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    I'm in a situation that I have been in before many times, I'm thinking about running away because of the ongoing problem at my house. I'm not here to convince anyone that my problems are so much worse than others, or that I should be getting some special attention just because I'm going through stuff. I simply just need help. I feel like I have been put in a life to test my tollerence constantly. Mainly all of my problems come straight from my parents view of things, and some more from just dealing with my girlfriends parents (yes, they are complete nutballs). And before you just think that I'm some kid complaining how parents don't like me, with the reality that I'm just some ungreatfull immature being, I think I should say that I have tried countless times to mend this relationship with my parents, and not seeing any attempt from them to comply. About my girlfriend's parents, they are the only set of parents outside my family that I have problems with. I can say that most all of my friends and exes parents never had a problem with me.
    So coming back to my parents, I think the main problem is that we have such a long history of fighting, that it's almost a given that we can't just call it truce and work from there. My dad is constantly on a power trip and is the type of person that wants everything his way and believes he is always correct. My mom is better, but when we all get in conversations or arguments, she always agrees with my dad on everything, even if 10 minutes earlier she told me something otherwise. I'm 17 turning 18 in a few months and I have developed many disorders over the past few years. My freshmen year of high school I was anarexic and depressed. Sophmore year it finally cooled down, but Junior year I had an extremely hard time with General Anxiety Disorder (diagnosed by a phychiatrist). I believe all this has been based around the parents and my relationship. Since i can't spill my whole life's story into a few paragraphs, I need you to just take my word that It has been really bad over the past 6 years (ever since Jr. High). Now my parents have been yelling at me asking if I was happy here, and after I told them I didn't want to answer because I told them I didn't want any more problems, they just continued on saying, "Well if your not happy, then go on live somewhere else and be happy, and make us happy too!". So practicly If im happy, great. If not, pretend I'm happy and suck it up, or leave. Ironicly this way about the time I started getting ideas of leaving. So I guess its set.
    My plan was to travel to my girlfriend's town (just like 20 mins away) and practicly live nowhere. Just walk around and hang around stores to get free water, restroom, and go to my girlfriend's school to get food. Now I know your probably thinking this could be the worst possible run away plan, but I have spent a long time thinking this through.. and this was the only possible outcome that I could have. I have tried talking to my parents many many times about our relationship. I have tried counceling, phychiatrists, school councelors, and just talking with teachers that I felt comfortable with. All of them said there really wasn't anything that could be done with my situation. Im stuck here having to tollerate this from my parents, and the question I have to ask is how much can one person tollerate (even with all these people saying: don't give in, don't run away its selfish, just talk to someone - and Ive tried that so many times) when it comes to the point that you can't tollerate tollerence. I need to do something this time, please help. Thank you for reading this.

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    Re: Concidering a break


    Thank you very much for contacting us and sharing/posting the details of your story on the bulletin boards. It takes a lot to actually tell people about what's going on so, thanks. You probably already know your story inside out from telling people so this might be, unfortunately, the norm for you.

    The things you are going through seem to really take its toll on you and your comfort level at home. We can't even imagine how difficult it must be for you. Are you the only one living there other than your mom and dad? Do you have any other people in your life (aunt, uncle, friend, etc) that are available to support/advocate for you emotionally or otherwise? Because as you stated, there are tons of people that go through similar situations but sometimes it helps them get through stuff if there is someone they can count on to talk to about everything (or most things).

    What are some things that are happening right now (or recently) that you feel need immediate attention? What has come of the anxiety, anorexia or depression? Do you feel like those issues have depleated/you have them under better control?

    So after everything that has happened at home, what do you think needs to happen next? You did say you are about to turn 18 in a few months, do you think entering the legal age of adulthood is going to be a positive thing for you? Can you wait around for that? What would be your plan once that does happen?

    If you want to continue getting help from our hotline, please give us an anonymous and confidential call at 1800.RUNAWAY 24hrs a day and we can talk with you about what you are able/willing to do.

    Best of luck with everything,

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