Im tired of fighting and i dont know how much more fighting i can do.

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Me and my mom have always had our own kind of relationship. But when i started dating this boy at the beginning everything was good but then towards the end of my relationship everything went bad. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression. My parents thought it was because of my relationship with my "boyfriend" now my ex boyfriend. But I tired to explain to them that this breaking point that I was hitting was all because of him. My parents are strict like super strict and they put a lot of pressure on my to and then I had school and then my relationship everything was overwhelming me. So when me and my ex broke up i was taking medication for my sickness. I had this guy friend i met when i was dating my ex. We were in contact a lot but it was very mutual there was nothing more to it. But when me my ex broke up me and this guy got a lot closer to each other. We began to get feelings with each other and we started talking. We have been talking for 4 months now. My mom knew about this but we didn't talk about it because she didn't approve of it. I understood that she thought that i wasn't ready to get in a relationship i wasn't and still am not stable enough but i honestly am. I am 17 years old and he is 15 i know wow the age difference but that's not the problem. My mom just sees him as this bad person because hes not what she wants him to him. I understand where shes coming from but i don't know how to just let someone i have spent so much time sharing my feeling and thoughts with that person and let them go. This person has gone through my sickness he was my rock and my mom just sees it as if i need him but its not that way. So lately for some reason my life feel is falling apart every day. when i think it cant get worse it does. I just don't know what to do i just want to be happy with this guy and i want my household to be ok again i want to be able to come home and feel comfortable i have never dreaded coming home so much and it sucks. i just don't know what to do because i know that if i leave this person i will suffer but will my mom happy but is that really how i want to live unhappy and im scared i will end up resenting my parents for making me leave him. i dont want to be here anymore.

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RE: Im tired of fighting and i dont know how much more fighting i can do.

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like things at home are causing a tremendous amount of stress and making you feel overwhelmed to the point that you don't even want to be at home any longer. It seems you are just wanting to feel supported and understood. It appears that you have found a connection with someone who understands and gets you, but the relationship seems to have brought up some issues with your mom. Oftentimes, it is helpful to talk to someone other than a family member or friend for some insight and perspective on things. This can be with a school counselor, therapist, or other agencies that provide unbiased, nonjudgmental support. We are here to listen and provide some help on your current situation which seems to have left you feeling conflicted. If you can reach out by phone or chat, we would love to talk more with you and explore ways that can help improve your current situation. Other helpful things can be to dabble in hobbies or interests to take your mind off of the tension. Sports and exercise tend to be a good release of stress as well. We can help explore other ways of coping as well if you would like. We are just a phone call or chat away.

We wish you well and look forward to your call or chat soon!

Take care,
NRS

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Family Problems

I have tried to talk to a concealer i have before but i feel like all i do is complain and no one understands me and i feel so alone. I feel so much pressure i have never not wanted to come home and now i dread it i wait at school for like 10 min before i start walking home with the boy and he drops me off at the corner so my mom doesn't get upset with me. I know where my mom is coming from but i don't know what to do i am so lost and i don't know what to choose i have asked so many people what they thought and my friends told me to do what makes me happy but then i think about whatever makes me happy makes my parents unhappy. I honestly don't know what to do i am so lost and helpless i am so overwhelmed and living in this house doesn't make it better. I don't know where to turn to who to talk to and how to make this better.

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RE: Family Problems

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you may be feeling conflicted because your expectations seem to be different from what your parents and family want for you. And it seems you have reached out for help and understanding but feel misunderstood and alone. We want you to know that we are here to listen and to help. It can be difficult to find balance making yourself and others happy. What may be helpful is talking more about what it is that makes you happy and finding ways to be able to achieve that level of happiness. If you felt unsupported by a counselor you spoke with before, then it may help to find another that you feel better connected with. Therapeutic relationships can sometimes be similar to personal relationships where you find yourself not connecting as well to some as opposed to others which is a common thing many people experience. Giving it enough time to realize that you are still feeling unsupported can then mean maybe trying to explore another professional to speak to or even bringing the topic up and letting them know you feel a certain way about the services provided. School counselors may vary from a therapist in the type of care they are trained to provide you with. If you have a specific concern or issue you would like to work on, then it may require a different level of care or treatment. If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore some resources for counseling, we would be happy to help in any way we can.

Our services are free, confidential, and nonjudgmental. We can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through chat via our website www.1800runaway.org.

We wish you well and look forward to your call or chat soon!

Take care,

NRS

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running away

My Mom is a single Mom and I understand that it could be stressfull for her but it has been a point where I have realized that she is emotionally abusive. Ever since I was younger I knew she was manic deressent but lately she has been having really bad episodes. I know i do stuff wrong and I have did a lot of accidents but still no other parent would act this way. She screams all the time and she always tells me how im a ********** and a slut and that she hates me and my brother. however last night when my grandparents were over it was truly terrible. She started screaming at my grandfather who has dimentia because he picked up a phojne call from his daughter, and then she started going off on me. Later she asked for towels and i gave her regular towels instead of dish so she ran upstairs and took my ipad and soaked it under the sink. I went carzy because she always complains about money and she literally took a $500 ipad and threw it in the trash. A couple weeks ago I rode my brothers bike to my friends house because i dont have a bike and it got stolen so lately shes been telling me how irrisponsible and how im a selfish ********** that doesnt care about anyone else. Later that night she kicked me out of the house because I told her she needs to get help. She literally kicked me and started laughing because I didnt even have shoes on just my volleyball uniform. My grandma let me stay at her house but I know if I stayed here even longer it would be too much. I want to run away but I dont know where. My Dad is emotionally and sometimes physically abusive thats why I dont see him anymore. There is no where else and I really dont know what to do.

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re: running away

Hello-

Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We are very sorry to hear that life at home has been turbulent. It is understandable that you are considering running away to escape your mother’s manic behavior. No one deserves to experience abuse, whether it’s emotional, physical, or verbal abuse.

You mentioned that you want to run away. If you definitely decide to run away, we suggest having a set plan to ensure you stay as safe as possible. In your plan you should know where you are going, how you will get there, and how you will survive once you arrive. If possible, take a cell phone with you so you are able to call someone in case of an emergency. It is also helpful to have a backup plan in case your original plan does not work out.

While figuring out a runaway plan, it is also important to know what could happen if you did run away. If you are under the age of 18, your legal guardian has the right to do whatever they can to bring you back home. From what you have mentioned, it seems as if your mother is your legal guardian. If you do decide to run away and your mother is your legal guardian, she could call the police and file a runaway report. At that point, if the police know where you are, they will go pick you up and take you back home. It is not against the law to run away so you would not get into any legal trouble, but the police would make you return home. If you runaway and stay with someone over the age of 18, your mother could also press charges against that person for harboring a runaway. Again, these are all things that could happen.

You also mentioned that if you did runaway, you are not sure where you would go. Sometimes in situations such as these, it would help to talk to someone you trust about what is going on at home. This could be a friend or family member you feel comfortable talking to. You did mention you were able to stay with grandma at one point, she might be a good person to try and talk to. Another option you could try is a school counselor. If you have no one you feel ok talking to, you could talk to us. We would love to talk to you about what is going on at home. With more information we could provide you the support you are looking for and help you come up with options on how to deal with the situation. We are available 24/7 and are a confidential hotline. You can reach us at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). If you do not feel comfortable talking on the phone, you can also talk to us through our online chat. Our chat services are available on our website www.1800runaway.org and are available Monday-Sunday from 4:30 pm to 11:30 pm.

We wish you the best of luck and hope to hear from you soon!

We look forward to your call or chat.

Best of luck to you,

NRS