My step dad hit my mom

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Hi! Thanks for writing to us at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We know it can be anxiety-producing to reach out for support, and we’re proud of you for doing that! It sounds like you’re describing that there’s domestic violence at your mom and stepdad’s home. We aren’t legal experts, but we can explore options with you, offer emotional support, and offer resources in your area. If you would like to do any of that you are welcome to call us at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the CHAT button). We would be happy to look up counseling resources to help support you with the anxiety you’re experiencing, but like you shared – it sounds like the anxiety is based on context when you aren’t feeling safe.

You can learn more about Domestic Violence here (https://www.thehotline.org/identify-...ionship-abuse/) if you’d like, and might consider sharing this website with your mom when your stepdad isn’t around if that feels safe. It is, unfortunately, not uncommon for a perpetrator of abuse (your stepdad) to use power and control to convince the survivor of abuse (your mom) to continue the relationship. You might think about reading about how to create a safety plan here: https://www.loveisrespect.org/person...a-safety-plan/ at Love is Respect. Both of these websites also have online chat services and hotlines, if you are interested in additional support.

The emotions you’re experiencing are normal, and you were brave to reach out today! Even though it can be scary to tell someone what’s happening at home, you can also consider telling another trusted adult, teacher, school counselor, or the police. You deserve to be safe. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to us for additional support via Chat or Hotline.

My mom and my stepdad fight a lot and sometimes it gets violent I found out while visiting my dad she got my stepdad arrested for hitting her and holding her hostage with a gun in front of my little sister I was scared I didn’t wanna go back home but she told my dad that she had sole custody of me and I had to go home even though I didn’t want to A few days After he got out of jail she started seeing my stepdad again and forcing us to see him. she had put a restraining order on him temporarily but changed her mind when he said he wanted her back .She started seeing him in hiding because she thought she would get in trouble or that my real dad would find out because of the restraining order on my step dad . I don’t want to live with them anymore I want to live with my real dad but she doesn’t let me my dad tried going to court for me and I told the judge that I want to live with my dad that I don’t want to live with my mom anymore and that my dad can take better care of me. The judge isn’t listening to my dad or me I don’t know what else to do. I’m 13 and I get severe anxiety because of my mom and I don’t get like that with my dad and step mom. And because my dad went to court for me to get me away from my mom she’s refusing to let me see my dad and stepmom and brother and sister she tells them that I’m grounded takes away my phone and tells my dad A bunch of things to keep me away from them every time she gets mad. She’s always doing things to punish me and make me feel bad because I wanna be with my dad I’m scared to tell anybody the truth now because of what she does.

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Hi there,
Thanks for reaching out to NRS! It was really brave of you to share a little bit about what is going on. You can always call 911 if you feel like your life or someone else's is in danger. You should not have to deal with that at home. Another option is to have you or your mom reach out to the domestic abuse hotline. Their number is 800.799.SAFE (7233). They might be able to come up with options for how to handle the situation or other option you might not have thought about. They offer great support as well.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in.

Stay safe,
NRS

my step dad punched my mom, pulled her hair and put a gun to her head and said he was going to kill her in front of my 8 year brother and my family knows this but no ones does anything and I don’t know what to do.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

Hello, my names cassi im 12 years old...ive been dealing with stuff since i was 7 my step fathers been hitting my mom since i was 8 or 9? i found out that he was my stepfather at 11 due to both of my parents having gotten into a fight about something stupid and my mom told me out of anger...but my stepfather doesn't know my mom told me and i didn't think a stepfather would treat his daughter badly when he knows hes not my biological father...ive told my mother but she doesn't do anything....i cant even tell family members because they think that i dont know about my real father...my step father has pulled my hair, slapped me, and has done other unpleasant stuff...hes pushed my mother down the stairs when i was only 8...my moms tryed to leave but keeps coming back to him as you can see im in a difficult situation and i cant even tell anyone...yes theyre has been laughs along the way but i have to tell someone....

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. Wow we are sorry your mother is going through that and you have to witness that. Your safety and your mom’s safety is the top concern. One option to consider would be to contact 911 and let them know what is going on. You can also contact The National Domestic Hotline at 1800-799-7233.
We hope this information will be helpful in your situation. If you have any other questions or need to talk we are here for you. Best of luck!
NRS

My step dad beats my mom always and wounds her she also put frights in her

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Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like things are stressful and scary at your home, witnessing your stepdad’s abusive and threatening behavior toward your mother. You do not deserve to live in a threatening environment. It takes courage to reach out of help and we are here to assist and support you.

It is concerning that your stepdad abuses your mother and you mentioned you fear he may threaten her life. If you or anyone in your home feels unsafe or threatened, we encourage you to call 911 for emergency services. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is another resource available to you at (800) 799-7233 or www.thehotline.org. We here at NRS are available to help you through this challenging time by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chatting with us at www.1800runaway.org by clicking on the chat button.

Thank you again for reaching out to NRS, and we hope to hear from you. Stay strong and know that you are not alone.

Stay safe,

NRS

He wants to kill my mon

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Hey there,

We're sorry you're going through this. We understand it must be hard to watch your mom go through those things. If you feel like you or your mother are in danger, you can call the police. There also a National Domestic Violence Hotline, you or your mother could call, and their number is 1-800-799-7233. You mentioned your mom has tried to commit suicide. You could give her the number for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, and their number is 1-800-273-8255. You are extremely strong and brave. You are not alone. You can reach us any time because we are here 24/7.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

Stay safe,
NRS

I experience something very similar in my household, my stepdad is an alcoholic and forces my mom to drink. If she won’t he mentally abuses her and try’s to make her feel like she is nothing. When he gets her drunk he will just argue with her and try to make it seem like everything is her fault when she didn’t even start the argument. He also try’s and tel her that she is a worthless human being and it’s really hard to hear this because I already know about her depression. One time this lead to her trying to hang herself for him and one of his body’s to find her while she was hanging there just in time. My walls are completely hollow so I hear every word they say when they argue and I overheard my mom talking about how hit her and gave her a black eye. When I had asked my mom about it she said something like she slipped or walked into something I don’t fully recall what she said. But I am afraid of the situation getting worse considering he has already hit her once in the past and has attempted to commit suicide in the past. If you can please help me.

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We're sorry to hear your parents are fighting. It sounds like you're scared about what's going on and aren't exactly sure what to do. While we can't ever tell anyone what they should do, we can help you brainstorm some ideas to help you figure out for yourself what might work in your circumstances. Some ideas might be to talk to your mom or dad about how you feel. Approaching them when the situation is calm and they are in a good mood might be a good idea. If you're uncomfortable with directly talking to them, you could write them a letter explaining your fears and concerns. Of course, many find writing itself to be a healing process. Understandably, this situation has greatly affected you and, no matter what the outcome is, journaling your thoughts and feelings might be something to consider.

If you feel the fights include things like abuse or domestic violence, you could file a report detailing what's happening, particularly how it is affecting you. The more details you include, the more likely you would be believed. But this is really your decision and we understand it's a sensitive topic.

If you'd like to talk more about this, we are here for you 24/7. We are confidential and never judge. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat with us online via our website: www.1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon!

Take care,
NRS

My step dad and mom are constantly fighting and im afraid of what happens beyond close doors where i can only hear whats happening.But the problem is hes a very trusted man in the city and one of the best police officers so i dont kniw if i would to report him, would they even believe me?

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Hello There,
Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. Wow it sounds like you are going through a really difficult time. It sounds like you may not be in a safe environment.
What you described with your brother could be physical abuse, which is never okay. If you would like to make an abuse report please contact The Child Help Hotline at: 1800-422-4453. We know that sometimes making an abuse report can be scary if you would like our help you can contact us at any time.
Your step dad should also not be giving your mother a black eye. That is considered domestic violence. You can contact the domestic violence hotline at: 1800-799-7233. If you ever feel like you are in immediate danger please call 911, and an officer will be able to help you. You may also consider talking to a trusted adult or a school counselor about what is going on at home.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to talk please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS