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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    We are so sorry to hear that you have experienced sexual violence. You do not deserve to have this happen to you, and you deserve to be believed and supported. One really great resource for all survivors of sexual assault or abuse is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). You can call them any time 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673, or go to www.rainn.org to use their online hotline. RAINN is the National Sexual Assault Hotline and has a lot of services, support and resources that you may find helpful. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    NRS

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    i was sexually assaulted by him when i was 6 bc he thought i was my mom ( i was sleeping in their bed bc i had a nightmare) i dont wanna live with him anymore, its awkward and gives me so much anxiety whenever i see him, we have cis involved and the police but my mom is only putting us in family counciling which isn’t working what do i do?

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hey there, and thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step.

    It sounds like things with your dad have been pretty difficult for you, and we're sorry to hear that. Physical and emotional abuse is not okay, and you don't deserve that sort of treatment. Reading over some of the abuse that you've experienced, it might be a good idea to reach out to Child Protective Services and file an abuse report. Their job is to ensure that you're safe in your home, and if you're not, to decide what steps should be taken in order to make sure that you are. If this is something that you're interested in doing, you can file a report on your own, by contacting us here at NRS for support, or by telling a safe person of the abuse (like a teacher, school counselor, therapist, etc.). Each person that I've listed is considered a Mandated Reporter and has a legal obligation to contact CPS when there are any suspicions or indications of abuse. We understand that moving forward in this process can be scary, but want you to know that your safety is critical. These are folks who will prioritize that. If you have any questions about filing a report, what it entails, or would like to learn more about child abuse in general, Childhelp is another great resource to utilize. They're a child abuse hotline and you can reach out to them by texting or calling 1-800-422-4453, or by chatting with them live at www.childhelp.org.

    If you'd like to chat in more detail about what's going on at home and/or how we can help, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY, or by chatting with us live through our website at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

    Take care.

    NRS

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    im 16 and i'm tired of my dad, i've been hit by him my whole life ever since i was small. i was never able to do or say anything about it but i'm done with him always putting me down and hitting me. hes always saying how i need to lose weight and im worthless and a coward. two weeks ago he grabbed me by the hair and pushed me to the ground and called me a coward. i don't feel safe at home, he complains about everything i do and when i try to talk to him about it he yells and doesn't listen for nothing. he even gets mad when i drink his water bottles or open a bag of chips. i don't wanna live here anymore and would like to move.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your dad. It sounds like things are difficult for you right now with the way he is treating you. It can be helpful to talk to someone about how you are feeling, such as friends, school counselor, or a therapist. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Another helpful resource that can help support you emotionally through this time is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can text them 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe, NRS

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    I hate my dad. I’ve never really talked about my feelings with anyone but I can’t take it anymore. I always try to be a good son but I guess I always fail because he gets mad at me for everything. I can’t even talk to him without him accusing me of raising my voice at him. I’ve cried a lot mostly in private but recently I haven’t been able to contain my tears and my family knows. I don’t like him at all and wish he would leave me alone for ever.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runway Safeline. We are sorry to hear things have been difficult at home, and we are glad you contacted us for help.
    It sounds like your relationship with your Dad is really hard. It seems like he blames you a lot and has once threatened to take away your emotional support animal. This must be really hurtful, and you do not deserve to be treated like this!
    You talk about wanting to run away in your post. You know best whether or not you should run away. If you ever want to talk through your options, you can call us at any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY. If running, it is important you will know where you are going, how you will get there, and what you will do to survive once there. You might also consider that while running away is not illegal, the police can become involved in trying to find you and bring you back home if you are reported.
    In all, it might be helpful to find people to talk to about what is going on at home. Friends, other family, or even a school counselor can be good resources during this tough time. If you are ever interested in help talking to your Dad about what you need from him and to convey some of these feelings, we can mediate a conference call between you two, if you call us to initiate it.
    We hope you have found this helpful. We encourage you to reach out if you have further questions or concerns. We are here to listen, here to help.
    Stay safe and strong out there.
    NRS

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    i dont wanna live with my dad because h if a freaking idiot. he yells at me for no reason i love him and i dont wanna runaway but i do at the same time. he threatens to get rid of my anxiety support dog and more. he just said You dont even take care of your bunny and i hope he dies ( and i love my bunny so so much!) we also just got a dog and she is still a puppy and she got scared and ran through the house like a maniac and he yelled at me sayong it was my fault... i have thought of running away multiple time. my mom dosent live with us anymore and my grndma is a sacastic women... please help or tell me what i should do.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hello. I am 13 yrs. and my brothers are 13,13, and 15. I have 3 brothers. I don’t want to live with my dad. We’ve been having some family issues lately and I have found out a lot of things.

    My Mom tells me that she and dad drifted apart and only stayed together to give my 3 brothers and I a normal life. It makes me mad because Mom and Dad aren’t happy with each other. But the problem in our house is that it runs like dictatorship. My Dad is the “boss” and we have to do what he says. He wants everything done his way and only his way. My Mom doesn’t have power in the family either. She can’t speak up and neither can my brothers and I.

    My brothers and I thought of standing up to Dad and the one time we did, he flipped out and left because he was angry. My dad is scary when he is angry because if we don’t listen to him, he hurts us (not as much these days but a lot when we were younger). One of the punishments my Dad used to give was standing with your face on a door for 2 hours. He wouldn’t let us talk or move or sit down when we were getting tired. This punishment might not sound bad but it gets worse. I remember that my Dad got mad at one of my brothers and told him to get out of the car and threatened to drive away without him when we were in the middle of the city.

    He puts us in danger and he is a hypocrite with all the rules he has since he doesn’t even follow them himself. I have so much more to write but I’m scared that people might think I’m overreacting and that I have it easier than them. And I’m not claiming that I suffer the most out of everyone here on this platform, and that no one has it as bad as my brothers and I. I’m just scared that people won’t take me seriously.

    My Mom said that it might be better if we live separately meaning her and dad don’t live together. But I’m worried because if she does get a house and lives separately, will she be able to support herself, my brothers, and I alone? And I’m also concerned because I’m worried that I won’t get to choose who I want to live with (if it even gets to that point). All my brothers and I want to live with Mom because she actually treats us right and knows what we’re feeling. She listens to us and doesn’t threaten us with tactics that make us feel useless and powerless. Honestly, I just don’t know what to do. I’m stressed and my anxiety and depression is getting a lot worse these days. I’ve been talking to a couple of my close friends these days about this.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello there,
    You definitely do not deserve to be abused or mentally tortured. If you are in immediate danger you can always reach out to 911. You are not alone in this. We are here to help where we can. A resource that you might find beneficial during this time is called child help. They can help you make an abuse report, provide support, and answer any questions you may have. Their number is 800-422-4453 or you can go to childhelp.org and do their live chat there.
    In addition to utilizing 911 and child help, you can always reach out to us again by phone or live chat since we can only reply twice to forums. Our phone number is 800-786-2929 and you can reach out live chat at www.1800runaway.org.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    my father abuse us and mentally torture us i dont know what should i do

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hello there, Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like things are stressful with the relationship between you, your stepmom and your Dad for the past several years. It certainly seems your relationship with your dad is important to you, so this must be a difficult time. Sometimes situations can feel isolating but we are glad you reached out and we want you to know that you are not alone. NRS provides supportive services to adolescents in crisis or who are having problems at home. Sometimes having someone to talk with helps bring a solution not previously thought of. We understand it can be scary to have difficult conversations with parent but we are available to facilitate a conference call between you and your Dad or stepmom. Often difficult situations can be improved by talking things out and we are here to support you with your feelings.

    If you decided you would like to talk further, our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) but we are also available by chat at www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). We’re here to listen and help, and hope you can reach out soon. Stay strong, NRS

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    I’m 13 and I live with my Father and Step-Mom but visit my mom for 2 weekends a month. My step mom I feel is harsh on me. I’ve lived with here 5 years and always didn’t like her and I’m to scared to talk to her and my dad anytime I try to say something he try’s to say only good things about her.

    They argue sometimes but I don’t know how much because I don’t like to be out with them and my half siblings I get scared that there gonna demand me to do a lot of things or tell about everything I’m doing wrong and just make me sad. When I’m with my biological mom I feel happy because she’s nice to me and someone I can talk to freely unlike my step mom. I just want to go live with my grandma or mom and my dad if my step mom wasn’t there and there’s many other members of my family I’d rather live with. Also I feel like my step mom gets between me and my dad. For example when we actually have a ok time and puts a smile on face she always butts in and takes him to go do something else. And there’s a lot of things that my dad says I can do that my step mom says I can’t. I have hoped for 5 years they would break up but it never happened and now I don’t know how much longer I can deal with her and hold my feelings in. Please help me.

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hello there –

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are here for you through these tough times we are facing, and are happy to answer any questions you may have regarding runaway or homeless youth.

    I understand that you are 14 years old, and in most states the age of majority is 18 years old. This means that someone under 18 is the responsibility of their parent or guardian. If you were to move out of your father's house without his permission he could possibly file a runaway report. This is a report filed with your local police office that would allow the police to return you to your father’s custody if you were to come in contact with them. We are not legal experts here at NRS but we would like to make you aware of possible outcomes.

    You may want to consider talking with your father to arrange an alternate housing agreement at your mother's house. This means that your father would give his permission for you to live with a family member or a friend for the time being. This is something your father would have to agree to if you are underage.

    I understand that you are worried about the abuse you feel from your father, as well as the court proceedings being pushed back. Unfortunately we are not legal experts and are uncertain as to when courts will be reopened due to COVID-19. If you feel that your situation would be better handled by an authority figure, you can contact your local Child Services Department and file an abuse or neglect form with them. We would be happy to walk you through the process over the phone. We understand this is a big decision to make and would be happy to give you alternative options or explain the process in detail.

    If you would like more information regarding your situation we urge you to reach out to us on our 24/7 toll-free number at 1(800)-RUNAWAY. We can give you case specific information as well as resources to help you navigate this decision.

    Thank you again for reaching out and stay safe!"
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