toxic family

[Raven17]

I am 17 ,6 months. I have 4 months til im 18. But when im 18 I will be in school again so my parents arent gonna let me just leave.
I really dont like it here though. Grandma steals stuff from stores. My mom says she cant get a job cos I need her. I have been depressed since I was 11. 12-13 I was suicidal. Then again 15 to 16. My mom doesnt care about my health took me forever to get into counseling. Also I am not allowed to hang out with friends even if they live two streets away from us. I volunteer at a thrift shop n gma is always there too, so its not my space. Now she wants to volunteer at my actual job. I dont need a babysitter at my job. Im 17 cant I do a few things on my own... also if I tell somebody about how im feeling n my mom finds out she forces me to say its a lie or I get in trouble. Im not allowed to voice my feelings and comprimising on stuff or talking about it doesnt work they find a way to turn it into them against me n I get no where. I am a lil overweight n I am trying to eat healthy but no matter what they arent being very helpful. My mom buys my fave junk food and sits it in the dining room. Also they rewrite their pasts a lot. Thats common in our family... is there anything I can do ?you know to get away sooner. I am being emotionally and mentally abused

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Re: Toxic Family

Hey there,

Thank you for being able to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline, it sounds like you are going through a pretty tough time at this point in your life and we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help you in the best way we can. From what you shared, it sounds like you are pretty set on leaving your home.

We want to start off by letting you know that we are not legal experts here, but generally speaking, in most states, in order to leave home, you would need to be 18. An option you might want to consider is emancipation. Emancipation is basically when a youth is wanting to remove themselves from a legal guardian, the process varies from state to state, but if you are able to give us a call and provide us with a city and state, we would be able to look up a legal aid office for you in your area.

Have you considered talking to your mom about the way that you have been feeling? This might sound a little cliché, but sometimes just being able to talk to someone about the way you have been feeling can help better your situation. Here at NRS, we also have a conference call service where we would be able to conduct a conversation you and your mother.

We are here to listen and to help you in the best way we can, if you think these are options that you would further like to explore, please feel free to reach out to us. We hope that we were able to give you a little more to think about and explore some more24/ options. We are here 24/7 and could be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY (768-2929) or you can reach out to us through our live chat service which is available from 4:30 PM to 11:30 PM CST. We wish you the best of luck in whatever it is that you decide to do and hope to hear from you soon.

Stay strong,

NRS