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  • #46
    I’m 21 and a type 1 diabetic. My parents constantly shame me on my eating habits and I want to run. It doesn’t feel like they love me as much as my brother

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thanks for reaching out to us. We are very sorry to hear that your parents are shaming you like that. You don't deserve to be put down for what you are dealing with, some of which may be outside your control.

      It sounds like you want to leave home because of all that's going on there. Fortunately, at age 21, you would not be considered a runaway if you left home. However, we also understand that starting out on your own away from parents can still be a daunting task that may require some planning on your part. You don't have to face this alone, however. We are here to help, as well as other agencies that might be able to assist. Sometimes schools, libraries, and local housing assistance programs may be able to offer some help in getting started. Of course, if you need to find shelter, we can also assist with that. Sometimes there are also longer-term, transitional living programs for young adults around your age we could refer you to. We also have other resources that you may find helpful: counselors, legal aid, and the like.

      The best way for us to assist would be for you to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via the chat feature on our website: www.1800runaway.org. Even if you just want to talk about what you are dealing with, we are here for you.

      Stay safe and good luck!

      NRS
      Last edited by ccsmod15; 11-02-2020, 07:30 PM.

  • #47
    I’m 21, and turning 22 in March. I live in Maine, I’m in an emotionally abusive house & need to find a way out, I looked up some transitional independent living programs but they have a 21 age limit, I know it’s legal, but I’ve never left home before, especially when there’s a pandemic abrupt. I plan on calling New Beginnings in Lewiston Monday and seeing what they say, can you give me some tips on how to make this work? I want a small apartment, alone & with good support, but I don’t have any money & I don’t know how to drive.****** If you could point me in the right direction, it would be highly appreciated, thank you..
    Last edited by ccsmod13; 12-12-2020, 11:23 PM. Reason: Edited out email address.

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    • ccsmod13
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us. Leaving can be a big step to take at any age and it sounds like you have already done some research to find supportive resources. The pandemic has been making it much more difficult for many of the young people who reach out to us to become financially independent.

      Calling the resource you found is a great first step to take. You can see if you are eligible for their program and how they will be able to support you. If you call the our hotline or use our live chat service we can look to see if there are additional resources in your area. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave.

      We are here to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org if you would like to talk more about your plan or need additional resources.

      Be safe and good luck!
      NRS

  • #48
    I’m 18 but want to run away but I have no where to go. What should I bring with my to run away?

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    • ccsmod0
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      Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live.  We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.

  • #49
    i am a stepdad of mentaly ill son that ran away from home. hetakes medication that we just found in his room that he has not had in a few days what rights do i have as parents. we live in illiniois if that matters

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear about your situation, and hope we can help.
      If your son is a minor, you are able to report him as a runaway by calling your local nonemergency police line. If you need help finding this number, you can reach out to us at any time to provide your location information at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You might also consider calling the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) at 1-800-843-5678. This is a hotline staffed by people that can connect you with resources in your area, advocate on behalf of you with law enforcement, and investigate the situation with you further to understand your son’s whereabouts.
      You might check your son’s social media accounts, bank statements, and phone records, or brainstorm people he knows and places he goes.
      We hope this information is helpful to you. We know this is a scary moment. Help is out there. If you need any further information, we encourage you to call us at any time: We are always here for you. We can also transfer you directly to NCMEC.
      Good luck; stay safe and strong.
      Sincerely,
      NRS

  • #50
    what happens if ur 15 and ur boyfiend 21 and u run alway with him??????

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    • ccsmod2
      ccsmod2 commented
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      Hello There,

      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen.

      We are not legal experts but because you are 15 and a minor your legal guardian can file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. Also keep in mind that some states the age of consent is 16 or older so your boyfriend could possibly get in trouble. To find out the best answer you could call your local police department and ask.

      Your safety is the top concern please call us to discuss more about your situation and have a safety plan. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support.
      NRS

  • #51
    if i, a 19 year old, run away from my college and home, and live with a friend, could her mom get in legal trouble for letting me stay with them?

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It seems like you might be in a tough situation at college and home, and we want to support you any way we can.

      Since you are 19, in most states there would be no legal trouble for leaving to live with someone else, since the age of majority is 18. There are some states where this is different (like Mississippi, Alabama, and Nebraska) so it is important to look into state specific rules.

      We may be able to help you better by hearing more details about your situation and how we can help specifically. You can call or chat to speak to someone at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you feel that you are unsafe at home and need to leave, there is an organization called National Safe Place that might be able to help you find a safe place to go. Text the word "safe" and your current address to 44357 or go to www.nationalsafeplace.org for more information.

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      We hope to hear from you soon, and best of luck to you!

  • #52
    My friends daughter had gotten into a relationship with her uncle my friends broqther and took off to Kansas city and she is calling her dad my friend scared for her life crying and wants to come home,what does he do?

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    • ccsmod8
      ccsmod8 commented
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      Hello there -

      Thank you for reaching out to us here for some support and sharing your story on our public forum board. We want to help we can best as we can, but we are slightly confused by what the situation at hand is. If you have a specific question that you can't find the answer to on any of these threads or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now, you can always call us. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Please reach out via phone or even our online chat for more help and for us to really understand what is it that you are looking for support in.

      We hope to hear from you so that we can help you further.

  • #53
    I'm 30 years old and I want to run away. What should I do

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    • ccsmod16
      ccsmod16 commented
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      Hi, thanks for reaching out. It's understandable that it would feel like running away to decide to leave home for the first time, but legally at 30 you are a full adult and are allowed to leave at any time.
      To prepare to do so, you would want a job to pay your rent and utilities and other living expenses. You can also check with friends to try to find a roommate to share those expenses. If it is not safe for you to leave, you are free to call your local police to escort you out of the house. We hope this information helps you begin the research for you to move out.
      If you need shelter due to a safety issue at home, you can search https://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/ for available shelter in your area.
      We wish you the best of luck.
      Sincerely,
      NRS

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    • #55
      Hi. I’m writing this for my gf and I as we are unsure. She is almost 19 years old in less than 2 months though she does have mild autism (I have aspergers myself) It’s not something I’d judge her for of course and I’ve been helping her with her affairs as she wants to move out, get a job etc. Things got bad last weekend when we were coming home from a date and she broke down crying, having panic attacks and begging me not to take her home. She alleged physical and sexual abuse in her household and even I had seen some verbal at this point. I offered for her to stay the night with my family in order to calm her down until we could figure things out. The police got called and they took her back home against her will. She tried to run away the next day after they got in a huge fight but she was sent back.

      Her parents have always been highly controlling though understandable but since then have gone unreasonably too far. They are now trying to isolate her from church, her friends, counselor, and myself. We remain in contact though her panic attacks have only increased in number and severity and though I’ve convinced her not to each time, she’s becoming increasingly suicidal. I’m afraid for her well being and survival. I was abused growing up by my dad both physically and sexually so I take what she has told me, my sister (they are friends) and her other friend from church seriously.

      I keep telling her things will get better but the amount of things have only grown each day as she and her family are fighting and yelling everyday. I want to help her and yes I do love her very much, but this goes beyond our own relationship at this point as she keeps trying to run away nearly every night or trying to harm herself, thinking the only way to escape is to run away where none us can find her or death.

      I guess our questions are as follows:

      What can she do so she won’t get sent back when she tries to run away again? (Either back to my house or elsewhere)
      What can she do to move out and be independent?
      And how can I help her?

      Thanks and sorry for the long story.

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      • ccsmod15
        ccsmod15 commented
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        Hello,

        Thanks for reaching out to us. We are so sorry that things at home for your gf have been so difficult. It is never ok for anyone to be abusive towards you or your gf. Both of you deserve to live in a space where you feel safe. It sounds like you would like more information on what options your girlfriend has. While we cannot tell you what to do, we can review some options she might have available to her.

        We are so sorry that your gf has experienced abuse at home. She has the right to report any abuse that she experiences at home. This report is typically taken by her state's local abuse hotline. From what we understand, once a report is filed, the state agency responsible for her well-being will conduct an investigation and, if necessary, explore your gf's options for safe homes. There is no guarantee that she would be removed from the home. If your gf's parents are still considered her guardians, she may have a case manager that oversees her guardianship. If this is the case, she can also reach out to the case manager to discuss what her options are.

        We are not legal experts, but from what we do know, youth are typically returned home by the police if they are considered minors in your state. In your gf's case, it may help to clarify whether her parents are still considered her legal guardians. Typically, if she is no longer under their guardianship, she would be able to move out and live independently. If she is interested in moving out and still under her parent's guardianship, she would need their consent to move out and live somewhere else. It may help you and your gf to speak with someone familiar with the laws in your state, like a local Legal Aid agency. They may be able to provide both of you with more specific guidance on what she can legally do to move out and not be sent back home if her parents are still her legal guardians. It sounds like the situation has been pretty overwhelming to her, but you have been a wonderful source of safety and support. It may help to ask her if she would like help making calls to local legal aid resources.

        If she would like more information, or just someone to talk to, we are also here to help. We will do our best to help her explore safe options for leaving home, and provide her with local resources if she would like to get information specific to her area.

        Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

        We are here to listen, here to

    • #56
      I’m currently 17 and I’m really wanting to leave my parents at 18. I love my parents to death and they love me back, but there is so much past and unresolved issues with my family that is making all my mental health become worse. I’ve been through molestation just recently and my parents would never accept me for my problems. First time it happened they didn’t believe me and couldn’t help me, so I suffered for years. My home is a toxic place for me and I can’t stand to be here any longer. I hate thinking to leave them but they already lost me. I wanted to ask for tips on how to be able to take care of yourself financially, I have a job now but I don’t have my permit and I don’t know anything about living on my own since I’m continuing to be sheltered. Thank you for reaching out to me.

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      • ccsmod1
        ccsmod1 commented
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        Hi there,

        We appreciate you reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS) and sharing some of your story with us. We recognize that it takes a great deal of courage and strength to talk about heavy experiences and we hope to support you during this time in any way that we can. We are deeply sorry to hear what has recently happened and we want you to feel uplifted and supported. Your mental health deserves to be respected and treated kindly. We would be happy to talk with you and potentially look up resources that may assist with your mental health, if you are interested. We could also then help you sort through ideas on how you may support yourself financially. For the most efficient and direct support, we welcome you to reach out to us through our chat portal, found on our website at www.1800runaway.org or by giving us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We look forward to the opportunity to have a further conversation with you.

        Wishing you strong health, safety, and peace.

        Sincerely,
        NRS
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