Hello, I just have some concerns when it comes to my parents.
(This is a lot of personal stuff; if you'd rather just skip it, I have my legal questions down below in bold.)
We've never had a good relationship and through my life I have felt emotionally strained constantly with my parents, as live has always been rather stressful. We've never really had the same ideals, and then when I was charged with shoplifting (but not because I shoplifted; my friend did and I did not stop him and I didn't know I would get in trouble for it) my parents started threatening me and trying to publicly humiliate me which they had done before, but this time threatening to take me out of my school away from my friends and put me in a Catholic school, as well as many other threats.
I've always felt helpless and cornered, since my mom is a counselor at a mental health clinic and uses her knowledge to continually diagnose me (with narcissistic personality disorder, depression, bipolar disorder, aggression, etc.) and she always tells me there is no way out for me, so I have to do what she says. On an occasion when my dad slapped me, she got angry because he didn't hit me on the scalp where you can't see anything. Also, she tells me that I should never try to call Child Protection Services because they will never believe my word over hers. My parents are also very controlling (or maybe that's just how I see it; I'm probably biased).
My dad watches me study for math tests, my mom doesn't let me spend more than an average of 4 hours with someone at a given time (even though I don't have many friends, I have 1 good friend), my mom doesn't like when I am not at home or with her so she takes my keys or takes me shopping or to work with her, my mom has me volunteer weekly at places where her friends are managers and can watch me, my mom proctored 6 of my practice SAT tests, and my parents installed a gps tracker on my phone.
Over the years, I've become sort of immune to their threats and their attempts at humiliation to the point where I just don't care what they think anymore, because I know who I am and I don't need the fear of what other people think of me influencing me. My dad's always been very pushy about grades and I have always been a good student, because I love learning, and I am going to apply to good colleges and I believe that I'll get in. Additionally, I'm a generally good kid. I've don't smoke, drink alcohol, skip school, sneak out, etc. I have never ever gotten a speeding ticket in my life. I'm beyond livid about what happened with my friend, but I suffered and will suffer the consequences and there's not much I can do about that. Also, when it comes to school, I am enrolled in an extremely intensive two year program, and have been doing well.
However, with how everything is getting increasingly more turbulent and stressful at home, with my dad having a new job and my mom looking for houses because she wants to move, I decided I wanted to take a gap year from school, which my dad strongly opposes but was swayed when he learned it can be good on resumes. But the more I think about it, the more I just want to peel off and head out already.
When I turn 18 (I am 17 now) I am going to try to get my paperwork together as soon as possible (likely a good couple of months) so I can move to Canada. I've done a lot of research on it, such as International Driving Permits, Temp Resident Visas, Work Permits, job offers, apartments, etc. I know it's a little impulsive of me to just want to leave, but I really think that it is what's best for me at this point. I don't think my parents are bad people, but I think that they value what they want over what I want with little concern for my mental health. I love my parents, but I can't stand to be around them.
I just want to know if my parents can legally do anything about it, because I think my mom is the kind of person to call the police immediately. I know that since I am in the age of majority in Idaho (where we live) and have no physical disabilities or actual mental health issues, they have to wait until I am gone for 48 hours to file a missing persons report. If I were to leave Idaho for Toronto, Canada, my questions are as follows.
If I tell someone where I am going, am I still a missing person even though my parents don't know where I am?
Can my parents have me arrested if I take clothing and belongings (such as a laptop, books, etc.) that they bought for me?
Is it legal for my parents to follow me or come find me and bring me back to Idaho?
Do they still have authority over me if they have my legal papers (birth certificate, social security card, citizenship naturalization forms, etc.)?
Thank you so much.
(This is a lot of personal stuff; if you'd rather just skip it, I have my legal questions down below in bold.)
We've never had a good relationship and through my life I have felt emotionally strained constantly with my parents, as live has always been rather stressful. We've never really had the same ideals, and then when I was charged with shoplifting (but not because I shoplifted; my friend did and I did not stop him and I didn't know I would get in trouble for it) my parents started threatening me and trying to publicly humiliate me which they had done before, but this time threatening to take me out of my school away from my friends and put me in a Catholic school, as well as many other threats.
I've always felt helpless and cornered, since my mom is a counselor at a mental health clinic and uses her knowledge to continually diagnose me (with narcissistic personality disorder, depression, bipolar disorder, aggression, etc.) and she always tells me there is no way out for me, so I have to do what she says. On an occasion when my dad slapped me, she got angry because he didn't hit me on the scalp where you can't see anything. Also, she tells me that I should never try to call Child Protection Services because they will never believe my word over hers. My parents are also very controlling (or maybe that's just how I see it; I'm probably biased).
My dad watches me study for math tests, my mom doesn't let me spend more than an average of 4 hours with someone at a given time (even though I don't have many friends, I have 1 good friend), my mom doesn't like when I am not at home or with her so she takes my keys or takes me shopping or to work with her, my mom has me volunteer weekly at places where her friends are managers and can watch me, my mom proctored 6 of my practice SAT tests, and my parents installed a gps tracker on my phone.
Over the years, I've become sort of immune to their threats and their attempts at humiliation to the point where I just don't care what they think anymore, because I know who I am and I don't need the fear of what other people think of me influencing me. My dad's always been very pushy about grades and I have always been a good student, because I love learning, and I am going to apply to good colleges and I believe that I'll get in. Additionally, I'm a generally good kid. I've don't smoke, drink alcohol, skip school, sneak out, etc. I have never ever gotten a speeding ticket in my life. I'm beyond livid about what happened with my friend, but I suffered and will suffer the consequences and there's not much I can do about that. Also, when it comes to school, I am enrolled in an extremely intensive two year program, and have been doing well.
However, with how everything is getting increasingly more turbulent and stressful at home, with my dad having a new job and my mom looking for houses because she wants to move, I decided I wanted to take a gap year from school, which my dad strongly opposes but was swayed when he learned it can be good on resumes. But the more I think about it, the more I just want to peel off and head out already.
When I turn 18 (I am 17 now) I am going to try to get my paperwork together as soon as possible (likely a good couple of months) so I can move to Canada. I've done a lot of research on it, such as International Driving Permits, Temp Resident Visas, Work Permits, job offers, apartments, etc. I know it's a little impulsive of me to just want to leave, but I really think that it is what's best for me at this point. I don't think my parents are bad people, but I think that they value what they want over what I want with little concern for my mental health. I love my parents, but I can't stand to be around them.
I just want to know if my parents can legally do anything about it, because I think my mom is the kind of person to call the police immediately. I know that since I am in the age of majority in Idaho (where we live) and have no physical disabilities or actual mental health issues, they have to wait until I am gone for 48 hours to file a missing persons report. If I were to leave Idaho for Toronto, Canada, my questions are as follows.
If I tell someone where I am going, am I still a missing person even though my parents don't know where I am?
Can my parents have me arrested if I take clothing and belongings (such as a laptop, books, etc.) that they bought for me?
Is it legal for my parents to follow me or come find me and bring me back to Idaho?
Do they still have authority over me if they have my legal papers (birth certificate, social security card, citizenship naturalization forms, etc.)?
Thank you so much.
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