I'm 18 and I want to move away.

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My life at home is not great. My parents have always judged me. I'm never aloud to go out. My mom will always take out her anger on me when others make her mad. Shes slapped me before because shes mad at others. I cant talk to them about anything because when I do they always have something negative to say. My dad always fills my moms head with crazy ideas and whenever I do anything he over reacts. Im the oldest so they expect a lot but also put a lot of pressure on me. At school, I don't have many friends, because of choice , I try to talk to my mom about it but all she does is laugh and make fun of it. They want me to be a nurse, they even disagree with what I want to be. Im going to a community college because they didn't allow me to apply for a 4 year. I just picked up a minimum wage job and win about $800 a month, they talk about how I need to give them half my check because of all they do for me I also have to pay for my phone, college, and when I get my car i'll have to pay for insurance all with half a check. But why pay to be somewhere I don't want to be ? Ive been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and a half, we met young and were still together. He also has a job and also has family problems so we both want to just move away. I would really do it but Im afraid of having to go back home because I couldn't do it. I graduate next month and I have no money saved because of my senior year. What can I do? Im tired of being home. Ive tried to talk to them but it doesnt help

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Hello,
Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you cannot get your parents to agree with anything that you want to do. Getting people to agree on big life decisions can be a daunting task but it could be helpful to make a list of pro’s and con’s as well as understanding things that you are willing to compromise on. Keeping in mind that you are 18 and at this point you are considered an adult and are in charge of yourself.
We know that you mentioned that you have tried talking to them but it feels like it doesn’t help. One thing that we think might be of some use is our conference calling service. This is a service where you would call us and we would hold a conference call between you and your parents to talk about how both sides are feeling. We would serve as mediators, we are not here to necessarily choose sides but rather help come up with a solution that would make the situation at home better. This might be helpful to you if you have concerns about your parents not listening or not being open to hear what you have to say. If you feel like this is a service that you would find useful you can give us a call and one of our trained liner will be happy to assist you. 1-800-786-2929
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