Announcement

Collapse
No announcement yet.

I'm thinking about running away from my parents

Collapse
X
  •  
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

  • ccsmod0
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are going through a really hard time at home. Everyone should feel loved and safe in their own home. We want you to know that NRS is completely confidential. We will not share anything you tell us with your Mom. You are obviously a great older sister to take care of your little sister the way you are. It sounds as though you are thinking of reaching out to an adult or social services about your situation and what is going on in your home. One place you may be able to look for help is the social worker or counselor at your school. They can talk through what you are experiencing and help with making a plan for you and maybe your sister. You should know that school staff are mandated reporters which means if you tell them about any abuse in your home, they will be obliged to report it to Child Protective Services so you need to have decided that that is what you want to do. It sounds like you have already been thinking about reporting your mom to CPS as the incidents you are describing do not sound like you and your sister feel safe. If you feel that that would be a step towards you and your sister feeling safe, then one of these people in your school would be a good resource for you. Other people who may be able to help might be someone in your extended family or a trusted adult friend who may be able to intervene with your mom on behalf of you and your sister. You can also call us at the National Runaway Safeline (800) 786-2929 to talk personally with someone about what is happening at home and see what kind of options and resources you may have and whether you feel comfortable reporting to CPS. Other hotlines that might be able to help are:
    Child Help (National Child Abuse Hotline) 800-422-4453 (childhelp.org)
    There are a lot of things to think about when considering running away such as where you will stay and how you will stay safe. How you will take care of yourself regarding hygiene and food and what you will do about going to school. NRS is here to talk to you about all of these things 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We will be here to help you and give you emotional support.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello i'm 13 my grades aren't the best but my mom yells at me everyday i try my best in school but she gets in my face and everything else she has a five year old i just want to run away but i have a little sister to look after im not the best kid in the world but i need help i want to tell cps about it because my mom will get mad at me and i don't have a phone she wont even let me walk to the west park alone which is right down the street how messed up is that she is so mean to me don't tell my mom please she throws stuff at me hits me and screams at me in my face she pushes me against the wall and everything she hits really hard i don,t have any bruises or anything but it

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod7
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey, Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline.

    It seems like you’re going through a stressful time right now and it sounds like you made a choice to leave for your safety. It’s terrible that you have to feel scarred to return home. No one deserves to feel threatened or verbally violated in their home. Now we aren’t legal experts, but generally speaking from what you’ve described, some states would consider what you’ve been through abuse. You’re definitely brave for telling us your story and trying to get help to improve your situation after leaving home. We want you to know you have options.

    The first thing is to make sure that you’re safe and have a place to stay. You said that you ran away from home yesterday and you have nowhere to go. That must be really worrisome not knowing where you can go to be safe. If friends are not an option and you don’t have anyone else you can stay with, there’s one resource that you can see if it’s available in your area that would be able to provide shelter and housing resources. The program is called National Safe Place and what they provide are safe places around the country where they can send a specialist to who can provide talk to you about your situation and direct you to sheltering options and other resources nearby. You can reach them by either texting SAFE & location to 69866 or by going to their website nationalsafeplace.org. You can also always call us on our 24/7 confidential hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us through our messaging services on our website.

    Again, it’s terrible what’s been happening at home. While this might be a hard thing to do, you may want to consider filing a child abuse report to protect you if you should ever have to return home. There is a hotline called Child Help USA that might be able to tell you if what you’re going through could be considered abuse in your area. They would also be able to help you talk through other options based on your situation. Their phone number is 1-800-422-4453.

    No deserves to live in an unsafe environment, and you’re safety is important and you matter. While you’re living on your own, we may be able to better serve you on our confidential, 24/7 hotline or text messaging service where we can provide specific, youth-focused services and advocate your needs while reaching out to various agencies in your area. We will always be here to listen and help in the best way we can, even if it means just having someone to talk to. We wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do.

    Best wishes,

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I love my family but, things are just so different these days right now. Because me and my mother couldn't get along with each other, I had just ran out of my home yesterday. I am 15, but I have no place to go because I am so scared of going back and I am not able to turn to my friends for help. It has been a long time since the last time me and my family were actually feeling like a family. My mom have emotional medical issues, I know that. But she and my dad, every so often, they would argue and fight. And when my mom has no place to let her anger out, if me and/or my brother made any mistakes, we would be yelled at and, very likely, beatened. I do admit that in my part, I had been making the same mistakes. But my mom would turn verbally violence on me and many times after the verbal part, comes the physical hittings. I can't stay with them anymore. I am already ran away. Please help me with some advice?

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod9
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon. Be safe, NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm 18 by then end of this year(i mean last month) but i don't think I can hang in there that long. My parents are very restrictive and confusing. My father is barely present in my life even tho he is retired and at home 24/7 and my mom, who got a job at my school and thus became 10x more controlling, won't get off my back about scholarships. I'm trying my best, but I don't get home everyday u until 6pm earliest from school. On other days, I don't get back until 10. I have a concussion and my dad thinks I'm being overdramatic, my teachers aren't lessening the heavy workload, and my teammates(in school tournaments team) won't understand why I cant play anymore. I have constant headaches and dizziness and no time to put any effort toward my passion and future career, art. And whenever I bring it up, my dad tells me to drop it and just become a dentist despite how mmuch work I put into it all. I dont even have the time to get a job so thatI I could support myself at age 18. I don't even know if I'll be able to leave when I turn 18, since I can't just walk out and cut ties with my family nor Wil they just go "yeah, you can leave." But I want to be alone, independent. Ever since I was a child, I would want things like karate classes, piano, archery, or just a game. But I wouldn't get it, and there would always be an excuse. Money, time, gender(conservative family), or whatever else they could cook up. Because of this. I can't trust anyone with my desires .I even find it hard to believe writing here will help, but I need someone to listen for once. I also have gender identity issues, I'm born a girl but think, act, and everything like a guy. I only have brothers and was raised roughly like them, but once I hit puberty(even a little before) I was forced to suddenly be aware of my assigned gender and role. But I hate makeup and don't care about style, I hate having to be yelled at that my clothes are too tight when it's a loose t shirt and my brother is next to me shirtless. I'm discriminated and treated as weaker just cuz I am voluptuous despite matching my brothers in strength and resilience and surpassing them in academics and, general ppl skills. I may sound narcissistic, but my brothers act more feminine than I do and their interests don't lie in physical things unlike me. In other words, I haven't the freedom to do anything, am held hostage in my own home, have no money, am constantly berated, my head hurts, I have gender identity issues, my parents manipulate me so thatI they can get away with not giving me things, and I am, in general, stuck in constant emotional abuse.

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod9
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Okay so I’m 14 in my life of hell. My mom is the worst. Everyday we constantly fight about everything under the sun just because I’m not her actual child. I’m full Russian and she’s American and Norwegian. She always comments on how we look nothing alike I have platnem blonde hair and blue eyes and she’s got brown hair and hazel eyes. She always gets mad about everything and my dad is in the military so we are constantly moving and I’m tired of it. One incident occurred when we just moved into this rental so like a year or so ago and we where yelling at each other and she jumped on top of me and I wouldn’t stop screaming so she put her hand over my mouth and I still wouldn’t stop.finally she through me in the bathroom.i had no idea she was even that strong. Anyway she slaps me and my dad whips me with belts because he won’t be paying attention and she’ll say things like can you help me out here this behavior cannot continue. I tried running away before it looked like she was going to hit me so I ran leaving my stepsisters.in shock this was last summer. Anyway I ended up getting dragged back by my father and went hungry and looked in my room for two days. I’m homeschooled by the way so I never get to leave the house ever by the way I never told anyone this ever so I’m really going out on a limb here. I don’t even know why he likes her because I’m pretty sure my dads gay he’s made that very clear with me anyway...anyway there is this boy I’m in love with another thing my mom hates me because I’m gay and she thinks I’m to pretty to be a boy. He lives a couple hours away and I want to run away to live with this pedophile I met online he says if I give myself to him he’ll take me anywhere I want to go so I don’t think I’ll be staying here much longer. It’s just hard because of the huge storm last week it left Nebraska totally flooded and it’s hard to go anywhere. Anyway I need help please what do you think I should do and I was put on scuicide watch two years ago and the police already whatch my ass like a hawk but please what do you suggest...

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod2
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello There,
    Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now. We are not legal experts but we do have general knowledge of the laws. If you were to leave home if you do not have written consent you could still be filed as a runaway. If the police found you they would most likely bring you back home. You would not be in any legal trouble.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call we are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    hello im 16 and every time my mother and I get into a argument she tells me to leave to go live with my friends if i don't want to be here and i think thats exactly what i will do can i still get into trouble even though she asked me to leave?

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod6
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that you are going through difficult times with your parents. It sounds very unreasonable to be grounded for a whole year and it’s understandable why you would be sick of everything at this point. It is sweet and important that your grandmother seems to be positive supportive and influence in your life.

    As a minor, you are legally required to live where your guardians decide as they have a legal obligation to take care of you. You could live with your grandmother if your guardians gave consent for you to do so. If you can obtain such consent, it would be wise to get it in writing to avoid any misunderstandings. It might also be wise to look at options that might not be as extreme as moving in to live with your grandma. If she lives nearby, is there a way for your parents to arrange for you to see her more or spend more time with her? It might be a good idea to reach out to your grandma and ask her if she has any ideas or if she can advocate for you.

    Of course, we understand that your situation is complex and we do not know everything about it. If you want to talk more about what is going on and what other possible options there might be, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or on chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    My parents always yell at me but I'm adopted and I would absolutely love to go and live with my mawmaw she's the best. But idk if my parents would let me do that. But I cry everytime I leave my mawmaws house cause she always says that she loves me and stuff, over the summer I had a friend that I stayed with since my parents had to work and I tried several times to stay and lI've with them but it never worked out, I have been grounded for a year no joke and I'm just sick of everything.

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod2
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi, thanks for reaching out to us at NRS. We’re glad you found us too and hope we can help so you don’t have to go through this alone.
    Nobody deserves to be abused, and it’s understandable that you don’t want to be at home considering the circumstances you described. While you mentioned not feeling ready to call the police, please know that you can call the National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 to discuss your situation further, see what options you have to get help, and possibly file an abuse report if you are interested. If you are not wanting to file the abuse report on your own, you can always call us at (800) 786-2929 and we can either make the report together or file it on your behalf. If you talk to someone, such as a teacher, medical professional, or counselor about the abuse, they are mandated to report the abuse on your behalf (whether that is something you would want or not want). In most situations, being a minor, if you were to run away, the police would be obligated to take you back home; however, if you are able to demonstrate that you are unsafe at home, they would optimally work to place you somewhere temporarily where you can stay safe.
    You also mentioned at times feeling depressed to the point of contemplating suicide. Please know that if you are ever feeling this way in the future, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at (800) 273-8255. All of the hotlines we have mentioned, including ours, are 24/7 and completely confidential. If you want to call us to discuss your situation further, we have a whole database of resources, including shelters and transitional living options, that we can explore together and help you decide what’s best for you: (800) RUNAWAY.
    Good luck!
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello,


    I'm so glad I found this site because if I didn't who knows what. I want to run away from my whole family and not see them ever again except for my baby sister but the real reason I want to run away is because of my what I call 'Abusive mother'. The reason why is because ever since I was in Pre-K, she used to brutally beat me and yell at me a lot but I always had my dad, friends and teachers to protect me no matter what. Now as today she was just know picking me and my siblings up from school right, so I decided to wear a shirt that my mom told me not to wear because she thought I would get suspended from school and all it was was a shirt with a killer clown on it and I'm pretty sure this might sound like something I wouldn't get suspended for but the clown was IT (a.k.a Pennywise). So when she picked me up, my annoying sister just had to blurt out that I was wearing that shirt so my mom got mad. You guys probably won't believe but she hit me THREE TIMES in the ARM and then she PUNCHED ME! I swear on my life I almost j umoed out that car when that happened. Back when I was around 7 or 8 years old I used to have suicide thoughts and thoughts of running away and now as an 11 year old girl typing this right now I think this is the best for me. I was just thinking about calling the police but that would be to much for me and I'm a very nice child but when it come to my home, I'm all emotionless and depressed but when I'm at school I feel much safer. I'm really g lad that I found this. I really just want to be away from my family. Just please help me. . .

    Leave a comment:


  • ccsmod3
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. It sounds like you have a lot going on, we are here to listen and here to help. Nobody deserves to be abused.
    We are happy to provide some resources but for more specific resources in your area, we encourage reaching out to us through our online live chat found here: https://www.1800runaway.org/# or you can call us (if you are able to gain access to a phone) at our 24/7 toll free hotline at: 1(800)786-2929.
    In terms of what is going on, like we had mentioned earlier, nobody deserves to be abused. Have you tried calling or reaching out to your local police department? It sounds like speaking with them about some potential options might be worth looking into if you feel comfortable. If you are not feeling safe or comfortable at home, there are some options and resources they might be able to provide for you. You had also mentioned that your parents abused you, that is big and if you felt comfortable, the police would also be able to help you file an abuse report. If you are not comfortable reaching out to your local police department yet, you could also try reaching out to Child Help, they are the national child abuse hotline. Their number is 2(800)422-4453.

    Other resources that are not quite as intimidating and are a little more close to home could be another family member, close adult (school teacher, counselor, etc), or you had mentioned your friend you would want to live with, their parent’s might be open to talk things out with you and help you with everything that is going on.
    It shows a lot that you reached out to us during such a tough situation and that shows a lot about who you are as a person and that is something to be proud of. During such a tough time, it is important to have a good support system, somebody you can talk with. We offered a couple potential people to think about but we are also here for you whenever you need and are happy to talk through whatever you need and happy to offer some resources as well.

    We wish you the best of luck,

    NRS
Previously entered content was automatically saved. Restore or Discard.
Auto-Saved
x
Insert: Thumbnail Small Medium Large Fullsize Remove  
x
or Allowed Filetypes: jpg, jpeg, png, gif, webp
x
x
Working...
X