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  • I'm 15 turning 16 in 10 days.

    Well I did some things ( vaping,sex, and taking photo showing my body) and my mom found out and now I'm not allowed to leave my house, I don't even know if I'm coming back to school I think she's gonna make me do online school. So my question is can I move out by myself? I don't have a bf so I don't really have anywhere to go. And I can't talk to my friends bc I don't have my phone so I can't really do anything. Can I get a job and rent a basement with 16?

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    • ccsmod16
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      Hi,
      Thank you for reaching out; we are glad that you did.
      It sounds like things are rough at home right now because of the things you did that mom found out about. It is for sure hard to be unable to talk to friends and it's stressful to not know what the near future is going to be like for you.
      To answer your question, until you reach the age of majority in your state (usually 18, but some states older) you wouldn't be able to sign a lease to rent a basement or room. So moving out by yourself would be very difficult.
      What we can talk about is everything you are going through at home so that maybe we can help you find a way to feel better there and maybe find a way to help your relationship with your mom after this.
      You can reach out via live chat through this website. We are here for you 24/7 and are anonymous and confidential.
      We truly hope to hear from you soon.
      Sincerely,
      NRS

  • hi i am 15 and my parents are homophobic,transphobic and say disgusting things towards a specific religion. They don’t know that i am queer,i have been body shamed,judged and etc if i told them i would get beaten. I was planing to move in to my friends house but i am not sure how to illegally move without going to court. I would also like to still go to school i would probably switch schools due to location.(US)

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    • ccsmod5
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      Hi there,


      Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

      We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. Your bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

      You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

      If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you, as well as find some legal expert resources for your questions regarding school.

      Stay Strong,
      NRS

  • is there an online way to report something also what category would i put that as

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hello there!
      Thanks for reaching out to NRS! Here at NRS we are mandated reporters meaning that we report any type of abuse with identifying information such as name and address. If you choose not to give us that identifying info we do not have to report, but at any time if you wanted to give that info, we could. To talk further in deatil please reach out to use either via phone or through our live chat. Our phone number is 800-RUNAWAY and our live chat can be found at www.1800RUNAWAY.org. We are available 24/7.
      Hope to hear from you soon.
      NRS

  • thank you i’ll reach out in a couple months to report it also do you know what would happen to me after the report would i be able to have them give up legal custody/ file a restraining order. Would i have to get a new legal guardian of some sort?

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    • ccsmod5
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      In regards to reporting the abuse, we are not experts on the issue but generally once it's been reported, social services will decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services). Normally they will try and talk to you first about where you would like to be placed, then verify if it’s a safe home. Then they will ask family, foster homes are usually the last resort or an emergency resort.

      If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • hello,
    today my family decided to go on a family trip but my mom and my dad were arguing and then my stepdad let out his anger on me so i tried to talk in a relaxing voice that he should calm down and he tried to hit me several times but my mom protected me. my sister doesnt even care. he stayed home and my mom and my sister are in the car with me. my mom said that she wants me to live somewhere else in a foster care or somewhere and she said if i want to call the police because of abuse i should go ahead and do so because they dont care about me and she said that she doesnt want me anymore. i am planning on contacting my friend but i feel like her parents will reject me. they both left me in the car and went shopping. is there anything i can do? i want to leave as well but i heard u need parental consent and now i’m not sure if my mom is willing

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there,

      Thank you so much for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We are so sorry to hear you are feeling isolated and unsafe at home. You deserve to be in a place that is filled with validation and love.

      If you are under 18 years old, the easiest way to leave home is with your mom's or legal guardian's permission. They can grant you full permission to stay with a family member, friend, or a transitional living program for young people (this is something we could help you find). If this is an option you want to continue to explore, it could be a good idea to consider what time of day, location, and mode of communication would be most effective to have a reasonable conversation with your mom. If you are unsafe, another option could be abuse reporting. This can be an overwhelming, but we would be happy to help you talk through it and support you through every step of the process.

      It seems as though you have been through a lot and we know it takes a lot of courage and strength to reach out for help or advice. If you would like to talk through any of these options we are here 24/7 offering confidential support. We can help you make a plan, and if none of these options seem viable, we may be able to help you talk through some alternate courses of action. You can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or live chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org). You deserve to feel safe and protected, and we are here to help in whatever way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS
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