I want to run away

[Guest]

hi. My reason for running is kind of the opposite of other stories. I've read stories of kids being abused and stuff like that. My family is just the opposite. I know that they love me (even if they don't always show it) but I don't feel like I can live there anymore. I'm such a disappointment to my parents. They have rules and standards in my family but I keep breaking them again and again. I lie and hide what I'm doing. I hate disappointing them, but I'm never good enough. For a long time I've thought of killing myself or running away. I can't bring myself to kill myself and I know it'll just hurt my family more, so the only option left is running away. I'm running away once it gets warm enough so I need some idea of where I can go. You might think me crazy for wanting to run away because I've got a good family (and friends too,) but I just can't deal with my live anymore. It's either run or die. Don't tell me I might have depression because my dad (a doctor) has already given me things for that and nothing helps. I'll be 15 in a month. Please help me.

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to us. It takes a strong person to ask for help during a tough time. It seems like you are under a lot of pressure and feeling suicidal, which must be unbelievably difficult for you to go through. We want to help you in any way that we can.

We understand what you mean when you say it is difficult to live at home with your parents. Trying to live up to their expectations must be exhausting. It isn't fair that, despite your efforts, nothing is ever good enough for them. Have you ever tried to talk with your parents about how their expectations make you feel? It might open their eyes if they realize the negative effect their expectations are having on you.

We want you to know that we are on your side and that you can turn to us at the National Runaway Safeline whenever you think about killing yourself. Dealing with these feelings is not easy, and talking with someone can help. We can be reached by phone at any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). You can also call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

Although you said your dad gave you things to help with depression, it might be helpful to speak with a mental health professional. Many people facing depression and suicidal thoughts find it helpful to get this personalized care, which can include talk therapy, coping mechanisms, and/or medication. You can look into this by asking your parents to help you find a mental health professional, or if you don't feel comfortable asking them, you can try calling SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration). They can be reached at 1-877-726-4727. This organization helps to connect people with affordable and accessible mental health services.

You mentioned running away from home. This is a big decision, and Whatever you decide, it is important to consider your safety. Have you thought about how you would survive if you were on the streets without access to food or shelter? You might also consider asking your parents if they would be okay with you living with relatives or a friend if you can't live at home.

Alternatively, a strategy that you could use to help make living with your parents easier is to send less time at home. You could study at your local public library after school, join a club or sport at school, or hang out at a friend's house after school. This limits the time you have to spend with your parents and their stressful expectations.


We are hoping the very best for you. Please don't hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you want to discuss any of this further. We are here to listen and here to help you.

[Guest]

Lately I've been really stressed out about the things that are going on with me in my house. I'm 17 years old and I'll be turning 18 in next two months. I don't feel like staying at home because my parents don't give me my personal space, they don't understand that at this stage of life every teenager expects some privacy with whatever stuff they're doing. My parents are conservative and I have to lie about everything that I do. And I feel ashamed of doing so. Everything I do isn't quite enough for my parents (basically for my mom). I've tried talking to them about sending me to another city for a couple of days so that I could regain my mental stability and peace of mind. And also that'll be a way to stay away from my home. I can't tell my parents about my long distance relationship with my boyfriend who is 18yrs old and lives in Pune. They'll do everything possible to separate us. I'm planning to run away with my boyfriend but I'm afraid my parents will lodge a complaint on my boyfriend and put him behind the bars. What should I do? Please help me.

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes courage to seek help. It sounds like you want some privacy from your parents. It sounds like you want to runaway and live with your boyfriend. Since you aren't 18 yet, your parents have the right to file a runaway report, With a runaway report, if the police find you they would return you home. Running away is not illegal, but if you decide to stay with your boyfriend he could get charged with harboring a runaway. You could try asking your parents if they would allow you to stay with another family member or close friend. However, since you are so close to being 18, the police may not accept a runaway report for you. You could contact your local police through their none emergency phone number to ask about their runaway policy. If you don't feel comfortable reaching out to the police, we could contact them for you. Please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.


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[Guest]

hello, i am 14 and i am ready to kill myself. my mom is dead and my dad is in jail. i live with my aunt and uncle. my sister has been lying on me saying that i abuse her. my aunt cause all different names and my uncle slings me around. i'm ready to die because i think it will be a better life for me. i am thinking about running away before school ends. tell where should i go.
live in sc columbia

[ccsmod2]

Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes courgae to seek help. It sounds like you are overwhelmed with what's been going on. You mentioned that you are ready to kill yourself. Your life matters ! Talking to someone about how you feel could help. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) offers 24 hour support for people that have thought about suicide.

We are sorry to hear that your mother is dead, your dad is in jail, and your sister has been lying on you. You don't deserve to be called names or be slung around by your uncle. If you feel as though you are in immediate danger, we encourage you to contact the police. You have the right to report the abuse. Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a great resource for reporting abuse and information on how to transfer custody. You mentioned that you are thinking about running away. If you decide to leave home, your aunt and uncle have the right to file a runaway report. With a runaway report, if the police find you they would return you home. Running away is not illegal but if you decide to stay with a friend they could get charged with harboring a runaway. If you decide to runaway, there are youth shelters and local safe places that you could go to. However given your age, some places may require your guardians consent. Please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

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