i hate my family

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i’m 15 and i absolutely hate my mom and my dad and both my step parents, and i know i probably just sound like another teenager who’s mad at their parents but no i have such a terrible life and i just to leave. My parents divorced when i was 12 because my dad was abusive and i lived with my mom for a while until her boyfriend at the time sexually assaulted me and i moved in with my dad. i lived with my dad for a while and he became emotionally abusive and my step mom was emotionally and sometimes physically, they kicked me out a few weeks ago forcing me to move in with my mom 2 hours away. Ripping me away from all my friends that kept me happy, my mom has become just like she was when i was younger, ruthless and dumb. her new boyfriend that we live with gets drunk and calls me a whore and has even pulled a gun on my mom and told her that he hopes she “gets in a car crash and dies”. i usually visit my friends every two weeks but my mom keeps trying to take it away from me, she randomly drug tests me, i’m not allowed to hang out with people here because she doesn’t trust me, she goes through my stuff, and gets mad at me for practically anything. i’m just ready to leave i hate it here.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you’re having a lot of family problems, and you’ve come to the right place for support.

It sounds like you’ve been in several abusive home situations in the past years, and that’s truly a shame. We at the NRS believe that no youth should have to experience anything abusive, whether that’s physical, emotional, or sexual abuse. We want you to know that nothing you’ve ever done warrants experiencing abuse in your home. If you are looking for someone to talk to about these experiences, we are always here to talk, listen, and provide support. You can reach us directly at 1-800-786-2929, or at [email protected] whenever you want someone to talk to or someone to provide you services. We are able to file abuse reports for youth with the police. That makes it possible for social workers to come and assess your situation, and perhaps find an alternative living arrangement for you. We also can help you search for mental health counselors if you think that you would benefit from their treatments. You say that your mother’s boyfriend has pulled a gun on her. That definitely sounds like it could be scary or dangerous. If you ever feel like something either your mother or your mother’s boyfriend does is putting you in immediate danger, don’t hesitate to call 911.

We also are very sorry to hear that your mother does not trust you. We get how invasive it can be when parents force drug tests upon their children, and when they go through their children’s belongings. We hope that your mother will soon respect your privacy better. We are available to do conference calls with youth and their parents, available to act as an objective third-party mediator. Our facilitation might enable you and your mom to have a productive conversation based around your lack of privacy. If you would like to access this service, you can feel free to call us at 1-800-786-2929. We also can help you safety plan if your home life ever makes you want to run away.

Hopefully this message helped you out and gave you some more ideas about what options you have in your situation. If you need anything else, please contact us at anytime.
-NRS