15 and on the verge of running away

[valentina.ryle]

i'm 15 and i'm really wanting to runaway because my dad is constantly putting me down and making me feel like failure. plus, my parents don't give me any freedom to do anything. everything is controlled by them and it irritates me.

[ccsmod3]

Re: 15 and on the verge of running away

Hello and thanks for reaching out on our online forum. We’re very sorry to hear your dad is constantly putting you down and making you feel like a failure. You deserve to feel safe and supported at home and unfortunately that doesn’t sound like the case at the moment. We imagine it’s frustrating on top of not being given any freedom to do anything. It sounds like you would like to gain more independence; however, your parents are seeing the situation differently.

We aren’t in a position to tell you to run away or not, but at the same time we realize many young people feel no other choice. We can discuss pros and cons and talk to you about your safety should you decide to run. If you’d like to discuss things further please don’t hesitate to try out our Live Chat. Best of luck!

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I'm about to explode

My mother is really overprotective over me. There are a ton of rules that she placed over me that are stupid and I don't agree with them. For example, I'm not allowed to take my phone into the bathroom. Not even to listen to music while I fix my hair. And she hates my boyfriend. She always talks about him behind his back and makes fun of him. She said that he was stupid and that if we got married and had kids that my kids would have bad genes since he had bad genes. She rarely let's me see him. Maybe twice a month if I'm lucky. I saw him 5 times this summer and it was only to go see a 2 hour movie. She is constantly hanging over me and pressuring me to do better. I have to make straight A's. If I make a B I'm grounded. My little brother recently got a television in his room. I have been asking for one since I was 5 and he got one before me and for no reason. Now all he does is sit in his room and watch TV and play his XBox while I do my chores and clean up after him and everyone else. I'm constantly working and if I take a small break my mom says I'm lazy and need to work. I've asked her since she thinks I need to work if I could get a job at ************ this next summer. She told me that she didn't want to waste her gas to drive me to town. (We live in the middle of nowhere) she'll call me fat whenever I want a snack and she'll call me a ***** because I fixed my hair a certain way. And there's a lot more that happens that it's all blending together. I'm currently 14 and turn 15 in March. I want to run away when I'm 17 because the police won't track you down at that age or something like that. I've been reading websites and trying to find a solution and this is the best I can come up with. To run away. I'm already saving up money and I've told a friend and she supports me because I tell her everything she says. I'm just so tired of all the verbal abuse and just ready to get out. The only reason I'm still living here is because my boyfriend means the world to me and if I leave now Ill be found by the police and go to prison and won't be able to talk to him. He's my anchor right now, but even anchors eventually fall off the chain and the ship floats away. I just really need help to get through these next 128 weeks and 2 days.

[ccsmod6]

RE: I'm about to explode

Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are feeling pretty overwhelmed and stressed at home. From what you shared, it seems you feel your mother has some strict rules and high expectations that prevent you from having some freedom and independence. We imagine that this may be making it quite difficult to deal with. If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore some options and resources available to you, please reach out to us at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or contact us through chat.

We look forward to your call or chat and wish you well.

Be safe,

NRS