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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    We’re glad that you found our forums. Please feel free to reach out to us if you’re in a crisis. We’re available 24/7 at 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929) and via chat every day from 4:30pm – 11:30pm CST. Be safe!

    -NRS

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    Hi I’m just testing this out

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

    It’s sort of a norm for teenagers and their parents to argue or not get along. It wasn’t very fair of your dad and step-mom to send you to your moms because they can’t “handle you”. It sounds very stressful that your mom isn’t responsible and it’s understandable that you’re worrying about your school work living without wifi. We do offer conference calling options between youth and their parents. If you needed help talking with your dad about what would have to happen for you to move back with them, we can make that call with you. If you think that having a therapist to be able to talk to on a weekly basis, we have a database and can find some in your area. Maybe it would show your dad and step-mom that you’re trying make the situation better.

    Our safeline is open 24/7, so we’re always here. Also, talking to a teacher or school counselor that you’re close with about what you’ve been experiencing at home, could give you more support. We can also talk more about your situation as well.

    Be safe, NRS

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    I live with my dad and stepmom. We have constantly fought over the years and they cant "handle" me so they decided for me to go live with my mom. My mom is irresponsible and does not have enough money to provide for me. Also I am moving schools and she does not have wifi so i am worried about schoolwork. I need to find a way to provide for my self while keeping my grades up. Please help

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are dealing with a difficult living situation, and we want you to know we are here for you, and are glad you reached out.
    First things first, your safety is our #1 concern. You mentioned that you suffer with self-harm, which can intensify in times of distress. To Write Love on Her Arms (twloha.com) is an excellent website that provides support around self-harm. Depression is a dark place, and reaching out to people for help/support is a great first step.
    We are by no means legal experts, but generally if you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your legal guardians could potentially file a runaway report. While this won’t get you in any major legal trouble (status offence), it does means that if you were encounter law enforcement, they would be required to return to you your legal guardians.
    You are enough. Your feelings are valid, and any type of abuse (including emotional) is not ok. It’s important to have a strong support system in place to turn to when in need. Friends, teachers, and counselors are all great resources that provide support.
    You’re very brave and smart for reaching out and trying to get help. We would be more than happy to speak with you further about your situation to offer support or help come up with a plan on actions. You can call our 24 hour hotline anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).
    Take care,
    NRS

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    Hi..I am fifteen and live in Missouri.
    I live with my aunt and uncle..my aunt is my legal guardian. I don't live with my mother because she is in prison, my father dead. I have lived with them since I was ten.. my brother got kicked out..sister ran away (and moved because she's 17) leaving me alone..the people my sister live with are accepting to having me move in with them.. my aunt and uncle however, are not. I told them today and they kept saying no and that I have no say. They told me the only two places I would ever be in is here or juvi. I told then juvi but they can't even put me in because I'm a good kid. I'm treated horrible..emotional abuse is what I'm told by many. I suffer with self harm to this day.. I just never feel like I'm enough. I hate living here, I'm treated pretty bad.. they have threatened to keep me from contacting my mom (who's in prison) ..I love my mom dearly and the thought makes me want to rebel more.. they threatened to take my pet rats (odd, yes but they are so intelligent and without them I'd be more upset..animals are everything to me tbh..I'm even vegetarian so I hope I can express why this is such a big deal)) they threatened to take my pet rats and put them in the garage..which has no heater..they would freeze with winter coming. I told them no. I want to move with my sister so badly I am tempted to run away..they keep saying I have no voice.. do I have a voice? If so, how can I be heard?

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    We’re glad you wrote into us. It sounds like you’re going through some tough challenges and you’re brave and resilient to reach out for support. We appreciate you explaining a bit about what's going on and we hope that our response will be helpful.

    You mentioned dealing with suicidal thoughts and we want you to know that your life has worth. You're not alone in this and we're glad that you have a therapist to talk to. If those thoughts becomes too overwhelming, please don't hesitate to call 911. If you're afraid to call on your own, we can help you make that call. There is also the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255 (or suicidepreventionlifeline.org), they are open 24/7 and so are we. We’re here to listen and here to help.

    You also shared that you had some bad sexual experiences when you were younger. It sounds challenging and confusing that your parents treated you differently after they found out about the bad sexual experiences. We, along with the resources above, can offer non-judgmental support. A resource that can offer you support is 2nd Chance in Anniston, Alabama. They can be reached at 256-236-7233. They are affiliated with the national RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) agency which can be reached at 800-656-4673 or rainn.org. The YWCA can also offer support for sexual assault or sexual abuse. The YWCA in Alabama can be reached at 205-322-9933 or www.ywcabham.org.

    It’s never okay to be called names or to be emotionally or mentally abused. You don't deserve to be treated that way, in any situation. If you leave without your parents consent, running away is not illegal. If you want to find out exactly what the police in your area would do in that situation, we can call the local police with you. It's understandable why you'd want to go live with your friends family. There's an organization that helps youth find ways to get their custody transferred to safe adults or family members. It's called Child Help (800) 422-4453. We’re not legal experts, but we did find legal aid in your area that could better answer any questions regarding being able to live with your friends family; Legal Services Corp. of Alabama at 877-393-2333. You mentioned that finances aren’t stable at home so please know the phone numbers mentioned above are free.

    No one is a mistake, including you. You are strong and resilient and we believe in you. It takes courage to reach out for support. We’re so glad you reached out. We’re here to listen and here to help. You can reach out 24/7 to us at 800-786-2929 and we also have a chatting system via our website (although that service is not open 24/7).

    Be safe, NRS

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    I am fifteen years old and from Munford, Alabama. Since I was younger I've had some bad sexual experiences and when I was twelve my parents found out about it and never treated me the same. I've been suicidal since I was nine and have since been given medication and a therapist for it. Recently both of my parents lost their job and are now not very stable in the financial department. They are also emotionally and mentally abusive, though they rarely ever lay their hands on me or my siblings, they do, however, call me names like retard, and idiot all the time and have told me many times that I'll never make it to college and that they wish they never had me and have even told me I was a mistake, but then turn around and say they love me and that it would be a mistake to call me a mistake. I suffer from sever anxiety, depression, bipolar 2, split personality, and am being tested for two other mental diseases right now and the things they say and do to my not only hurt my feelings deeply, but make me feel like a disappointment and utterly confuse me, which isn't good at all. I've been clean from cutting now for about as long as my boyfriend and I have been together and have thought about going back to it a handful of times because of them. I want to move out and live with another family member or a close friend, I want to talk to my parents and some other family members about it tonight, what do I do if they(my parents) say no?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    It sounds like a challenging situation to be in to have parents that no longer want to do activities together and yell at you. Since you are 19, you are considered an adult. If you pursue job opportunities up north, and your parents decided to call the police due to you leaving the home, the police would not be able to bring you back home since you are no longer considered a minor. Some other things to think about is transportation, living arrangements, and budgeting. If you have further questions or need further support, you can always call us here at the National Runaway Safeline 1-800-786-2929. We wish you the best of luck!

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    I'm 19 years old and I have ADHD and I have one blind eye and I want to live with my friends mom and be able to take care of me and go places my parents never do that anymore and they yell at me and I can't take it anymore and they won't let me out someone help me and I can get a job up north and move on with my life

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    I'm 15 years old and want to move out to live with friend just for school year cause it will help me out

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hello there, thanks for reaching out today.

    It sounds incredibly hard to deal with your mom’s neglectful behavior in a crowded household. If you are not getting your basic needs met such as food, clothing, shelter, and medical care you do have the right to report neglect to child protective services. To learn more about reporting could look like in your situation, you might contact the expert child advocates at Child Help 1-800-422-4453.

    Sounds like you have gotten permission to live with your friend through your grandma and dad. That is awesome that they are on board for you living with your friend. It is also great that you have such a supportive friend. Unfortunately, you can only get permission from your legal guardian to be able to leave home. We are not quite sure based on your post, but it sounds like your mom has primary custody of you and your dad might have partial or no custody of you. So you would need to get permission from your mom to live with your friend. If your dad has any custody of you, you might have him talk to your mom and advocate for you living closer to the school that you have been attending. Sometimes bringing a trusted adult into the conversation can help when your mom is not hearing you.

    If you are unable to get permission and you leave home, your mom could attempt to file a runaway report for you with your local police if you are under 18. If you are found by police after being reported as a runaway, you typically would be returned home. If your friend’s parents house you while knowing you are a runaway, they could be at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway.

    If you call or chat us we can talk through your situation and try to brainstorm additional options for you. We are here 24/7 by phone and truly want to help.

    Best of luck,

    NRS

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    Ok so yes I'm 15 and I want to live at my best friends house. Only because ever since my parents divorce not too long ago things have been going badly. I live with my mom at her parents house along with 7 other family members. My mom has been neglectful. She goes out every night spending money on where ever she's going and drinks when she could be using that money on things I need. When I ask her to she tells me "we dont have money for that" which really angers me because she spends it on herself. At my friends on the other hand life is different. Life is better. My friend is a single child with both parents with good jobs. They are very caring people and they live right next to my high school. I tell my friend everything that goes on with my life and she wants me to stay with her all the time. Her parents wouldn't mind me there either. I talked to my other grandma and she said that I should stay with my friend too. I also talked on the phone with my dad and he agrees that I should stay with my friend, and how that would be cool if I could. He also said he's going to move out of state and that could go with him but I dont want to leave my friends that are like family and my school. Speaking of school, my grandma also told me how my mom doesn't care anymore and that I will move schools closer to where we're living, which is a big no no. I will not leave my life behind because her and my father. Right now I don't want to deal with my mom and her bs. So will I be able to move into my friends home?

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  • ccsmod15
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    First of all thank you so much for contacting the National Runaway Safeline! It sounds like you have been going through a really tough time at home but it’s great that you are trying to better understand your options. You mention that you have attempted and think a lot about suicide. This is a very serious matter and if you are ever having the urge to harm yourself do not hesitate to contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. If you ever need support or someone to talk to this is a great resource.

    You also mention that you really want to leave home to get away from your stepmom. It’s a good idea to have a conversation with your father about how you’re feeling and maybe have one other trusted adult there to help mediate the conversation. This adult could be a teacher or counselor at school that can help you and your dad express your feelings and goals. If you are not able to make a plan with your dad about living somewhere else it’s important to know what could happen if you decided to runaway without his permission.

    If you decided to leave home he could file a runaway report. Every local police department handles runaway reports a little differently. You can contact your local police department and ask them hypothetically what they do when a runaway report is filed. It’s important to make sure you feel safe wherever you go and that you will be able to fully support yourself. If you are unable to leave home and your stepmom is still bothering you, it can be helpful to brainstorm some coping mechanisms to distract yourself. Maybe journaling more, going for walks, or getting more involved at school so you don’t have to be at home for too long at a time.

    If you want to talk about any more options you have or ask more questions feel free to call us at anytime. We are available 24/7 to support you at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We wish you good luck with everything!

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    Okay so I am 15 years old and I literally hate my home life. My step mom is way too strict and will give me way too hard punishments. I've been wanting to get out of my house for a while now, and at the moment my dad and I are staying with my Aunt Robin and Uncle Chris. But the only reason we are with my aunt and uncle is that I tried taking my own life. And this is all in my sophomore year. But I tried killing myself my freshman year too because I couldn't deal with my step mom anymore. And I still can't. I'm getting help, but I won't want to live as long as my step mom is in my life. She just makes everything too stressful for me and she just makes me hate life and want to hurt myself. Even when I'm not living with her. But if I live with my best friend I will be okay. Or if I live with my sister and Aunt Tracy and Uncle Kirtus. I know for a fact that my friend's mom will love to have me live with her. She was even all for it when I tried running away to her house. But my parents would never let me do it. And I don't think that my Aunt Tracy and her family have the room for me, or at least they don;t want to have to take in another one of my dad's kids. I just don't know what to do because if I stay in the situation I am in right now I know for a fact that I will end up killing myself, but I don't want to do that to my friends or my family.

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