I don’t want to live with my dad

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I’m a 12 year old in Minnesota. My parents have been separated for a year today. My parents share me 50-50 but I want to be it more 85-15. My dad has always been yelling since I was 5. He always yelled at my mom and my oldest brother, but now he yells at me. He is very scary and he thinks that he hasnt done anything wrong. His mom and Dad thinks he is perfectly fine. He always forgets what he does and says or doesn’t admit it. I really hate going to his house and so do my brothers. He causes me emotional abuse and no one gets it except my brothers and my mom. My mom knows how bad he is and feels really bad for me. I get really stressed and if I show mad or sad emotions at my dads he just gets worse, so I put all my emotions off for when I’m at my moms. That also makes my moms place not as enjoyable because I’m very emotional there. He also has tried to go into my room when changing to get a look at me. For an example once I was changing and I was naked and he walked in I quickly went into the closet and shut the door and I told my dad that I’m naked so leave. He didn’t leave and instead he looked through the crack at me. He had also opened the shower curtain when I’m showering so I wake up really early in the morning so I’m dressed by the time he wakes up, but that only works for school days in the morning. I have talked to him lots of times at first I gave him hints like when he walk in I turn away and go Dad I’m naked. That didn’t work so I went to my mom and she told him that I was wanting them to not see me naked (but really idc about my mom she doesn’t look at me the way my dad does). He still didn’t stop so I talked to him and nothing is helping everyday at my dads gets worse and worse. How do I get it so I don’t have to spend much time at my dads? What are the chances that’s going to work?

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes a lot of courage to seek help. We are very sorry to hear that your Dad is emotional abusive and makes you uncomfortable by coming into the room while you are changing. It is not your fault, and you don't deserve to be treated that way. If you ever feel as though you are in danger at his house, we encourage you to contact 911. You could talk to your mom about bringing these incidents up to a lawyer so that you can start the process for her to get full custody. Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a great place to get more information on how to transfer custody, and you could also make an abuse report against your Dad as well. RAINN is also a good resource for you to contact if you would like to discuss how your father's actions make you feel. If you have any other questions or just want to talk, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat. We hope to hear from you soon, please be safe.