My dad choked me

[Guest]

My dad thought I was doing something like stealing a bag of chips, Then he started to yell at me in Chinese and saying bad stuff about me saying that I shouldn't talk back but he's the one telling to talk so I talked and earlier he was choking me and starting to hurt me but my grandma goes in and stopped him

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are so sorry to hear about this incident at home, and hope that we can support you through this.
We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like things got really heated between you and Dad, and you were physically harmed. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA (1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org) is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We know that Grandma was there during this incident and now knows what is happening. Telling more people can help you get the support you need. Outside of abuse reporting, sometimes family intervention can help, or intervention from friends’ parents or other trusted adults. You should not have to carry the weight of this incident on your own. Keep in mind, too, that some people in your life, like a school counselor, are mandated to report.
Again, we are deeply sorry you had to go through this. It must have been scary, hurtful, and uncomfortable. You do not have to go through it again. If you need help, we encourage you to call us at 1-800-RUN-AWAY.
Sincerely,
NRS

[Guest]

my dad is in the army and he grabbed my neck and picked me up and hit my face and was chocking me and im only 10 years old

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I hate my life because my dad hits me and he calls me adopted and calls me a mistake when I struggle and past the time he kicks me out the house and tells me leave your not welcomed here and I just wanna end my life I wanna hang myself.

[ccsmod13]

Hello and thank you so much for reaching out to NRS through our forum-it takes a lot of courage to do so, especially when this is a very difficult and distressing time for you. First and foremost, you most absolutely do not deserve to be treated in this way by anyone and that includes your father. You deserve to be treated with respect and dignity by your family and anyone else for that matter. Your home should be a safe space for you, where you can openly communicate with those around you and feel at ease.

With that in mind, it could be helpful to reach out to trusted family members and or friends in order to open up to them about what is going on at home and how your father is treating you. This may then allow you to leave home and stay with someone who will take you in and provide a safe place for you to stay. You should not have to deal with this physical, and not to mention mental, abuse every day to the point of considering to take your own life. Another option would be to contact the child abuse hotline at 1(800)422-4453 or www.childhelp.org in order to speak with someone outside of your circle of family and friends about the situation at home as well as possibly report your father for abusing you. You can also talk more in depth about resources for protecting yourself against further abuse, and even go to the police and make a report on your father as a means to put an end to this awful treatment.

If you should have any further questions about anything mentioned above or would like to talk more about what is going on at home or anything else, please do not hesitate to reach out to us directly at 1(800)-RUNAWAY or 1(800) 786-2929. We are here to listen and to help to the best of our ability 24/7.

[Guest]

the other day i sat down at my brothers computer and it wasn't even on and i just moved around the mouse and he started being really annoying so i pushed him lightly and he punched my head into the wall right behind me and there was the backside of a nail sticking out of the wall and he slammed my head against that, and then i got up quickly and he started running and my dada sprinted in as fast as he could and grabbed me very tightly and had me in a chokehold but wasn't choking me and then i started to kind of try to push his hands off of me and he put his arm around my neck really really tightly and i was already tired and needed oxygen badly and he choked me for about 5-10 seconds and then he choked me so hard i started to bleed from the mouth and i started to spit blood on the carpet and then he loosened off a little and i managed to get up and in a corner and he sat there screaming in my face and punching me straight in the chest and he was raging with anger and then i sprinted outside in the freezing cold and i was barefoot and i was just running on the sharp gravel with stickers because i did not want him to come after me.

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. The incident that you described with your brother and father sounded very scary and you never should have had to endure that. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to child protective services. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

so my dad found and ipad that i wasn't supposed to have right im 14 and i was doing drugs and skipping my online school well he found it and i wouldn't tell him the password cuz i didnt wanna rat people out and hes 6,4 and weighs abt 240 and im 6 foot and weight 130 and he took his and and pushed me against the wall and choked me till my face turned diff colors i wanna tell my mom but i'm afraid what should i do btw my parents are together

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Well me and my dad always joke around and it got out of control and he stud up and shoved me into the closet door and grabbed my neck and screamed at my face.
I had two thoughts in my mind one was beating his ass and the other was just do nothing , well i did nothing and just btw this just happened like 10 minutes ago but im fine i can take hits so what should i do next ?

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

Thank you so much for reaching out to NRS today. We know it can be a scary thing to do and take a lot of courage. That must have been a really scary situation you went through with your dad.

One thing to note is if you felt like this incident was abuse, you do have the right to report it. One way to do this is by reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made. However, we can also help guide you through that process if you reach out over the phone at 1-800-796-2929 or through livechat at 1800runaway.org. Either way we are available 24/7.

It sounds like this has never happened before with your dad. Another option could be talking to him about how you felt about the incident. One resource we have here at NRS is the conference calling service where you would reach out by phone at 1-800-786-2929 and we would have one of our liners mediate a conversation between the two of you. That way, you can share with him how you felt and we can help you navigate that.

Lastly, we are here to talk through this situation with you in more depth and potentially help provide more resources. You are welcome to reach out to us through the phone or over livechat at 1800runaway.org 24/7. We are here for you.

Best of luck and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

So it started off with a small argument with me asking to go running in the park. My father told me no because I already was outside 1 day prior to that. My father only lets me outside curtains days. 2-3 days a week. Sometimes less. I (17 year old) turning 18 soon argued back. From then it started to escalate. Next thing I knew he was telling me to die and jump off a bridge. And was telling me how He don’t need me. Then pushed me against the wall and continued screaming. I tired to move more away but he wouldn’t let me n would follow me yelling. I would yell back not backing down then he pushed me again into the wall this time to put his hand around my neck squeezing. I couldn’t breathe. I then tried to stay calm and waiting for him to release his hand. For him to continue screaming right when he let go he whispered under his breath “die”. Is it serious or am I being extra…. I noticed the more we argue the more physical he gets.

[ccsmod5]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. Its important you know, you are not being extra, or overreacting in any way. The behavior you are describing is abusive and you do not deserve to be trated that way regardless of what others may try to justify it by.
We’re sorry you’re going through this. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We recognize that being close to tuning 18 may weigh in on your decision to calling and reporting abuse. If you’d like to talk a bit more about this, please reach out to us.
If you would like to talk more in detail, please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) or call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi, I am 20 years old my dad called me saying he wants to shoot himself. He has lots of guns so I was worried and went to his house. The situation escalated, so I decided to call the police. When he found out I called, he pushed me against the wall and choked me. He was drunk and high off Adderall. Now, he will not apologize to me or even admit what he has done. He says he moved me, which is very invalidating and makes it so hard to process what happened and heal. I dont know what to do, I think it has been too long to report it to the police (it happened in June 2021).

[ccsmod5]

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS, we understand it can be difficult to take this step. It sounds like this experience must have been difficult to deal with, we’re sorry you had to experience this. You were trying to help, and be a supportive daughter. If police did end up showing up at the scene eventually, it may be good to reference that call when reporting the assault.
We can’t say if the time that has past will influence how police will respond. However, it may be helpful for them to have the information for future reference.
We are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We’re here to listen and to help, we hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm a bit late to this, but, tonight I started arguing with my dad about something, I can't remember what, it got so bad I left to go into my room. He started banging on the door of my room and when I opened it he swung it with such force it smashed my foot against the wall and started bleeding. He then proceeded to yell at me, and I, just finally losing it after years of being yelled at yelled back a bad idea. He grabbed my neck in an attempt to choke me but before I threw a punch and shoved him out of my room. I know I shouldn't have punched him but it was in self-defence. I am a 12-year-old and I was just attacked by my Dad, who is 44.

[ccsmod5]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like it was a pretty difficult night to get through, we are so sorry you had to experience this and have been experiencing the yelling for some time now. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way, you deserve to feel safe and comfortable in your own home. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best.
We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

My dad stated chocking me after I had a small argument with him then after he stoped he started agian and I actually couldn’t breath this time. It’s not the first time this happened it’s happened a few other times.

[ccsmod5]

Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out to NRS. You do not deserve to be treated that way by your dad and it's very brave of you to seek help. If you would like to talk in more detail, contact a live service, such as the NRS chatline on our website (www.1800runaway.org) or calling 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also use the Child Help abuse hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or the national domestic violence hotline at 1-800-799-7233. We highly encourage that you visit these safe places if you haven't already! If you ever feel like you are in immediate danger, call 911. In the meantime, stay strong and stay safe.

Best, NRS.

[Guest]

I'm 14 years old. I and my dad were having an argument that had nothing to do with him. Our primary arguments would start with my dog because I raise him with only positivity, but my dad wants me to play with him less and use more negativity when it CLEARLY didn't work with our older dog who has now passed. Today they gave him something he REALLY should not have, so I addressed it. My father started arguing and asking me questions. I answer the questions, but he would get louder and louder when he didn't like my answer whilst I was trying to keep my voice settled. He asked me "Who do you think you are!?!?" Which made me think that I don't know my dad anymore, so I also repeated "Who do you think you are? I don't even know you." Keep in mind that I was sitting on the ground this entire argument, he choked me and I struggled to break free. He continued the argument and I couldn't even talk anymore. It made me suicidal at the time, but not anymore. I fear that I will feel this sensation again, I don't know what to do.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi my dad choked me because i got in trouble at school and im 13 and i was really scared and crying and my mom is always putting me down and calling me mean things

[ccsmod15]

Hi there thank you for reaching out and sharing what you are going through,
You do not deserve to ever get choked or have any other unwanted physical contact EVER. That sounds very scary. You don’t deserve to be put down or called names either. What you have described seems like it might qualify as child abuse For child abuse support you could look at www.childhelp.org.

Our support team is here 24/7 both online at nationalrunawaysafeline.org or on our phone line at 1-800-RUNAWAY. There are a variety of things we can help with such as an abuse report, we could also provide you resources for abuse hotlines or centers or even shelter information.

[Guest]

sad. day. sad. life

[ccsmod10]

We're sorry to hear you've been feeling sad about life lately. We're here to help, whether it means looking for a mental health professional, trying to solve some of the things making you unhappy, or just listening. You can contact us at 1800runway.org for live chat, or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY any time to talk.

[Guest]

Hi Im 15 years old and i was arguing with my mom about something and my dad came into the restroom all in my face while i was cleaning the restroom threating me saying i will break you then he asked my mom he could slap so my reaction was to step in the tub to back away from with my fist balled up and he said you dont ball your fist around me and the started choking me against wall couldnt breath and turning a different color then stopped and kept telling me he would break im planning to go to my police station tommorow to report him what should i do ?

[ccsmod15]

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us. We are so sorry that the situation at home has been so volatile. It is not ok for anyone to physically harm you regardless of the reason. You deserve to live in a space where you feel safe. We cannot tell you what to do, but we will share information that can support you in staying safe.

If you were injured, are at risk of further harm, and/or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

Although we cannot tell you what to do, we will do our best to support you in staying safe. If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best. We are here to listen, here to help. Stay safe!

-NRS