My "parents" hate me and I hate them.

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I'll start with some background info. I'm a 17 year white male, I have never had a girlfriend and I do not have sexual attractions, I have a younger sister and two younger brothers, my mother and father split up but never divorced through law, and I know my mother cheated on my father with her now current boyfriend who is my "stepfather". I have some anxiety and depression but nothing major, but I'm easily angered and I become somewhat of a threat when angry. I make really good grades in school and I'll be a senior at a new high school after summer. Now here's where the problems start. My mother doesn't let me have any form of social media or contact with friends outside of school. My siblings and I are not allowed to leave our bedrooms and we can not go into the living room or the kitchen. My mother and her boyfriend always critiscize me and my siblings also my mom's boyfriend pops my brothers. They both smoke but my mother denies that she does. I want to get a job but they refuse to let me get one and they waist money by buying themselves new phones and expensive food but they never eat half the food and it gets thrown out. I have to clean the dishes, floor, and take out the trash. My mother works at an old people's home but her boyfriend doesn't have a job though they both claim that he works construction sometimes. If I try to speak out against my mother she tells me to shut up and stop backtalking. I honestly thought about killing myself and or my "parents" but I worry for my siblings and my geckos. If i try to speak to my mother about anything she starts threatening to ground me from video games. I really need help soon. Please.

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We know it takes a lot of strength. It sounds like you’re going through a really difficult time and are in need of some resources and support.

You mentioned that you feel anxious and depressed and that you’ve thought about killing yourself. You’re safety is our top priority and we are here to help. Don’t hesitate to reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. One option is also calling the police if you’re in immediate danger. We know that this is a very tough situation, but please know that you are not alone and we are here for you.

It sounds like you are unhappy with the way your parents treat you and feel that they are too controlling. If you think that what your experiencing is abuse of any kind, you have the option to report that abuse. If your immediate safety is threaten, don’t hesitate to call the police. You can also reach out to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 or visit childhelp.org. You can also call us at 1-800-Runaway and we would be happy to help you through the process.

If you don’t think this treatment is abusive or you would rather not file and abuse report, consider speaking with a trusted adult, like a school counselor.

If you have any questions or would just like to talk, we are a 24/7 hotline and here to help.


Best,

National Runaway Safeline

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I am a female 16 years old and at highschool. I feel that my parents favor my younger siblings more because they are more responsible and received honor awards at middle school. I don't know who is worse. My mom often makes insensitive comments and calls me stupid and an idiot since I am not good at math and history. My dad always finds a way to ruin my day and nevers listen. Sometimes I convince myself that my real family gave me up and this is my adopted family. When they scream I freeze up inside because I'm terrified they'll hit me or something.My dad once threw a remote at me when my cousins were over. And when they push my buttons I release this tsunami of anger,tears, and screams the neighbors could probably hear. My mom says its not good but I don't care. They never cared when I tried to ask them if I had depression or anxiety. My dad says I'll end homeless from bad grades and such. That's never going to happen as I plan to end my life and the pain no one sees. I'm blamed for anything that happens such as a fight or spoiling the mood on a vacation. As soon as I'm old enough, I plan to be euthanized alone. This is how I've always felt as even my closest friends are leaving me. The world would be a better place without me.

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Hello,

You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
Take care,
NRS