ashamed of me and don't see when I'm trying. I'm depressed from school and home. My father and stepmother want me to change but how can I when they won't change their ways.

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      ccsmod5 commented
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      Hey,
      Thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in an incredibly difficult situation and it can hurt when your family doesn’t acknowledge your efforts to change. You make a really good point: if your family expects you to change, they should be open to changing their ways as well. You don’t deserve to be told that you’re a “pathetic excuse for a son.” That’s never okay to say and is extremely hurtful. It’s understandable that you would want to remove yourself from that situation. Since you’re still a minor (that is, under 18 years old), you would need your legal guardian’s permission to move elsewhere. If you leave without permission, your legal guardian would have the right to file a runaway report and if the police are able to find you, they may return you home. One option you might consider is asking your dad if you can stay with your cousins or mom or friend. It might be helpful to have your mom (or whoever you want to live with) reach out to your dad to invite you to stay. If your mom has partial custody of you or doesn’t have custody of you at all, she can also talk to a lawyer about getting full custody of you. Another option is to try and work things out with your dad and stepmom. It is possible that they don’t realize how their harsh words are affecting you. It could be an option to have a conversation with them about how they’re affecting you and what you can all do to make the situation better. We know that’s a difficult conversation to have, so you might consider asking another adult to help you, like a guidance counselor or a therapist. Here at NRS, we are also able to help you have that conversation with your dad if you give us a call. We’ll do our best to make sure the conversation stays fair, calm, and productive.
      Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:
      https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
      Stay safe!

  • #69
    Hi ... I am 15 and I live in West Virginia.
    i live with my dad and his new wife. She has 3 kids by him and I just don’t feel as happy as I should be. I have in total 6 brothers ( one with my mom). There are times when we can get along with each other and there are sometimes where it can get physical. There have been points to where we have fist fought. I am tired of arguing with her and being around her. She sent me to a mental hospital for a week because she thought there was something mentally wrong with me. My best friend, listens to me every time somthing goes on either me and my step mother. So, today we talked about me moving in with her and going to another state. Her mom is really nice and she listens and seems like she actually understands me more than my dad and his wife. I love going over to their home. I have a problem with abandonment issues and don’t like the way she treats me. Every time I try to talk to my step mom about important things, she just brushes them off. But then when I gave a attitude she asks me what wrong, I don’t tell her because there is no point of wasting my breath. My dad is somewhat strict so if I talked about the whole moving situation to him, I’m scared he is going to say no. I don’t want that because I really just wanna leave and move in with my best friend. Her mom is perfectly fine with it she loves me like her own.. will my dad think ? He would think it’s the craziest thing ever. When I was about 8, we got taken away from our mom because of things she was doing in her house. It has been about 7 years since I have last seen her. Ever since, I just haven’t been myself. I really wanna go and hate living with my dad and brothers. I feel better on with my best friend and her mom. I don’t want to run away or anything I just am ready for a fresh start. Please help me and tell me what I should do.

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      Hi, thanks for reaching out tonight, that’s why we’re here, to listen and to help.
      It sounds like you’ve been dealing with a pretty tough situation with your stepmom, dad and step siblings. Particularly with your stepmother from what you’ve shared – you mentioned that it can get physical to the point of fist fights. Please know that it is never okay for an adult to physically harm you – there’s no way to rationalize that, and we’re sorry to hear that you’ve experienced physical harm.
      It sounds like even when it’s not physical that the relationship is difficult – you indicated that you argue a lot and that your stepmom sent you to a mental ward involuntarily for a week, which must have been scary and frustrating. We’re glad to hear that you do have support from your best friend and your friend’s mom, someone you can turn to when you need talk or support.
      It sounds like you have even discussed moving in with your friend and your friend’s family with your friend’s mom, and that they are open to that. We’re not legal experts, but broadly speaking that may be an option available if your dad /current legal guardian was agreeable to it. You mentioned that you didn’t think he would be though. Have you considered talking to him with a another person there with you – a neutral third party perhaps, like another adult or even your friend’s mom – to discuss how that could happen? Sometimes having a third party help keep the conversation open and civil can help. That’s a service that we offer at NRS – to do conference calls with youth and their parents/guardians to help advocate on your behalf, if that was something you wanted to try.
      Another thing you may want to consider if you haven’t already is family counseling. Is that something that you’ve already tried or thought of trying? We have a database of resources and can help put you in touch with resources in your area if that is something that interests you.
      Regarding the physical fights with your stepmom – is that something you’ve ever considered reporting? We are concerned about your safety, but also know that can seem like a big step. If you felt like your safety was at risk and felt like you wanted to learn more about what reporting that behavior would entail, that is something we can talk to you about either via online chat or phone to walk you through any questions you may have. There’s also a resource called Child Help – the National Child Abuse Hotline, at 1-800-422-4453 (or www.childhelp.org) that can also help to answer any questions you might have /walk you through the process.
      It’s not a permanent solution, but it sounds like you are able to sometimes stay with your friend/friend’s mom for a day or two – and it can be important to have that break for your well-being emotionally.
      There may be legal options available to you as well that you may not be aware of, even if you are not yet considered an adult in your home state. We’re not legal experts, but we do have a database of legal resources, some that specialize in minor rights, which we could connect you to if that is something that interests you.
      You had mentioned your mom and that you’ve not been quite happy since you were removed from her care. Is she still out of the picture as of now, or is that something you had thought might be a possibility if you were to reconnect. Depending on the situation, that may be an option available to you if you so choose.
      The most important thing though is your safety and wellbeing. It sounds like you’re going through a really hard time, which can be overwhelming – please know that we are here to listen and help in whichever way we can. We hope the information here has been helpful to you. We can help you continue exploring these and other options if you want to reach out to us on the online chat or via our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We hope to hear from you again, and in the meantime, best of luck to you!

  • #70
    okay so im 14 and i want to live with my grandparents my mom is very strict and often yells about the house not being clean when me and my siblings clean it everyday. My grandmother will take me its just she doesn't want to go through fighting and the drama to get me she wants it to be quick and simple recently i got in trouble for skipping class and i told my mom that i was at counseling when i really was in the bathroom cause i had a bad day but i wasn't going to say that cause i knew she wouldn't believe me so she sat me down and said so where did you go to when you skipped then she continues to say B*tch you better not lie to me then she said that she will whoop me everyday if she has to to get my to behave and that she doesn't care if i call child protective services there has been multiple occasions where she said ´´ there are four doors in this house you can leave anytime and u better not take the stuff i brought for you ´' so when she says that u pack my bag and i say im going to my grandparents but she doesn't let me leave is there any way i can file a report saying that i want to live with my grandparents instead of my grandma doing it and i dont want to be living in the same house as her while i am trying to live with my grandparents cause then she will possibly whoop me bad.

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      Hi, thank you for reaching out to us. It seems like you have a lot to deal with at home right now and we’re sorry you’re going through all of it. From what you wrote, it sounds like you and your mother are having a lot of conflicts right now and you think it would be best to live with your grandparents instead.
      First, if you are ever immediately concerned about your safety, please either dial 911 or call the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453. You can also learn more about child abuse at their website, www.childhelp.org. No one ever deserves to be abused and it’s not okay that your mom is treating you this way.

      Regarding your question about living with your grandparents…we are not legal experts, but we can give some general info. Usually, minors cannot file a report requesting a change of custody—your grandmother would in fact have to file for custody of you. If you’re serious about staying with your grandparents and they are willing to file for custody, we recommend that your grandma get in touch with a lawyer to figure out what the best (and safest) route would be. If your grandma needs help locating legal resources, she can definitely give us a call.

      Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:
      https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
      Stay safe!

  • #71
    I’m 13 and my grandma had adopted me at a young age for various of reasons but she’s always screaming and yelling at me and I wanna live with my mom but I got taken away from my mom but I wanna go live with her am I old enough to decide I’m gonna turn 14 in July

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      ccsmod3 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like you are having a tough time living with your Grandma and it seems like a frustrating environment to live in. It may be good to think about what it might look like to live with you mom again and have that conversation with her about what is going on. We are legal experts, but the only way that you could go live with your mom legally, is to get permission from your grandma. If your grandma isn’t okay with that you may need to reach out to your casework and further discuss what your options might be as we don’t have a lot of knowledge about the foster care system.

      We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY we are open 24/7.

      -NRS

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  • #72
    Hi, I'm 15 and I am wondering if I can live with my aunt and with my parent's permission; the problem is that she's in a different state and my lawyer said I cant go to school there because I don't have my parents to enroll me, is it possible be homeschooled instead?

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      Hello,

      Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. While we are not legal experts we can tell you a little bit about the McKinney-Vento Homelessness Assistance Act. According to this act all youth are legally allowed to enroll in school. “Enroll now, ask questions later.”

      There is a stipulation under this act that applies to unaccompanied minors including runaways. For more information about how this law applies to runaways go to: http://www.serve.org/nche/downloads/briefs/youth.pdf

      Feel free to contact our 24/7 crisis line 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you would like to discuss your options further, or for additional resources.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • #73
    Hi Im 14 years old Im about to turn 15 in a month. But i wanna really kill myself Right now because. I made some stupid decisions and my parents found out about them my step dad OMG he is the most extra man you could ever meet. he is so rude to me he embarrass me I've been bullied all my life and depressed all my life and this isn't making anything better for me i just honestly wanna die. but my thing is, is that my mom want me to live with my biological father and i don't want to live with him do i have to move in with him? or do i have a choice and can decide where to stay on my own?

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      Hi, thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like you are really struggling right now but you are not alone in this. There are people out there who want to support you and help you through this tough time.

      Suicide is really serious and wanting to end your life is not something to take lightly. Your life has value and even though things seem impossible now, you can get through this. The national suicide prevention lifeline is there to help you anytime at 1800-273-8255. We are also her 24/7 at 1800RUNAWAY even if you just need to talk or vent. Your are not alone in this. Depression can be difficult to deal with, but you dont have to do it alone. We are here to talk and also offer resources for depression. Please do not hesitate to reach out.

      Bullying can be devastating. It can be a lot to deal with, especially on top of depression and the stress of your parents being upset with you. But seriously, you do not have to go through that alone. You can reach out to school counselors, friends, teachers, or really anyone you trust for support. We are also available 24/7 and completely confidential.

      As far as who you must live with, we aren't legal experts, but we can provide legal resource referrals over chat and call. In general, if your father has custody then you are supposed to live with him. If you choose not to go, or leave his place without permission this could be considered running away and he would have the right to file a runaway report. This means that if the police knew where you were or came across you they would return you to his care. It isn't illegal to run away, but it is a status offense.

      You are dealing with a lot right now, but you don't have to go through it alone. Thank you so much for reaching out, and feel free to do so again at anytime. We are available 24/7 at 1800RUNAWAY. You got this.

  • #74
    I’m 15 and the past 3 months living with my mom and sister has actually been horrible, they constantly bring me down, call me names, and have said honestly horrible things to me. My sister has told me on multiple occasions to kill myself and that I’m a waste of everyone’s air. My mom has called me a worthless piece of sh*t and much more and has threatened to starve me even if I hadn’t done wrong. These past months I’ve grown particularly close to another family I really want to move in with, they accept me for who I am, always make me feel loved, and would take me in, in a heartbeat if needed. At this point I’m stuck and need help...

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      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us. We have read over your post and have found another posting that we think you might be able to get some use out of.
      If you have any follow up questions please feel free to give us a call. 1-800-786-2929

      Originally posted by Guest View Post
      im 15 and i have not got along with my family for awhile. my mom has said that i will never be apart of the family. and her my brother and my dad are there own little family. i am always getting continuity told that i'm not good enough and that im just a ******** up. i got adopted by this family when i was 4. this family just puts emotional strain on me and is just making me depressed. they get money from a sate every month and they don't pay fr anything of mine. my boyfriend which is 17 pays for my food and all my clothes. im done living with my family and idk what to do. over the summer i was living with my sister but that didn't work out very well so i had t go back "home" i just want to live with my boyfriend but they wont let me. they have maid it very clear that living with them is just a living arrangement.


      RE:Hello there,
      Thank you for reaching out to NRS. We are very sorry to hear that you are in a tough situation. You do not deserve to be treated badly by anyone, ever. You deserve to be treated with respect. It is good to see, though, that you are smart and brave enough to seek out help when you need it, we know this can be very hard to do.
      Again, thank you for reaching out. We are sorry to hear that your family call you awful names and tell you such terrible things. No one has the right to treat you that way. It sounds like you have had it with them and are ready to leave. It is good to hear that you have the support of your boyfriend. We are not going to tell you what to do or what not to do; we know that you will make the best choice for yourself. We would like to present you with some possible options if you do decide to leave. We are not legal experts here at NRS, but to our limited knowledge, if you leave your parent’s home without permission it is considered running away. It is not illegal to run away, it is a status offense, which means it is something you should not do because you are underage. If you were to leave, your parents can file a runaway report. This means that if you come in contact with the police for any reason, they will run your name in their system and you will come up as a runaway. There is a big possibility that you will be taken back “home”. An option is to have parental permission to live with your boyfriend. If your parents/guardians give you their permission to live with him, you should not get in any trouble. It may be a good idea to get this permission in writing if it possible. You may also get permission to live with someone else if they do not want to consent to you living with your boyfriend. Again, it may be a good idea to get this down in writing. If you do not get their permission and you decide to leave anyway, the people you are staying with can potentially get in trouble for harboring a runaway. If you think it will be helpful, we offer a service called a conference call. It is basically a three way call between you, your parents, and one of our liner volunteers. Sometimes it is helpful to have a mediator for support to talk about the situation. If you would like to do this, you can call our 24 hour crisis hotline. Another option may be to talk to your case worker, if possible. You mentioned you were adopted and your family receives money from the state for having you, so maybe there is a case worker you can get in touch with about the situation. We hope this information is helpful.
      Again, thank you for reaching out to us. We hope the information we provided you with is helpful. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or start a live chat with us online. We are here to listen, we are here to help.
      Best,
      NRS

  • #75
    I am currently 15 and my family and I had to move out of state for my dads job. Only 500 miles away. But where I moved from I was on a really good varsity cheer team as a freshmen, I had lots of good friends, I had really good grades, all of my family lived there, and I also had a boyfriend that I had been dating for eight months before moving. I moved away and started my sophomore year at a new school with people i had never seen before in my life, I also made the cheer team but it’s not really good and makes me very unhappy. I had a hard time making friends, i don’t ever get to see any of my family except for my brother sister mom and dad and i also rarely get to see my boyfriend. We’ve made it work so far and it’s now been a year and 7 months but things just keep getting harder and harder. My grades also keep going down hill and I just really dislike the school I go to and it makes me so mad and sad. I constantly have asked my parents to let me move back to my home state to live with my grandma or another family member so then that way i can cheer on a good cheer team and have friends that will mentally and emotionally make me happier along with a boyfriend who would also do the same because where i’m at now i feel kinda depressed. My parents won’t let me and I don’t understand why, they think i’m selfish for wanting to do good and be happy, they always tell me to put myself before others but when I am doing that right now they get really upset. I’d only move back for 9 months out of the year visit for the summer, thanksgiving break, winter break, and spring break along with lots of other weekends. They still turn it down and it just makes me more upset mentally. I don’t kmow how to convince them to let me move back so i can be happy again.

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