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  • I'm fifteen. My mom and dad decided to move from my home town when I was 8. During the travels (cause went so many places) my sister and I switched from school to school. Eventually we ended up in Portland but it was too late to put us in school cause it'd already been six months. So instead of trying to get us back on school, she just said ******** it. She's didn't want to loose us to the authorities. But now I'm still at a third grade level cause even though we were pressured to tell everyone we were having schooled, I never got taught anything. My sister "dropped out" we moved from Portland and now we live in the middle of no where with no cell seryser or running water and we live off a generator in a tiny camper. I hate it there. I have a boyfriend In town cause we go to town every Wednesday Friday and weekends. But it's not enough. I want to do things on weekdays but she won't let me. So I ran away and my bfs dad talked to her and she's letting me move put in the summer but I can't handle going back there tonight. (I stayed spring break with my bf) it's traumatizing having to go back there. My mom thinks the world's gonna end and constantly puts that and her religion before literally everything. I ********ing hate it there. I have a job. I pay for my cloths and phone bill by myself and I am more then capable of buying my own food too. Also both my parents panhandle for a living and have for years. When I was younger I'd go out with them to help them. I just want away. But I have my little brother to think about now. He's happy there and being taught so I don't want to get the authorities involved. I also don't want to go into states custody. And my sister ran away when she was fifteen my mom let her go to our home town to visit but she ran away when she was there so my mom told her that if she came back her boyfriend could run away here. So he did. And she just turned 16 when they moved into a van together. Later on he ended up sexually abusing me for two years so I can't stay with her cause I hate him so what do I do

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    • ccsmod6
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      Hi there, thank you so much for reaching out to NRS, we are here to help. You took a great first step by reaching out to us. It sounds like you are struggling to find a place to live safely where you can support yourself and have the freedom you desire, as well as basic necessities like running water, cell and internet service, etc. Although you have stated that you do not want to get the authorities involved, it’s worth mentioning that keeping a youth in school and providing a shelter with basic necessities like running water are a parent’s responsibilities, and your parents asking you to work instead of being in school and not provide you with proper shelter is considered neglect, which is abuse. One resource you may consider is Child Help, a national child abuse hotline that can help you learn a little more about this if you wish. The number for Child Help is 1-800-422-4453. Another thing you might be able to consider are Transitional Living Programs (TLPs), which are places that offer temporary housing for youth who need shelter. We can help you find some resources for TLPs local to you, but because this is a public forum we are unable to share specific resources here. If you would like to explore these resources more in depth, we are happy to do so via online chat or phone call. Feel free to reach us at any time, we are always hear to listen and to help!

  • Umm hi well my friend got kicked out and well I offered her my help but the thing is she is only 16 and I mean I’m 16 but we live in different states and I have talked to my parents already asking them if she could stay and they have agreed but how could we legally help her, if we just pay for her ticket here would we legally get in trouble? My parents are from Mexico so I wouldn’t want them to get in trouble with the law so but I still want to help her because she is my best friend what can I do?
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 04-05-2019, 01:14 AM.

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    • Reply: Umm hi well my friend

      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It’s very nice of you and your family to want and help out your friend. We are not legal experts so it’s not possible for us to give you legal advice. Since your friend was kicked out of her home by her parent’s she might consider contacting the police or child protective services for assistance. For help contact Child Help USA 422-4453.

      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Take care,
      NRS

      We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

      National Runaway Safeline
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      1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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      • I'm 15 and I'm always getting disrespected by my parents. Their very confusing I ran away for 4 weeks and stayed with my sister and have not been going to school because I'm letting my depression take over me there so much that they don't understand also things sometimes gets really violent with my mom’s boyfriend a lot I tried hurting myself 3 times and at this point I feel like the only way things will go away is if I die. She said she’ll sign papers and let someone take me. Could I get but in foster care if I wanted?
        Last edited by ccsmod4; 05-16-2019, 12:28 AM.

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        • I'm 18 and my brother is 16. We were adopted a few years back and at first things were good. But the past few years haven't really been that good. At one point our "dad" was physically abusive. CPS was called and they dismissed the case because there wasn't "enough evidence". so then he turned to verbal abuse. I've found myself depressed and feeling unworthy many times. I don't want my brother finishing out high school like I did, unhappy and feeling low. I see the sadness on his face. I asked him if he wanted to be here and he said no. We have both thought about committing suicide on multiple occasions. And i don't like seeing him miserable. Im ready to pack our bags and just catch a train or bus somewhere.

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            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
            Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
            If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
            We hope to hear from you soon.
            Be safe,
            NRS

        • Reply: I'm 15 and I'm always

          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

          From everything that you have been going through at home with your parent’s it took a lot of courage for you to reach out. We appreciate you sharing your feelings about the situation. Well done. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned that there has been incidents of violence and also that you resorted to self-harm. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. You are not at fault for any abuse against you. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

          For depression or suicidal thoughts you might consider contacting the National Suicide and Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

          Transference of custody can occur if a parent gives away their parental rights to the state or someone appointed by the courts. If you are at risk or feel unsafe you might contact Child Help USA at 422-4453 this is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
          You did a good job reaching out today.

          Stay safe and take care,
          NRS
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

          National Runaway Safeline
          info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

          Tell us what you think about your experience!
          https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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          • I’m 15 and I wanna live with an other family member because I’m tired of being pushed around and treated like crap. My parents are always screaming at me and telling me that I keep messing up and that I don’t care and always saying I should go live with my bio mom who is a druggy and my dad and my boyfriend don’t get along at all and I’m being put in the middle of it and idk how to handle the situation because he’s just trying to help me and my dad gets called out and he blows up on me

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            • ccsmod10
              ccsmod10 commented
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              Thank you for telling us your story and reaching out. It can be difficult telling others what has happened to you. We want you to know that no one deserves to be yelled at and made to feel that they are unwanted. You should not have to go through that. It can be difficult to manage situations like this and you don’t have to do it alone. One service we can offer is to conference call with your parents. This way you could have a conversation with your parents but you would not be alone. For example, it may be hard for you to explain to your how you feel about the things they say to you and why you want to live with another family member. Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for you. If you want to reach us, you can chat with us anytime.

              We’re not legal experts here at NRS. Generally it’s not illegal to leave home, but your parents could file a runaway report, the police could get involved, and they could bring you home. The people you’re staying with could potentially get in trouble for harboring a minor depending on your age. You could consider calling your local nonemergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state.

              If you don’t feel safe and feel like you need to get away Nationalsafeplace.org provides a safe location for you to meet a staff member who can take you to a designated place where you can discuss all options about how to stay safe. You can text 44357 the word “safe,” and your location to find a safe location in your area. Once you arrive let someone who works there know you need help connecting with a staff member.

              Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you would like to share more, please feel free to call our 24 hour hotline at 1-800Runaway (786-2929) or use our live chat. We hope this information was helpful and take care.

              Wish you the best
              -NRS
              Last edited by ccsmod10; 05-19-2019, 11:14 PM.
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