My parents make me want to kill myself

[Guest]

I don't know if anyone will even see this, but I need somewhere to vent... My mom is addicted to narcotics, a liar, and she is extremely abusive. Just the other day, she attacked my brother, scratched his neck and left a cut on him. He pushed her away in self-defense and she called the police on him. The reason for their altercation is because she has an obsessive, vitriolic hatred for my aunt (her sister) and my brother sat in the same car she did when they were both offered a ride home. He told my mom that I was inviting my aunt to my upcoming graduation, and the woman went insane. She started off telling me that she wasn't coming to my graduation if my aunt was coming. Then she started telling me how I'm ungrateful because she took me on vacation and bought me video games when I was young, and how she worked (keyword: worked) hard to "raise" me, and how instead of "taking care of me" (quotes because she hasn't taken care of me since I was 15. I cook her dinners, I take care of her when she overdoses on her drugs. She literally has never had a clue about how long I've been depressed and suicidal because of her) she should have spent her money on her own nails and clothes and shoes, instead of doing anything for me, and how I'm "choosing" my aunt over her (mind you, I never once told my mother she couldn't come to my graduation). She told me I had to choose who comes, it has to be her or my aunt. I told her that I wasn't going to choose, because whoever wants to support me on my graduation day will show up so long as they have their tickets. She then yelled at me, "NO IT'S NOT MY F***** CHOICE" and then proceeded to tell me how I'm a piece of sh** child and that she wishes she would have aborted me because she feels "so hurt and disrespected." Now she has decided to kick me out since I supposedly believe that my aunt is my mother. She has disowned me and given me three months to leave her house. She keeps coming into my room to yell at me, and even in the morning when I have to leave to catch the bus she's there, screaming until she gets an answer. She asked me "Since you think you're smart who do you think is going to cover your financial aid now?" And I told her (not like I meant it, but she wouldn't leave me alone and I would have been late) "I could ask my dad." She got mad and created some elaborate lie to tell my dad about the whole situation, and he told me to "Not get him involved in my crap." Now I don't even have a father to go to about this. I don't even know what to do anymore or where I'd even go.

Right now I just regret not killing myself when I had the chance, but since I'm still here, I figured I should just ask for some advice...

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Reply: My parents make me want to kill myself


Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now.
You do not deserve to be verbally or emotionally abused by anyone. It sounds like you have tried to do right by your mother but things have not worked out favorably for you.
It is not your fault that her life has been one of self -abuse.

You deserve a life of peace and with a safe environment. Sometimes things can be chaotic and confusing making it difficult to know where to turn.
NRS is here to listen and here to help. If you would like to speak more about your situation and begin to look at some options towards making a plan, please give us a call or live chat with us.

Contact 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org (Live chat).

If you should staart to have thoughts of suicide please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255

You did a courageous thing by reaching out today. Good for you.

Be safe and take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Hello there,
I come from a family that has been plagued with very similar issues, and i am a survivor of physical abuse and verbal and emotional abuse from my mother and father and sister who have serious drug issues or alcoholism. My advice from my experience would be for you to take steps towards learning a skill that would eventually get you a job that you could enjoy, but dont make it too hard for yourself or expensive, and in your future you can take steps to create the solid foundations financially in your life to support yourself. I wish i hadve done that early on but i didnt. In the beginning i went from job to job, often reliving upheaval and lack of stability. And later on i did a one year diploma which helped. Sometimes having physical stability with where you live and work really helps alot. And at the same time, to start seeking self help free information on the internet greatly helps too. Bless you. I hope things come right: for you.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.

Thank you,
NRS

[Guest]

My dad is verbally abusive. He makes me feel worthless and I just hate him so much. My mom won’t do anything about it. She just stands there and watches. I already tried to kill myself because of him. The police came and took me to the mental hospital. They always just complain about the bills. They never asked me if I was okay. They just constantly guilt trip me. I’m telling my dad that he was the reason I tried to kill my self tomorrow, and if that doesn’t work out well, I don’t know what I’ll do.

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Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. You are not worthless! The way your dad treats you says more about his own character than it does about yours. You have experienced a great deal of pain and you are resilient for having made it to today. If you are feeling suicidal, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1 800 273 8255. At the NRS, we do provide a service where we can mediate a conference call between youth and their parents. We do our best to make sure that everyone not only gets to say their piece, but also to seriously listen to the other person. If you are interested in this or exploring what other options you might have, please do not hesitate to reach out to us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY or on chat at 1800runaway.org.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Today was a tough day, I have finally had it with my father, even though he isnt drinking anymore, he still sprained my ankle a few months ago and i live in constant fear of being hurt, today after a fight i beat holes in my wall and broke a picture and a door in my room. i then ran to my grandparents and am hiding here, i dont feel safe at home and the emotional stress makes me want to die if I even come close. I am 15 years old and live in Michigan, Can i live with my grandparents full time?

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Hi there, thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. From what you shared, it sounds like you’re in a really difficult situation and we are here to help you as best we can.It is very brave to share what has been going on at home. It sounds like it is a tough situation and this is a great step to look for help. We are going to talk about a few things and if you want to talk further or brainstorm other ideas, we are here 24/7 over our phone lines (1-800-RUNAWAY) and we also have an online chat system as well.

First, it sounds like home is not a good place right now and we are sorry to hear that. It is not okay for your dad to treat you how you talked about and him hurting you is not okay. We aren’t legal experts but generally, the age of adulthood is 18 years old which means if you are under that age, your parents/guardians are legally responsible for you and where you live. This means if you do decide to leave home, your parent/guardian can reach out to the non-emergency police to file a runaway report. If you are found, you will be returned to home, but if you do not feel safe, you can tell the police department and they would involve Child Protective Services to investigate. We are always here to talk about what reporting to CPS looks like and Child Help (1-800-422-4453) can always be a resource to talk to. We are also always here for you to talk about what reporting can look like but also how to stay safe and if you feel like you need to leave home.
Your safety is always important and we truly care about you and what you are going through is not okay. If you are in an emergency you have the right to call 911 if you feel unsafe with you dad. We hope to hear from you soon and don’t hesitate to reach out again.

Best, NRS

[Guest]

i just want to end it all i’m only thirteen and i’m already so done with my life. i’ve gone through therapy and no one can fix me.

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We are really glad that you reached out and it takes a lot of strength. It can be really exhausting and difficult to work through feelings of wanting to end it all. Your situation may seem helpless, but you are not alone and we are here to help. If you are having suicidal feelings you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. You can also text CONNECT to 741741 if you need someone to talk to. There are people who care about you and resources where you can find support to help you cope with the feelings that you are having. It can be really helpful to feel like you have a strong support system. If there are any family members, friends, teachers, or other adults you feel comfortable with you could try talking to them about how you are feeling. Please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-786-2929 if you need someone to talk to or need help. We are here 24/7 to listen and support you.

[Guest]

Hey um......I..I really need to talk to someone about this, please help me, its about my father, day after day he treats me like his emotional punching bag, he doesn’t care about how I feel or how his words hurt me, he only cares about what he wants, he mentally and verbally abuses me, blames all his and my mothers problems on me and a couple days ago he said I was the reason he was never able to finish college.....insinuating that I ruined his adult life, everyday he makes me feel like a failure,my mother doesn’t care, she actually lets him do it, she watches as he screams at me, and she yells at me because she doesn’t want him yelling at her about his problems so they put this on me instead, he’s never there for me, my dad is completely emotionally numb, he doesn’t give a ******** about how I feel he could care less about what makes me happy, to be honest I don’t expect him to show up to my graduation,I doubt I’ll even make it there because my grades are failing with the constant depression I am going through because of this family and when I try to talk to my mother about it I just get ridiculed and judged as if I’m wrong to feel so hurt and broken, the only happiness I have is my friends and my girlfriend, they feel like more of a family at this point, I find myself missing their company greatly on weekend,but hating being around my actually family, it just all hurts, I’ve tried to kill myself twice last year over my father and I feel like this entire family is driving me to that point,i don’t know what to do anymore,my dad never has and never will be there for me in my worst moments becuase he’s to busy not caring or laughing at me,at least I know how not to raise children, my father a horrible example and if I got anything out of being around him, it makes me wanna make sure my own children never go through the same thing,but that’s besides the point, what am I going to do, someone please talk to me I’m falling apart.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live into a home with so much tension. No one deserves to be emotionally or psychologically abused. You should be treated with respect and feel comfortable in your home.

You mentioned that you have previously attempted to kill yourself. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

It’s great to hear that your boyfriend and friends are able to provide you support and are a reprieve from the verbal and psychological abuse. If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

I’ve always thought about writing to one of these forum things but I always feel like my problems aren’t big enough to recieve help. Anyway I’m just so ********ing tired of putting up with my dad that I don’t know what to do or who to talk to. He constantly tells me I ruin his day when I am upset and that he hates coming home to me if something has me down. It’s been like this for years and he constantly tries to complain to my mother about me even though I can hear everything he says from my room. So in addition to what he tells me I also hear him talk about how I can’t cope with anything and he hates that I give up on things and wishes I was less anxious and apathetic. It’s been like this for around 8 years and I just feel like I have snapped. I feel like my only respite is my room but he can just come in whenever. He also scares me so much when he is angry it gives me panic attacks (I have severe anxiety). He always promises to get better and be nicer to me but whenever I ask him to follow his promise he gets mad and says that he is the victim and I always disrespect him and never mean anything I say. I really want to give up and I have very little to keep me going so please help me.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension, everyone should be able to feel comfortable and safe in their own home. Everyone deserves help if they feel they need it! It sounds like living with your dad is really stressing you out.

You mentioned that you have anxiety which can lead to panic attacks. It can be really hard to face mental health issues on your own. If you’d like some additional support you can always reach out to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) by calling 800-950-6264 or by texting NAMI to 741741. You can also contact the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) for help locating local resources by calling 800-662-4357 or going to their website at www.samhsa.gov.

It’s great to hear that going to your room can provide some respite from your dad. It might be a good idea to brainstorm some other ways that you can get a reprieve from the situation. Some ideas are going to a friend or relatives house, joining after school clubs/teams, joining recreational groups, etc. If you do want help communicating with your dad on option may be family counseling. You can also call us directly to schedule a conference call so we can help mediate a conversation to open up a dialog.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi I'm 17 and I was hoping I could get some advice on how to deal with things at home when they aren't doing so great because I'm losing hope and I can't really turn to that many people I used to and I didn't know who else to contact and yeah so I'm here... Anyways I read through some of the replies to other people and thought if they can get help maybe I can but I don't want to get my hopes up I've been depressed for a while now since I'm having a hard time dealing with issues at home and I just was hoping If y'all wouldn't mind taking the time and giving me advice on what I should do instead of thinking sucide is the only way out because at this point I don't know what to think about to much stuff keeps happening that I can't control making me doubt things and doubt everyone in general and I'm starting to have really bad trust issues again with people who I know will always be there for me but I've been let down so many times by people I thought I could ''trust'' and I'm sorry this is really long but I just want anyone doesn't matter who it is to help me because at this point I don't know who to turn to or talk to these days I'm scared I will tell the wrong person something and that will lead to many problems along the way... Anyway I hope and pray that as I write this I can look back at this from now and be reminded of the people who took their time to read this and help me and for that I am forever grateful

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and we are glad that you decided to contact us.

We are sorry to hear that you are going through so much stress. You don't deserve to treated like that or hurt in any way. Your life is important and worth living. If you ever have thought about hurting yourself you can call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK(8255) or live chat with them at http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline...elineChat.aspx. If you’d like some additional support you can also reach out to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) by calling 800-950-6264 or by texting NAMI to 741741. Additionally you can can also contact the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) for help locating local resources by calling 1-877-726-4727 or going to their website at www.samhsa.gov.

If there is any abuse at home you have the option to file an abuse report. You can call Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 and they can help provide you more info on filing an abuse report.
If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

You are acting strong by reaching out for help. We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi, I don't really know how to put this but, I don't come from a particularly bad home- my parents have done more than enough for me and my younger brother and sister- but my dad is so volatile, sometimes he's quite amicable, but he's extremely volatile and just switches in an instant and verbally abuses me until I feel like a total waste of space and I've contemplated suicide and running away (I don't think I have the balls for either) but I can't describe how low and empty he makes me feel after his outbursts. He acts similarly to my mum in that way, nice one minute and then the next she's crying. I would be so grateful if I can have some advice on solving the matter because sometimes it seems as if it's getting better (as in he hasn't been verbally abusive in a while) and then he abruptly starts again, and I would be unspeakably grateful if I was able to finally put an end to his outbursts.

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Hello –

Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes great courage to reach out. We are sorry to hear about the way you have been treated. It can not be easy to deal with a father whose behavior you can not rely on. Just because your father has been able to support you does not make his verbal abuse any easier to deal with.

Depending on what you are looking for, a great resource for you could be the National Child Abuse Hotline. You can reach them at 1-800-422-4453. You can call them anonymously to learn about the abuse reporting process, or directly report abuse to this line. They are a good resource for talking through your options if there is verbal/mental abuse going on at home.

Additionally, another option could be to utilize our conference call service. This conference call service is a moderated conversation by a member of the NRS where you set the guidelines and goals in order to have a productive conversation that can mutually benefit your life at home. It could be helpful to talk things out in regards to how your dad makes you and your siblings feel.

We hope the information provided helps. Remember we are available 24/7 and can be toll-free reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We are confidential, anonymous, and non-direct. We can also be reached via live chat between 4:30pm and 11:30pm CST.

Best Wishes
~NRS

[Guest]

Hi I don’t really know where to start with this but I have no one I can go to that can do anything about what’s going on in my life so I guess I’ll just try my best to type this out I can’t stop screaming and crying, I have panic attacks a lot and I think it’s starting to mess with my head a lot, me and my parents don’t get along and haven’t for the past year we argue and scream daily multiple times a day and my dad claims to be reliable and religious but really he fronts off to people he’s really ********ing mean to me he hasn’t hit me but recently we have been getting in physical fights where I can’t even swing bc he is big I am really small and skinny but he always body slams me and holds me on the ground until I fight for my life to get a gasp of air everytime this happens, I can’t do this anymore he’s making me want to end it all I honestly want to harm myself but I know it’ll just get me put into a mental facility and my anxiety can’t gandlw that. I’m 17 and the only times I’ve had to deal with cops were because my dad and I had fought so now I look like the bad guy I currently have a battery charge for hitting my dad in the arm after he slammed my head into the light switch, and I got terroristic threatening charge for telling him I’d kill him for it. It was I the heat of the moment but the law doesn’t care, I’m a minor why would my word matter and why would this Christian pastor father hit his so is what they always say, I’m just a rebellious kid and I don’t have any problems with me is what they keep saying yet my counselor and my doctors have told them multiple times I have a lot of issues from this ******** even ptsd, my anxiety triggers to a lot of the thugs you see in everyday life, I literally can’t live a day without having a panic attack and wanting to end it all in the moment, it’s been like this for too long and yet I have to wait even longer until I’m out of this place, I’m just scared to even call the domestic hotline bc I am scared of government officials like cops I have bad ptsd, I don’t know what to do... I have to call suicide hotline a lot so they can calm me down when my dad causes me to have a panic attack. I would keep typing but it’s really hard to type while crying and hating my life so I’m going to end this not that anyone could help I just needed to say what was on my mind

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Hello,

Thank you so much for reaching out to us. We are so sorry to hear that the situation between you and your dad has gotten so overwhelming. It sounds like you feel at a loss for what else to do, and you’ve been feeling pretty hopeless with the way that police have responded to the situation at home, and we want you to know that we are here to support you. We can’t tell you what to do, but we can do our best to share resources that might be helpful.

We want you to know that it is never ok for anyone to be violent towards you, and you have the right to live in a home where you feel safe. If you are considered a minor in your state, you have the right to report your father’s behavior to your local child protective services. Reporting does not guarantee that you would be removed from your home, but it is an option that would trigger local child protective services to investigate your home situation. If you don’t know how to reach your local agency, organizations like Child Help, available at 800.422.4453, and www.childhelp.org can help you identify the agency nearest to you. If you have questions about the reporting process, or if you just want to talk to someone about your situation, you are welcome to reach out to us.

Beyond reporting, it sounds like the situation at home has made you contemplate self-injury and suicide. In your message, you discuss reaching out to the suicide hotline for help, and we want to encourage you to continue reaching out to them for support. You also discuss a diagnosis of PTSD and anxiety, which gets exacerbated with the situation at home. If you are currently receiving treatment for these, it may also help to discuss a safety plan and work on coping methods with your therapist or counselor to help you stay safe. Because we’re not legal experts, it’s hard for us to give you any guidance regarding the way local police have been approaching your situation, but if you haven’t already discussed your situation with someone familiar with the laws in your state, contacting your local legal aid agency. If you need help finding local agencies to you, please don’t hesitate to call us. We are here for you, and we will support whatever you decide to do, and will do our best to help you stay safe. We are available by phone 24/7 at 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929), as well as via chat every day. We wish you all the best. Stay safe!

-NRS

[Guest]

I.. don’t really know where to start. So right off the bat, let’s start with my parents, I guess. My mom was born from two crack head parents, one with severe health problems and the other a hardworking work addict. Y dad was born from two asshole parents who abandoned him and left him, and his mom died at sixteen from a car crash. My mom was verbally abuse by her parents and physically abused by her brother and my dad has never been the lucky one, so it just so happened they got lucky with me even after my mom beat stage three cervical cancer and my dad had been in and out of jail since sixteen. From then, it went downhill. My mom used me against my whole fwkily, if they didn’t give her money or babysit me, they weren’t allowed to see me. Once my grandma, great grandma, and great grandpa all died when I was six she got heavily addicted to painkillers and quit her high paying job for seven years. In that time, I lost more family than I could count and learned to raise myself. I learned to manage bills and food money, I learned to survive winter without heat and summer without AC- in Virginia. I learned to not eat for days on end so she could binge on random snacks because she was high. But then, she was forced to get help one night when we got into a fist fight when I was twelve and she shoved her cigarette into my arm infront of her only childhood friend and started beating me. After that it was drinking, and my summers and spring breaks were spent getting beat, my friends getting beat, her drinking, and me running away with hundreds of dollars. Finally, she “[email protected] about a year ago when my grandfather died. However, he left us 81k and 21k for my college, as well as 5k for me to spend. She used all my money, and all the other money and we only have 4K left with food stamps an and Medicaid. Idk what to do because I have to start therapy, physical therapy, neurology, and more because of the permanent physical and mental damage she let herself and her boyfriends do to me. About ten minutes ago I screamed at her telling her about how I wanted to kill myself and I mentioned my self harm (I’ve been on and off self harming since third grade, I’m fourteen in freshman year now I’m Highschool) and she just screamed at me saying she couldn’t handle this and that I’m over reacting and my life is perfect so I don’t deserve to feel like this. But just weeks ago she was crying looking and my cuts and scars and the videos I have of her screaming at me drunk And saying how sorry she was and she would never be like that again. Idk what to do and I can’t go to CPS or officials because it’s not in my moral code and she would genuinely kill her self if she lost me. Any tips? Please? I’m going crazy and I don’t know how much longer I can take this. If anyone has advice or wants to know more details please respond or message me.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so abuse and disarray. You have a maturity well beyond your years and a resilient spirit for making it through for so long.

You made note of numerous instances of violent abuse which raises a great deal of concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You stated that you aren't sure if you'd like to call CPS but you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

You mentioned that you have previously had thoughts of suicide and have self-harmed in the past. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

It can be really hard to live with someone who struggles with an addiction to alcohol and other substances. We want you to know that you are not alone. If you’d like to talk to other young people who are dealing with friends or family members who have drinking problems you can check out Alateen. You can find more information about this support group, or find a local meeting here: https://al-anon.org/newcomers/teen-corner-alateen/.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

My mom always beats me up even if I don't do anything it makes me want to kill myself it makes me feel unwanted as a little kid like today we were going to do the laundry and I told her that one of the shirts wasn't dirty she hit me by my eye and took the tv remote

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). First off we want to say that abuse whether its physical, sexual, emotional or verbal, it is never okay and you do not deserve it and do have the right to report it. We want you to know that you do have the right to make a report with Child Protective Services. Child Help USA is an information and referral line that can connect you with your local CPS abuse hotline. That number is 1-800-422-4453. If you ever felt like making a report or needed help, we are here to assist with that. We understand that making an abuse report can be intimidating so if you like we can call together to provide support.
We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Since you mentioned it we want you to know that we are not experts on the issue of suicide and if this is something that you would like to focus on then we can certainly provide you the number for the National Suicide Hotline 1-800-273-TALK they may be able to help you more because this is their area of expertise. They can help direct you towards support and or services for your needs. In the meantime, we hope that you can give us a call directly to get some emotional support. You seem like a smart and resilient person who deserves to be treated with respect and love.
Additionally, If you’re feeling unsafe and need a safe place to go and talk to someone, you may wish to visit The National Safeplace website (www.nationalsafeplace.org). This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there are any safe places near you listed. So that is always an option if you feel like talking to someone in person about what has been going on or if you just need of a safe place to stay.

You also may use your phone to text the word “safe” and your current location (city/state/zip) to 69866. If there are safe places and shelters nearby, a list of those will be sent to your phone and you may have the option to text back and forth with a trained counselor as well.

Be safe,
NRS

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I'm desperate.Since I was 5 I always saw my parents fight.About three years ago I found out everything.My mom didn't even want to marry my Fu***ng dad. When my mom was pregnant with me my dad hit her multiple times.And he always changes in front of all our relatives so no one thinks something is wrong with our family.I always was a smart child when they would fight in the car I ALWAYS used to whisper in my mom's ear that she should let him talk by himself so she doesn't get hurt.And about three years ago I was 12 and my brother 3-4 and one night my father hit my mom's head on the door and strangled her in front of me and my little brother.That night I ran away with my mom and my brother and she reported him to the police. They said if that ever happens again he'll go to jail.But he said that if we put him in jail that when he gets out he'll kill my mom.At school I ALWAYS went through bullying for being the serious kid. I am 14 and I am a girl. Everyday my mom gets verbally abused and my father yells at her that she can't do anything right and she is not raising me and my brother right. The past 2-3 years i started getting verbally abused by my father too, last year also I asked him something and he grabbed me from the back of my neck and told me never argue with him. He ALWAYS tells me I don't know to do anything and that probably when I'll grow up I'll be a failure. He tells me I'm dysfunctional.My little brother brother gets physically and verbally abused too, he is only 5. He makes me feel uncomfortable in my own skin and because of him I'm afraid to me happy. I feel unwanted, disowned. My mother was always there for me to make sure I'm okay and she always defends me and my brother, she talks to me and she also took me to a psychologist but they couldn't do anything cause it was my mother's choice. I told her so many times to divorce but she is afraid that she won't have money and that my little brother will judge her when he grows up. I cry almost every day feeling like someone is stabbing me in my chest. I grew up knowing how to survive on my own. And I am afraid for my brother to don't have the same scars I have. My mom always comes and hugs me and kisses me but it's been many years since I showed her affection. I feel empty and I tried multiple times to kill myself. I don't feel safe in my home only in my bedroom that he can get in anytime.

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Hey there,

Thank you so much for reaching out and sharing what's been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. Your dad's actions are completely unacceptable and there is absolutely no reason that he should do these things to you, your mom, and your brother. You should not have had to take on the burden and the responsibilities that were forced upon you because of your dad's actions. There is a lot of pride to be had in yourself for the strength and maturity that you have been able to develop despite the circumstances.

We care a lot about your safety here at NRS and your dad's abuse raises a lot of concern. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

Leaving a situation where your partner hurts you can be really hard and it sounds like your mom is scared to do so. There are a lot of reasons that people stay in abusive relationships (money, stability, fear of further violence, love, judgment from others). You can always suggest that your mom try calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-7233 or going to thehotline.org. They may be able to help create a plan for your mom to leave your dad or create a safety plan in case your dad acts like this again.

The living situation that your dad created sounds really hard and it makes sense that you would feel empty as a result. You mentioned that because of this feeling you have previously tried to kill yourself. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.
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