This ISNT the life

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Ok so I've never really done this... But, all me and my mother do is fight (verbally) and she constantly makes me feel like garbage... I'm 16 almost 17 and i really can't take her drama anymore. Not only that but me and my biological dad DO NOT get along. I live in Washington, i need to know if there is any way (besides parental consent or emancipation) to get out of this household. I have friends that would be willing to let me move in. Or can someone talk to her, tell her that what she does may seem like a good idea but the most it does is ruin our "connection" and honestly makes me despise her rule in the house. Please i really need help. Thanks to whomever responds. -Annie_The_Wolf (PS both of my parents are divorced and remarried.)

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re: This ISNT the life

Hi there,

It sounds like you're in a tough situation and we're really glad you got in touch. Sometimes a Mom means well, but just isn't able to to communicate in a way that a young person can hear or understand it well. Sometimes it helps by speaking directly to your Mom about your concerns on this, maybe at a time when neither of you is upset about something. Have you considered this or tried it? If that hasn't worked, is it possible there is an adult that you trust that your Mom might also listen to -- perhaps an aunt, or a neighbor, or a counselor at school? If there are families that you could live with that might be a possibility, but your Mom would ultimately have to give permission for that. In that event, something to consider is that her response might be more positive if you bring up the idea after having talked to her about the problem previously, perhaps with help from another adult to help facilitate.

And by the way, we can also help you with that -- as one option we can do a conference call with you and your Mom where one of our liners helps to facilitate the call (perhaps you would call us from a friend's house); you would want to call at a time when you know your mother is available. Another possibility is that we could deliver a message (which we would help you word) for you to your Mom, expressing your concerns in a positive way, that might help get the conversation started. Just give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY if you'd like to pursue either of these options. The person you talk to won't know you've posted this message, so you will have to explain what you want.

We're really glad you wrote, and wish you the best!

NRS