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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    We’re glad you wrote into us. It sounds like you’re going through some tough challenges and you’re brave and resilient to reach out for support. We appreciate you explaining a bit about what's going on and we hope that our response will be helpful.

    You mentioned dealing with suicidal thoughts and we want you to know that your life has worth. You're not alone in this and we're glad that you have a therapist to talk to. If those thoughts becomes too overwhelming, please don't hesitate to call 911. If you're afraid to call on your own, we can help you make that call. There is also the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255 (or suicidepreventionlifeline.org), they are open 24/7 and so are we. We’re here to listen and here to help.

    You also shared that you had some bad sexual experiences when you were younger. It sounds challenging and confusing that your parents treated you differently after they found out about the bad sexual experiences. We, along with the resources above, can offer non-judgmental support. A resource that can offer you support is 2nd Chance in Anniston, Alabama. They can be reached at 256-236-7233. They are affiliated with the national RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) agency which can be reached at 800-656-4673 or rainn.org. The YWCA can also offer support for sexual assault or sexual abuse. The YWCA in Alabama can be reached at 205-322-9933 or www.ywcabham.org.

    It’s never okay to be called names or to be emotionally or mentally abused. You don't deserve to be treated that way, in any situation. If you leave without your parents consent, running away is not illegal. If you want to find out exactly what the police in your area would do in that situation, we can call the local police with you. It's understandable why you'd want to go live with your friends family. There's an organization that helps youth find ways to get their custody transferred to safe adults or family members. It's called Child Help (800) 422-4453. We’re not legal experts, but we did find legal aid in your area that could better answer any questions regarding being able to live with your friends family; Legal Services Corp. of Alabama at 877-393-2333. You mentioned that finances aren’t stable at home so please know the phone numbers mentioned above are free.

    No one is a mistake, including you. You are strong and resilient and we believe in you. It takes courage to reach out for support. We’re so glad you reached out. We’re here to listen and here to help. You can reach out 24/7 to us at 800-786-2929 and we also have a chatting system via our website (although that service is not open 24/7).

    Be safe, NRS

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    I am fifteen years old and from Munford, Alabama. Since I was younger I've had some bad sexual experiences and when I was twelve my parents found out about it and never treated me the same. I've been suicidal since I was nine and have since been given medication and a therapist for it. Recently both of my parents lost their job and are now not very stable in the financial department. They are also emotionally and mentally abusive, though they rarely ever lay their hands on me or my siblings, they do, however, call me names like retard, and idiot all the time and have told me many times that I'll never make it to college and that they wish they never had me and have even told me I was a mistake, but then turn around and say they love me and that it would be a mistake to call me a mistake. I suffer from sever anxiety, depression, bipolar 2, split personality, and am being tested for two other mental diseases right now and the things they say and do to my not only hurt my feelings deeply, but make me feel like a disappointment and utterly confuse me, which isn't good at all. I've been clean from cutting now for about as long as my boyfriend and I have been together and have thought about going back to it a handful of times because of them. I want to move out and live with another family member or a close friend, I want to talk to my parents and some other family members about it tonight, what do I do if they(my parents) say no?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    It sounds like a challenging situation to be in to have parents that no longer want to do activities together and yell at you. Since you are 19, you are considered an adult. If you pursue job opportunities up north, and your parents decided to call the police due to you leaving the home, the police would not be able to bring you back home since you are no longer considered a minor. Some other things to think about is transportation, living arrangements, and budgeting. If you have further questions or need further support, you can always call us here at the National Runaway Safeline 1-800-786-2929. We wish you the best of luck!

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    I'm 19 years old and I have ADHD and I have one blind eye and I want to live with my friends mom and be able to take care of me and go places my parents never do that anymore and they yell at me and I can't take it anymore and they won't let me out someone help me and I can get a job up north and move on with my life

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    Guest replied
    I'm 15 years old and want to move out to live with friend just for school year cause it will help me out

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hello there, thanks for reaching out today.

    It sounds incredibly hard to deal with your mom’s neglectful behavior in a crowded household. If you are not getting your basic needs met such as food, clothing, shelter, and medical care you do have the right to report neglect to child protective services. To learn more about reporting could look like in your situation, you might contact the expert child advocates at Child Help 1-800-422-4453.

    Sounds like you have gotten permission to live with your friend through your grandma and dad. That is awesome that they are on board for you living with your friend. It is also great that you have such a supportive friend. Unfortunately, you can only get permission from your legal guardian to be able to leave home. We are not quite sure based on your post, but it sounds like your mom has primary custody of you and your dad might have partial or no custody of you. So you would need to get permission from your mom to live with your friend. If your dad has any custody of you, you might have him talk to your mom and advocate for you living closer to the school that you have been attending. Sometimes bringing a trusted adult into the conversation can help when your mom is not hearing you.

    If you are unable to get permission and you leave home, your mom could attempt to file a runaway report for you with your local police if you are under 18. If you are found by police after being reported as a runaway, you typically would be returned home. If your friend’s parents house you while knowing you are a runaway, they could be at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway.

    If you call or chat us we can talk through your situation and try to brainstorm additional options for you. We are here 24/7 by phone and truly want to help.

    Best of luck,

    NRS

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    Ok so yes I'm 15 and I want to live at my best friends house. Only because ever since my parents divorce not too long ago things have been going badly. I live with my mom at her parents house along with 7 other family members. My mom has been neglectful. She goes out every night spending money on where ever she's going and drinks when she could be using that money on things I need. When I ask her to she tells me "we dont have money for that" which really angers me because she spends it on herself. At my friends on the other hand life is different. Life is better. My friend is a single child with both parents with good jobs. They are very caring people and they live right next to my high school. I tell my friend everything that goes on with my life and she wants me to stay with her all the time. Her parents wouldn't mind me there either. I talked to my other grandma and she said that I should stay with my friend too. I also talked on the phone with my dad and he agrees that I should stay with my friend, and how that would be cool if I could. He also said he's going to move out of state and that could go with him but I dont want to leave my friends that are like family and my school. Speaking of school, my grandma also told me how my mom doesn't care anymore and that I will move schools closer to where we're living, which is a big no no. I will not leave my life behind because her and my father. Right now I don't want to deal with my mom and her bs. So will I be able to move into my friends home?

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  • ccsmod15
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    First of all thank you so much for contacting the National Runaway Safeline! It sounds like you have been going through a really tough time at home but it’s great that you are trying to better understand your options. You mention that you have attempted and think a lot about suicide. This is a very serious matter and if you are ever having the urge to harm yourself do not hesitate to contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. If you ever need support or someone to talk to this is a great resource.

    You also mention that you really want to leave home to get away from your stepmom. It’s a good idea to have a conversation with your father about how you’re feeling and maybe have one other trusted adult there to help mediate the conversation. This adult could be a teacher or counselor at school that can help you and your dad express your feelings and goals. If you are not able to make a plan with your dad about living somewhere else it’s important to know what could happen if you decided to runaway without his permission.

    If you decided to leave home he could file a runaway report. Every local police department handles runaway reports a little differently. You can contact your local police department and ask them hypothetically what they do when a runaway report is filed. It’s important to make sure you feel safe wherever you go and that you will be able to fully support yourself. If you are unable to leave home and your stepmom is still bothering you, it can be helpful to brainstorm some coping mechanisms to distract yourself. Maybe journaling more, going for walks, or getting more involved at school so you don’t have to be at home for too long at a time.

    If you want to talk about any more options you have or ask more questions feel free to call us at anytime. We are available 24/7 to support you at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We wish you good luck with everything!

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    Okay so I am 15 years old and I literally hate my home life. My step mom is way too strict and will give me way too hard punishments. I've been wanting to get out of my house for a while now, and at the moment my dad and I are staying with my Aunt Robin and Uncle Chris. But the only reason we are with my aunt and uncle is that I tried taking my own life. And this is all in my sophomore year. But I tried killing myself my freshman year too because I couldn't deal with my step mom anymore. And I still can't. I'm getting help, but I won't want to live as long as my step mom is in my life. She just makes everything too stressful for me and she just makes me hate life and want to hurt myself. Even when I'm not living with her. But if I live with my best friend I will be okay. Or if I live with my sister and Aunt Tracy and Uncle Kirtus. I know for a fact that my friend's mom will love to have me live with her. She was even all for it when I tried running away to her house. But my parents would never let me do it. And I don't think that my Aunt Tracy and her family have the room for me, or at least they don;t want to have to take in another one of my dad's kids. I just don't know what to do because if I stay in the situation I am in right now I know for a fact that I will end up killing myself, but I don't want to do that to my friends or my family.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello,
    We're glad you reached out to us. We'll try to help. We are not legal experts but if you leave your house without your parents' permission you can be considered a runaway. If your parents file a runaway report, the police can look for you and return you home. You might want to talk to your family about the situation and see what they say.
    We understand that sometimes talking to adult can be intimidating, so if you like we can do a conference call with you and your parents. You might also want to call us to talk about the issues at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24/7 and are confidential. Good luck!

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    am I allowed to move to my friends family house at the age of 13?

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We’re glad you contacted us, and we know it’s not easy to ask for help.

    It sounds like your relationships with your family members are very strained and it’s understandable that you’re feeling the need for a change. If your father or anyone in your family struggles with suicidal thoughts or tendencies, please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1(800)273-8255 for help. Unfortunately, as a minor, your legal guardian(s) would need to agree to allow you to stay away from home, whether it’s a friend/family member’s house or a shelter. If any abuse has occurred, abuse reporting is an option and would possibly enter you into a shelter or foster care. We are not legal experts and every case is handled differently however, so we would not be able to tell you exactly how your situation will pan out.

    So just a little by about how the child abuse system works, if abuse is happening at home (verbal, physical, sexual) a youth has the right to report it to the proper authorities. When that happens they will either decide whether or not to take the case and investigate. If they do happen to take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will proved family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the child from the home and offer certain services). So there is no way of knowing which way they are going to rule, their main goal is to keep families together.

    If you’d like to call us at 1(800)RUNAWAY, we’d be happy to talk with you about some options. We also possibly have resources in your area that could help and could walk you through abuse reporting if that’s needed.

    Again, thank you so much for contacting us, we’re glad you did. We’re here 24/7 and would be happy to speak with you anytime to help you through this tough situation.

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    I'm 15 years old, and I want to leave my home. My Dad and step mom are constantly attacking me, whether it be the way I dress, my weight, or just anything. I'm what people call emo, and my step mom is constantly judging me AND my friends just by the way that we look. She even went so far as to throw away most of my clothes because she didn't like them. My dad told me that I'm the reason he wants to kill himself, and my step mom has made all of my siblings hate me. She turns everyone in our family against me, and now I have no family members that would want me to stay with them. I don't have any friends to stay with either. I have already run away from home 5 times, but it gets me nowhere, and I just want out of here. Is there a way that I can be put permanently into foster care?

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  • ccsmod14
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

    We’re sorry to hear about the challenges you’ve been facing at home. It sounds like you might be feeling overwhelmed by things at home. We’re not legal experts here so it’s hard to say what your mom can legally do. However, your safety and well-being is important so if you are ever at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    While we are not legal experts, if you were to leave home without your parents’ permission you could be brought home and whoever you are staying with could be charged with harboring a runaway. This can be a lot to think about and we are here to help you through this.

    The easiest way to leave home is with your parent or legal guardian’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to them. We are also available as a resource to facilitate a conference call with your family and to help your side get heard. You can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY if this option is something you may be interested in pursuing.

    You can reach out to us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or live chat with us from 4:30 PM -11:30 PM CST and we would be happy to support you through this.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    I am 15 years old and i want to go live with my friend's family
    Me and mom have been arguing lately and i just cant take it anymore, we are not arguing daily but shes just really harsh on me and i feel like we both need a break from eachother i think this will gives us time to really just think and just take a break.Also i can really focus on my education more. My friend and her family really care for me, they are so kind to me and dont mind me staying with them. Im just scared if i ask my mom permission she will say no and things will get worse than it is, i need help how can i do this?

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