20 years old want to move out but parents won't let her

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im 20 years old and turning 21 on sept 9th. My mom just bought a house and Ill be paying 400$ for my own room but she was telling me all this rules again such as no boys slot inside your room not even your bf. I still have a curfew too. My mom is overprotective. I'm trying to move out but she won't let me. My boyfriend and his family told me I can stay in their house. I mean my parents are still gonna see me because I work in our recent house as a caregiver . I work with my parents too. So I don't think it's a big deal if I move out but yea don't let me especially my mom. Don't you think it's ridiculous to have a curfew in my age. I'm even turning 21

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re: 20 years old want to move out but parents won't let her

Hey there,

Thank you for reaching out to us. We are here to support you in any way that we can. We are sorry to hear that you are going through this. Your situation sounds really difficulty and complex. From what you’ve told us, it sounds like you have been taking a lot of positive steps to become more independent. But so far none of them have really worked. You mentioned that your boyfriend and his family said that you can stay with them. What other options have you considered?

Again, what you are going through sounds so complex. If you would feel comfortable calling us, we can discuss some options that you may not have considered and empower you to take control of your situation. You can contact us at our 24-hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Alternately, you can contact us via our live chat service on our website, 1800runaway.com between the hours of 4:30 PM – 11:30 PM CST. We look forward to hearing from you.

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My problem is not the same I just turned 20 and I have a one year old and I want to move in with my boyfriend (daughters dad) because he’s not allowed to stay all night and has to leave by 10:00 and we want to move out he has a really good job we have a joint bank account financially we can but my moms such a ********** about it won’t let me grow up.

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Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.
Thank you, NRS

[Guest]

I'm 20 turning 21 in November. My parents gave me a curfew of 8pm and I pay $650 for rent plus $100 for food. I pay all of my own bills. My boyfriends family offered for me to live at their family farm. My step dad doesn't want me in the house but my mom wont let me move out. I have mo idea what to do anymore. What should I do?

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Thank you for telling us your story and reaching out. It can be difficult telling others what you are going through. It sounds like you have been doing a great job of providing for both you and your family. It can be frustrating when you are getting conflicting messages from people. That can make anyone confused about what to do. We’re not legal experts here at NRS. In most states generally the age of majority is 18. That means that you no longer have to have your parent’s permission to leave home. It sounds like you have the means to take care of yourself since you are already paying rent and all your own bills. You could consider calling your local nonemergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state. One service we can offer is to conference call with your parents. This way you could have a conversation with your parents but you would not be alone. For example, it may be hard for you to explain to your family that you don’t agree with their curfew and why. Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for you. If you want to reach us, you can chat with us anytime at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24/7, and we are ready to listen and help however we can.

Wish you the best.

-NRS

[Guest]

I'm 20 and turning 21 in April. My parents are really strict and overprotective people. My dad won't let me be friends with my best friend because he thinks she's such a bad influence to me. Me and my bf have no problem in our relationship except my parents forcing me to stop dating him even tho they've never met him before cuz they think he is a bad guy which is not true. They even called my bf and told him to leave me alone or they'll make a police report saying that my bf raped me. I'm trying to move out but then I'm scared that my dad is gonna beat me up to death or send me back to my home country if I do so. All I want is to move out without no harm and no fight, so I really need someone's help.

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Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are in a very frustrating situation at home. It must be hard living in a household and having your parents so involved in who you hang out with and date. You mentioned that you are afraid of your father physically assaulting you if you leave home. If you feel like you are in an unsafe environment, you can always contact 911 or Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 to file an abuse report. If you are concerned about your father retaliating, you may want to make sure you have a plan on when you want to leave. Make sure you are thinking about a safe place that you can stay at that your father doesn't know about.
Since you are concerned about if you can legally leave. We’re not legal experts here at NRS. In most states generally the age of majority is 18. That means that you no longer have to have your parent’s permission to leave home. It sounds like you have the means to take care of yourself since you are already paying rent and all your own bills. You could consider calling your local nonemergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state. If you want to reach us, you can chat with us anytime at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Best of luck, and be safe!