so many family issues

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okay so this is going to be long and i deeply apologize.

So, my parents have divorced for 3 years and my dad is moving to another state. I want to go with him but my mother wont let me. She is very emotionally abusive and sometimes physical. She only wants me to live with her because i do all the work around the house while she goes out and drinks. I hate her with a damn passion and very close to just getting up and leaving. My step mother has been telling me that im at that age where im able to decide where i live, but if i make that decision, i won't feel safe living with her until its over. I'm scared.

But moving in with my dad won't be all that great either...
From ages 3-10 he would brutally abuse me and i have many mental illnesses because of it. It still to this day bothers me and makes me somewhat uncomfortable around him. I once even witnessed him beat up both my mom and step mother.

You all are probably wondering why i would want to live with him then? Well im being bullied at my current school and he agreed with me that i should move schools, my mom wont budge with her decision on me staying in this current school. Also my mom took away my social media awhile ago and im not allowed to do as much as a google search on my phone anymore, my dad thinks i should have that privilege back. I can almost never trust anyone with anything, but i seem to really open up around my step mom. I feel like living with her would be better for me.

Either way i dont really know what to do and im not 100% sure i want to go live with my dad, but i sure as hell know i don't want to be with my mom anymore.

Help ?

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes a great deal of courage to seek help. It sounds like you are overwhelmed with things at home. We are very sorry to hear that your moms is emotionally abusive and both of your parents are sometimes physically abusive. Abuse is never okay, and you don't deserve to be treated that way. If you ever feel as though you are in immediate danger, we encourage you to call 911. Emotional abuse is harder to prove, but you still have the right to report it. Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a great resource for information on abuse reporting and how to transfer custody. Another option that you is talking to an adult that you trust to see if they could convince your parents to allow you to stay with another family member or close friend. You may also want to consider looking into emancipation laws for your state as well.

You mentioned that you are being bullied at school. You could try talking to a teacher or school counselor about what's been going on, they may be able to help resolve the issue. A great website for support and tips to end bullying is (www.stopbullying.gov). We hope that this information helps, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.