I really want to run away and start a new life.

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I am so tired mentally and physically that I really want to run away and start a new life. I live with joint family with my uncle,aunt and their kids and,grandparents as well as younger sister. My father passed away 15 years ago.my mother and older sister lives in different country. I am trying my best to keep everything and everyone together but I can't anymore. My grandparents hates because they don't like my mother. They gave everything to their other son and daughter; leaving nothing to my family. My younger sister and I live with my grandparents who taunt us everyday about how my mother and father made their life unhappy. I am tired of fighting everyday so I try to talk to my mother but she doesn't understand too. Instead she yells at me and thinks I am worthless because I can't stand up and for what is our. I don't want anything from this people. I just want little appreciation for what I am doing. I don't earn much still I am doing everything I can to keep my sister happy but she hates me.she doesn't even talk to me. I have no friends because they think I am not fun. I can't party or I am to serious. I have a boyfriend but now he gets mad at me because I always complain about my family or I am always unhappy.I know he loves me but we can't be together in public or around family because his mother doesn't like my family. I really don't know what to do or where to go but I just want to get away and start new life alone.where I can do what I like to do and doesn't have worry about someone else but myself.

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Re: I really want to run away and start a new life.

Hi there,

Thank you so much for reaching out to us. This sounds like a really difficult time for you and we are really glad that you contacted us for some help. We’re here to listen and support you the best that we can.

It sounds like you are really going through a difficult time staying with your aunt and uncle away from mom and older sister. You shared that your dad passed away 15 years ago which had to have been unbelievably hard, and that difficulty never does go away. It sounds like you have really made it through some rough times and you have continued to try to support your younger sister to the best of your ability through all of this.

You shared that you do have a boyfriend but he is getting tired of your family situation. It is understandable that you would talk to your boyfriend about all of this, it’s a lot to deal with on your own and it sounds like you’re just trying to get some support. As a possible alternative to talking with your boyfriend, one option might be counseling services. If you do not feel like your guardians would allow this, you may be able to access counseling through your school if you are a student. Additionally, you can call us any time and we can try to look up some counseling resources in your area, or you can simply talk to us. We’re here to listen and help the best that we can. Lastly, another resource that you may find helpful during this difficult time is https://teenlineonline.org/, where you can talk with other teens that may have gone through some similar situations.

It sounds like you are thinking about running away due to all of this stress. It’s understandable why you would want to leave. We’re not here to tell you that you should or should not, because you know your situation better than we do. We’re just here to help keep you safe with whatever decision you do make. Here are some things that can be helpful in making your decision:

Do I have a place to stay?
What about school? Would I continue to get an education?
Am I going to be gone awhile or coming back in a few days?
What would I do for money? Shelter? Food? Transportation?
Who can I depend on if I leave home?
Do I have a safe, solid plan?
What is my plan b in case my first plan doesn’t work?
What have I done to make things better at home?
What can I do to make things better at home?
Who have I reached out to make things better at home?

Please do call or chat with us if you would like to talk more. We’re here to support you.

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I am 19 years old and I am thinking about running away now because I have this job where I work and I don't want to work there cause I feel it's to Fast and I don't really like the employees I work with all they do is make you feel bad if you are doing something wrong and I tried to explain that to my mom and all she did was get upset you see growing up I have always been this child of hers that she doesn't like or just the black sheep of the family and she never understands me my dad passed away two months ago and me and him where so close and now I feel that he isn't here I feel I have no one like today I didn't go to the job I just started working to three weeks ago and my mom and other family members were talking about me really bad like I was this bad person as usual I am already someone who is depressed since I was 12 and I just feel as well like I want to die so that I can be in heaven with my dad cause I never really felt life here on earth is for me I really want some advice on whether I can run away and start my life over and get from around the environment that I am in .

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Thank you very much for contacting us. We are so sorry to hear that you have recently lost your dad. It is great to hear, though, that you had such a positive relationship with him. It sounds like things have been tough with you and your job. It seems like you may not have found the right employment fit for you. That is understandable that you feel like that.

Have you considered asking your mom if you could change jobs? Perhaps she thinks that you would like to quit without having a backup plan. It must feel difficult to be in an environment that may feel toxic. In any case, we are happy that you reached out to us. You mentioned about feeling as though you wanted to die and join your dad. If you continue to have these thoughts, we invite you to call the National Suicide Hotline. They are nonjudgmental and could talk to you about your feelings. Death is permanent, and perhaps there is a way you can honor your father’s legacy and also find your place hear amongst the living. Their phone number is 1-800-273-8255.

As for leaving, since you are 19, you are able to leave, depending on when your state’s age of majority is. In most states, the age of majority is 18. There could be programs too, if you were interested in service opportunities in new states or job training programs. Two such organizations are Job Corps and AmeriCorps. Check out their websites for more information:

http://www.jobcorps.gov/home.aspx

https://www.nationalservice.gov/programs/americorps

In any case, we invite you to call us, so we can provide individualized supports. Our contact information is below.

Best,

NRS

[Guest]

Hi I am 16 and I am depressed by my condition at my house I live with my parents nd my elder sister well I want to run away and start a new life in some other state I guess look for a job drop out from school for sometime maybe and then I start a new life but I am financially broke I have no money this is so over I can't live here or I'm going for suicide which I don't want to coz I believe there is a better life out there someday plz if u can help me in anyway then I would be greatfull...

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand that it takes courage to seek help. It sounds like you are overwhelmed with your situation at home. You mentioned thinking about suicide, your life matters ! Talking to someone about how you feel could help. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) is a great resource for support. It seems like you want to runaway and start a new life. Having a plan about where you would go and how you would take care of yourself is important. If you decide to runaway your parents have the right to file a runaway report. With a runaway report, if the police find you they would return you home. Running away isn't against the law but if you were to stay with a friend, they could get charged with harboring a runaway. You could try asking your parents if they would allow you to stay with another family member or close friend. Another option that you have is looking into emancipation laws for your state. If there is any abuse at home, you could contact Child Protective Services. If you have any other questions or just want to talk, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

[Guest]

hi i am going through a depressed state and idk how to deal with it though i do have a relationship i am trans and pan and i want to run away from home because my parents hate it and i really want to leave my house but my parents will look for me and i want them to leave me alone i specifically want to run away and start a new life all on my own i am legal age to get a job with a permit (i have one) and i am adopted so they can not legally look for me without a permit (they signed to do that) and i especially want to live with my they bae and work to help their family what do i do ;-; i cut myself and i am into survival i am getting my parents to slowly help me run away without them knowing by asking for knives and stuff and mres for my birthday i am also going to steal all the cash in their wallets the day i do i want to go to lousiana and i am leaving june 9thi live 4 states away thank you i will check here tomarrow at 4:30 please answer by then i am not happy w/ my life thank you so much

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Reply:

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing some of the things about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can.
It sounds like you are frustrated with your parent’s lack of understanding and you are thinking about running away in the future. You have thought about where you want to go and how you plan to survive. You also mentioned being depressed and practicing self-harm. Reaching out today was a very good thing towards practicing self- care.
Sometimes things can become so overwhelming that it is hard to know which way to turn. You are not alone. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Talking about your situation might help to explore more options for coping with your depression other than hurting yourself. It may also help to explore other options that don’t involve committing a crime by stealing money from your parent’s. You should have the right to live your life as you wish and not be judged by anyone. You have tremendous strength. Contacting NRS was a big step.

We are here to listen and here to help.
We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS
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[Guest]

Im 15, I hate my and my only happy place is band. I want to run away because I just dont have the guts to kill myself. I want to go where I can be apart of band and high school, and eventually college, but I just CANNOT stay here...

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Hello There,
Thank you so much for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now. We are glad that you have band to make you happy. You mentioned wanting to die, if you are ever feeling suicidal you can always call The National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1800-273-8255. We want you to know that your life is valuable and you are worth living. Another option you may want to consider is to talk to your school counselor about what is going on. Sometimes talking to a school counselor may help you feel better and they may be able to provide you with some additional resources.
Running away is not your only option and we can help you explore options. If you do decide to leave home you may want to consider your safety and where you would go. We want you to know that your safety is our top priority.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation, If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options more please give us a call. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

Hi i am 16 and is thinking abt running away, my dad is very abusive towards me and my mom is very stressed from me and my dad, i have been thinking about living with my aunt and starting a new life with her and her husband. i dont know if i could get in trouble.

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Hi there,

You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents’ permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

Be safe,

NRS