Can I move in with my grandmother without my parents consent at 16 almost 17

[Guest]

My mom hates my dads family so we always fight and my brother makes things worse by say things about my aunt to piss my mom off and my dad just wants to move us to a different state can I move in with my grandmother if they don’t give consent for me to in nc?

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Reply: Can I move in with my grandmother without my parents consent at 16 almost 17

Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

In most states 18 years old is the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. A person under the age of 18 leaving home without permission, a parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city.

Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows a runaway to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. A good way to find out the laws in your area is to call the non-emergency number of your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

NRS is here to listen and here to help.
If you would like to speak more about your situation please contact us.
To contact NRS call 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or live chat with us at www.1800Runaway.org

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I am only 12 yrs old and i want yo live with my grandma because my mom is toxic, she body shames me, calls me ugly a lot, when my little sister snitches on me my mom tells her not to worry because she doesn't love me, im jealous of her and she insults me, she thinks it's fun to make fun of me when im upset, she always threatens me and says "i dont knlw when but one day im going to beat you till your death", if i make a tiny mistake she gets reallyyy mad, she wants me to be perfect but i cant be and she gets mad at me for that, im not allowed to hang out with friends or have sleepovers, my phone and school chromebook gets taken away at 9 and thats not enough time for me to get all my work done and she blames me for not getting my work done, she makes me do everythingg and gets mad when i forget things, i tend to forget things easily so that is my fault though, and this one thing really got me upset, we were in the car and she told me how she felt bad about "yelling" at my brother and imagined him running around a foster home(he's 19 btw) but whenever she yells at me she always insult me and says i deserve it and that i should do better because im at the age where i should know how to do everything. I was suppose to move with my grandma but she then said she changed her mind even though she made my grandma pay TWICE for the gas money from where i live to my her and that's almost a day long drive so it isnt cheap but my mom suddenly changed her mind and told me "no, im not letting you go anymore, youre going to get pregnant." She said it in that looking down in you tone. She thinks im some slut that will go around and sleep with any dude but i cant even talk yo guys because all my life she hid me from everyone. My mom is super toxic, when my aunts use to live with my mom, my mom would slut shame them and insult them for wearing makeup and say they look like dudes and they werent pretty and that people only said that stuff because they felt bad. I want to move with my grandma for a happier, free life but my mom wont let me...is it illegal to move in with my grandma without my mom letting me at the age of 12? Sorry this is super long i also apologize if there is any typos

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Your mom shouldn't be talking to you (or your aunt) like that and we want you to know that your body is perfect as is and shouldn't be shamed for it.

You mentioned that your mother threatens to beat you to death and it causes us a lot of concern. If you are currently at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

It may be beneficial to speak with your grandma directly about your desire to live with her. Sometimes custody transfers will need to go through the family court system and it may be beneficial to speak with a legal advocate. If you need help locating a legal aid group near you you can check out https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help/.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

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