i can't stand it here anymore

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so for the past few months my stepdad has been molesting me & just recently i told my mom. she wasn't doing anything about it so i told my cousin and she told my aunt and they told the police and DEFACS. now everything in my life has turned completely crazy. my mom basically hates her family now bc they told the police and filed a report on him. DEFACS came to my school last monday to talk to me then came to my house to talk to my mom and my sisters. the lady made my mom sign a paper that it'd be better if he (my stepdad) wasn't allowed in the house till everything gets figured out. but you wanna know what the most unbelievable thing about all this is? HE TOLD MY MOM THAT HE DIDN'T DO ANY OF THE THINGS I SAID HE DID TO ME. and my mom BELIEVES him. she's been being so rude to me and leaving me and my sisters every afternoon and evening to go spend time with him. AND she's been sending us to our relatives house during the weekends so she can spend time with him at the house (where he's not supposed to be). I guess i said all of this because i don't know what to do anymore. every time i try to talk to my mom she gets an attitude with me and starts being rude to me. next month on the 16th i'll be 18 so i'll be able to move out. i just need some advice on how to deal with all of this bc it hurts that she doesn't believe me, her own daughter.

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RE: i can't stand it here anymore

Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline, and thank you for sharing your story. It takes great strength and courage to open up about what has been going on. We cannot even begin to imagine how difficult it may be for you right now. You do not deserve to be mistreated or violated in any way, but it is great that you are advocating for yourself and speaking up about it. It is your right to report any abuse or maltreatment to authorities. And, it sounds like you did what was best for you by reporting to your family about what happened who then reported to authorities. You mentioned that your mom believes your stepdad over you and allows him in the house even though he is not supposed to be there. We imagine it may be frustrating and hurtful for you. You may have the option to report anything that is violating any agreement made to child protective services if you feel you are put at risk for being near him or hurt again. It is your right to live in and be in a safe, supportive, and protected environment.

You mentioned you’re 18 next month with the intent to move out but are wondering about how you can deal with everything. It sounds like talking about it and gaining support from other family members or friends may help you to feel heard and understood. Family and friends may also be able to help you speak to your mom about how this has affected you. Seeking help and support from a counselor or therapist may be a helpful option as well. If you needed help locating resources in your area, we can search our database for referrals. Sometimes it is also helpful to turn to hobbies or other activities for self-care (such as music, art, sports, exercise, etc.) to relieve some of the stress that you may be experiencing. If you are able to call in to our crisis line at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us through our website at www.1800runaway.org, we would be happy to help explore some of your options to deal with everything.

We hope this helps and look forward to your call or chat. We wish you well.

Be safe and take care,

NRS