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  • It's Complicated And I Don't Know What To Do And I'm Only 16...

    So a while back, CPS started investigating my family, because my stepmom failed a drug test at the doctor. I was led to believe that it was only a test for weed (which I personally have no issues with) and that everything would be fine. My uncle from my stepmom's side, his girlfriend, and 3 kids were living with us. We did not inform CPS of this, because my uncle said he did not want involved nor his kids to get wrapped up in it. So, to CPS, the only inhabitants of my home are me, my biological father, stepmom, and 2 sisters from my dad and stepmom. I am currently in another state with family from my dad's side at the moment and have to go home soon.
    As of last night, I was absolutely blind-sighted and now I don't know who or what to believe. My uncle's girlfriend texted me and informed me that my "parents" have kicked them out. Apparently the situation was so bad, they had to have the police go back to my family's home just to get their own stuff to move out. According to my uncle's girlfriend, my stepmom went as far as to go through and keep most their stuff as well as break most of what she let them keep. When my uncle's kids were packing their things to leave, my stepmom threatened to burn down the house and she swung on my uncle. Later my little cousin told me that my stepmom was screaming help in he middle of the street and that my uncle had hit her.
    Upon being informed of this I was also told the REAL reason CPS began investigating. The drug test my stepmom failed was for Meth. While my dad passed his drug test, he had only cleaned out his system before the test to pass it and is also hooked on Meth. My Dad, of all people, I would never imagine to do this. According to my source, my stepmom has been on it since last March and it is part of the reason as to why my dad quit his oil rig job, along with my stepmom cheating on him. I was also told that now she has been cheating on him again and he has started cheating on her..
    My stepmom apparently has been taking classes and by the time her and my Dad need to be seen in court on the 27th, she will be halfway done. My Dad (unaware of me thinking/knowing they are on meth) says he has everything handled and I need to be home soon to talk to a man from CPS before their court, because I missed a house visit. I am scared that my Dad does not have a grip on this like he thinks he does. My uncle and his girlfriends are pretty sure me and my little sisters will be taken from our home.
    Here is where my main problem lies... This past Tuesday, my biological mom called me and asked me whats going on because she has been called by the cps from my state to appear in court and that they are concerned about my welfare. We think they may put me in her hands, seeing has she does still have some form of custody over me despite the divorce and not seeing her since I was 8 years old. Now, while i am aware that i am blindly going on verbal information, my uncle and his girlfriend have never lied to me. In the past, anything they have ever said about something going on that I am kept from has turned to be true. Knowing what I know now, I want to live with my biological mother. She has agreed that I can, she'll help me find a summer job, I will have everything I need in a stable environment, and she has an extra room. In her home, to my knowledge, is her, my half-brother, and a lot of pets. Living with her seems like the best option I can have for myself at this point.
    My Dad says he does not want or need her in court. He says if she is there, he will fight dirty and unfair. He clearly does not want me to live with her and will put up a major fight if I try to. I have been thinking of telling the CPS guy everything and that I would rather live with her and be in a stable environment. Me and my stepmom rarely get along. We fight a lot and things can sometimes escalate. Once a few years ago, she locked me on half of the house (which contained my room, a garage, and gaming room) after completely destroying it and us getting into a screaming match in which she had me between her and a wall, threatening me with YOC for no reason, punching the wall next to my body and head, and the fight ended with her pushing me onto my bed (which was only a mattress on the floor at the time). She left afterwards and I ran to a friends house after finding a way out. From there I called the police. My stepmom showed up mad, officers had to hold her back at first, but I ended up going back home with police saying they can't do anything, because they aren't CPS. On the way home, my Dad had a serious talk with me on the phone (he was at work on an oil rig). My fights with my stepmom are mostly along the lines of her being in my face, throwing things, screaming at me, sometimes physical contact, and usually ends with me having a panic or anxiety attack on the floor. Other than this, our home is not financially stable at the moment. Since my dad quit his oil rig job, things have only continued to get worse and worse with money, fighting,, etc.
    I do not want to be there anymore. If i inform CPS that my biological mother is much more stable and suitable, will I have a likely chance of living with her or will i only make things worse for myself? I am very scared. Usually i am careful with what I say to CPS, because I don't want to say the wrong thing, but with everything building up like this, I can not stand to be there anymore. I love my dad, but he has broken promises and lied to me for a while now. I am very tired of walking on eggshells and just want a better life at this point. I've been clean of self-harm for a while now, but the environment at home definitely is not helping one bit. I need a way out and into safety.

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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are here 24/7 to listen and to support.

    We're sorry to hear about all that you have faced in so many capacities and want you to know that you deserve to feel safe and happy in your home, no matter where you live. You deserve to live in a stable place without fear from violence or drugs. We are not legal experts, and it could be hard to say what might happen based on what you tell CPS, but you could reach out to Child Help 1-800-422-4453 to ask those questions. They can help you walk through your options and talk about the different possibilities of who could gain custody over you.

    We can also be reached at 1-800-786-2929 if you want to talk to a liner about other options like an alternative living situation or a liner helping mediating a conference call between you and your step mom or any other family member. But Child Help could help you think through your rights as a minor and help more with your current situation.

    Stay safe,

    Last edited by ccsmod1; 06-17-2018, 12:36 AM.
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