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    Im a 15 year old girl ,, I absolutely do not think I can handle being in this family anymore. I'm mentally going crazy and I can't take it. I love my mother to bits but I absolutely despise the disgrace I call dad. I hate this man with a passion. He destroys my life. I'm so unhappy and it's been this way for years. I grew up bullied and depressed and it stay that way. I'm not bullied anymore because I snapped and started getting into fights but that's besides the point. I hate my life so much I wanna kill my self. I've tried multiple times and been hospitalized for it. The way my father has me on lock down is absolutely insane. Any time I could get out of the house I am. I'm so much happier when I'm out freezing in the cold with nothing to do and that says a lot. I'd rather be out in the snow then inside the house. I'm so miserable and every single day I wounder and think about leaving. But then I think more and realize it's dumb because i don't have money , a job, or a place to stay. Yes , my friends would love to take me in but they can't it don't work that way. I can't even explain what goes on in this house but my father makes me so crazy. I'd rather kill myself then live in this house for another three years I in all honesty do not think I could do it. I want to kno how to get out of this house and I have a responsible friend that's 18, had a job, and a place for me to stay ab would love to be my legal guardian and he sees how truley unhappy I am. Just in general not just with the house. But it's a lot on me. I hate myself I hate my life and I wanna die but I know for a fact that if I get out of this house and surrounding myself with people that make me happy I'll be so much better and I honestly think that my life long depression would end. I need to be in a better place I just cannot do this anymore. Why does it have to get to the point to where I'd rather kill myself then stay in this house ? No , I am not abused but that doesn't matter. I'm unhappy and miserable. I shouldn't need my parents consent if I want to be with someone else. If the person wanting to take me in is responsible , has a good future and good grades, has a job and a plan and is willing to provide for me and proves it I should be able to without they consent. It's ridiculous. It really shouldn't get to the point to where I wish I were dead that's terrible. It shouldn't get to the point where I have to change my name , my appearence, and my location to GEt away. That's so extra and it's terrible. I really can't be in this house. Is there any way that I could do that without they're consent ? Please give me hope . It shouldn't go this far. Every day the questions run through my head. Should I kill my self ? Should I just leave? It really shouldn't get to this damn point. I'm 15, and I'm not dumb. I'm actually a lot more mature than people my age because of the people I hang out with and grew up with. I was always rocking with the older crowd and my mental age is a lot older than I am. I be forgetting that I'm 15 , and so do my friends. I don't have the best grades in school But I play a lot of sports, and do other activities. My grades are only down because of home work. But please please please tell me there is some way to get this done without parental consent.
    Before you do anything, please contact a counselor. Maybe you are not doing something right. Let's compare apples to apples. Let's get all the facts before reaching a decision.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,
    Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation. Until you turn the legal age of majority in your state, you will need permission from your legal guardian to go stay anywhere else. We aren’t legal experts, but we have general knowledge about running away. In most states, running away isn’t illegal, but what is called a status offense. You can’t get arrested for it but it will mostly likely go on your record until you are 18. The police will only know if you have runaway if your parents/guardians file a police report. We can’t say for sure how the police will respond, but we hear a lot that police will take potential places you might be and will actively search for you. If they come across you, the most likely will return you home to your parents. Sometimes we hear that if you are staying with someone who knows you are a runaway and are not actively trying to return you or finding shelter for you, your guardians/or police can press charges against the people who are housing you, with something that is called harboring.
    We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our hotline ( 1-800-RUNAWAY) and chat are open 24/7.
    We hope this response was helpful! We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,
    Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation. Until you turn the legal age of majority in your state, you will need permission from your legal guardian to go stay anywhere else. We aren’t legal experts, but we have general knowledge about running away. In most states, running away isn’t illegal, but what is called a status offense. You can’t get arrested for it but it will mostly likely go on your record until you are 18. The police will only know if you have runaway if your parents/guardians file a police report. We can’t say for sure how the police will respond, but we hear a lot that police will take potential places you might be and will actively search for you. If they come across you, the most likely will return you home to your parents. Sometimes we hear that if you are staying with someone who knows you are a runaway and are not actively trying to return you or finding shelter for you, your guardians/or police can press charges against the people who are housing you, with something that is called harboring.
    We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our hotline ( 1-800-RUNAWAY) and chat are open 24/7.
    We hope this response was helpful! We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey.

    Tell us what you think about your experience!
    https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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    What if I want to live with my dad? Do I need her permission?

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    I was planning on moving with my dad not my friends family

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  • ccsmod6
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    Thanks for reaching out to us and telling us about what you’re going through. We’re sorry you’re having such a rough time at home. We’re here to listen and help the best way we can.
    You mentioned that you are thinking of leaving home to live with your friends’ family. Have you talked to your mom about staying with your friend’s family? You could ask her to stay there temporarily if she’d be ok with signing over temporary custody to them. You can go online and download a temporary custody form for your mom to fill out. She would have to have it signed by a notary to make it legal, but at least you wouldn’t need a lawyer or go to court.
    If you leave without your mom’s permission, that would be considered running away. Running away isn’t a crime and you can’t be arrested for it. But your mom could file a runaway report. If the police go to your friend’s house, your friend’s family could be charged with harboring a runaway which is a crime. There might be other options available depending on your situation. If you’d like to explore those, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out to us on our chat line. Hope this helps! Good luck and stay strong.

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    So my mom is very negative and jealous of everything that my dads mom does for me. She talks bad about her and constantly yell at me and it is really tough to handle being degraded and unaccepted by her and her boyfriend who is my and my dads cousin, all the time. She recently told me to stop asking my nana to buy me nice things because it makes everybody else in the house feel bad because they can’t afford nice things. It seems as though she would be happy that my nana cares that much for me. I have an older sister who is 17 years old and has quit 2 jobs so of course she can’t buy things that she wants. We fight all the time also. I’m treated like a stepchild and is always made to babysit my baby sister who is also my cousin. Pretty sick and twisted life, I know. My mom and her boyfriend are always drinking and smoking marijuana and she has had several abortions and miscarriages. I just want out. She is not a good examples for her daughters at all.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,
    Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation. If you call in to 1-800-RUNAWAY we could can discuss more in detail how we can best support you through this situation. It can be difficult to know how to talk to your parents and express your feelings about how you are feeling. We would encourage you to reach out to a trusted adult, teacher, relative, and friend that you can talk to and potentially help you mediate a conversation with your parents about your current situation. At NRS, we do offer a service call conference calling, where you can call into our hotline and then we would reach out to your guardian and help advocate for you, help you express the needs you have to your parents.

    You would need permission from your parents to go stay with your friend. If you go anyway, it can be considered running away. We aren’t legal experts, but we have general knowledge about running away. In most states, running away isn’t illegal, but what is called a status offense. You can’t get arrested for it but it will mostly likely go on your record until you are 18. The police will only know if you have runaway if your parents/guardians file a police report. We can’t say for sure how the police will respond, but we hear a lot that police will take potential places you might be and will actively search for you. If they come across you, the most likely will return you home to your parents. Sometimes we hear that if you are staying with someone who knows you are a runaway and are not actively trying to return you or finding shelter for you, your guardians/or police can press charges against the people who are housing you, with something that is called harboring. One of our main goals is to make sure you are safe, so if you ever seriously decide to run away and need shelter, resources, or a safe place to go you can find safe locations at nationalsafeplace.org or reach out to us directly and we can find local resources in your area.

    We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our hotline ( 1-800-RUNAWAY) and chat are open 24/7.
    We hope this response was helpful! We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey.

    Tell us what you think about your experience!
    https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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    what if my parents won’t let me live with a friend? what do I do?

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hey there, thanks for contacting National Runaway Safeline. It seems like you are going through something very challenging and I want to commend you for how strong and brave you have been this far. It is unfortunate that your father does not accept the way that you want to present yourself, your sexuality, and your friends. You deserve to be supported and accepted. It is not right that he threatens you and have people in your school stalk you. If you would like information about reporting any abuse, you can contact an agency called Child Help. Their website is childhelp.org. All of this seems to be affecting you quite a bit, as you mentioned you feel suicidal sometimes. It may be beneficial to contact an agency called the Trevor Project. This agency is a LGBTQIA+ Youth Suicide Lifeline. There, you can speak to some helpful people who assist others in situations similar to yours. If you would like more information and support, you can also contact the LGBT National Youth Talkline. Their number is 1800-246-7743. As far as living with your aunt, if it is something your aunt is in agreement with and your father would be willing to have you move out, you are more than willing. It may be beneficial to communicate with your circumstance to your aunt or mother in case they are willing to assist your or intervene in some way. Hopefully this information was helpful for you. As always, we are here to help and would love to talk with you further so, feel free to give us a call anytime at 1800-RUNAWAY.

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    Hello. For safety reasons I am using Jack as my name. I am 15 and I'm dealing with verbal abuse and threats on a daily basis. My father doesn't accept me being gay and wearing girly thing. I'm trying to go stay with my aunt but I can find anyone to help. I honestly want to just go with my mom and take my things to SC. He never knows the things that I do to get his approval. Everytime he catches me with girly earrings he takes them away and a few other things. He even threatened to embarrass me infront of my friends at school. He always says there not really my friends that I don't have any friends. I know there my friends. They always assure me that everything will be ok. He even went as far as having a girl at school stalk me and take pictures if I have on something girly. I can't take it anymore. I do feel suicidal sometimes. I just try to keep moving though. The one thing he threatened to do was take the bracelet that my dead boyfriend Benny gave me. If he takes that then I don't know what to do. I'm just scared he'll hurt me. He recently threatened now. He said "he would knock me out". I'm scared and just want to leave and never look back. I just want to stay with my aunt at this point cause anyone I stay with he has them or some stranger stalk me to take pictures if I have something girly. My aunt is the only person besides my fiends and understanding family members I trust. Please can someone just help me.

    singed Jack

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,

    It sounds like you are going through a lot right now, so we are glad you are reaching out to us because we are here to help! It seems like thigs have been strained with your parents for a while, but contacting us is a good first step in figuring out your options.
    No one deserves to be slapped and called a b word and other names, especially by a parent. While we don’t know the whole situation, some of the things you mentioned can be considered abuse. When those actions occur, you have the option to report those actions to the authorities if you choose to. The police can be called or you can file the abuse directly with Child Protective Services (CPS). After filing, an investigator would be contacted to look into the situation at your home. If you would like to learn more about your options of reporting, Child Help, the National Child Abuse Hotline can share more information on the reporting process at 1-800-422-4453. While every situation is different, in some cases police and CPS involvement can help to stop that type of abusive behavior. On our hotline (1-800-786-2929) we can also talk with you about abuse reporting and can even help you make the report if you feel comfortable doing so.
    If you do not feel comfortable reporting the abuse just yet, you may have other options as well. Have you talked to your mom about how you are feeling about those experiences? Being open about how you feel about the way your dad treats you or how your mom has been treating you lately may help her to see it from your perspective. Sometimes having someone advocate for you (like a family friend or relative) can help start the conversation. If you would prefer not to involve a relative or family friend but would still like some help talking to your mom, we offer a conference call service here at the National Runaway Safeline. Basically we would talk to you on the phone about your situation. We would then contact your mom and talk to her a little bit as well. We would then join the calls and remain on the line to keep conversation constructive. You can find out more about the conference call by calling our hotline at 1-800-786-2929.

    You also asked questions about leaving home. As we mentioned, we aren’t legal experts, but we can let you know that running away isn’t illegal, but is considered a status offense if you are under the age of adulthood (which is typically 18, but some states have different laws on adulthood). Basically, that means that if you leave home, your mom has the option of calling the police and reporting you as a runaway. As we said, running away isn’t illegal, so if you don’t have a previous record, then the police most oftentimes just bring runaways back home if they know where you are staying. Your mom may also have the option to press charges against anyone the takes you in as that may be considered “harboring a runaway.” If you were to leave home, do you know where you would go? Maybe close friends or relatives your mom would feel comfortable giving permission to? If your guardians give you permission (it usually helps to have it written – like a text message) you may be able to avoid any authority involvement at all.

    As we said earlier, we are here to help, but we are also here to listen. If you would like to discuss the options we mentioned above or would like to help brainstorm alternatives, please do not hesitate to call. We are here 24/7.

    Best of luck!

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    I’m 13 and can’t stand my mom and her fiancé. She is so negative towards everything no matter what it is. She is never in a good mood. She yells at me for literally everything and is always saying how she wishes I didn’t live here and how she can’t wait till I can finally leave. She is always asking me if I want to live with someone else but when I say yes, she starts screaming at me but when I say no, she does the same thing. She gets so pissed off for the smallest things. She hates me because I hate her fiancé. I hate him because he treats my mom like crap. He makes her do everything for him and makes her pay for everything. He has abused her before and he just denies it when anyone confronts him. My mom doesn’t care how he treats her, she just lets it happen. She is sooooo unhappy and everyone knows this but she won’t leave him. And then they had a baby together and now he really won’t go. He would leave for days or weeks at a time and come back and she wouldn’t care. When she is mad at me, I sometimes don’t want to deal with her so much that I don’t eat until school the next day, and I just sit up in my room and do nothing all night, and I don’t eat breakfast or lunch either, so I don’t eat anything...but that’s besides the point. But it does get annoying because I would like to eat but I don’t want to be around her and she makes it very clear that she doesn’t want to be around me. When she is mad, every time she sees me, she says something snarky or just starts yelling or just gives me complete attitude or ignores me. But if I ignore her while she is yelling at me, she screams at me even more. But she always says how everything is my fault and she doesn’t do anything wrong, and also saying that I’m such a horrible person and I’m so mean and that I’m just so terrible, so it’s really damaging my self esteem hearing this about me all the time, and my self esteem is already pretty bad. I don’t know what to say or do. All she does is talk crap about me. She literally always says that she wants me out, but won’t let me move out. I talk to my friend a lot of time about it and she said I could most likely stay with her. I know that it might put her family in a weird/difficult financial situation, but I’m getting a job when I turn 14 and I will try and get 2 jobs when I’m 16, so I could help out with that. And I know her parents don’t want to get in trouble if I just stayed with them without permission, even though that wouldn’t be possible. So I need advice on how to go live with her...I know it seems very jurassic, seeing I’m only 13 but I literally can’t live here anymore. I don’t want to kill myself because all my friends are amazing and I don’t want to die, but I just can’t live there. And I feel like if this continues like this, it might come to that point. But I rly rly don’t want that happen. So how do I have a conversation with my mom and him about this? How do I make this happen?

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS

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    Guest replied
    I don’t feel safe in my own home. I see things my parents can’t. I’m scared and Idk what to do

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