My dad choked me

Hi im jaliya im 12 i was choked by my father and got hit with a cord and a belt now i have brusies on my leg and arm i have deppresssion and idk what to do.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

I don't know what to do I was arguing with my brother and then we started wrestling and my dad came down stairs and grabbed me pushed me and I said go away old man because i was angry because he always pushes or throws me and he came at me held me to the couch fot 15 sec chocking me.

[ccsmod15]

Hey there thanks for reaching out to NRS,
That seems like a really scary situation to have gone through. You never should be hit or choked like that, especially by a parent. They are supposed to be there to protect you and make sure you are safe, not to threaten you and cause you pain or fear. If you are ever put into a position like that again you can call 911 for help.
You could probably choose to file an abuse report for that incident as well and either help your dad get into anger management classes at least or you might get taken out of that dangerous house and put into foster care or placement with another family member. You deserve to be protected and to feel safe in your home instead of subjected to the short fuse of your father like that all the time. It can be helpful as well to have pictures of any bruises you may have gotten from your dad, and to write down in a journal the day/time and a description of the events for further evidence for CPS/Police if you do go down that route. https://www.childhelp.org/ is a great resource for learning about your rights and helpful ways to address child abuse or report it.
We are also here to help you file a report should you choose to. We are also here always to be an ear to listen to you and support you through this scary situation. You aren’t alone and there are people out there willing to help you out. If you need someone to talk to or have more questions, please don’t hesitate to call our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or use our online chat at 1800runaway.org.
Stay safe,
NRS.

I’m 14 year old, my dad was eating and he didn’t like the foods because it wasn’t salty and he got really mad. He a very short temper and he hit me in the head and choke me and he start talking while he choke me and he say should I punch you, at that time I just want to die so I didn’t say anything and my body was shaking but I keep a straight face.

[ccsmod9]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

So my day was just like any other but when I woke up I really didn’t want to go to tennis my dad came in and I was scared of him before because sometimes he would grab me by the ear and twist it and just in general he was kind of mean to me but any way I told him I wasn’t going and offered to pay for the lesson but instead of some sort of compromise he just picked me up by the neck and squeezed the front part where the Adam’s apple is it hurt and I had trouble breathing but I am 13 and don’t know what to do because it was kind of my fault that he did it

[ccsmod4]

Reply: I’m 22 years old....


Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).
We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way.
NRS is a crisis service for youth 21 and under. If you would like assistance or speak with someone about your situation you might consider contacting the Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233

It may also be a good to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust for support. If you are at risk or feeling unsafe contact 9-1-1 for immediate help.

Take care,
NRS

I’m 22 years old....I still live at home with my parents. I work full time and go to school part time. We all were eating on the patio. And everyone went inside except me and my dad. He started saying I was being disrespectful and he was a second a way from slapping me. I was trying to walk past him in a calm manner and he grabbed me by the neck and squeezed pulling me up. I couldn’t breathe. Slightly gagged and panicked. I stepped back and screamed no. I don’t know what to do. I always excuse his actions bc he is my dad and I start to think it’s my fault. I need help I don’t know what to do

[ccsmod5]

Hi, thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It takes a lot of courage to be able to explain your situation to us. No one should be physically abused. You certainly did not deserve to be choked or pulled against a wall. That must have been terrifying. You do not deserve that treatment at all and you show a lot of bravery telling us what had happened. In this case, you could complete a child abuse report. You can always call and we could help you file an abuse report. You can reach us 24 hours a day 7 days a week at 1-800- RUNAWAY. You can also reach out to the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 to file an abuse report. However, only you can make the decision as to whether or not you want to follow through with an abuse report. We are mandated reporters so if you were to call us and wanted to just talk about other options and not file an abuse report you would just need to make sure to not give us your father’s name or information. No matter what you ultimately choose to do, we are here as support for you and you are welcome to call at any time or reach out to us via chat on our website or email us at [email protected] . You can also contact a teacher or guidance counselor to file an abuse report. You do not deserve abuse of any kind and if you want to chat more about your situation or would like to discuss other options please do not hesitate to call. We wish you the best of luck.
- NRS

It was just like any other day but my dad and I started to argue over something small then it escalated and he threw his coffee all over the kitchen and grabbed my neck with his hand and he pushed me backwards across the kitchen into the wall tried pulling me up the wall by my neck and screaming in my face while im struggling there looking at him and hes screaming at me. What do I do? What could I do?