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    I live with my mom and dad, and my younger sister. All of them seem to have some sort of mental problems. Both of my parents refuse to admit that they're wrong all of the time, rather resorting to "not talking about it" or guilt-tripping, which are narcissistic qualities.
    Mom: Can't be wrong, constantly cries to guilt-trip and get attention, blames me for her problems, claims that I'm starting drama when she gets annoyed out of no where, etc. etc. Only concerned about other peoples' perceptions of her.
    Dad: Is an actual man-child. Throwing screaming, stomping, whining temper-tantrums like a four-year old. Once hit me across the face (to which my mother and sister said I deserved it) when I stated that I didn't like what we were having for dinner, then proceeded to say that I must have beat myself up when CPS got involved after I showed marks. Constantly screams out of no where, and hits pets when they don't do what he wants (more than light spankings, the animals "cry" and claw their way from his hands)
    Sister: Sociopathic. Shows no sympathy or empathy for anyone. Is my parents' golden child, who can do no wrong. Pulls knives and other general weapons when angry. Once threw a sharp nail file at my face as a throwing knife and pulled a knife when I had friends over (successfully cutting one of them). I got in trouble for this incident.

    When I was about 10 to when I was almost 12 (two years), my parents forced me into therapy for getting angry often (and screaming, which I adopted from my father's bad habits). The therapist calmed me down over the years, but never found any actual reason to test me for mental disorders, which my parents wanted me in for. My parents continued to spend way too much money just so they could figure out "what's wrong with me," and want to do it again.
    I am constantly screamed at and blamed for anything. Despite my sister's tendencies to draw weapons (flashlights, medals, nail files, knives, rulers, ropes, belts, etc), they always assume that I must have provoked her. I have legitimately no clue what could have happened to make them think so poorly of me, although I no longer have any desire to fix my relationships with them. My parents are a lost cause.

    As stated above, CPS has come to my home. They tried to fix us, which never worked. My parents directed any and all ideas about fixing things towards me, to "fix" me instead. One woman who came in fell for my parents' fake charisma, and without any actual basis, suggested I be put in therapy (much to my parents' delight). I am a very strong person, but every single time that woman came to our house, I ended up sobbing. I **hate** her. The other woman was very kind and understanding, and saw right through my parents and the other woman. You know, actually doing her job. However, she never pulled through for any actual help, such as removing me from the home, which is really the only option by now.

    I'm only 13, but this is the only option. I want to continue to go to school, at the high school I'm attending now if possible, but I don't know where to go. I could stay with a friend, as I do have very good connections to people with very good parents, but I'm not sure if that's legal. I doubt my parents would care, they would just do what they always do: act how they know they're supposed to act. I tried to run away when I was 10, in 5th grade, too, but I never made it. My parents, sure enough, acted how they were supposed to until nobody else was around. Afterward, they never brought it up or cared. I can't make money, and I don't think I could get cheap hotel/motel rooms. I don't know what to do. Thanks for reading this long thing♥

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    RE: Psychologically Messed-Up Family, CPS No Help??


    Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). From what you shared, it sounds like you have been through some really difficult times with your family. It seems as though you have reached out for help but have not received the help or response you were hoping for which we imagine is disappointing and angering. You mentioned being hit before which concerns us. You do not deserve to be mistreated or harmed in any way. Understandably, we imagine you feel unsupported by CPS based on past experiences, however, if you are still in a situation where your safety or well-being is being jeopardized, you do have the right to contact them and make an abuse/neglect report. Sometimes multiple reports tends to prioritize the case and can have someone out to your home within 24 hrs. We can help with this if you called in or chatted with us.

    Regarding running away and staying with a friend, we are not legal experts but there is a risk for your friend and their family of being charged with harboring a runaway. If you are needing a place to stay if you left home, we do have a database of resources where we can locate a runaway/youth shelter in your area. This would allow you to get out of the house for a little bit and talk to a shelter counselor/caseworker about what is going on and get some help.

    If you would like to talk more and receive some contact numbers or even needed assistance contacting a shelter or agency, please reach out by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us through our website

    We hope you stay safe and wish you well. We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,

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