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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out; we are glad that you did. It sounds like your friend is in a very difficult situation which she has bravely survived and will be 18 soon. If she has reached the age of majority for either her state, or another that she wants to travel to, she can leave and no one can stop her or make her go back.
    Obviously she has no money to do so and what to do about that depends on her. We are here to talk this over with her, to search for resources that might help, and to help her figure out what her options are.
    We are here 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or through live chat via this website. Finding us is a way to support her and giving our contact info helps even more.
    We hope to hear from your friend soon.
    NRS

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    So this isn’t about me, this is about my friend…

    she’s a senior in high school and wants to get out of her house as soon as she turns 18, which is after graduation. Her parents sound horrible. Her mom constantly tries to live through her, she’s super manipulative, and yells at her all the time. Her step dad yells and body shames her. Her family is super poor so she has no money for college but she wants to move out of state and into my state for university. Problem is her mom, and money. Her mom wants her to stay in state, but she wants to leave her home and never return again. But she has literally no money. She doesn’t have time to get a job because she doesn’t have a license, her mom won’t let her get one, and doesn’t have time because of school. The college she wants to apply for has a 100% acceptance rate and it’s a really great school, but money is her only problem. She lives across the US so she’d need plane money, money for tuition, apartment, food, all the college stuff you could think of and she has NONE. I’m at a loss of what to do. I want to help her so badly but there’s nothing I can do.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way or have to be worried about being kicked out. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to seek emergency assistance immediately.
    You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help International https://www.childhelplineinternational.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member, someone you trust as far as transferring custody, or what kind of documents you may need to be on your own in the UK.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello! I am from the UK so it might be diferent but I am turning 18 next year and my whole family has been financially unstable and homeless a bunch of times ever since I was born.
    I got told if I tried to think of getting a job or if they had a bad day when I'm 18 that they would kick me out .
    The only form of support I have is my r*pist and so I am worried what to do, what sort of documents do I even bring with me except my passport and my security number.(of course this is diferent becuase it is the UK and not US)

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi,
    Thank you for reaching out to the NRS. It seems like you are currently in a very stressful situation. It is understandable that you would want to leave home if your mother is treating you in that way. You do not deserve to be belittled or made fun of.
    It is a great thing that you have a stable job right now, and have plans to go to college. In terms of leaving your house, there are places where you can go to stay in the mean time before you head off for college. These places include a youth homeless shelter or a transitional living program. These places do not require you to have money saved up, and may also be in a local area so that you can continue to work at your current job. If you are interested in finding out more about these places feel free to call our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline), or United Way 2-1-1.
    You deserve to be treated better by your mother, and have a safe place to stay where you feel wanted. If you'd like to talk with us further, please call our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat us through this website.
    We wish you the best of luck.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am 18, and I currently have no friends and family near me. I have a great job that I am not quiting till college starts. What can I do to leave my household but I have no money saved. My mother constantly belittles me, forces me to look in the mirror while she makes fun of me. She says because I borrowed something and forgot to give it back, and when she reminded me I gave it back. That she will go to the police for theft. I am trapped and my dad is hours away. I also don't want to bail on my job when I said I would leave a month out. She has a public job and if I go for help I dont want to get her fired.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like living at home has been difficult for you recently.

    As an 18 year old, you are considered to be an adult by law and are able to leave home with or without parental permission. It may be important for you to plan a safe place to go. You could stay with a friend, family member, get a hotel room, or if you make enough money, you could make plans to rent an apartment somewhere. If you are feeling invalidated and taken advantage of, it is well within your rights to be able to leave that situation.

    If you need help making a plan or talking through options, we are here 24/7 to offer confidential support. Please give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or live chat with us through our website (www.1800RUNAWAY.org). We are here to help in any way that we can.

    Best of luck,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi I’m 18 and want to leave my house because of my dad. I have a job right now but all my money is being taken away by my parent what do you think I should do.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello there,
    As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can. You can call us at 1800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via our live chat at www.1800RUNAWAY.org. We can only respond to forum posts twice so it may be best to reach us via those means for further help.
    Hope to hear from you soon.
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi, I'm 18 and I need to move out of my home. I just started my first job today, but heres the catch. My sister took us out to get our eyebrows done and we stopped for lunch. I had no money on my card, because I spent it on my mothers day gift to my mom. I tell my mom I needed money so I could eat, and ask her to venmo it to me. She then blows up on me in the middle of the Subway and I get upset. This happened on my 18th birthday and I am yet to have been treated like an adult. My parents are led to believe that I have a bunch of money to pay for bills, insurance, and other fees that I am going to have. I want to go to college, but I don't know where to go or what to do, because my sister can't help me. I hate speaking my mind, because they're always invalidated. I've came to the conclusion that I need to move out, but I have no where else I can go..

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello there,
    Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like moving out has been stressful for you. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can. You can call us at 800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via our live chat at www.1800RUNAWAY.org as we can only respond to forums twice.
    Hope to hear from you soon.
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 18 and I moved out. I have no money and no job. I am staying at a friends house. But I don’t know what to do with myself. I am stressing over money and it’s becoming worse on my mental health

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.
    You do not deserve to be abused in any type of way and we are sorry you and your siblings are going through that. You do have every right to file an abuse report and there are a few ways to go about doing that. One option would be to call Child Help at 1800-422-4453, and they would be able to help with filing a report. You can also consider talking to a school counselor, because they are mandated reporters they would be required to file a report. Lastly, you can always call or chat with us and we would be happy to help you with a report.
    You mentioned waiting until you are 18 to leave, in most states the legal age to leave home without permission is 18, so you would be of legal age. It is great that you are beginning to make a plan. One option to consider would be to have money saved for rent, food and other bills, but also a few hundred saved for emergencies. Your first step would be to figure out what state you would want to live in, then do research on the cost of living. After you figure out what state you want to live in you can research jobs on Indeed or other platforms.
    We can help you more with your plan over the phone or through our chat platform. We are here for you 24/7 by phone or by chat. Please contact us to explore more options or if you have any more questions. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi, I'm planning to move out when I'm 18. I'm currently 16, and dealing with my parents emotional abuse. They threaten beatings, constantly yell at me, and have laid their hands on my brother before (they have grabbed him up by the collar of his shirt and choked him before). They said they would kick their children out of the house if any of them were LGBT+, and I'm sorta maybe questioning, so I am rather worried about that. I haven't been happy in my home for a long time. I don't have much of a plan, but I have some time to figure one out, and I have the beginnings of one. Me and two of my friends have been talking about moving into an apartment together once we're all of age (1, although both of them live in different states than me. I don't know where I am going to go, but I know that I am leaving my state. I am going to finally be taking my learners test in May (it had to be pushed back so far because of the virus), and then I'll hopefully be able to get my license by 17. I guess I'm just asking for some advice as I don't know what to do for this plan to work, and I want to be prepared so I can leave as soon as possible.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you opening up to us. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    It sounds like living with your father is very difficult, and it's completely understandable you'd want out of that situation. Further, you don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. The national domestic violence hotline (http://www.thehotline.org/) may also be a good resource, as you are over the age of 17.

    It also seems like you may be a good fit for a long term shelter. These shelters typically allow you to stay for 6-24 months, depending on your need and the organization. If you would like to further discuss the details of your situation, we encourage you to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we can search for resources in your area.

    If calling is not feasible, you can also chat us at www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope this helped and take care!


    NRS
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