Moms new boyfriend

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my mom recently told me that she was getting a divorce from my dad. the same night she told me that she was seeing a new guy and we were going to spend the weekend with him and his kids.It was great at first, and i tried pretending that i was happy but i really wasn't . It kept getting to me, and my mom was making me feel guilty for being sad. she kept saying that for once she was happy and i needed to dela with that. i cant understand why she started dating so early. literally wihtin ten minutes. well its four weeks later and her boyfriend and his kids, just spent the weekend with us and went home yesterday. this time was good, except for yesterday afternoon. i dont really like this guy at all, and he said something that really irritated me." i wish your daughter would stop b****in, kids get your stuff together, get everything, we don't wanna make her any more mad". At first he said it was calm, then it got real sarcastic and angry. i came out of my room, and told him he was an ass****, then threw an empty bottle at him out of anger.he then ran up to me grabbed my wrists and attacked me. no joke. he wouldnt let me go, and was telling me there was nothing i could do about him being with my mom,he didnt give a d**n about me or how i feel, and that my dad wasn't "glorious" and i needed to accept that. the whole time my mom tried telling him to get off me, and he wouldnt, but finally i got free and went outside. this really upset me. i know that i did wrong by throwing something at him, but at the same time hes an adult. i dont get why he did that. i have bruises all over my arm.my mom sad he did it out of anger, but when you get physically hurt thats where i draw the line.plus, i couldnt go to school today becuase my moms afraid that im going to tell somebody. thats when i know it wasnt just trying to restarin me.im not allowed to tell my grandparents about this guy, becuase they dont like him. im literally trapped in this situation and i dont know what to do.

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Re: Moms new boyfriend

Thanks so much for writing in. It sounds like you’re dealing with an extremely difficult situation right now. It must have been hard not only dealing with the recent divorce of your parents but also the fact that your mom has brought new people in to your family so quickly. It’s not fair that your mom is putting you in a situation were you do not feel comfortable. You mentioned that she started seeing her boyfriend almost immediately after the divorce with your dad. How did you feel when you knew your mom and dad were getting divorced? Are you close with your father? Have you been able to talk with him about this situation at all? You mentioned having grandparents, but that your mom doesn’t want you to talk with them about the situation because they don’t like her new boyfriend. It sounds like the incident that happened this weekend really upset you, and understandably so. While it sounds like you realize you got angry and did something you didn’t mean to, your mom’s boyfriend had no right to put his hands on you. Do you feel like this is something that would happen again? What did your mom have to say after the incident happened? It’s completely understandable all of the feelings you are having right now and not necessarily knowing what to do about it. If this is something that happens again or you are feeling unsafe when he is around you have every right to tell someone about it. Whether it is a friend, teacher, or other family member. Also if you feel you need to speak to someone but don’t feel comfortable telling someone close to you, you can always give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are a completely confidential hotline and there is someone here to listen 24 hours a day. If you just need to vent about the situation or talk about possible options we are here. In the meantime stay safe and take care.