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  • #31
    Hi. Im 12. I know you will probably think oh shes only 12 she’s probably over exaggerating. But I’m so scared of my dad and I’ve thought of running away more than once. I’ve even planned it. My dad shouts at me all the time and I cry often more than once a day. He told me to help him with something before and it was too complex for me because I’m 12. He started saying things to me like why don’t you get it what’s the point of me sending you to school then. I started crying and I was pinching myself so he wouldn’t hear me crying but he did and suddenly shouted why are you crying which made me cry harder and he said what kind of person acts like you your useless. And I was sobbing at this point. Then he said clearly all you know how to do is cry so why don’t you just go to your room and cry then. I ran upstairs to my room and locked the door and started having a panic attack. I was shaking and crying uncontrollably. I have a rabbit and once she had managed to get some fruit and was eating it.i let her roam the house sometimes. I try really hard to keep an eye on her when I do so but it’s hard when I’m trying to clean her cage at the same time this was one of those times. My dad saw her eating the fruit and shouted at me and said look at your rabbit do you see what she’s doing he then came over and opened the door and was about to grab my rabbit and throw her out. I was really scared and shouted stop I picked my rabbit up put her in her cage and ran to my room and had another panic attack. My mum came and told me to go have tea but I wouldn’t. I was terrified of my dad. My mum never stands up to my dad. I am I’m top set in everything but my dad has never to.d me that I’ve done a good job or anything he even tells me I’m not good enough and honestly ive started to believe that. Sometimes I have really scary thoughts and bang my head against my wall and scratch myself. My big sister was always helping my dad but she’s eight years older than me and my dad expects me to know everything she knows now she’s at university but I can’t it’s too hard for me. My big sister was older and more clever. He constantly thinks I’m lying and doesn’t trust me with anything. My little sister is autistic and when she starts crying my dad automate blames it on me and tells me stop when I’ve not done anything. Last night I planned what I was going to text to everyone when I kill myself.

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    • #32
      Hello!
      Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline! You make mention of wanting to kill yourself and we take that very seriously. Your safety is our first priority. You can always reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1800-273-8255. They can provide support for you and help through all of this. Another resource that might be beneficial to you is NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness). They can also provide support for you and answer any questions you may have. It was very brave of you to write to us. You are not alone in this.
      We can talk about all of this further if you want to call our hotline at 1800-786-2929 or chat with us via our live chat at www.1800runaway.org. We are available 24/7 and are confidential.
      Stay safe!
      National Runaway Safeline
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      • #33
        Hi I am 11 years old I want to run away from my home because of my mom and dad they are just controlling they won’t let me do anything by myself I can’t even dress myself I have to do everything I did just go out and have fun so I just wanna run away sometimes so I’m a do that today I’m a take a shower and pack my clothes and I’m leaving

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        • ccsmod15
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          Hey there,

          We're sorry to hear you're having a rough time at home. It sounds like you want more independence, even for little things like dressing yourself. It makes sense that, as you get older, you'd want to be able to have more say in your life. That's understandable.

          As for running away: that's a very big decision to make. Some issues to consider: Where would you go? How would you stay safe? What would your parents do if you left? How would this affect school? Your parents would have the obligation to file a runaway report on you if you left home without permission. The police would likely detain you and release you to your parents. It's just a really big decision to face, especially at 11 years old.

          Perhaps you can just talk to your parents when they are in a good mood and try to explain yourself to them, maybe making a list of a few things you'd like to have more freedom in doing for yourself. Perhaps you can even write them a letter. You could also talk to other trusted adults in your life about what you're going through: a teacher, counselor, or relative you feel comfortable with. You can also call us and we can discuss what your options are. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY and we are here 24/7. You can also chat with us online via the portal at www.1800runaway.org.

          Please stay safe! We are here for you anytime.

          NRS

      • #34
        I almost ran away the night before Thanksgiving. My parents are big drinkers and it bothers me a lot and my anxiety has gotten the best of me many’s of times, hence why I am writing this. I don’t know what to do anymore... I told my parents how I felt and nothing worked, I was thinking about turning to self harm or worse but I couldn’t leave my dog. I’ve thought about running away multiple times but I don’t know what do to anymore...

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        • ccsmod3
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          Hi there,
          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
          Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
          If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
          We hope to hear from you soon.
          Be safe and stay strong,
          NRS

      • #35
        Hi I Am 11 Years Old Ive Been Wanting To Run Away Because I got all my things taken from me like My tv, my playstation and my stepmom yells at me and says i talk back even though i dont. Yesterday Me And My Stepmother Got into a argument because she had company at her house to smoke with her and she said i can go upstairs or go outside so i choose to go to my room and she says go ouside so i said i dont want to go outside i want to go to my room which is upstairs so she tries forcing me to go outside so i ask my mom can i go to my room then me stepmother tries to slap me in my neck so i got mad and threw candles and her company asks me whats wrong then i say "she tried to hit me because i wanted to go to my room" then she says "STFU!" so i go upstairs slams my door then her caompany knocks on my room door i say "come in" then the talk to me i told them what happened then he said he will try to talk to her so i avoided contact or arguments with her and my mom and stepmom say im on punishment for embarrasing her in front of company so today i tried to pack a bag an leave but she dragged me back upstairs and i scream mom and she doesnt say anything so i went down stairs and told my mom " i dont want to live there and want to live their and i want to live with my grandmother who stay 8-15 mins away from my house and then my stepmom says nobody cares about me except my mom and her which i dont think is true but im thinking about running away soon.

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        • ccsmod2
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          Hello There,
          Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are dealing with a lot right now, and we want you to know that you are not alone.
          We are sorry to hear that a lot of your things were taken away from you, that sounds super frustrating to have to deal with. It is also not right for your step mom to say mean things to you and we want you to know people do care about you.
          You mentioned wanting to run away we are not legal experts but we do have some information on what could happen. Because you are a minor if you were to leave home your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. If you need someone to talk to about what is going on you can reach out to us we are here 24/7. Also even if your school is closed some school counselors are meeting virtually.
          We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
          NRS

      • #36
        I'm a boy 16 years old lived in a different country called "Philippines".

        I've wanted to run away, but it's due to quarantine and not just that. It's really hard where your destination is coming from and how can I get money through hardship.

        The reason I wanted to run away is that nobody in the family understands me. They think highly of themselves while me they think lowly and doesn't like how I act and who I am. They just wanted more of their expectation than my opinion and my parents are Christians and always use this verse "Ephesians 6:1"to no choice but to follow them no matter what. I've wanted something to say to them, but they want me to understand them but I already know they just didn't understand me.

        I remember my mom said this to me "I should've wished your never been treated to the hospital!!" I remember that, but they act like it was ok and then forget everything they said. And my dad always said this to me "You always give me no inspiration." This line that stuck in my mind gave me anxiety and I'm already afraid of them even though my family are Christian.

        When I wanted my mom to understand but she didn't. She said "All of the things you disobeyed hurts me alot." And that's it, I understand that but they think lowly of me. I tried to be Top 1 at school but they don't like who I am and my family told me "If your Top 1 you should act it." I did everything they said.

        Because according to Ephesian 6:1 "Children obey your parents." It always in my mind, always and always because my mom is making it repeat it to me. The though that my mom said "No matter how much you do. You're definitely the one who's wrong." It gave anxiety, because this memories are still in my mind. I already have bipolar disorder because of how much I caused too much mood swings. All I said that "I'm wrong, I'm wrong." and "I'm overreacting, I'm overreacting."

        I have planned many suicidal thoughts around my mind, but the way I think I'm just here to suffer by my family thinking they are always. Thinking I should've never been born if all I was doing was wrong, because thinking of my parents are right because of Ephesians 6:1.

        And I'm also afraid to run away, because they will find me by my brother also is part who doesn't understand me also. They will think I'm overreacting but in my mood I'm afraid of them, it gives me a lot panics.

        I'm afraid of what might I actually do. I have now social anxiety and bipolar disorder. Because if I talk to my mom, she had my brother on her side. So they don't really know about anxiety and panic attacks because they always to me "All of your learnings are from the internet."

        I'm afraid of my father because whenever mom and I got a fight in argue she would call dad for help or even my brother. I'm afraid of them.

        That's why I wanted to run away, I couldn't even show my crying face, and couldn't even show who I am because I'm afraid and angry at them..

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        • ccsmod1
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          Hey there,

          Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

          We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

          Be safe,
          NRS

      • #37
        Hi I’m 16, I’m shy and I don’t have a great relationship with my parents. Like my mom constantly manipulates me and yells at me, and my dad just sits there letting her mistreat me and encourages it. Remind you I’m the only girl and the last born in a house full of 3 boys. Even my own siblings mistreats me because they think I’m a horrible person. I’m constantly being slaved around then my brothers. When ever I would complain about the excessive amount of work, my parents use the dumb excuse “your a girl, this is your job” or “your suppose to work more than the guys”...”if you can’t do this correctly, how will you be a good wife to your husband”. Whenever I would protest about me being mistreated, We always get in an argument . Which i get threatened and called names by my so called parents. Like “you better be nice to me cause when I start to ignore you, your gonna hang yourself”... “If I knew you were gonna turn this way, I wouldn’t have born you”.... “your the reason I have health issues”... “your wicked” or “your evil”. I would constantly be compared to my cousins. Then I always go to my room and cry after hearing them say rude words about me, thinking is something wrong with me. They would always lower my self esteem, I honestly have severe social anxiety because they never let me go out and I’ve falling into depression through this. I’ve been debating on running away but I get too scared and never fall through with it. I just want to go anywhere then be with this horrible family. I’m just gonna fight through this for 2 more years and go to a college far away from them. They are so fake, my parents hang out with family and friends and act like they have an amazing marriage which is a lie, like they have an abusive relationship. My dad constantly beats on her and she allows it. I feel bad for her but she always puts him above us her kids. I just want to run away and start a life fresh from this toxic environment.

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        • ccsmod15
          ccsmod15 commented
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          Hey there,
          Thank you for reaching out to NRS it seems like you are in an oppressing situation because of how your family treats you. Nobody should be told things like your parents have told you. It is understandable to feel sad and frustrated. You deserve to have supportive family that helps you grow, not family that brings you suffering.
          While it can be harder to prove, verbal abuse is very real and reportable to CPS/DCFS. You deserve a place that is safe for you. If you want to know more information about child abuse or reporting it we encourage you to look at childhelp.org for more information. In the meantime starting a journal of times you have felt threatened, with dates can help you if you do choose to file a report later.
          It seems like you are feeling like you may be slipping towards depression as a result of everything going on. If you do feel this way NAMI.org may be a good place to start and learn about mental health and the issues around it to find community and coping mechanisms. It might also be worth finding an adult you trust and will listen to you for help venting. This could be another family member, school personnel, or a certified therapist. If you need help finding a therapy/counseling resource we do have them in our database and can try to help you find one.
          There is also a domestic violence hotline if you feel like it would be helpful for your mom to reach out to. It seems like she is the main person targeting you with harsh words, but maybe if she can get help and support she may be less stressed and be more willing to tone things down. You can find them at thehotline.org.
          Again we thank you for reaching out to NRS today. If you have more questions or just need someone to talk to about all of this you can always reach us by our online chat at 1800runaway.org, or through our telephone hotline at 1-800-786-2929.
          Good Luck,
          NRS

      • #38
        I'm 17 and I promise my autie I won't runaway anymore but I have to leave on more time but I will come back how should I tell my auntie

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        • ccsmod13
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          Hi there,

          Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation. It sounds like you have runaway from home or left without permission before and it has caused some issues in your relationship with your auntie. We do not know too much about your situation so it is hard to say what might be the best way to approach this with your auntie. You are the expert on your situation and your relationships, so you would ultimately know what is best.

          We can suggest a few factors or ideas to take into consideration. Because you have made this promise with your auntie not to runaway again, it could be helpful to think through ways you might be able to get her permission to leave home. You could try to first think through and even write down why you feel you need to leave, what you are trying to accomplish and why it is important to you. Once you have had a chance to process this further you can share it with your auntie and express why you feel leaving is necessary or important to you. Having a solid plan in place of what you are going to do could also help. Taking some factors into consideration would make your plan safer and possibly make your auntie more comfortable with your plan: where will you stay if you will be gone overnight, how will you find transportation there and back, will you be staying in contact with your auntie, do you have money to take with you.

          Sometimes having another adult get involved to advocate for your needs can make having these difficult conversations easier to navigate. Perhaps there is another family member, friend, or trusted adult who can help you communicate you plans to your auntie.

          If your auntie is not comfortable with you leaving or believes that this choice is detrimental to your well-being, running away could cause some problems in your relationship. It sounds leaving against her wishes could do some damage emotionally and even break any trust she has in you. You may want to think about if leaving is something that can wait or if it is worth possible negative consequences with your auntie.
          If you would like to talk more in-depth about this, please do not hesitate to contact us directly. We are available 24/7 for immediate support by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

          Stay safe,
          NRS

      • #39
        My parents do love me and they have had rough childhoods but sometime i just lose it. When i sit for after school video games, they tell me i dont study enough. Ive grown to become an extremely violent guy and they dont know because they wouldnt take it seriously

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        • ccsmod0
          ccsmod0 commented
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          Hi there,
          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
          If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
          We hope to hear from you soon.
          Be safe, NRS

      • #40
        Hi I am 11 and I want to run away because my dad yells at me A lot and he cussed at me for not brushing my teeth quickly and getting in bed and I am having a sleepover and I can’t sleep in the same room as my friend he said “It is my house my rules” but he gets made at me for saying I love your house and he is like “It is our house” and I get upset and then he gets mad that I am crying in my room and my stepmom is whole different story I think she is secretly mad at me what did I do wrong???!!!

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        • ccsmod15
          ccsmod15 commented
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          Hi there,
          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
          If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
          We hope to hear from you soon.
          Be safe,
          NRS

      • #41
        Hi I'm 12 years old, and I was thinking of running away from my parents. My dad had always been the screaming type, and my mom is always screaming. And they both don't support me, Im scared of them, Im scared to stand up and tell them what I've been through. Over the past few years I've angered my dad and one time when I was 6 or 7 my dad shoved me to the ground, and put a lock position on me. I was so scared, since then I have been scaed to tell my parents anything, as my family is really traditional (Asain), they tend to spank alot, and scream, I don't know what to do. I cry myself to sleep everynignt, they want me to get good grades, lika all parents, but how they do it is harsh. I am really scared of them. My family calls me fat, and an idiot. I can't really call the cops about it becuase I dont have any communiation, and I don't want to becuase my mom and dad will loose their jobs, and they would get really mad at me, and never forgive me. Im a christian and I don't know if I am defying the words of my "God". My parents can be fun at times, but when their mad I'm scared for my life. ANother past experiences was my dad throwing me against the wall, and getting rough. I really need help I don't know what to do. I don't want the PD to get involved because im scared of what will happen. Can I have some advice?

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        • ccsmod15
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          Hello,

          Thank you ever so much for reaching out to us. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help, and we would like you to know that we are here for you. We are so sorry to hear that you have had such a tough time with your family. It sounds like you have been feeling unsafe at home. It is never ok for anyone to make you feel unsafe at home. We cannot tell you what to do, but we will do our best to explore what options you might have available to you.

          It sounds like you have had some physical altercations with your parents, and you are uncertain how to approach the situation. It is important for you to know that you do not deserve to be made to feel afraid of your parents. If you feel that your life is in immediate danger, we encourage you to call 9-1-1. If you do not feel that you are in immediate danger, but decide that you want to report any abuse that goes on at home, you would reach out to your local child abuse hotline. Organizations like Child Help, available at 1.800.422.4453 or via their website at www.childhelp.org , can help you identify the agency that you would make the report with. If you don’t feel comfortable reporting, that’s ok too. It may help to talk to someone if you would like to figure out ways to approach your family. If you feel that what has been going on is making it difficult for you to handle the stress, counseling services may be able to help. Whatever you decide please know that we are here for you.

          If you would like to talk about what has been going on at home, or if you would like to explore your options further, feel free to reach out to us. We will do what we can to help you figure out your next steps in the safest way possible. You can reach us 24/7 by phone at 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929) or via chat at www.1800runaway.org . We are here to listen, here to help. Stay safe!

          -NRS

      • #42
        Hello im a f 14 and i have bad family problems. Im being emotionally abuse my parents say they do it to protract me but I dont believe that. I have a m 15 friend that lives semi near (and hour walk and 15 minute bike ride) he knows what happens, and is willing to take me in for a little just, so I dont try to kill myself for the 7th time I have a eating disorder, depression, and a little bit of anxiety. My mom yells at me and says I have no reason to be depressed and that im only faking it for attention. I dont feel safe or loved no longer in my house anymore. What should I do, should I just stay in my home or run to my friend we go to the same school, so I can go to school with him, but besides that I dont know what I should do can someone help me out with this.

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        • ccsmod0
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          Hi there,

          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

          Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

          If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

          We hope to hear from you soon.

          Be safe and stay strong,

          NRS
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