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    It was just like any other day but my dad and I started to argue over something small then it escalated and he threw his coffee all over the kitchen and grabbed my neck with his hand and he pushed me backwards across the kitchen into the wall tried pulling me up the wall by my neck and screaming in my face while im struggling there looking at him and hes screaming at me. What do I do? What could I do?

  • #2
    Hi, thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It takes a lot of courage to be able to explain your situation to us. No one should be physically abused. You certainly did not deserve to be choked or pulled against a wall. That must have been terrifying. You do not deserve that treatment at all and you show a lot of bravery telling us what had happened. In this case, you could complete a child abuse report. You can always call and we could help you file an abuse report. You can reach us 24 hours a day 7 days a week at 1-800- RUNAWAY. You can also reach out to the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 to file an abuse report. However, only you can make the decision as to whether or not you want to follow through with an abuse report. We are mandated reporters so if you were to call us and wanted to just talk about other options and not file an abuse report you would just need to make sure to not give us your father’s name or information. No matter what you ultimately choose to do, we are here as support for you and you are welcome to call at any time or reach out to us via chat on our website or email us at [email protected] . You can also contact a teacher or guidance counselor to file an abuse report. You do not deserve abuse of any kind and if you want to chat more about your situation or would like to discuss other options please do not hesitate to call. We wish you the best of luck.
    - NRS
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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    • #3
      I’m 22 years old....I still live at home with my parents. I work full time and go to school part time. We all were eating on the patio. And everyone went inside except me and my dad. He started saying I was being disrespectful and he was a second a way from slapping me. I was trying to walk past him in a calm manner and he grabbed me by the neck and squeezed pulling me up. I couldn’t breathe. Slightly gagged and panicked. I stepped back and screamed no. I don’t know what to do. I always excuse his actions bc he is my dad and I start to think it’s my fault. I need help I don’t know what to do

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      • #4
        Reply: I’m 22 years old....


        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).
        We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way.
        NRS is a crisis service for youth 21 and under. If you would like assistance or speak with someone about your situation you might consider contacting the Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233

        It may also be a good to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust for support. If you are at risk or feeling unsafe contact 9-1-1 for immediate help.

        Take care,
        NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

        Tell us what you think about your experience!
        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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        • #5
          So my day was just like any other but when I woke up I really didn’t want to go to tennis my dad came in and I was scared of him before because sometimes he would grab me by the ear and twist it and just in general he was kind of mean to me but any way I told him I wasn’t going and offered to pay for the lesson but instead of some sort of compromise he just picked me up by the neck and squeezed the front part where the Adam’s apple is it hurt and I had trouble breathing but I am 13 and don’t know what to do because it was kind of my fault that he did it

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          • ccsmod9
            ccsmod9 commented
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            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
            Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
            If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
            We hope to hear from you soon.
            Be safe,
            NRS

        • #6
          I’m 14 year old, my dad was eating and he didn’t like the foods because it wasn’t salty and he got really mad. He a very short temper and he hit me in the head and choke me and he start talking while he choke me and he say should I punch you, at that time I just want to die so I didn’t say anything and my body was shaking but I keep a straight face.

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          • ccsmod15
            ccsmod15 commented
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            Hey there thanks for reaching out to NRS,
            That seems like a really scary situation to have gone through. You never should be hit or choked like that, especially by a parent. They are supposed to be there to protect you and make sure you are safe, not to threaten you and cause you pain or fear. If you are ever put into a position like that again you can call 911 for help.
            You could probably choose to file an abuse report for that incident as well and either help your dad get into anger management classes at least or you might get taken out of that dangerous house and put into foster care or placement with another family member. You deserve to be protected and to feel safe in your home instead of subjected to the short fuse of your father like that all the time. It can be helpful as well to have pictures of any bruises you may have gotten from your dad, and to write down in a journal the day/time and a description of the events for further evidence for CPS/Police if you do go down that route. https://www.childhelp.org/ is a great resource for learning about your rights and helpful ways to address child abuse or report it.
            We are also here to help you file a report should you choose to. We are also here always to be an ear to listen to you and support you through this scary situation. You aren’t alone and there are people out there willing to help you out. If you need someone to talk to or have more questions, please don’t hesitate to call our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or use our online chat at 1800runaway.org.
            Stay safe,
            NRS.

        • #7
          I don't know what to do I was arguing with my brother and then we started wrestling and my dad came down stairs and grabbed me pushed me and I said go away old man because i was angry because he always pushes or throws me and he came at me held me to the couch fot 15 sec chocking me.

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          • ccsmod15
            ccsmod15 commented
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            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
            Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
            If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
            We hope to hear from you soon.
            Be safe,
            NRS

        • #8
          Hi im jaliya im 12 i was choked by my father and got hit with a cord and a belt now i have brusies on my leg and arm i have deppresssion and idk what to do.

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          • ccsmod2
            ccsmod2 commented
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            Hello There,

            Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. You do not deserve to be treated that way and we are sorry you are dealing with that.
            What you have described sounds like abuse, which you do have every right to make a report. There are a few options on how to make an abuse report. One option is to call Child Help at: 1800-422-4453. Another option is you can call or chat with us online and we can help you make an abuse report. You can also talk to a trusted adult about what is going on.
            We want you to know that you are not alone and there is always someone willing to help. If you have any more questions or just need someone to talk to we are here for you. We are available 24/7 by phone or by chat. We wish you the best of luck!
            NRS

        • #9
          My father has been hitting me since I can remember. I can’t remember anything since before I was 8 years old. I have been choked twice by my father once for wanting to do nothing all day and watch TV, which he thought I was just having an attitude. My father has slapped me countless times and has punched the top of my head just as much. My father has told me that my feelings and opinions don’t matter, and has made decisions about my life without telling me. Recently he made a plan for me to work at a restaurant that I specifically told him I didn’t want to work at. I worked their for the day because situations like this has happened so many times but when I needed for him to pick me up he got mad because he was out drinking with friends and had to order me an Uber. He was mad bc my Uber account wasn’t working and was being rude and angry and was yelling at me. So I yelled back on the phone, “maybe I wouldn’t need an Uber if you weren’t out drinking all the time” he got mad and I haven’t seen him since. My mom told me that my dad was furious that I said that to him, and said I should leave my home for the night so he doesn’t get angry when he sees me. I’m so scared and fear for my safety. What can I do? If he hits me can I fight back?? What should I do? Thank you.

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          • ccsmod0
            ccsmod0 commented
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            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
            Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
            If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
            We hope to hear from you soon.
            Be safe,
            NRS

        • #10
          One day My step mom told me how i didnt take care of my rabbit then i was like i want to kill myself but i didnt then my dad heard that and he was like did i hear what i think she said so then he grabbed me bye the jaw and pick me up and through me through the doors the he started choking me

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          • ccsmod15
            ccsmod15 commented
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            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
            Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
            If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
            We hope to hear from you soon.
            Be safe,
            NRS

        • #11
          I can never seem to do anything right or make high enough grades foe my parents and when my dad gets mad he will hit me with sticks and throw me and punch and kick me and choke me out and i dont know what to do. I really want to just give up on life and commit suicide even tho i know its not the right option what should i do.

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          • ccsmod2
            ccsmod2 commented
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            Thanks for reaching out to NRS. We’re so sorry to hear that you’re dealing with physical abuse at home. It sounds like a really tough situation and you feel like you can never do anything right. No one has the right to hurt you. It takes courage to speak out about what you’re experiencing right now and to ask for help. We’re glad you did. If you want to report that physical abuse, you can make an Abuse Report. Child Help USA is an information and referral line that can connect you with your local CPS abuse hotline where you can make a report about the abuse you’re experiencing. That number is 1-800-422-4453. You mentioned wanting to give up on life. We know you’re in a tough situation right now, but your life is important. If you are seriously considering ending your life, know that you can speak directly to a real human being at the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit them online at suicidepreventionlifeline.org. You’re not alone! Thanks for reaching out with your story. Give us a call if you want to talk through options for next steps or just discuss the situation. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) We’re available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and we’re totally confidential. Call anytime. Best of luck, NRS
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