im going to be 18 next month, I have a job and I want to move out

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I don't want to sound like a naive teenager, but I live with my mom and my step dad, I get good grades in school and everything. My mother has been controlling me for almost 18 years now and it's becoming too excessive. She has stopped me from seeing my father in the past and makes every excuse or threat to keep me under her roof. Such as she wont pay for my college and I'll never make it and so on. I love my mom to death, but I think it's time for me to move out. I need advice on how I still can go to a major university because my mother was telling me I can't go without their support. However,can I still go on my own with a scholarship? I have a job, however i need a car. Please help. I'm planning on moving in with my friend and her unlce

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Re: im going to be 18 next month, I have a job and I want to move out

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like things have been pretty tough at home with your mom being really controlling, but you are trying to make plans for your future. We’re glad that you contacted us, we’re here to help you out in any way that we can.

So it sounds like you want to live with your friend and her uncle because of how controlled you have been feeling at home. It sounds like you would like to go to college but your mom has been making threats to you regarding this which has got to be frustrating. For more information on how that would work if your mom is not willing to support you through this process, you may be able to contact the school directly to see how their programs work.

We’re not legal experts, but generally speaking if you leave without consent from legal guardians, they would have the right to make a runaway report. Running away is not a criminal offense, it’s a status offense so usually all that happens is if the police find you, they would bring you back home. However, anyone that you stay with could potentially be charged for harboring a runaway.

Please do call or chat with us if you would like to talk more. We’re here to support you in any way that we can.

Best of luck,
NRS