I just want to get away from it all.

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At home things are not good. My family don't treat me fairly. My father was abusive to both my mum and her children. This has made things hard at home since he left. I don't feel comfortable sharing the details on the internet. My mum made us move from Melbourne to Perth. I understand her reasons for the move but I do not agree with them. My sister has tried to commit suicide but is getting help now. My brother is still in Melbourne. My Family like being in Perth but I don't. I want to go back home.

My sister treats me badly. She bullies me. Mum will not do anything. She denies it but I know she is just scared my sister will cut herself. It makes me wonder if I need to do that for her to care. I have tried but I found that it did nothing but leave a scar on my arm. I only did it once and that was ages ago. Do I need to cut myself for my family to care?

At school I trusted this girl, I talked to her about what was happening. She turned on me and told everyone what I told her. I moved schools and just hoped that everyone one would forget. I still can't talk to anyone.

I know that there is counselling out there. I tried it, but the school chaplain went home and told his wife about everything the kids trusted him with.

I didn't want to have to turn to sites like this for help and it really was a last resort. I feel as though I have done everything I can. I really, really want to go back to Melbourne. Is there anyway I (14 years old) could get back to Melbourne without going with my family. If not is there some place I can go to in Perth.

Thanks.

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re: I just want to get away from it all.

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out and sharing your situation with us, it sounds like things are very difficult with your family and school right now. If you were to go back to Melbourne do you know where you would stay or who you would stay with? Are there any family members or friends that you can talk to in Melbourne who may be able to help with your situation? Unfortunately we are based in the U.S. and therefore cannot guess what your options are as far as your legal ability to leave home and go back to Melbourne. To find out more about what would happen with leaving home in Australia you may want to try to reach out to www.kidshelp.com.au/ or give them a call at 1-800-55-1800 and hopefully they can provide you with more specific information on your situation.

We are also sorry to hear that talking to your friend and the counselor did not go well, but we would like to congratulate you on trying those different options as it is not necessarily easy to talk about everything going on. You have the right to feel safe physically and emotionally in your environment without feeling the need to cut to have your family care. Have you told your Mum about how you are feeling and the fact that you have cut before? If you haven’t and you are looking for help coming up with a way to talk to your Mum we would encourage you to reach out to us, the National Runaway Safeline, at 1-800-786-2929 or via our online chat at www.1800RUNAWAY.org or to reach out to the Australian youth crisis line at 1-800-55-1800. The Australian number may also be able to help with finding additionally counseling services in your area if that is something that may be helpful for you.

Best of luck,
NRS

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RE- I just wanna get away from it all

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out and sharing your situation with us, it sounds like things are very difficult with your family and school right now. If you were to go back to Melbourne do you know where you would stay or who you would stay with? Are there any family members or friends that you can talk to in Melbourne who may be able to help with your situation? Unfortunately we are based in the U.S. and therefore cannot guess what your options are as far as your legal ability to leave home and go back to Melbourne. To find out more about what would happen with leaving home in Australia you may want to try to reach out to www.kidshelp.com.au/ or give them a call at 1-800-55-1800 and hopefully they can provide you with more specific information on your situation.

We are also sorry to hear that talking to your friend and the counselor did not go well, but we would like to congratulate you on trying those different options as it is not necessarily easy to talk about everything going on. You have the right to feel safe physically and emotionally in your environment without feeling the need to cut to have your family care. Have you told your Mum about how you are feeling and the fact that you have cut before? If you haven’t and you are looking for help coming up with a way to talk to your Mum we would encourage you to reach out to us, the National Runaway Safeline, at 1-800-786-2929 or via our online chat at www.1800RUNAWAY.org or to reach out to the Australian youth crisis line at 1-800-55-1800. The Australian number may also be able to help with finding additionally counseling services in your area if that is something that may be helpful for you.

Best of luck,
NRS

I haven't told my mum I have cut but I have told my stepdad. I told him how I was feeling and he tried to pass it onto mum. It wasn't what my mum wanted to hear so it started an argument. When I first posted about my problem I was really annoyed and in the midst of an argument with my sister. I wasn't in my right frame of mind and I was being overly pessimistic. I (at this point in time) would never leave home, I go to Venturer scouts and I have friend groups at my current school. I am really really really grateful for your answer to my problem. Sometimes it is just easier to talk to someone who doesn't know you and doesn't judge or make it a competition. It really helps me ,just knowing that there are sites out there like this. Again Thanks. It really means a lot to me

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RE: I just want to get away from it all.

First of all, thank you for reaching out initially. It can be difficult to ask for help, and it sounds like you are trying to figure out ways to make the situation better for you, which is great. We are really glad to hear that you are feeling better about the situation and things are going well with friends at school. Venturer Scouts also sounds like a great way to get out of the house and away from the situation.
It also sounds like you feel comfortable talking to your stepdad about the situation. In the future, do you think you would feel comfortable talking to him about how you are feeling if things get bad again? It sounds like things did not go well with the chaplain at school, but perhaps talking to a professional counselor may be a better experience and help with some of the stress at home. It sounds like you have a lot going on at home, and sometimes talking to someone away from the situation may be helpful.
Again, thank you for reaching out. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help, and it’s great to see you taking the steps to get what you need to make home a better place to be. In the future, if you should need anything, the Australian youth crisis line can also be reached at 1-800-55-1800 and may be a great resource to find further services in your area. We are also here 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929 or via our online chat at www.1800RUNAWAY.org to listen and help should you need anything.