17 soon to be 18 and constantly fight with my mom and I want to leave.

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I'm currently 17 and i'm going to be 18 Aug, 4th....i live with my parents and am currently unemployed and have no car either. I want out of my parent's house because i am sick and tired of constant arguments with my mother. It's almost an everyday thing and it really get's old. Honestly i want my mother to be happy, but its hard to make her happy if i am in a constant battle with her. I want to be independent and want to be able to have my freedom as a young adult. I have applied every where that i could have for work, but it is very hard for me to find work and my only option is to work with my father. My passions are my beautiful and faithful girlfriend and photography. I want to be able to explore new things without having to worry about curfew and where im going and how far i can go etc and the fact that my girlfriend is older than i am (21) allows me to explore new things not only in my photography perspective, but in life itself and i love that she is always trying her best to help me with that. She has no problem driving me places and showing me new things. In all honesty we always talk about having a family. Yes i understand that i am very young to be thinking about having a family and raising a child, but it's what i think of most of the time. I am not the kind of youngster that is into partying and having loads of fun with a bunch of people who say they are your friend when in reality they are not...

Ultimately all i want is to live with my girlfriend, get a job, buy a car, and live my life with her. I want to start my life already and just living at home with out work is depressing and is always making me feel like i am not capable of anything. I honestly feel like a waste of space in this home. I have already discussed the job issue with my parents and it has not made a difference for me. I want them to know that i am capable of becoming a responsible adult with a family. Thank you.

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Re: 17 soon to be 18 and constantly fight with my mom and I want to leave.

Hello and thanks for reaching out and sharing your situation on our bulletin boards. It sounds like you’ve got just under a week until you turn 18. At the same time it sounds like even if you wait until your birthday to leave, there is still the fact you’re unemployed and don’t have a car. Unfortunately these things can affect even young people 18+ who are trying to become more independent. Some cities and states have job training/vocation assistance programs. We don’t know your location, but if you’re in an area with a United Way/211 Call Center you can visit http://www.unitedway.org/find-your-united-way/ and either call or possibly search their database online.

It sounds like you and your girlfriend are pretty serious and you mentioned she has no problem driving you places. At the same time it sounds like while you’re sick of constantly arguing with your mother, you still want her to be happy. We aren’t in a position to make the decision for you to leave or not; however, we’d be more than happy to continue talking to you about possible options. If you prefer to talk online we hope you consider trying out our Live Chat. Best of luck!