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    Hi I’m 16, I’m shy and I don’t have a great relationship with my parents. Like my mom constantly manipulates me and yells at me, and my dad just sits there letting her mistreat me and encourages it. Remind you I’m the only girl and the last born in a house full of 3 boys. Even my own siblings mistreats me because they think I’m a horrible person. I’m constantly being slaved around then my brothers. When ever I would complain about the excessive amount of work, my parents use the dumb excuse “your a girl, this is your job” or “your suppose to work more than the guys”...”if you can’t do this correctly, how will you be a good wife to your husband”. Whenever I would protest about me being mistreated, We always get in an argument . Which i get threatened and called names by my so called parents. Like “you better be nice to me cause when I start to ignore you, your gonna hang yourself”... “If I knew you were gonna turn this way, I wouldn’t have born you”.... “your the reason I have health issues”... “your wicked” or “your evil”. I would constantly be compared to my cousins. Then I always go to my room and cry after hearing them say rude words about me, thinking is something wrong with me. They would always lower my self esteem, I honestly have severe social anxiety because they never let me go out and I’ve falling into depression through this. I’ve been debating on running away but I get too scared and never fall through with it. I just want to go anywhere then be with this horrible family. I’m just gonna fight through this for 2 more years and go to a college far away from them. They are so fake, my parents hang out with family and friends and act like they have an amazing marriage which is a lie, like they have an abusive relationship. My dad constantly beats on her and she allows it. I feel bad for her but she always puts him above us her kids. I just want to run away and start a life fresh from this toxic environment.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm a boy 16 years old lived in a different country called "Philippines".

    I've wanted to run away, but it's due to quarantine and not just that. It's really hard where your destination is coming from and how can I get money through hardship.

    The reason I wanted to run away is that nobody in the family understands me. They think highly of themselves while me they think lowly and doesn't like how I act and who I am. They just wanted more of their expectation than my opinion and my parents are Christians and always use this verse "Ephesians 6:1"to no choice but to follow them no matter what. I've wanted something to say to them, but they want me to understand them but I already know they just didn't understand me.

    I remember my mom said this to me "I should've wished your never been treated to the hospital!!" I remember that, but they act like it was ok and then forget everything they said. And my dad always said this to me "You always give me no inspiration." This line that stuck in my mind gave me anxiety and I'm already afraid of them even though my family are Christian.

    When I wanted my mom to understand but she didn't. She said "All of the things you disobeyed hurts me alot." And that's it, I understand that but they think lowly of me. I tried to be Top 1 at school but they don't like who I am and my family told me "If your Top 1 you should act it." I did everything they said.

    Because according to Ephesian 6:1 "Children obey your parents." It always in my mind, always and always because my mom is making it repeat it to me. The though that my mom said "No matter how much you do. You're definitely the one who's wrong." It gave anxiety, because this memories are still in my mind. I already have bipolar disorder because of how much I caused too much mood swings. All I said that "I'm wrong, I'm wrong." and "I'm overreacting, I'm overreacting."

    I have planned many suicidal thoughts around my mind, but the way I think I'm just here to suffer by my family thinking they are always. Thinking I should've never been born if all I was doing was wrong, because thinking of my parents are right because of Ephesians 6:1.

    And I'm also afraid to run away, because they will find me by my brother also is part who doesn't understand me also. They will think I'm overreacting but in my mood I'm afraid of them, it gives me a lot panics.

    I'm afraid of what might I actually do. I have now social anxiety and bipolar disorder. Because if I talk to my mom, she had my brother on her side. So they don't really know about anxiety and panic attacks because they always to me "All of your learnings are from the internet."

    I'm afraid of my father because whenever mom and I got a fight in argue she would call dad for help or even my brother. I'm afraid of them.

    That's why I wanted to run away, I couldn't even show my crying face, and couldn't even show who I am because I'm afraid and angry at them..

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  • ccsmod2
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are dealing with a lot right now, and we want you to know that you are not alone.
    We are sorry to hear that a lot of your things were taken away from you, that sounds super frustrating to have to deal with. It is also not right for your step mom to say mean things to you and we want you to know people do care about you.
    You mentioned wanting to run away we are not legal experts but we do have some information on what could happen. Because you are a minor if you were to leave home your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. If you need someone to talk to about what is going on you can reach out to us we are here 24/7. Also even if your school is closed some school counselors are meeting virtually.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi I Am 11 Years Old Ive Been Wanting To Run Away Because I got all my things taken from me like My tv, my playstation and my stepmom yells at me and says i talk back even though i dont. Yesterday Me And My Stepmother Got into a argument because she had company at her house to smoke with her and she said i can go upstairs or go outside so i choose to go to my room and she says go ouside so i said i dont want to go outside i want to go to my room which is upstairs so she tries forcing me to go outside so i ask my mom can i go to my room then me stepmother tries to slap me in my neck so i got mad and threw candles and her company asks me whats wrong then i say "she tried to hit me because i wanted to go to my room" then she says "STFU!" so i go upstairs slams my door then her caompany knocks on my room door i say "come in" then the talk to me i told them what happened then he said he will try to talk to her so i avoided contact or arguments with her and my mom and stepmom say im on punishment for embarrasing her in front of company so today i tried to pack a bag an leave but she dragged me back upstairs and i scream mom and she doesnt say anything so i went down stairs and told my mom " i dont want to live there and want to live their and i want to live with my grandmother who stay 8-15 mins away from my house and then my stepmom says nobody cares about me except my mom and her which i dont think is true but im thinking about running away soon.

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  • ccsmod3
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe and stay strong,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I almost ran away the night before Thanksgiving. My parents are big drinkers and it bothers me a lot and my anxiety has gotten the best of me many’s of times, hence why I am writing this. I don’t know what to do anymore... I told my parents how I felt and nothing worked, I was thinking about turning to self harm or worse but I couldn’t leave my dog. I’ve thought about running away multiple times but I don’t know what do to anymore...

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    We're sorry to hear you're having a rough time at home. It sounds like you want more independence, even for little things like dressing yourself. It makes sense that, as you get older, you'd want to be able to have more say in your life. That's understandable.

    As for running away: that's a very big decision to make. Some issues to consider: Where would you go? How would you stay safe? What would your parents do if you left? How would this affect school? Your parents would have the obligation to file a runaway report on you if you left home without permission. The police would likely detain you and release you to your parents. It's just a really big decision to face, especially at 11 years old.

    Perhaps you can just talk to your parents when they are in a good mood and try to explain yourself to them, maybe making a list of a few things you'd like to have more freedom in doing for yourself. Perhaps you can even write them a letter. You could also talk to other trusted adults in your life about what you're going through: a teacher, counselor, or relative you feel comfortable with. You can also call us and we can discuss what your options are. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY and we are here 24/7. You can also chat with us online via the portal at www.1800runaway.org.

    Please stay safe! We are here for you anytime.

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi I am 11 years old I want to run away from my home because of my mom and dad they are just controlling they won’t let me do anything by myself I can’t even dress myself I have to do everything I did just go out and have fun so I just wanna run away sometimes so I’m a do that today I’m a take a shower and pack my clothes and I’m leaving

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  • ccsmod15
    replied
    Hello!
    Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline! You make mention of wanting to kill yourself and we take that very seriously. Your safety is our first priority. You can always reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1800-273-8255. They can provide support for you and help through all of this. Another resource that might be beneficial to you is NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness). They can also provide support for you and answer any questions you may have. It was very brave of you to write to us. You are not alone in this.
    We can talk about all of this further if you want to call our hotline at 1800-786-2929 or chat with us via our live chat at www.1800runaway.org. We are available 24/7 and are confidential.
    Stay safe!
    National Runaway Safeline

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi. Im 12. I know you will probably think oh shes only 12 she’s probably over exaggerating. But I’m so scared of my dad and I’ve thought of running away more than once. I’ve even planned it. My dad shouts at me all the time and I cry often more than once a day. He told me to help him with something before and it was too complex for me because I’m 12. He started saying things to me like why don’t you get it what’s the point of me sending you to school then. I started crying and I was pinching myself so he wouldn’t hear me crying but he did and suddenly shouted why are you crying which made me cry harder and he said what kind of person acts like you your useless. And I was sobbing at this point. Then he said clearly all you know how to do is cry so why don’t you just go to your room and cry then. I ran upstairs to my room and locked the door and started having a panic attack. I was shaking and crying uncontrollably. I have a rabbit and once she had managed to get some fruit and was eating it.i let her roam the house sometimes. I try really hard to keep an eye on her when I do so but it’s hard when I’m trying to clean her cage at the same time this was one of those times. My dad saw her eating the fruit and shouted at me and said look at your rabbit do you see what she’s doing he then came over and opened the door and was about to grab my rabbit and throw her out. I was really scared and shouted stop I picked my rabbit up put her in her cage and ran to my room and had another panic attack. My mum came and told me to go have tea but I wouldn’t. I was terrified of my dad. My mum never stands up to my dad. I am I’m top set in everything but my dad has never to.d me that I’ve done a good job or anything he even tells me I’m not good enough and honestly ive started to believe that. Sometimes I have really scary thoughts and bang my head against my wall and scratch myself. My big sister was always helping my dad but she’s eight years older than me and my dad expects me to know everything she knows now she’s at university but I can’t it’s too hard for me. My big sister was older and more clever. He constantly thinks I’m lying and doesn’t trust me with anything. My little sister is autistic and when she starts crying my dad automate blames it on me and tells me stop when I’ve not done anything. Last night I planned what I was going to text to everyone when I kill myself.

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  • ccsmod13
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thanks for taking the time to write us here at NRS. It can certainly be stressful at home when the adults in the household are not supportive. It sounds like you need some space from your parents and more freedom to connect with a support system, but they have not been allowing it. Feeling isolated can certainly get overwhelming at times and you deserve to feel supported.

    Sometimes having a safe place to talk about how you are feeling at home can provide an outlet so that you don't feel like you have to take on these hard feelings alone. A helpful start is to reach out to people your trust such as friends, family, or a counselor at school. Having an adult advocate on your side can make communicating your needs more effective to your parents. Perhaps one of these people can talk to your parents with you about your experience at home and how to make the situation better for you.

    Because you mentioned that you have been struggling with your mental health, we want to make sure you are getting the support that you need. If you are not quite ready to talk to someone in person yet, there is a crisis text-line you can contact to be connected with a counselor. If you feel like you need someone to talk to at anytime you can text “NAMI” to 741741.

    We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi...my name is Shayla & I’m 13.
    I wanna runaway because my parents don’t let me go outside alone & I hate being isolated.
    ive been suffering from my depression & anxiety I can’t take it anymore.
    i just want to be free.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello! Thank you so much for reaching out.

    You mentioned that you’re 12 going on 13 soon and are thinking about running away. It sounds like you’re going through a tough time right now, and we want you to know that you’re not alone. With that being said, we’re not legal experts but in most states anyone under 18 is considered a minor. If you were to leave your home without parental consent, your legal guardian can contact the authorities and file a runaway report. Whoever you end up staying with may face some consequences for harboring a runaway.

    An option you may explore would be to talk to someone at school, or another relative that you trust about your home situation. If there is abuse occurring, you can contact the Nation Child Abuse hotline at 1800) 422-4453. Child Help can access the situation at hand and if need be, file a child abuse report with initial contact after 48 hours. It’s hard sometimes when you feel like there is no way out, but there will be someone there to listen when you need it. You may also reach out to the National Alliance on Mental Illness and text directly with a certified counselor. You can do that by texting the word NAMI to 741741.

    We hope these resources and options have been of some help to you. If you want additional help. Or want us to each out to another organization on your behalf you can contact us 24/7 at 1800) 786-2929. Best of luck!

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm 12 I'm planning to run away when I'm 13

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